Post: #1

I'm in college right now and there's this guy thats ripping into me and I so pissed off that I don't have any comebacks. The guy is basically trampling over me to ascend up the social circle ladder. I try to laugh it off and pretend we're all having fun but deep down I wanna rip into him but just dont have enough heavy artillery if you like. Now all he has to do is say my name and people start sniggering because they know what's coming, I FUCKING HATE IT!! The guy is ugly, wears glasses looks clumsy, its embarrasing. Guys I need help???

Post: #2

I don't get it your in college are you hanging out with a group of people like it was high school? i go to school talk to some peers in class and leave. Never seen any childish behavior like that, I'm a junior now so i don't know it has to do with anything but i never saw that starting college either. Give more info on the situation...

Post: #3

I recently responded to a poster with a similar problem. I'm Talar:

http://www.fastseduction.com/discussion/...33&fid=105

Post: #4

we all live on campus and share the same house...

Post: #5

(10-21-2008 09:17 AM)PrimeTime Wrote:  we all live on campus and share the same house...

Do you know anything about AMOG tactics, and did you read the URL I provided?

Post: #6

This is a tough one because it requires specifics. I read Sarryn's post in the other thread and I have to say I'm very different regarding those matters. I'm the type where if this was a RL situation I kick it in the rear as soon as it happens. That's the thing about being a target if you don't squash it from the start then it becomes harder to be rid of a developing stigma.

If this was something that happened at a bar with some guy I'll never see again I'll just blow him off and walk away. If it's a situation where I know I have to see this guy again I'm going to take it to him. I'm also kind of a big guy so if I have to I'll wait to catch the guy by himself and confront him.

That being said I've never been in a situation where that was a problem for me (except for maybe in high school or something). You have to wonder why someone would target you. Anywhere I go I'm always holding up shoulders and head up high, and I'm very demonstrative about things I do and say. Maybe you're this type of guy and the dink is probably thinking he needs to take on the big guy on campus just like fighting on your first day in prison to prove to everyone you're not a bitch.

This is not a situation where you can just let it go because if people really are paying attention then it will only damage your rep in the long run. But it's kind of hard to say really because I don't know anything about you or the people that go to your school. For all I know it could be Nerd University and in that case I'd just roll my eyes and be like wtf.

Post: #7

This discussion strikes me as... odd. Do I just not hang out with the kind of guys who view social interactions with other guys as a status competition? All of the guys I hang out with would go out of their way to be accomodating to a friend, and any trash talking is always good-natured.

Post: #8

(10-21-2008 11:49 AM)Trotter Wrote:  This is a tough one because it requires specifics. I read Sarryn's post in the other thread and I have to say I'm very different regarding those matters. I'm the type where if this was a RL situation I kick it in the rear as soon as it happens. That's the thing about being a target if you don't squash it from the start then it becomes harder to be rid of a developing stigma.

If this was something that happened at a bar with some guy I'll never see again I'll just blow him off and walk away. If it's a situation where I know I have to see this guy again I'm going to take it to him. I'm also kind of a big guy so if I have to I'll wait to catch the guy by himself and confront him.

That being said I've never been in a situation where that was a problem for me (except for maybe in high school or something). You have to wonder why someone would target you. Anywhere I go I'm always holding up shoulders and head up high, and I'm very demonstrative about things I do and say. Maybe you're this type of guy and the dink is probably thinking he needs to take on the big guy on campus just like fighting on your first day in prison to prove to everyone you're not a bitch.

This is not a situation where you can just let it go because if people really are paying attention then it will only damage your rep in the long run. But it's kind of hard to say really because I don't know anything about you or the people that go to your school. For all I know it could be Nerd University and in that case I'd just roll my eyes and be like wtf.

I think the flaw with your advice is that as you put it: "That being said I've never been in a situation where that was a problem for me (except for maybe in high school or something). You have to wonder why someone would target you."

You're a big guy as you put it yourself, this in itself can sometimes be a shield against other guys trying to tease/out-alpha you. Others need to make do with the tools they're given. Not being a nice guy is a start. Don't laugh at others peoples jokes at you, and if any express any sort of behavior towards you that you don't like, pull your attention away. This is sort of like how you train girlfriends with mini-freezeouts and take-aways. This works in all social situations...

