i met this girl outside her work a week ago and weve seen eachother three times now. the first time she told me was married, then it changed to engaged. shes planning on moving to the guys home country with him in december, but when i ask her if she loves him she says she likes him. today i saw her again n we were making out n she started with the i dont think we should see eachother again shtick n i just cut her off n said fine, go, have a nice life at which point she came back to me.
she feels bad about doing her boyfriend or fiance or whatever dirty but she obviously wants it. still, she keeps waiting for me to say something to get her in the sack. im seeing her tonight.... any thoughts?

This might be too much of a logical question to ask regarding this situation, but why the fuck would a girl who is engaged and about to get married make out with someone else?

Regarding your situation, I would feel bad about messing up a future marriage, but at the same time, if she's doing this kind of stuff already, then you might actually be doing the other guy a favor by breaking them up. If I was about to get married and the girl was screwing around behind my back, I would be forever grateful to find out before I get married.

Marriage is supposed to be a life commitment and living a life of complementary unity. That's the ideal, at least.

Anyway, if she's willing to hook up, and you don't have any moral qualms with this situation, then fuck it, go forth. Today's world is becoming more and more incompatible with marriage anyway.

This actually reminds me of this waitress at this restaurant who is also Brazilian. Big booty, big lips, thin waist. My perfect match. After she kept giving me these DDB looks I asked her she was single (stupid question aside) she brought her hand up and showed me this big ass rock on her ring finger and then she gave me a wink.

This is going longer than it should, but thinking about it now, I guess a lot of girls who come here from places like Brazil rush to get married so that they can stay, so their marriage is a marriage of utility. So thinking about it like this, if she looks at it as a marriage of utility, then fuuuuuck it. I'd bang the bejeezus out of her.

a lot of girls from countries other then America marry for money and security. "love" in third world countries often means "i'll have a roof and food"

Always agree with her... "You're right let's just be friends," "You're right this is wrong."
But keep going.

In Brazil, cheating on your BF / GF / Husband / Wife is the national sport with football a close second as far as I can tell.

If a girl is in that situation and wants to hook up then it's a problem between her and the other guy as far as I am concerned.

men in most other countries are more likely to cheat because they dont have to deal w/the ball busting divorce lawyers/rules that we have in America, the repercussions are much lower. hence the woman may get the itch as well if hubby is out boning a few gfs

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This might be too much of a logical question to ask regarding this situation, but why the fuck would a girl who is engaged and about to get married make out with someone else?


because shes the hottest girl ive met in south america
i ended up selling her out last night to chill with another girl and it drove her kinda crazy
i talked to her this morning n she was talking how she cant have sex with me, but i told her to tell him shes going out with her friends after work
ive noticed brazilian girls are crazy-jealous... im wondering if when i see her tonight i should tell her that if she isnt gonna have sex with me than other girls will... and have?
or just keep it low key n see what happens?

(07-01-2009 12:56 PM)mojodrew Wrote:  . im wondering if when i see her tonight i should tell her that if she isnt gonna have sex with me than other girls will... and have?
or just keep it low key n see what happens?

Don't verbalize this. Never verbalize this. Ultimatums never work with women. Instead, show her through your actions and your vibe that if she doesn't fuck you shes going to loose your attention to other women who will.

The only reason she continues to play games with you is because its working. You're still pursuing her.

if you are both in Brazil, it could be her "fiancé" is marrying her from another country (online dating) or that he is non-existent altogether and sh wants to get you so interested on her as you becoming the fiancé.

I would try to fuck and forget her after.

Don't expect anything long term. Deffinitely try and bang her though.

(07-01-2009 12:56 PM)mojodrew Wrote:  im wondering if when i see her tonight i should tell her that if she isnt gonna have sex with me than other girls will... and have?

That would be very ANTI-game.

(07-02-2009 01:31 PM)elguapo Wrote:  

(07-01-2009 12:56 PM)mojodrew Wrote:  im wondering if when i see her tonight i should tell her that if she isnt gonna have sex with me than other girls will... and have?

That would be very ANTI-game.

yea... im glad i didnt use that one
i was supposed to see her this morning but i dropped my phone in the shower n it got all messed up... i called her at noon to see where she was and she told me she was waiting outside my place for 50 minutes and finally just left because she thought i didnt wanna see her. so i guess i inadverdently let that pussy marinate a bit
anyways, im gonna see her tomorrow morning n try n close the deal