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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - testos111 - 04-14-2018 12:27 PM

Day 40...Have never felt better! Had some amazing sex yesterday but did not ejaculate because I just don't want to lose this "power"!

During this streak, I had some (very few) days on which the urge to watch porn (but not ejaculate) got the better of me but unlike my past streak attempts, I did not reset the streak timer this time. This time I took the approach of weighing my achievement more by the average rather than some isolated incident. And that turned out to be a game changer since I've noticed that nothing keeps the motivation higher than having the momentum of a strong streak, even though it may not have been 100% pure. As long as it's good on the average, it's good for me. In fact the longer the streak goes, the more goes away the need to even cheat a little. I'm sure if I would have reset the timer because of a small incident, my motivation would have slipped entirely and I would have been back to the porn binge again. So the bottom-line is that a bit self-compassion can help you a lot in this battle.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Mercenary - 04-14-2018 04:18 PM

(04-14-2018 12:27 PM)testos111 Wrote:  Day 40...Have never felt better! Had some amazing sex yesterday but did not ejaculate because I just don't want to lose this "power"!

During this streak, I had some (very few) days on which the urge to watch porn (but not ejaculate) got the better of me but unlike my past streak attempts, I did not reset the streak timer this time. This time I took the approach of weighing my achievement more by the average rather than some isolated incident. And that turned out to be a game changer since I've noticed that nothing keeps the motivation higher than having the momentum of a strong streak, even though it may not have been 100% pure. As long as it's good on the average, it's good for me. In fact the longer the streak goes, the more goes away the need to even cheat a little. I'm sure if I would have reset the timer because of a small incident, my motivation would have slipped entirely and I would have been back to the porn binge again. So the bottom-line is that a bit self-compassion can help you a lot in this battle.



Did you edge ?
(Fap without going all the way ?)


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - MaceTyrell - 04-14-2018 10:30 PM

I’ve been 6 days. Have casually looked at porn related material over this week, but no climaxing.

Biggest thing was...having sex this Thursday. Didn’t finish, but I felt it carried me over the edge.

I feel great, and the upside from not fapping beats the upside of fapping.

Feel like I have improved...coping skills, to put it best.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - MaceTyrell - 04-15-2018 03:07 AM

Back atcDay 1. Lasted a week. I believe what got me was that I searched for my ex’s IG profile via another account. Thought she looked good. That started a song of sorts, that led to fapping a few hours later.

Sent a follow request, and she proceeded to block the account (I will assume she quickly figured out it was me).


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - MaceTyrell - 04-15-2018 07:19 AM

Back at Day 1. Lasted a week. I believe what got me was that I searched for my ex’s IG profile via another account. Her account is private, so I can’t see any of her photos. Her profile photo was new, and thought she looked good. Fapped to it a few hours later.

The headache after fapping was immediate.

Sent a follow request to the account, and went to sleep. Woke up at 3am (a noticeable effect of fapping is that the more I fap, the more sleep I need) checked the request, I noticed she blocked the account (I will assume she quickly figured out it was me).

Went back to sleep and now, an additional few hours later, I feel edgy.

Takeaways - I feel noticeably better when I do not fap, most particularly 1) I need less sleep and 2) my coping skills at work are better. I want to keep at it.

Here’s to trying for another 7 days! Maybe even longer!


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-15-2018 10:05 AM

Just ticked over a month and one week(roughly). No porn or fapping. Feel good, not a big difference like usual, but a more subtle confidence.

My thought path has shifted a little. Instead of thinking about instant gratification with porn on the internet, I am instead hungry for real life conquests instead. An interesting dynamic shift.

I also observed that in the past, this thread itself has been a trigger to lure me back into a PMO loop. So a word to those who are struggling to stay on the train, think about what happens and the urges that arise directly after reading this thread. If they are detrimental to your progress then perhaps it is time to reevaluate the purpose and meaning of this thread within your own mind. I seem to have done this, but still I will sometimes have more urges after viewing this thread. I think it is a neural network thing. One thing you do will trigger a multitude of other things that normally happen within that same area and thought path. Think a former smoker going into a bar, when you drink often times you'll smoke too. Perhaps your brain is associating the practice of resisting from PMO as a trigger to urge it more. Food for thought.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - sterling_archer - 04-15-2018 10:31 AM

(04-15-2018 10:05 AM)Ivanis Wrote:  I also observed that in the past, this thread itself has been a trigger to lure me back into a PMO loop. So a word to those who are struggling to stay on the train, think about what happens and the urges that arise directly after reading this thread.

This is a very interesting observation that I also noticed. It really seems to me that my challenge goes as easy as it's can only when I am not bothering with checking out how much days have passed (app does counting for me) and reading this thread.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Baptistao - 04-16-2018 04:12 AM

Day 50. Not sure if I should keep going. The past weeks I was not productive since I had to think about sex the whole time. Not able to release made me crazy. Even if I tried to distract myself with doing other stuff, I couldn't prevent my thoughts going naughty sooner or later. I had many times severe blue balls - sometimes it even hurt to walk - and I had my first wet dream since years. The positive thing is that the forbidden use of pornographic material led to the usage of my brain fantasies and I also remembered of girls I had once sex with but kind of forgot about them. Last but not least, I still think that not masturbation is evil, it's the addicting porn. I would like to go back to masturbating, but only with my fantasies and memories of the past.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - sterling_archer - 04-16-2018 01:03 PM

Serious question. How much penis enhancement exercises are doable while on nofap/noporn challenge? Will they make things more difficult or not?