The part I will agree on is, you have to confront this situation immediately. Don't let it fester. If someone made fun of my name in front of other people, even if they were all laughing, I would look at him seriously and show him I didn't find the joke funny. For me this works 100% of the time and the people will always shut the fuck up. Why? Because I have a history of demanding respect and taking 0 bull shit from others. I have NEVER been in a fight, but I have the look of someone who would jump into one. If you did this technique at this point, they would probably keep laughing... You need to work on your frame. Stop being a nice guy, don't laugh at yourself or the jokes people pull at your expense.

This is actually a very serious issue because if you can master being the alpha and demanding respect, you WILL be getting more pussy guaranteed.

Post: #9

The only advice is to do something about it. He waited too long to deal with it when he should have and now he has to find another way of handling it. That's why more specifics are needed.

Post: #10

The thing is now the two of them are fucking around with my facebook and I'm about to post a message on her wall to stop doing that or I'll block them. I just wanted to know how you guys feel about that.

Post: #11

(10-21-2008 10:51 AM)Sarryn Wrote:  

(10-21-2008 09:17 AM)PrimeTime Wrote:  we all live on campus and share the same house...

Do you know anything about AMOG tactics, and did you read the URL I provided?

I read it. Ignoring him isnt working!!

Post: #12

Just ignoring it isn't alpha at all and now you got a chick digging into you? Not good.

Post: #13

(10-22-2008 09:02 AM)PrimeTime Wrote:  The thing is now the two of them are fucking around with my facebook and I'm about to post a message on her wall to stop doing that or I'll block them. I just wanted to know how you guys feel about that.

Yo you're lucky, another great blogger put up a few posts on this issue (his name is T, his blog is very popular among the Roissy-Roosh crowd and is brilliant)

See these three posts, or just the last one for straight up advice:

http://therawness.com/my-european-trip-p...rontation/
http://therawness.com/the-rearden/
http://therawness.com/my-european-trip-p...in-action/

Post: #14

First thing is to avoid being around people who act stupid in the first place. But if you have no choice, either you got to punk him back verbally or physically. Some people are just not good at ragging. I'm not. Ragging on people is a talent. I noticed that in high school. Some guys can say anything no matter how stupid and everybody is laughing because of the way they said it. It's not everybody's game though. If not, I'd say threaten to beat his ass next time he starts talking shit. And do it right in front of everyone. Or better yet, give no warning. Just sock his ass in the mouth. That'll shut him up for good. If you're not a fighter either, use a few techniques from here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3K-mrlYG7Y

Post: #15

(10-23-2008 08:14 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  First thing is to avoid being around people who act stupid in the first place. But if you have no choice, either you got to punk him back verbally or physically. Some people are just not good at ragging. I'm not. Ragging on people is a talent. I noticed that in high school. Some guys can say anything no matter how stupid and everybody is laughing because of the way they said it. It's not everybody's game though. If not, I'd say threaten to beat his ass next time he starts talking shit. And do it right in front of everyone. Or better yet, give no warning. Just sock his ass in the mouth. That'll shut him up for good. If you're not a fighter either, use a few techniques from here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3K-mrlYG7Y

Reps for that link!

Post: #16

Unless you make it uncomfortable to tease you, why would he stop? Call his mother a whore.

Post: #17

(10-22-2008 09:07 AM)PrimeTime Wrote:  

(10-21-2008 10:51 AM)Sarryn Wrote:  

(10-21-2008 09:17 AM)PrimeTime Wrote:  we all live on campus and share the same house...

Do you know anything about AMOG tactics, and did you read the URL I provided?

I read it. Ignoring him isnt working!!

I think you missed the point. Ignoring him after he's been doing it for a long time won't work. I also think you misunderstand the term "ignore," that sounds more like being scared to confront someone. I prefer the term "active disinterest."

To be honest, I haven't been in this kind of situation since middle school, since then I've developed socially well enough to be free of "teasing."

If you're not saavy enough to come up with retorts or tease him back. I think you should kick his ass.