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I'm on day 4.

Felt slight temptation today. My "trigger" is when I'm about to take an afternoon nap. I used to watch porn before sleeping every time.

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(03-03-2017 10:32 AM)Ethan Hunt Wrote:  Biggest challenges I have really in regards to No Fap is many of the threads on these boards. Particularly, back hotness, 10 thread, boobs lounge and co. I've haven't look at how you can block those thread just yet. Something I ought to do really. It's those threads that lead me to go back to day 1 by inevitably leading me back to porn.

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I'm trying again. I'm up to day 6, which is about as far as I ever make it. I slept maybe 3 hours last night because my energy has been through the roof. I'm slightly tired but I feel like I have several cups of coffee running through me. A woman is teasing me through text messages, but I'm dealing with some family issues that have kept me from being able to go and smash her, and it's maddening.

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Day 3 is almost fucking over for me.

I'm still very much on the fence about doing long-term hardmode nofap, all things considered. Today I looked at r/nofap for the first time in probably a year. Bad idea, definitely not going on reddit again anytime soon.

Anyway, on a more practical level, last night was absolute shit. Although I started to fuck up my sleep schedule days ago, I can't remember the last time I spent 4 hours in bed unable to fall asleep. Not saying it's because of nofap necessarily, but I'm suspicious since it has happened in the past.

I'd say brain fog is starting to go away, definitely have noticed a slight increase in mental clarity.

The side-effect I completely forgot, and am most happy about though, is having vivid dreams again. Fuck, that shit is so awesome.

I was never able to master inducing lucid dreaming reliably, but am able to take control sometimes by accident and I haven't had dreams as intense in a long time. How long does this shit last? I kind of don't want it to end anytime soon lol although I know it might as well backfire into a wet dream, that has happened as well in the past.
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(03-03-2017 03:19 PM)Bear Hands Wrote:  I'm trying again. I'm up to day 6, which is about as far as I ever make it. I slept maybe 3 hours last night because my energy has been through the roof. I'm slightly tired but I feel like I have several cups of coffee running through me. A woman is teasing me through text messages, but I'm dealing with some family issues that have kept me from being able to go and smash her, and it's maddening.

Vivid dreaming and/or Insomnia is a common symptom on NoFap.
Get used to it and make the best of your new time.

Lifting something heavy repeatedly will help use up the extra energy and you'll grow your muscles as a bonus.
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(03-03-2017 03:33 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  
(03-03-2017 03:19 PM)Bear Hands Wrote:  I'm trying again. I'm up to day 6, which is about as far as I ever make it. I slept maybe 3 hours last night because my energy has been through the roof. I'm slightly tired but I feel like I have several cups of coffee running through me. A woman is teasing me through text messages, but I'm dealing with some family issues that have kept me from being able to go and smash her, and it's maddening.

Vivid dreaming and/or Insomnia is a common symptom on NoFap.
Get used to it and make the best of your new time.

Lifting something heavy repeatedly will help use up the extra energy and you'll grow your muscles as a bonus.
This. I need to sleep for way less time. One question for the vets. How do you deal with reduced endurance? I was able to fuck for hours without any problem, but each session was noticeably shorter than they used to be. I-m thinking about kegels but I still would thank some input since I guess this is caused by nofap.
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I posted this before:

(06-01-2016 09:15 PM)redbeard Wrote:  @DrCotard

Lasting longer boils down to a few things

-Switching positions. Doggystyle without a condom drives me crazy I'll come in about five seconds. Girl on top is best. Side to side is favorite, great for passionate fucking.

-Wear a condom (get one that fits for maximum pleasure)

-Deep breathing

-Jerk off before the date or once a week (avoid porn)

-Have a bunch of girlfriends in rotation

-Alcohol

-Drugs. I have no experience but GLL recommends a ton

-Go for two rounds (get the lube ready)


I'm open to any suggestions this is something I always deal with but don't really care. The longer I go without sex, the more I want it, the easier it is to go for two rounds. So it balances out.

