So, I've gotten a very cold shoulder from a woman lately... she was saying a lot of great things... but started to tell me I was needy (I don't think I am/was --- I just happened to want to make the most out of our time when seeing each other once a week - I told her that too.. but "blah blah blah", lol).

Anyway.. we still talked - almost every day. Now nothing. Its been 2 weeks of 'nothing'... would you guys call her on her 'anti social bull shit' or just take it as 'nothing' and walk away? What about when she starts up (wanting to) talk to me again (and I'm confident about there being a 'when'..)?

I've got lots of other leads in progress, so its not an issue - but for my 'learning' experience.. I'm curious!

Thanks!

(02-03-2009 12:04 PM)mcr Wrote:  So, I've gotten a very cold shoulder from a woman lately... she was saying a lot of great things... but started to tell me I was needy (I don't think I am/was --- I just happened to want to make the most out of our time when seeing each other once a week - I told her that too.. but "blah blah blah", lol).

Anyway.. we still talked - almost every day. Now nothing. Its been 2 weeks of 'nothing'... would you guys call her on her 'anti social bull shit' or just take it as 'nothing' and walk away? What about when she starts up (wanting to) talk to me again (and I'm confident about there being a 'when'..)?

I've got lots of other leads in progress, so its not an issue - but for my 'learning' experience.. I'm curious!

Thanks!

walk away. If a girl calls you needy, it's over. calling her out won't elicit a response

(02-03-2009 02:28 PM)robjohn Wrote:  walk away. If a girl calls you needy, it's over. calling her out won't elicit a response

So, the question remains from my original post - when she starts talking again (and I can pretty much guarantee she will - "when" is the unknown) - do I pretend like all is ok with this woman? Or put her in LJBF category because of her flakiness - since I still don't think I was needy wanting to spend quality time with her when we did get a chance to spend time together.

(02-03-2009 02:39 PM)mcr Wrote:  

(02-03-2009 02:28 PM)robjohn Wrote:  walk away. If a girl calls you needy, it's over. calling her out won't elicit a response

So, the question remains from my original post - when she starts talking again (and I can pretty much guarantee she will - "when" is the unknown) - do I pretend like all is ok with this woman? Or put her in LJBF category because of her flakiness - since I still don't think I was needy wanting to spend quality time with her when we did get a chance to spend time together.

Leave her behind and move on.
When she calls you and tries to get back into your life you have to make fun of her behavior saying she appears, indeed, needy ;-)
Bust her balls on that, exploit her attempt to reconnect, with humor.

If she is clever she will realize your point: that neither yours previous behavior, nor her current one, are needy.
Then work on as usual and go from there.

If a girl, no matter how beautiful, tries to cut you down in any way that isn't done in a compassionate 'calling out bullshit' way, then walk away.

Girls who do this, keep doing this, and they do it until they make a mess of the man they're with, and then they walk away, and you go to rehab for 10 years.

Lots of guys would just walk away, but not me. No, see you mention you have plenty of other leads so obviously you can pick up woman just like me. Well i like a challange, so i would personally try to get her more than the other leads, getting her would be more fun for me and feel like alot more of an acomplishment. You can obviously pick girls up so you dont need to threat about loosing them leads as you can pick others up anytime.

When a girl says you are needy that means you are REALLY needy. You're going to have to tone that down quite a bit by seeing and calling a girl a lot less. Also showing less interest that you are happy to be with her.

With this girl it seems like she already pegged you and it's best to move on.

I think you're pretty much done. I think you want her to call you back at some point and she might, but it's not a given as you imply. If she does call you back, then just go back to gaming her and trying to bang her again if that's what you want to do.... but this time, don't be needy, be a jerk. Don't give her shit but sex, no quality time, no affection except when your dick is hard and pressing against her - so she knows that's all you want.

She said you were "needy"!

If she said that, then she knows you are gonna call. Don't . But if you do, you better turn off that "needy" shit. Don't act all excited around her and make her the center of your universe. Just pretend she is a 6. Easier said then done, i know. If you wait another few weeks she will probably get curious and call you. Have a few good stories ready to make her jealous that she wasn't hanging with you.

I am starting to think that guys who have "game" would be good actors. And, actors would pick up "game" pretty quick.

maybe its about controlling your body langauge and speech pattern?

This female has already labeled you as a needy guy.So you need to loose that needy shit.Even if you don't think you were that needy, obviously she saw some neediness in you.You can do a couple of things if she calls. First play it cool DON"T CALL HER. When she does call or text let her do most of the talking while sounding disinterested . Drop in throughout the conversation that you've been seeing a couple of girls lately (females are jealous by nature). End the the conversation early on your terms (ie; Ima go now...bye) YOU end the conversation not her.

(02-03-2009 02:39 PM)mcr Wrote:  

(02-03-2009 02:28 PM)robjohn Wrote:  walk away. If a girl calls you needy, it's over. calling her out won't elicit a response

So, the question remains from my original post - when she starts talking again (and I can pretty much guarantee she will - "when" is the unknown) - do I pretend like all is ok with this woman? Or put her in LJBF category because of her flakiness - since I still don't think I was needy wanting to spend quality time with her when we did get a chance to spend time together.

If she calls you and wants to hang out, tell her to meet you somewhere. Bring another female. The female you bring with you will have priority. The cold shoulder girl will have to fight for you. If she does not fight for you, do not reward her with any attention - no phone calls, no eye contact, etc.

Also, have sex with the chick you bring with you, regardless of what happens with any other chicks.

I'd say just move on. It's not worth the extra effort. There are girls out there just as hot or hotter than this one that you don't have to get past a roadblock with. Start fresh.

I never understood the reason why guys felt a need to be challenged when picking up a girl. I mean I understand the reason why, I just don't know how guys rationalize that reason in their skulls. If all other factors such as looks, style, femininity remain the same and a girl plays super hard to get, a guy feels better after nailing her. I'm all for putting in the least amount of investment for the best possible outcome. It may sound counterintuitive, but for bangs, it seems to work, at least for me. If you need a challenge, learn to speed solve rubix cubes.

If she decides to reconnect with you, and you're getting laid, what happened earlier shouldn't affect the way you interact. It's not like she punched you in the head. Becoming bitter when someone decides to stop seeing you is low value and reactive. I really wouldn't mention the needy comment at all because it shows you put a lot of importance on it and are overly reacting to her opinion of you, giving her a shitton of value that shouldn't exist. Just vibe with her and proceed gaming her like normal, and for god's sake, dont' call these bitches every day. That IS needy.