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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Marmite - 04-21-2018 06:41 PM

Made it to 111 days. Now day zero. Fapped and first time ejaculating this year. Had to relieve the pressure.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Rhyme or Reason - 04-23-2018 01:51 PM

Gonna do another 90 day no fapaganza., cuz why not,? day two currently. Nowhere to go but up.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - testos111 - 04-25-2018 11:50 AM

Day 50..Giving up on the nofap part of it today. It's a deliberate and thoughtful decision.

I've realized that I enjoy masturbation occasionally. But I'm definitely not going to watch porn. Will just be fapping to my thoughts.

The well-being I feel after a long masturbation session is too good a natural high to give up. It calms me down and allows me to focus on my work. During nofap, I had often started to feel anxious from all the pent-up energy.

And I've noticed that if I do it to my own thoughts, I usually feel horny very soon again. If I do it to porn, then it somehow fucks up my brain.

One of the main reasons I started nofap back in July 2015 was to cure my PIED, which was at a state where looking at a naked woman just did not arouse me at all.

That is pretty much cured and and now I don't want to live in a way where I'm counting days in the hope that some miracle will fall upon me at some distant future.

It's helped me realize that for me the main culprit was always porn and never masturbation alone.

I'm not making any claims. Just that this is what I feel is right for me and I feel a weight off my shoulders. Pleasure is one of my main life values and having an orgasm is something I love and I don't want to only restrict it to the time when I'm with a woman.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - 456 - 04-25-2018 12:25 PM

I think the next level up from "fapping to thoughts only" is "fapping to the physical sensation only" haha!! But how is that possible?

(Someone once made an actually-serious post [maybe RVF?? maybe elsewhere] about fapping in the mirror so that you only have your own self-intimacy to think about. Also hilarious, but almost insightful in a tiny way.)

Back when I was young and we barely had dial-up modems, all I could do is think about that one girl and how she looked on Thursday.



High thought: was my masturbation life healthier in my pre-sex days??

I remember jerking off for the first time at age 10 or 11, knowing "this is about the closest I'll be getting to real sex for a few years". Actually having to figure out how it worked.

Then thinking about a girl in class... then a Victoria secret mag. Then found an OLD Playboy that somehow sucked (no context, looked too old-fashioned in some ways, felt weird because I knew my father probably 'used' this).

Then dial-up and waiting agonizing whole minutes to download ONE picture, or to see a page of thumbnails. On the living room family PC when I was 100% sure nobody was going to be around for a while. You had to work for it.

Then sex + losing my virginity to a girlfriend, and a series of girlfriends. By the time I had "cable modem" as a college kid, modern speed internet, I was having pretty decent regular sex with LTR's and porn was more of a supplement, and masturbation more of a release, than a habit or anything.

Later as a budding adult, living alone, seeing multiple girls, having more varied and hotter sex and the occasional 1-2 year relationship, porn and masturbation slowly turned into the carnal equivalent of brushing my teeth, washing up for bed. Managed to keep it one-a-day during dry spells. But somehow the dopamine rush/crash was a lot more intense as porn modernized, and one-a-day continued even during periods of plentiful real sex.

The last few years present a creeping confluence of factors that have made it much more sinister. My frequency would creep during a dry spell, and I could feel the lack of pleasure from it. Remote work and lots of business created access and stress. Having enough notches not to crave the +1 ego stroke, I justified my lower libido. Even in relationships. "Big Porn" and super-ez access, never having long sessions, made it feel innocent.

But I could feel it encroaching on SOMETHING in me.

The past year I've practiced more moderation:

- 4 - 6 faps per week (prostate health heh)

- 50% of faps are no-porn

- if I'm on a roll with no-porn, I allow myself an extra that hour, or day (as testos111 said, it can increase horniness)

- reeeeally try to be physically gentle

- avoid situations where the fap happens from a compulsion or trigger thought -- keep it more deliberate if anything




The danger is even if one is living life, kicking ass, being social, and doing all the things that hardcore addicts are blocked from, a small habit STILL creeps in and contaminates little by little. Then all it takes is one setback (i.e. a slow, cold winter, or an intense work period) to turn it into something worse.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Biz - 04-27-2018 07:27 AM

Damn, been awhile since I been in here.

Inadvertently just hit 10 days.. I read Victor Pride's ridiculous article last week (even though I think he's a tool) so thought I'd give it a shot.

Actually came at a good time, been feeling like I need some extra edge and aggressiveness lately so I'm in for 30 days. See you guys in 20


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - kbell - 04-27-2018 10:50 AM

I feel like I'm close to relapsing again. How do you stop yourself?