I've more recently found a few things that helped.

The 5 g's for big erections help with shortened refractory, harder boners, and longer stamina.

Additionally, I try to do this stretch as much as possible during the day:

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I also do this while laying down at night. It feels great to spread my legs out and read. This might help with a tight pelvic floor.

While in the act, I've found yelling, groaning, moaning, etc. to help. The reason we come quick is because the sensation is too much to handle, so if we outwardly express the feeling, our body can handle it better. It also helps to have sex with a girl you're comfortable with. I have found this first hand, if I'm banging a girl for a few weeks in a row my performance increases tenfold. If I don't see the same girl for a while, then see her again? My performance will drop. Whenever I feel like I have to impress a girl, my performance decreases.

This is why meditation is so useful...the less outcome dependent I am on the sex, the better it is. Funny isn't it...

Lastly a common tip is to breathe deeply. I've found this useless but instead BREATHE INTO YOUR BALLS! Elliott Hulse style. The breathing isn't what helps, but when I focus on breathing into my balls, it loosens up the pelvic floor and makes the sex more enjoyable.
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(03-04-2017 06:26 PM)redbeard Wrote:  I posted this before:

(06-01-2016 09:15 PM)redbeard Wrote:  @DrCotard

Lasting longer boils down to a few things

-Switching positions. Doggystyle without a condom drives me crazy I'll come in about five seconds. Girl on top is best. Side to side is favorite, great for passionate fucking.

-Wear a condom (get one that fits for maximum pleasure)

-Deep breathing

-Jerk off before the date or once a week (avoid porn)

-Have a bunch of girlfriends in rotation

-Alcohol

-Drugs. I have no experience but GLL recommends a ton

-Go for two rounds (get the lube ready)


I'm open to any suggestions this is something I always deal with but don't really care. The longer I go without sex, the more I want it, the easier it is to go for two rounds. So it balances out.

I've more recently found a few things that helped.

The 5 g's for big erections help with shortened refractory, harder boners, and longer stamina.

Additionally, I try to do this stretch as much as possible during the day:

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I also do this while laying down at night. It feels great to spread my legs out and read. This might help with a tight pelvic floor.

While in the act, I've found yelling, groaning, moaning, etc. to help. The reason we come quick is because the sensation is too much to handle, so if we outwardly express the feeling, our body can handle it better. It also helps to have sex with a girl you're comfortable with. I have found this first hand, if I'm banging a girl for a few weeks in a row my performance increases tenfold. If I don't see the same girl for a while, then see her again? My performance will drop. Whenever I feel like I have to impress a girl, my performance decreases.

This is why meditation is so useful...the less outcome dependent I am on the sex, the better it is. Funny isn't it...

Lastly a common tip is to breathe deeply. I've found this useless but instead BREATHE INTO YOUR BALLS! Elliott Hulse style. The breathing isn't what helps, but when I focus on breathing into my balls, it loosens up the pelvic floor and makes the sex more enjoyable.

thank you for all your help redbeard! I will try those things. The thing about wanting to impress is true...And breathing into your balls is awesome, I always keep forgetting to do it though, it's in my to-do list.
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Day 4 was easy.

No temptations whatsoever. I've been thinking about nofap from the perspective of a lifetime habit.

Have any of the guys on here managed to stick with this shit for years? ( the thread is quite old and long ) I'm not necessarily implying yearly long streaks, although I do find that fascinating. But generally speaking, consistent 90 days or so streaks over long periods of time.

I am genuinely feeling so much fucking better already. It might be a placebo to a certain extent, I think it's more likely because I've been abusing porn and fapping more in the past couple of months than I have in my entire life. The brain fog was a very real thing, I am finding the same tasks to require less mental power already. Coincidentally, I also find myself blasting Metallica again for the first time in years lol. No extra attention from girls, at least I haven't noticed it, but I couldn't give less of a shit about that right now.

