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RE: Older Guys (40+)
@ Vaun I liked the below para you wrote:

"The hoops, oddities, oversensitive, time wasting texts and messaging and wasted nights are a giant waste of your time. Unless you absolutely have to, when you get much older and thats all you can get. And acting detached and aloof only makes her scared and walk off. She's holding out for over-investment beta simp. And there are still many. "

There are 2 elements in that para..... hours of time wasting messaging/texts/E-mails ......and women today have choice

Time wasting messages and E-mail's is what a younger guy (40's) pretty much has to do because he is usually employed and busy with life. It doesn't take long before the guy gets jaded by the bullshit.
It is one minor reason I took early retirement (freedom 55) so I could go out and meet the women face to face. I'm not a big fan of western women and having 24/7 time available...guess what!! it doesn't mean shit here with the women (just as fucked up 24/7)

Can you get away from the time wasting life sucking "correspondence" yes and no. You can travel and meet a beautiful girl(s) and when you come back to your country ....end up texting/Emailing/Skyping...until you return to see her (them) again. This is exactly why I retired! so that I wouldn't have to waste my time doing correspondence! Although there is a slight difference with long distance romance.

This difference is the realization your writing with feelings with a receiver who does likewise. Western electronic communication like everything else has been corrupted and polluted (it isn't real). Writing to a chick (in it's purest form) use to be and still is a delight so always keep that skill. Because your going to keep needing it....it is not wasting time!

Choice is what women in western countries have and most of the "hopeful" men don't. There are a lot of great guys on RVF selling themselves short (for trash).
But remember us guys also go to countries where WE get choice....and if not careful we start behaving like the women in the west do.(rinse wash repeat). It came as a shock to me when overseas to find out that I was "dating" women.....I had choice....so now what?

Meaning if your in your 40's or 50's you really have to sit down with yourself and sort out what you want from life.

You also have to protect assets because one mistake there is little or no time to rebuild. A decision to have "the dream" being a good wife and kids may not be the best idea.....when it is staring you right in the face.

Footnote...Maybe somebody could back me up on this but EE women (lots being university educated) don't like our our written slang..brb...cya...lol...e.t.c. although they use emoticons. It could be a language issue but one girl I know is a English translator for her government...she took particular offense to the slang! I disliked being western characterized by my written prose but you will be by an educated women! DOH!

............LIFE isn't a DRESS REHEARSAL.........
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11-25-2017 01:46 PM
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RE: Older Guys (40+)
Reading a good book now, The Middle Passage[/size], which is about the psychology of midlife and the crises or changes that occurr. Much better than the book Passages from the early 70s.

In addition to giving you some perspective on self and relationships, it has some application to game. It explains the concept of projection, where one seeks a spouse that is a combination of their experience with the opposite sex and their unfilled desires. For example, a woman seeks a man who is like her father. They also project this on a partner, so if you are a blank slate a woman will fill in the blanks as she hopes, which is not necessarily reality. Potentially beneficial in the short run, disastrous in the long run (marriage). This is why people divorce and they say you are not the person I married. True, they were never the person you imagined them to be.
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Who here (over 40) day games on U.S. college campuses still?

I drove past my local university and was, once again reminded, and astonished at all the young, in-their-prime, yoga pant wearing females crawling over the campus. Ah, the targets.....

I regularly date and occasionally bang college girls through some online sites (including SA) but have been a little hesitant about walking around a US campus day gaming the past year or two. I could pass for a grad student or younger professor due to my "thirty something" look

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Why would you ever stop? I have the same 30-something professor look.
12-11-2017 07:26 PM
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Good question. I suppose it's an "inner game" issue to use PUA lingo.

Like, here I am, a guy in my 40s, purposefully going to a university to do indirect or direct openers on 19 year olds walking to class.

I suppose I rationalize I'll meet them in a more 'normal' way for a guy my age such as at whole foods or a coffee shop and where I don't actively go to their university to do it. I'll probably try later this week in my downtime to see how it goes.