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 04-27-2018 10:51 AM

^

Go to the gym and lift heavy shit. Then follow that up with a cold shower.

If that doesn't work then get out of the house and into public. Do work, approach chicks, whatever, just don't be alone for a while.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - _Samo_ - 04-27-2018 10:42 PM

Checking in here again after not posting for a while. I have majorly relapsed the last 2-3 weeks, the low of going back to my home country after a great trip kicked in but I cant just use that as an excuse. I've been jerking off every day since I've been back and also watched porn a couple of times. I have definitely noticed a negative difference in the sharpness of my brain and lower confidence levels compared to a few weeks ago.

Anyway, Its stopping from now on, I've deleted all my history and blocked porn sites on my browser.

Here we go, day 1.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Mikestar - 04-28-2018 03:59 AM

Day 8, last week I was doing pmo furiously at least once a day and my brain felt fried. I had a potential bang yesterday so from last week I said I will do nofap again. I noticed when I have dates scheduled throughout the week I do not fap because I want to keep my energy for those times so this can be a good tactic.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - niledelta - 04-29-2018 05:44 PM

Hey men, hoping to turn over a new leaf here.

Have managed some streaks in the past. Went 9 months, and separately 3 months more recently.

Have gone regularly 2 weeks without pmo. However I've started backsliding of late and I'm worried it's going to fuck me up.

Last week I read Red Beard's post on not fapping for one year, and it rekindled my interest in dominating my self-control.

In the 1 Year Drinking Wagon thread I staked my honour by committing to 1 year off alcohol. Many times it was the fear of breaking my word that kept me on the wagon.

I'd like to do the same here. I give my word, and stake my honour on not fapping for 1 year. Starting tomorrow Monday 30 April 2018. Ending 30 April 2019.

Disclaimer: Like Red Beard, I am allowing myself to look at porn, although I will minimize this, and try not to.

I think breaking the porn-masturbation link will break this habit. Masturbating creates a Pavlovian-type connection to looking at porn. Looking at porn becomes connected to orgasming and makes us want porn even more as a result.

So there we have it gents. I will report back as and when.

Godspeed

P.S. if anyone would like an accountability partner, send me a PM. We can help each other through this


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - MaceTyrell - 04-30-2018 01:58 PM

Just relapsed after about 4 days. Edged at work by looking st some Latina-related stuff, then went to my ex’s IG via an account she hadn’t blocked. It was on private, but just seeing the profile photo of her in a bikini (with her nipples easily noticeable), combined with her thighs...just sent me over the edge. Rushed to the bathroom to finish.

I hate that I am addicted to her like this. It’s been 16 1/2 months since she broke up with me.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Savemham Lincoln - 04-30-2018 02:16 PM

Day 22. I have fallen off the wagon 3 times in the last year.

The beginning of the end of every streak started with seeing a picture of a naked woman. Whether a week later or a month later, the trigger was one pornographic image.

After one pic it's a few pics. After a few pics it's a peek at a video. Before I know it I have a porn folder again and




If you are watching porn you will go back. Fapping is the only logical conclusion to a watching porn. As busting a nut is to sex, fapping is to watching porn.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Andreas - 04-30-2018 03:04 PM

Is there a significant rise in testosterone when men are doing nofap? Also when does it peak (with all else being unchanged) and what happens when a guy faps after that? I did several 7 day streaks and I jacked off and I noticed that every time I did, I felt like I lost some energy and I'm wondering if I undid all the work on staying clean Huh


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Rhyme or Reason - 05-01-2018 12:52 PM

8 Days in, feeling alright. Guys if you're serious don't touch your dick at all, except for when you piss. And don't look at IG or anything like that.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - sterling_archer - 05-01-2018 02:33 PM

I must admit I looked at porn today and couple of days ago, just for the curiosity. I am not in flatline so it wasn't to see if I can still get it up, but just wanted to see if I am attracted to porn like before I informed myself how porn works.
It isn't a half as interesting to me as it was. Yes, erection came and I could feel a dopamine surging, but it went all quickly away. It just doesn't do it anymore since I know what is behind porn.