Anyway back to it, I know I might sound a bit crazy considering just yesterday I was on here bitching again about whether hardmode is worth it. But I have been thinking more about this shit, how it relates to my past experiences, projecting into the future and doing some other mental exercises.

There isn't one time I can remember sticking with nofap for good when it didn't have a positive impact on my life so far. Most of the time that impact was actually quite significant, and I can't attribute the progress I made in life to anything else I did differently at the time. Nofap was the single common thread as far as the conscious actionable step I took.

Hence, I have genuinely started to consider making the decision of starting to pursue this as a lifetime habit. I know I will come to doubt this position once strong urges will hit me again, as will inevitably happen. Especially once summer time comes and assess will be literally hanging out of everywhere.

Fuck, I don't know. I've been looking at this from the same perspective as I did with quitting smoking and a bunch of other addictions, which I have been successful with. I managed to get that shit out of my life for good and temptation is literally not present anymore, but I have never been able to do the same with fapping. I am still pondering whether nofap is ultimately an illusion, as most society currently dismisses it as such.

Smoking is generally accepted by 99% of reasonable people as being a filthy destructive habit, but porn ( and fapping to a much greater extent ) don't have the same reputation. However I am not one to go along blindly with herd mentality on any aspects of life, and I know the mind is a complicated thing. Is there any good reading on the topic of abstaining from fapping long-term aside from the Your Brain on Porn book?

Regardless, I've decided to aim for 90 days at the very least, within the ideal context of making this a permanent lifestyle change. Whether that will include limited regular fapping without porn later on I don't know, some people seem to go this route. For now, I will focus on the 90 days though.

Regarding hardmode, today I remembered one key mindset shift from Allan Carr's "Easyway to quit smoking". For the record, I don't think it's that amazing of a book or necessarily the reason that made me stop smoking, it was more of a ritual of sorts for me once I decided to quit for good.

Anyway the point was that the best time to quit smoking/insert negative habit once you've made the decision to do so for real, is now. Rather than postponing, making excuses no matter how real or valid they might be and rationalizing them ( which is partly what I have been doing with nofap ) reframe the situation entirely. Focus on proceeding in spite of harsh current circumstances - e.g. "I know this fucking sucks right now, and that nofap will be a lot easier in the future with a girlfriend but tough shit, it's not a valid enough excuse and I'm going to stick it out nevertheless".

Sounds cheesy as fuck, but it has worked for me in the past once I truly internalized the concept, perhaps it makes some sense and helps someone else.

I'm off to bed, thank you for taking the time to read my crazy ramblings guys.
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2 weeks.

But, it's been easy because I've got a girl addicted to my dick.

Still, longest streak since I fell off the wagon a few months ago.

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30 days!

Feel pretty good in general, also feel a lot more raw emotions like they are on steroid, and I'm glad for that.

It's all about dopamine and adrenaline,
everything in life is about drugs.
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(03-04-2017 05:53 PM)ExploringReality Wrote:  This. I need to sleep for way less time. One question for the vets. How do you deal with reduced endurance? I was able to fuck for hours without any problem, but each session was noticeably shorter than they used to be. I-m thinking about kegels but I still would thank some input since I guess this is caused by nofap.

In the beginning as your body adjusts, you will probably cum more quickly the first time...however you will also be ready to fuck the same girl again in less than 20 minutes after that. You will probably wind up fucking more times but for a shorter amount of time....after a while your body will adjust. It makes a huge difference if it is a new girl, or one you know already and don't have perfomance anxiety about.

(03-04-2017 07:25 PM)Felix88 Wrote:  30 days!

Feel pretty good in general, also feel a lot more raw emotions like they are on steroid, and I'm glad for that.


Felix88, I'm really, really pleased to your post considering how bad things were for you a month ago. Did the praying help ? If so, did you remember to thank whatever god or gods you prayed to ?