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-16-2018 01:05 PM

Came close to relapsing. I had the Nofap app on my phone and was surfing through it for a little while trying to curb the urge. This did it right here:

redditanon Wrote:Sitting at home at the end of the day, feeling horny as fuck used to be so incredibly frustrating to me. Like the urge for a drink or a cigarette or a line it used to cripple me and leave me thinking of nothing else. It used to make me feel like the only option was to relapse. My balls ached and my mind felt hyper aware. If you resist the urge, this hyper awareness is actually quite a pleasant feeling.

Im sitting here right now, after a long day at work and a good workout and honestly I'm still horny as hell. Its like my brain and body are instinctively willing me to fuck someone or to jerk off. This feeling used to spell certain doom for me. However, I've come to believe that this feeling is actually the manifestation of masculine energy. The feeling that is coursing through my body is something I can harness to put toward productive tasks. If I look at it as pure energy, like animalistic, aggressive energy, the kind you feel when you're about to lift something heavy at the gym and the perfect song comes on through your headphones, I can now enjoy this feeling. I can revel in it. I never felt this before nofap and its the feeling of actually being alive and in the moment.

If you turn your mind away from the urge and just focus on how energized you feel its amazing, it feels like you are motivated to take on the world, and fight like a tiger to reach your goals. Its not real sexual arousal, which you feel when you're getting naked and about to have sex with someone you have an actual connection with. It's just excess energy, and the quickest way you're used to dealing with it is masturbation.

Instead you have to savour and use it, because its the way you are supposed to feel. This is the energy that is going to allow you to jump out of bed at 6am for a run, work a full day and still feel ready to see your friends for a drink and be social before collapsing into bed.

learn to love it, and you'll never relapse

So instead of relapsing, I packed my gym bag and headed to school. Gonna be there for four hours then headed directly to the gym after. Fuck this, I'm not giving in today.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - testos111 - 04-17-2018 12:47 AM

Day 42...had sex again yesterday night but without ejaculation..feel amazing! motivation for focused work has rarely been this strong!


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - sterling_archer - 04-17-2018 02:23 AM

testos111, you are basically a Yogi now haha.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - testos111 - 04-17-2018 09:25 AM

Just read this article by Victor Pride from Bold and Determined - Why You Should Never Masturbate Ever Again

https://boldanddetermined.com/quit-masturbating/

Far-fetched or makes sense? What do you guys think?


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-17-2018 10:07 AM

^
I like Vic, and I really like his high in the sky writing style. It's almost mystical in the way he writes, so a lot of what he talks about in that article is his own spiritual interpretation of masturbation. I think that some of it is grounded in fact, some is anecdotal evidence, and some is just plain creative expression. Either way though he still makes a good argument on the pitfalls of fapping.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - testos111 - 04-17-2018 11:28 AM

(04-17-2018 10:07 AM)Ivanis Wrote:  ^
I like Vic, and I really like his high in the sky writing style. It's almost mystical in the way he writes, so a lot of what he talks about in that article is his own spiritual interpretation of masturbation. I think that some of it is grounded in fact, some is anecdotal evidence, and some is just plain creative expression. Either way though he still makes a good argument on the pitfalls of fapping.

I like his style too. He isn't diplomatic and takes a stand. But what I don't like is that he makes everything sound way too austere. He's against drinking, smoking, weed, masturbation and now even against sex.

I once asked him via comments as to what motivates him then and his answer was money/work. That's an addiction too. Need to take the what's good for you from his content and strike a balance. I wouldn't want to have a bland life just to produce "great work like Tesla or Newton".


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-17-2018 03:16 PM

(04-17-2018 11:28 AM)testos111 Wrote:  
(04-17-2018 10:07 AM)Ivanis Wrote:  ^
I like Vic, and I really like his high in the sky writing style. It's almost mystical in the way he writes, so a lot of what he talks about in that article is his own spiritual interpretation of masturbation. I think that some of it is grounded in fact, some is anecdotal evidence, and some is just plain creative expression. Either way though he still makes a good argument on the pitfalls of fapping.

I like his style too. He isn't diplomatic and takes a stand. But what I don't like is that he makes everything sound way too austere. He's against drinking, smoking, weed, masturbation and now even against sex.

I once asked him via comments as to what motivates him then and his answer was money/work. That's an addiction too. Need to take the what's good for you from his content and strike a balance. I wouldn't want to have a bland life just to produce "great work like Tesla or Newton".