In other news, I think it has already been an year of me attempting/resetting this challenge. All this time I am going for a challenge, fail, have chaser effect for a day or two and than start the challenge again. In past few iterations of this challenge I discovered that I don't have chaser effect anymore. Basically when I failed, I started challenge the very same day. I am pretty sure that is the result of healing my brain. Maybe this current streak will be my last uninterrupted streak, maybe not, but I am sure it will be soon when I am healed completely.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 05-01-2018 05:30 PM

^
I too have recently been snooping within the porn sites. I will say that now I am not looking at it much with lust, but instead with pity. My inner monologe is saying: "Look at this stupid chick, she is whoring herself out for money." then the idea of morals and all start to flood my head. Very interesting shift from my thoughts before, which solely consisted of PMO.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Architekt - 05-03-2018 01:08 AM

Getting back on this train, not enough drive/motivation in life at the moment

Gonna start supping zinc again too

I almost feel sorry for the girl who gets my first nut


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Rhyme or Reason - 05-03-2018 02:15 PM

(05-01-2018 05:30 PM)Ivanis Wrote:  ^
I too have recently been snooping within the porn sites. I will say that now I am not looking at it much with lust, but instead with pity. My inner monologe is saying: "Look at this stupid chick, she is whoring herself out for money." then the idea of morals and all start to flood my head. Very interesting shift from my thoughts before, which solely consisted of PMO.


Really dude? That seems like post porn viewing rationalization to me. Come on now.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Geomann180 - 05-03-2018 08:19 PM

Day 3 of no fap, tomorrow morning will be four.

Haven't viewed porn, have taken extreme caution with my hands around my crotch.

Looked at anime tiddies once.

This is a tough addiction to beat.

G


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 05-03-2018 08:40 PM

(05-03-2018 02:15 PM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  
(05-01-2018 05:30 PM)Ivanis Wrote:  Snip

Really dude? That seems like post porn viewing rationalization to me. Come on now.

Call it what you'd like. Those thoughts didn't surface previously, and they do now. That's all I've noted.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ruslan - 05-04-2018 03:31 AM

^^Careful there Ivanis. If those are the thoughts you get, they should trigger immidiate closing of yor porn browser window. I did watch naked girls' pictures in one of my previous no fap (just to "check", without intentions to get horny, rather just wanted to see a nice woman naked), and I indeed did get a feeling of slight contempt for those models. Then I just turned it off. What is the point in watching porn with the feeling as you desrcibed? If you get off that site, it seems like a healthy reaction. If you keep on watching, then I second what Rhyme or Reason said.

Come on man! You do not need that porn really. Keep cleaning your mind!


PS.121 days in and flying. Very strong morning boners.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Ivanis - 05-04-2018 06:41 AM

(05-04-2018 03:31 AM)Ruslan Wrote:  ^^Careful there Ivanis. If those are the thoughts you get, they should trigger immidiate closing of yor porn browser window. I did watch naked girls' pictures in one of my previous no fap (just to "check", without intentions to get horny, rather just wanted to see a nice woman naked), and I indeed did get a feeling of slight contempt for those models. Then I just turned it off. What is the point in watching porn with the feeling as you desrcibed? If you get off that site, it seems like a healthy reaction. If you keep on watching, then I second what Rhyme or Reason said.

Come on man! You do not need that porn really. Keep cleaning your mind!


PS.121 days in and flying. Very strong morning boners.

Just to clarify, I didn't continued to watch(nor have I since viewed) any of it after the thoughts went through my head. I was simply stating the thoughts that erected from the short stint.

I will make sure to keep it cataloged as a trigger to avoid possible detrimental tendencies. Thanks for the heads up.


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Geomann180 - 05-04-2018 09:36 PM

Day 4, complete. On to day 5.

G


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Geomann180 - 05-06-2018 07:36 PM

Actually, miscounted the days. Today is day 6. Tomorrow, will be day 7.

I even had my first wet dream in ages last night. No nocturnal emsions but I could tell my body was registering the action I was getting.

I vaguely remember being in some 80s type late night diner, around 8 pm summer.

The waitress looked similar to a French girl I used to know and I noticed she had a French accent and spoke some French to her. Next thing I know, it’s dark out, she takes me out the doors across the street to some casino, except there’s a bathroom next to its entrance, but outside the casino. We get into the bathroom and she (facing away from me) proceeds to sit down on me. And that goes on for a while until I wake up and find myself wishing I was asleep again.

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While I did misguidely click on "get your ____ fix nsfw" thread, I got off it in less than 30 seconds. Haven't visited a porn site yet, though was tempted to when I saw a picture of Ben Shapiro's sister's Khazar Milkers. I've been extremely careful to keep my hand above the desk when at the computer.

G


RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - Mikestar - 05-07-2018 08:00 AM

Lost it at 5 days and relapsed 3 times in one day. It's always that I either do pmo frantically then stop for a few days and repeat this cycle. I need to get outside when I have these urges. I hate the way my eyes look after I relapse I just look tired.