Also, please give us a longer summary of your symptoms and how the past 30 days have been. How did you make it sucessful this time ? How did you overcome urges ? Have you spoken to any girls in real life in the last 30 days or kept yourself occupied with other things ?
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(03-04-2017 06:42 PM)crottstep Wrote:  Have any of the guys on here managed to stick with this shit for years?

Crottstep, did you get off the hallucinatory drugs like I advised ?
Your long rambling post after only 4 days on NoFap sounds like you didn't.

Just plan for getting to 10 days.
When you get to 10 days, then think about getting to 20 days.
Once at day 20, plan for day 30.
When you get to 30 days, send us a report of how it went.
That's all you need to worry about now.
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I forgot to add -

For the techniques Mercenary and I discuss, especially having two rounds of sex, you must have a strong heart and healthy cardiovascular system.

Being a good lover requires above average athleticism, especially as you age. Blood flow is necessary to have a hard cock for long periods of time.

Lose weight, lift weights, HIT cardio 2/3 times a week, and your cock will be strong like bull.

There's great advise on erection strength in regards to diet, hormones, lifestyle on peak testosterone:

http://www.peaktestosterone.com/
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Day 1 here.
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I'm a newbie on this thread I've seen it bumped a lot. I've been watching porn since 13, can someone break down pragmatically what have been the benefits 30 60 90 days I wanna know.
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(03-04-2017 10:05 PM)Helvegen Wrote:  Day 1 here.

Saw your thread a bit earlier, welcome. This is definitely an excellent habit to adopt when you need to get your shit together really bad in my experience.


(03-04-2017 09:40 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  
(03-04-2017 06:42 PM)crottstep Wrote:  Have any of the guys on here managed to stick with this shit for years?

Crottstep, did you get off the hallucinatory drugs like I advised ?
Your long rambling post after only 4 days on NoFap sounds like you didn't.

Just plan for getting to 10 days.
When you get to 10 days, then think about getting to 20 days.
Once at day 20, plan for day 30.
When you get to 30 days, send us a report of how it went.
That's all you need to worry about now.

lol just for the record - I have not felt any need or desire to take psychedelics since the 1st so I haven't, but thank you for the condescending tone. Different strokes for different folks, I've decided to go for 90 days at the very least and I'm committing to it, the one day at a time approach never worked for me.

Anyway went back and read more of this thread, which was my bad for not doing more of. Apparently long-term nofap, even hardmode, does not make you a freak of nature and members like redbeard have been at it for years.

Although my ramblings might've sounded a little crazy or chaotic at best as I have admitted myself, there's a bigger personal context for this. I have made some pretty radical changes in my life over the past couple of months, on top of giving up most crutches I relied on some time ago. The momentum is there, and fapping is one of the few ones left.

I have plenty of other shit going on, and I know from experience obsessing over fapping ( or lack thereof ), rather than getting on with life and substituting it with actually constructive shit is a mistake. I definitely don't intend to post as much here, but the subject is hot on my mind currently, and I find myself pondering a lot about how it relates to my life once again.

I would like to read more on it while the interest is this strong. Any worthwhile books on porn, fapping and long-term semen retention apart from the YBOP book? I gave that one a shot a long time ago but for some reason never got through it all, I'll try again. Also afaik there aren't a lot studies ( or books ) on this.
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This is something I wrote two years ago and never posted------weird reading it now because I can see how badly I wanted to quit and how hard it was I needed some kind of divine help.

Thank you to redbeard and slubu you guys are super motivation.

1. This is the hardest thing I've done. After a week my mind is consumed with sex but my energy is like a laser like a starwars laser. this is the best thing i have ever done.

2. When I don't jerk off I feel pure. I feel like a saint who denies pleasure and I feel like I can look people in the eyes --- dead straight in the eyes --- and know that my conscience is clean, but also understand that it is a struggle...... so there is a humility there. Not like a superiority thing but like a cleanness, a purity.

