The below may be influenced by your local Covid-19 restrictions:
Get him to the gym ASAP. He doesn't need to get jacked, just lose the extra pounds and have a bit of tone.
Make sure he has some reasonably new cloths that fit after he's lost the weight. Just make sure he isn't slovenly.
I agree she is disappointed and wants to let you know how disappointed she is. If she didn't care at all you would hear radio silence.
That said, I also agree that you're straight out incompatible. All my successful relationships never had weird 'who ate the last piece of tapas' over-analysis...
Dan got savaged in the press conference today after delaying a lifting of restrictions 'until the backlog of tests had been processed'.
On another note, the cops spent hours combing over the protest bus to issue it with an unroadworthy notice.
Compare this to the Pence/Harris debate. Pence had a calmer tone than Biden and still got interrupted by the moderator. He had to ignore her like a yapping dog to get his replies in.
No interruptions for Biden here at all.