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I actually am an older non-traditional student regularly on a campus and even so I would still be hesitant to do so. But, I am no example to emulate.

Here, at least, I think you would have to do this mainly in September and October before the weather starts to turn bad. After that, people are generally in a hurry.

If only you knew how bad things really are.
12-11-2017 08:05 PM
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Yes, the mature student (chuckle)

Years ago (maybe 25) I had to make up 2 credits for my college diploma (I was in my 30's) so I went to night school

The college gladly stole my money and also issued me something called a student card which gave me access to "the college pub" and even the university pubs around town

That student card was the best scholastic thing I ever got.

I never felt out of place being older....the pubs are always a mix of people (ethnics...druggies...hipsters..30 year olds chasing medical phd's)......yeah and old fart professors are there farming the students also

your a 40 or 50 or 80 yr old student that paid for a course....you get the privileges period.

it helps if you live in a city with higher learning facilities nearby (for warm up drinks before you head out for the evening or stay at the campus pub).

............LIFE isn't a DRESS REHEARSAL.........
12-12-2017 12:56 AM
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(12-11-2017 07:54 PM)robreke Wrote:  Good question. I suppose it's an "inner game" issue to use PUA lingo.

Like, here I am, a guy in my 40s, purposefully going to a university to do indirect or direct openers on 19 year olds walking to class.

I suppose I rationalize I'll meet them in a more 'normal' way for a guy my age such as at whole foods or a coffee shop and where I don't actively go to their university to do it. I'll probably try later this week in my downtime to see how it goes.

I say go for it.

I know too many guys who complain about girls being too young, but yet they are attracted to old broads with kids.

I even hear younger guys who are like 25 -29, saying a girl 19 is too young for them.

Open up a SA account and you will get bombarded with messages from girls who are aged 19 -21.

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RE: Older Guys (40+)
What’s an SA acct?
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12-13-2017 04:07 PM
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(12-13-2017 04:07 PM)Gorgonzola Wrote:  What’s an SA acct?

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12-13-2017 04:18 PM
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This MSN article on how to know if you’re dating jerks reads like an Alpha 101 class.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/love...ss-AAmEqos
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12-15-2017 10:16 PM
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(12-15-2017 10:16 PM)Gorgonzola Wrote:  This MSN article on how to know if you’re dating jerks reads like an Alpha 101 class.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/love...ss-AAmEqos

Exactly! What a great little refresher course on how to be a jerk. Chicks dig jerks!
12-16-2017 04:05 AM
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(12-16-2017 04:05 AM)Akwesi Wrote:  
(12-15-2017 10:16 PM)Gorgonzola Wrote:  This MSN article on how to know if you’re dating jerks reads like an Alpha 101 class.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/love...ss-AAmEqos

Exactly! What a great little refresher course on how to be a jerk. Chicks dig jerks!

Wow. The only one here I have not trained myself to do (in the course of maintaining frame and moderating emotional investment) is issue insulting jokes. The rest of it I've learned are what actually gives women the tingles.
12-16-2017 10:59 AM
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(12-11-2017 03:48 PM)robreke Wrote:  Who here (over 40) day games on U.S. college campuses still?

I do.

What are your specific questions?

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Lots of information and inspiration these old threads!

"Picking up 18 - 20 year olds"

"freshman girls"

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Pretty girl, right? As of now a 33 years old actress, roles in movies and TV series, daughter of a Professor of Economics, Minister of Foreign Affairs, and MEP. In her prime dated nationally famous actors & show-biz men.




   

Her with her dad, right? Actually, no, her boyfriend whom she's pregnant with.




   

Him: 51 years old surgeon, average looks (though very tall), a divorcee with 4 kids.