3. When I jerk off especially to porn, i get apathetic toward girls and pussy. It is a direct effect of the pornography. I feel like I don't care...... but it is bad, it is a toxic attitude, and it disconnects me from my body and the world, and it is a mindless act, a numbing act.

4. Without porn and masturbation, I savor every look, every angle, my animal urges flood my senses and body and my being is hyper sensitive to any sexual or sensual trigger and my imagination is on fire and I get chills and shivers and goose bumps and my game becomes tighter and interactions like chess moves.

5. Girls respond to me better no fucking question about it there is no doubt that the animal attraction is so there it is so palpable.

6. I saw a girl at work crouched down and I got a glimpse of her milk white baby fat of her hip and a centimeter crack of her fucking banging ass and all i could think about was cracking it open and devouring it like a lion. It consumed my mind and I got close to her and wanted to touch her and just be around that feminine energy I think I can smell it now.

7. I feel some sort of latent power rising up in me and being stored to be able to direct it at will to anything like a weapon, like a nuclear weapon.

8. Id rather die than watch porn again. I don't want to do it anymore. I want my penis to be sacred and pure and strong and saved only for sweet pussy.

9. I feel like I would cum in a girl because all my mind cares about is getting my dick wet.

10. I'd rather feel like this, alive, than desensitized with pornography and my hand. i can feel everything.

11. Please please I don't want to do it again. Please give me the strength to do this I feel like i am on the right track here please lead me to the guidance to muster the strength to stay pure for the love of everything that is holy i'd rather die than betray myself anymore with a toxic behavior that I know is wrong.

12. I have infinite power and patience and presence when I am pure. banish this evil behavior from my life forever. amen
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@Lights

EXCELLENT!

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Please expand on the details of your journey. What worked, what didn't work, porn use before, etc.
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(03-04-2017 09:21 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  
(03-04-2017 05:53 PM)ExploringReality Wrote:  This. I need to sleep for way less time. One question for the vets. How do you deal with reduced endurance? I was able to fuck for hours without any problem, but each session was noticeably shorter than they used to be. I-m thinking about kegels but I still would thank some input since I guess this is caused by nofap.

In the beginning as your body adjusts, you will probably cum more quickly the first time...however you will also be ready to fuck the same girl again in less than 20 minutes after that. You will probably wind up fucking more times but for a shorter amount of time....after a while your body will adjust. It makes a huge difference if it is a new girl, or one you know already and don't have perfomance anxiety about.

(03-04-2017 07:25 PM)Felix88 Wrote:  30 days!

Feel pretty good in general, also feel a lot more raw emotions like they are on steroid, and I'm glad for that.


Felix88, I'm really, really pleased to your post considering how bad things were for you a month ago. Did the praying help ? If so, did you remember to thank whatever god or gods you prayed to ?

Also, please give us a longer summary of your symptoms and how the past 30 days have been. How did you make it sucessful this time ? How did you overcome urges ? Have you spoken to any girls in real life in the last 30 days or kept yourself occupied with other things ?

I don't keep a journal so I will try to recollect my memories as best as I can.

After started praying I didn't feel the strong urge to fap or watching porn anymore, and it become easier with subsequent praying sessions, the feeling of gratitude and well being also increased tenfold so it's a bonus. Admittedly, there are days I didn't pray but I keep my mind on focus on being grateful for things in my life in those days.

About girls, I always speak to girls when they are in my line of sight, I was always doing it before but after stop fapping, the conversations come and flow lot more natural, like I was completely out of my mind, I care a lot more and care a lot less at the same time if that make sense, also I don't have to think hard about what I need to say anymore. The positive way people react when I flirt with waitresses in the restaurants is priceless,

When I find myself alone at home I always try to do something physical like hanging leg raises or pull ups, reading a book.
Some times, I just boot up Call of Juarez Gunslinger for some good old western shooter fun and I forgot about the urges completely.