I think that he tries to remain stoic in his approach to things. That being said, I will agree that he seems to only be passionate about business, which isn't bad, but leaves one with a sense of incompleteness.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - MaceTyrell - 04-17-2018 05:31 PM

Today was a very bad relapse. Did it 3 times in the bathroom at work today. Also lamented over my ex, who broke up with me 16 months ago. Fapping and moping are likely correlated for me.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - sterling_archer - 04-18-2018 02:52 AM

This is to me favorite part of the blog article about why one should stop fapping:

Quote:Masturbation is not a sin against God or an act of immorality. No, it is worse. It is an act of pure self-abuse that we actually believe is pleasure.

Masturbation is but a moment of pleasure that causes a lifetime of pure pain. Masturbating causes you to live in hell on earth, but you never know the reason why.

You think you are low energy, weak, and stupid because it's this disease or that syndrome or this food or that food.

Nope.

The real reason you are a sick weakling is because you drain your literal life force. Each act of masturbation kills you slowly (and terribly).

I am not here to scare you about damnation and hellfire.

You aren't going to masturbate and then go to hell when you die.

Masturbaters, or “wankers”, are already living in hell. Depravity is the abyss.

This is excellent and beautifully written. There is too much broscience that has infiltrated nofap/noporn movement. But this dude gets it. There is nothing dangerously occult or sinful in wasting your sperm, but the whole act of wasting energy is what is bad. Also, masturbation is worthless activity, sex is not, with our without cumming.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ogunn - 04-18-2018 03:58 PM

(04-16-2018 04:12 AM)Baptistao Wrote:  Day 50. Not sure if I should keep going. The past weeks I was not productive since I had to think about sex the whole time. Not able to release made me crazy. Even if I tried to distract myself with doing other stuff, I couldn't prevent my thoughts going naughty sooner or later. I had many times severe blue balls - sometimes it even hurt to walk - and I had my first wet dream since years. The positive thing is that the forbidden use of pornographic material led to the usage of my brain fantasies and I also remembered of girls I had once sex with but kind of forgot about them. Last but not least, I still think that not masturbation is evil, it's the addicting porn. I would like to go back to masturbating, but only with my fantasies and memories of the past.

Instead of relying on masturbation why not go out and have sex with women?


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-18-2018 08:27 PM

Full accountability time, plus some observations.

I was nearly a month and a half into it, and then Tumblr came along. I was cruisin through there for writing inspiration(photography, prompts, etc.) and an account for tasteful lingerie shots came up, I was in the shower at the time, and I shit you not, the fucking stream of water put me on the edge after just surfing few a couple pics. I'm on the fence as to whether or not I will call it a relapse or not, as I didn't feel any of the side effects of a normal relapse, I will keep an eye on them and perhaps that will determine my thoughts. I equated it to waking up mid-wet dream and just kind of letting the orgasm happen, not really pushing yourself into it, but as well not trying to stop it.

It was very interesting though, as I used to meed a death grip and hardcore porn to get off. Now a fucking shower head and some softcore got me. If that's not progress; I've the slightest clue what is. I figured I needed to share this for accountability sake, keep fighting the good fight gents.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Bushido - 04-18-2018 10:46 PM

That Victor Pride article suggests that sex is just as bad as masturbating if you aren't procreating. I call BS on that. He's mainly writing for teenage virgins so remember the target audience.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Mercenary - 04-19-2018 08:07 AM

(04-18-2018 08:27 PM)Ivanis Wrote:  I was nearly a month and a half into it, and then Tumblr came along. I was cruisin through there for writing inspiration(photography, prompts, etc.) and an account for tasteful lingerie shots came up, I was in the shower at the time, and I shit you not, the fucking stream of water put me on the edge after just surfing few a couple pics.


You were using your smartphone while in the shower ???Huh


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - testos111 - 04-20-2018 10:57 AM

Day 45

My body was crying out lout to explode out the tension in my body and luckily I got a girl today. The only problem was I ended up coming inside a minute. Had a smoke and then went for round 2 and even though this time I really rammed her hard, the pleasure wasn't of the intensity I had hoped for from nofap. Mixed emotions and days like these pretty much ended my streak and caused a porn binge in the past but this time I've decided to be more resilient. I had been having sex without ejaculation with the fear that losing the semen would undo all the hard work so early on in the steak but I was wrong. Though the sex wasn't great, I did feel amazing, natural and rejuvenated afterwards, something which porn just doesn't provide. Starting some kegel exercises because I feel the fun really lies in the first round as that's when you can derive all the pleasure from the discipline of porn abstinence.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-20-2018 11:33 AM

(04-19-2018 08:07 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  
(04-18-2018 08:27 PM)Ivanis Wrote:  I was nearly a month and a half into it, and then Tumblr came along. I was cruisin through there for writing inspiration(photography, prompts, etc.) and an account for tasteful lingerie shots came up, I was in the shower at the time, and I shit you not, the fucking stream of water put me on the edge after just surfing few a couple pics.


You were using your smartphone while in the shower ???Huh

Strategic positioning of phone. Works like a charm!


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-21-2018 12:34 PM

Nearly 50 days in, and back to day one I go. Stupid mistake while bored and stressed. Gonna do what I did before and just keep on chugging. No looking back.