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01-04-2018 09:04 AM
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Looks like Joan Thursday from Endeavor.
01-04-2018 10:32 AM
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RE: Older Guys (40+)
I'm 54. I don't bother with the 20 somethings of course, though I will engage them if theyre friendly and there. Few and far between though I did pull a 23 yr old a couple years ago. Late 30's and up I still do OK. Actually mid-thirties too. I go to gym, play some tennis, eat right. I dont go for the Conan look with the weightlifting.

My problem is that I get rolling and suddenly I have a girlfriend. Then it ends after 3 to 6 mos and I start again from scratch. What can I say? I like practicing with one I like and making good whoopie.
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all women, especially as they get older, want a man that wants to get married.
i did that once and dont want to do it again.

i tell them if they need a contract with the state in order to keep me around, then they are doing something VERY wrong
doesnt matter, they all want it
kindof sucks but im not doing it. i believe it changes something fundamental in the relationship and starts the meanness
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Yeah you're right, most older women are looking for husband #2 (or #1 in some cases). So you'll date them for a while but then if they start pressing for more then just let em go, not a thing wrong with that. It's just the way it is when you're in your 50s and dating (I'll be 50 this year). You might luck out and eventually find a chick that just wants a chill relationship with no major commitments.
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I use to have what I called "legacy issues" when I went from my 40's into my 50's.

The residual effects of "hey I still got time to start another family" or find that special girl to marry buy a house settle down and watch TV (again).

In my 50's legacy issues caused impatience and frustration in getting what I wanted before my time ran out. Then I thought WTF am I trying to achieve here? I have done everything I ever wanted to do "relationship wise" 10 times over in my past. I am a very lucky man

Now I am relaxed and looking for a nice vibrant safe, disease free (as possible) culture to enjoy myself at....the key word is enjoy myself

I want to build solid social connections, and let the connections grow with the women naturally and see where it goes. My priority is my health and mental well being. In summary I am the sum of all my experiences, The sum total is I have earned the right to be selfish and to enjoy the fruits of my labor.

I want to look forward to 60...70....80...90..100....and building my life to get to those targets.....(in my late 30's and into my 40"s my goals only left me frustrated chasing relationship dreams and were a curse)

............LIFE isn't a DRESS REHEARSAL.........
01-30-2018 09:01 PM
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I think the lady’s age and whether or not she was previously married/had kids are significant factors.

I had a relationship with a 40 year old - divorced with two kids. She was totally done with the idea of marriage and family. She just wanted a cool LTR - frequent sex and sharing the joys of life.

For women in their 30s, never married and biological clock ticking, I could see that being another story. Add to that the social pressure of seeing their friends getting married and having families. These women still have deluded belief in the fairytale.
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(01-31-2018 10:22 AM)CaptainCup Wrote:  I think the lady’s age and whether or not she was previously married/had kids are significant factors. I had a relationship with a 40 year old - divorced with two kids. She was totally done with the idea of marriage and family. She just wanted a cool LTR - frequent sex and sharing the joys of life.

That's true, but kids aside, women still wrestle with the realization of post-wall issues. They may not care about marriage per se, but they are scared shitless they're going to be left alone when they lose what's left of their looks. So on the one side, they are taking one last ride on the carousel, but on the other, they're hoping to lock a guy in, ring or no ring, to "grow old together". That sets the stage for the barrage of "You're shallow, you just used me!" emotional warfare if you dump her for a fresher model.
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Hey Questor, I totally agree with you. This one was looking for a companion, soal mate, who would also, incidentally have sex with her on the very regular.

There was a very strong insecurity evident, which came from the post-wall syndrome that you pointed out. I sensed a great fear that her time had run out and an avoidance of being alone in her 40s.
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Hey Questor, I totally agree with you. This one was looking for a companion, soal mate, who would also, incidentally have sex with her on the very regular.

There was a very strong insecurity evident, which came from the post-wall syndrome that you pointed out. I sensed a great fear that her time had run out and an avoidance of being alone in her 40s.
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So just checking out this SA site. Are most of the women on the site legit or do you guys just hit up the ones where their photo is verified? Thanks for the info in advance!
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