It's all about dopamine and adrenaline,
everything in life is about drugs.
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(03-05-2017 08:33 PM)redbeard Wrote:  @Lights

EXCELLENT!

Please expand on the details of your journey. What worked, what didn't work, porn use before, etc.

Ok. So that post from two years ago was just from one week of abstinence.

I recently passed the 30 day mark which I thought was impossible. I'd never done it before in my life. Here's my quick story.

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I Went 30 Days Without Porn: Here’s What I Learned.

.....Plus.... the One Thing that made me quit for good....

I used to be very confused about pornography.

Somewhere deep inside I knew there was something wrong about it.

Usually as soon as I’d get that feeling that something was off....

I’d hear or read someone say, “Don’t worry, everyone does it.” Or.. “It’s healthy.”

Healthy or not, I wanted to stop. But I couldn’t seem to do it.

I could never go more than 14 days without reverting back to my old habits ---- surfing porn, looking for that perfect video, violently masturbating with a Jaws of Life grip to the point where my dick was basically beat to s***....

and I would do this maybe once/day-once/3 days. Sometimes I would go on porn binges...

....Because I was bored.

In hindsight, I realize my brain wanted that hit so bad it would feed me any excuse to give in. "Oh don’t worry everybody does it." "It’s healthy..."

Well, something about it didn’t feel right.

Otherwise, I am a "normal" person. Not a virgin at all. I’m good with girls. Socially adept, lift 4-5 days a week and recently made some huge gains of 20lbs of muscle.

Anyways.

I could kick tobacco, drugs, drinking, but it seemed like quitting porn was IMPOSSIBLE. The most I could go would be a week and then I’d go ahead and load a clip and jerk off and not even cum but kinda choke it down back into my penis.

I don’t even know what that’s called.

I decided I would quit come hell or high water. I’m on day 34 now but have decided I will never masturbate to pornography again ever in my life.

I decided to adopt the following beliefs:

1. It’s ok not to release every three days like some people say

2. You can go forever without masturbating and it you will be fine.

3. There is actually potent energy in your cum that if you keep inside, you can transmute like Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich.

4. Watching hardcore pornography is shameful was the main contribution to a deep, underlying sense of inferiority that I felt I had to make up for. I knew that I had a glaring weakness. I knew that this habit had taken control and was not helping, it was destroying me. But I knew that I was in denial about it and kept shoving it deeper and deeper into my subconscious.

5. Porn was damaging my brain…. I could feel it. How? I was objectifying women, I was apathetic, I’d lost some zeal for life. There was a perma-fog in my brain and I felt like I was always behind the curve. It’s like doing coke. A hard hit of dopamine to the brain that can’t be replicated in real life.

Whether any of those things are absolutely factual is kinda irrelevant. I decided I didn’t want to watch porn anymore and actually not even masturbate at all.

So I internalized those beliefs and began the journey.

Enough.

Here’s what happened.

I stopped and started a few times and around 2 week mark I felt like I was in the middle of an ocean… and I was just floating out there, so I’d go back to porn, because it was familiar…. I hadn’t replaced the habit.

What solidified my commitment to no porn and get past that 2 week barrier was this:


1. I bought a full year, one page poster calendar. I Had a red marker. I hung the calendar on my wall, very visibly. And every day that I went without porn or masturbation, I would make a big red X on the calendar.

2. Whenever I lost sight of my goal for whatever reason during that first month. I would look at the calendar and become instantly refocused. I replaced one addiction with the addiction of the red X es accumulating on the wall.

I didn't need porn blockers or anything else. Just the calendar. I have access to pornography 24/7...

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>Day 14: The first 2 weeks were interesting. I had hardcore dreams and really fight the urge on that second week. The first week is riding the wave off the last time I jacked off. After seven days I’m kinda just recovering from beating the crap out of my dick. My testosterone seems to peak by the seventh day.

