Post: #26

I used to have this problem a lot, I literally banged a chick for 6 months without ever busting a nut. Im surprised her hamster survived. Anyways. What finally did it was finding the right condom, I've had problems busting even when going raw. I used to use ribbed ones, but now I use lifestyles skyn, banged a girl today with these and when shes really wet I actually check from time to time to see if the condom didn't break it feels that close to raw. Other than that and fitness the best thing you can do is to stop jerking it for at least a week before you bang her. If I jerk off a few times a day every day or so I can't orgasm whatsoever. If I don't jerk it as much I'm normal. Im assuming its some kind of physical thing, beating up pussy isnt like beating up your hand, its better.

Post: #27

Are you circumcised? I've heard foreskin restoration increases sensitivity. But thats a long and annoying process.

Post: #28

There is actually an entry in the DSM IV about this, its called retarded ejaculation.

#1 The problem could be entirely condom related

#2 Its not the girl being "hot", but rather her performance and/or your psychological profile as it relates to her

If you come from a Western culture, there is kind of a sadomasochistic relationship with sex. This is why you see the most outspoken anti-gay/porn/prostitution/general promiscuity individuals engaging in the same actions. For normal people being surrounded by that environment causes a lot of sexual problems. I see it in strippers with substance abuse issues, nearly all being brought up in strict religious households; I assume the problems carry over to males too. If this is the case, the girl being hot or not doesn't have much to do with it.

I've had specific issues in the past. I figured it was the condoms. As I get older, I think it was mostly them just not really knowing what they were doing or being lazy about it if they did. A drunk girl is really not that great.

Post: #29

One thing that hampers sexual arousal is being in your head. A good way around that is to be embodied like a howling animal, and to let your voicebox have free expression.

Think about when you are on the dance floor. If you are in your head the music won't move you. But when you let your body have it's own voice, you become embodied and are in a flow moment with the music moving you.

It's the same for sex and your voice. When you are hugely aroused you should be screaming your head off. The intensity can get that urgent, that the notion of bottling it up is unthinkable - because you aren't even thinking anymore.

Many of us shy away from intensity, especially if we always want to appear to be "in control". But this kind of sexual intensity can come with great sexual power and control. It's just intense power, and intense control, and comes with a lot of screaming.

So I'm suggesting that you may have some sort of emotional or energetic blocks keeping you from being fully aroused. You could be in a rut of poor sexual habits. Do you have access to other girls to experiment with? Chemistry is a difficult thing to predict, and like others say, it's not always about how hot the girl is. Maybe you prefer to be more romantic, or more aggressive, or more receptive, or something or other that you just can't do with her. Maybe she's hot but has a masculine shoulder line that sets deflates the boner. Maybe her pussy is flabby and brown and you have a kink for hot tight pink.

You can practice sex alone, by learning Daoist yoga, or Chi-Kung. There are ancient systems of meditation that take you through stages of practice. It takes years to develop your practice, and at the higher levels you will be on your own as you won't be able to find a teacher for them. Most people start with opening up the energy in the sacrum and moving it up the spine. The common term for that is opening up your kundalini. That can feel pretty intense, and is often a bit disturbing. After years that will seem to you to be a very beginner practice, and instead you will feel energy coming to you through your perineum and below your feet, and also through the top of your head. These energies can be quite intense and with regular practice you will feel them strongly nearly all the time - not just when you are fucking. You will then feel a full body eroticism that makes an orgasm seem like a splash in a bathtub as compared to a mighty ocean wave.

Or you could just have her finger-fuck you while you fuck her. That should do it.

Post: #30

(07-09-2012 06:47 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  I used to have this problem a lot, I literally banged a chick for 6 months without ever busting a nut. Im surprised her hamster survived. Anyways. What finally did it was finding the right condom, I've had problems busting even when going raw. I used to use ribbed ones, but now I use lifestyles skyn, banged a girl today with these and when shes really wet I actually check from time to time to see if the condom didn't break it feels that close to raw. Other than that and fitness the best thing you can do is to stop jerking it for at least a week before you bang her. If I jerk off a few times a day every day or so I can't orgasm whatsoever. If I don't jerk it as much I'm normal. Im assuming its some kind of physical thing, beating up pussy isnt like beating up your hand, its better.

nice tip on the lifestyles condoms

Post: #31

Are you using lots of lube? If I am having a lot of sex, or drunk, it can be hard to get off. And if the chick dries up it makes it way harder because it pulls the condom down tight on the head of my dick and suffocates it. Condoms that are too tight are also a boner killer. Can't get off with those things.

What works for me is going down on a chick and fingering her with the g spot technique to get her super wet, and me super horny. Then I'll put on a condom that isn't too tight, and put lube on my dick and in her pussy.

Post: #32

(07-08-2012 07:17 PM)Some guy Wrote:  Do you watch a lot of porn and did you start watching it at a young age? That could be it, check out http://www.yourbrainonporn.com for more info.

I think that very well may be my problem.

Post: #33

I used to have the same problem and found out that it was completely masturbation related. It would take me an hour on average to come and sometimes I wouldn't come at all, especially with brand new girl. Now I've been in a LTR for some time and having regular sex on demand I don't jerk off as often and it fixed the issue. I'm going raw each time (one benefit of LTR) so that helps as well. The less I masturbate the less difficult it is to come and generally sex feels better. Try to cut out all masturbation and porn; the hand is simply tighter grip than pussy and you become desensitized if you get used to it too much.

Post: #34

(07-11-2012 02:45 PM)SVK Wrote:  the hand is simply tighter grip than pussy and you become desensitized if you get used to it too much.

Or you could just go Asian.