At days 10-14 things get deep. What I mean is when walking around, it’s as if I can summon powers through my body and out through my fingers. I’m very aware of the difference and the effect that my will is having on my confidence and on people around me. I have a bit extra energy deep inside now that I can summon as well. I feel righteous and pure.

Day 21: The third week I still have these powers and I’m more calm and am not having such hardcore thoughts.

Matter of fact the thought of porn is unappealing and am starting to have flickers that any hardcore sexuality is bad. I’m repelled by images of hardcore sex…. but the naked form is okay. My dick looks better, the skin of it looks more healthy. And it’s fuller and hangs lower now.

I have a higher standard in women now sexually. Regular or unhealthy girls don’t arouse me anymore. When a girl makes crass sexual remarks about her tits or whatever it rings hollow and pathetic in my mind.

I enjoy a female’s company sometimes as I always have but I am more intently focused on conversation. I notice how the girls I talk to look at me. I’m acutely aware of subtle cues and nonverbal communication. Its subtle, but it’s there. Before I simply didn’t care.

I notice what a girl is saying and challenge people’s inconsistencies when they speak, whereas before I would just let things slide because I didn’t care.

I’ve cried… like a lot. I’ve cried at least 5 times. It’s very strange. But it’s not crying because I’m sad necessarily. I don’t know what it is.

Because of the discipline, I’ve let go of other crutches as well, like certain friends.

My shame is gone and I’m way more aggressive.

Way more productive. I’ve started up a freelance business, on top of my day job, gotten clients, started up a gritty workout routine even though I got rid of my gym membership.. and already gained 3-5 pounds and fulfilled many other goals on a daily basis.

I used my newfound creativity to fashion weights out of regular items I had lying around and the outdoors is my gym. In North Dakota in Winter. My workouts are intense and I don’t need any stimulants.

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But....

Just last night...... I got an incredibly strong urge to look for this one particular clip to watch.

To find it, I’d have to search, and in the process, come across hundreds of other hardcore images.....and my brain was going through this process.... and I said “No, are you kidding me.” No way I’m going down that rabbit hole. I realized I didn’t even feel like masturbating. I just wanted to view those images. It was like a drug.

Day 35: I don’t know how I feel now. Certainly not that same triumph that occurred around weeks two or three. I’m in some kind of flatland. But I’m ready to take on other challenges now.

If I was still watching porn there wouldn’t be room for that. No energy. And I would always feel “behind.”

Now I know I am making long-term progress. I’m realizing that the process doesn’t get easier.... because there is always a new goal. But I’m stronger. I’m ready for a new challenge.



P.S. If anyone else is struggling to get past the two week mark, try the calendar method. It's the only thing that worked for me. By the way, I'll answer any questions if I missed anything.
03-05-2017 10:35 PM
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I dont understand 'porn addiction'. What are the symptoms? I watched porn as a kid but as an adult I dont see the point.

I am a pro fapper though. It doesnt cost a cent, no STDs and no game required.

Beliefs are more powerful than facts.
03-06-2017 03:33 AM
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Day 1 again.

Saturday did not go as planned, and the insomnia got to me on Sunday. I wanted to sleep badly. I felt like the walking dead from lack of sleep but sleep would not come to me. There was one silver lining to the experience. The orgasm after being backed up for a week was as intense as any I can remember. I know from past experience that the intensity will trail off if I go back to old habits. If I can make it even 1 day longer this time, I'll be satisfied.

"Who cares what I think?" - Jeb Bush
03-06-2017 10:23 AM
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Don't remember the last time I watched porn.but it's been about 3 or four days.

I think I'm able to make it through the week without it.
03-06-2017 10:29 AM
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(03-03-2017 11:53 AM)FilipSRB Wrote:  
(03-02-2017 04:17 PM)Kid Twist Wrote:  Anyone experience the worst times are the wake sleep state early in the morning (esp with wood?)


Yes, both times I relapsed so far was in this state.

I think the mind wandering with morning wood makes this possibly the biggest challenge. Any tips, anyone?
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