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GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Balls_Hang_Low - 09-29-2019 04:18 PM

So my gf of over 1 year is moving into a mixed dorm for school. She had been previously leasing an apartment which she shared with her sis and moved back in with her parents for the vacation.

The layout is there are 5 rooms, one which has a double bed so its probably for either 2 girls or a couple (could still be taken by a single dude), and the rest are all singles. There is already one female tenant, rest of the rooms are vacant for now since the property was only listed today, so there is a decent chance that she will be cohabiting with either one or two guys.

There is no living room and all doors have locks on them. The only thing they will be sharing is a kitchen and a bathroom.

I'm currently out of the country and will be till December when I go visit her. We move in together in February, when she finishes her studies and moves into my home.

She already paid to reserve the room and moves in tomorrow. I expressed my severe unhappiness when I learned it was mixed. She said that she would never fuck around with other guys and that I should trust her. She also said impossible/really hard to find female only rooms for rent especially near campus.

In her defence she said that its the same as when I was living in the actual uni dorms since she does have her own room and she ONLY shares kitchen and bathroom, no living room etc.

Anyways what would you fine gents do in my situation? Classes start in 2 days and she needs a decent place to live ASAP. Would you make a big deal out of it? Is this an acceptable living arrangement? Do I put my foot down? etc


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - The Catalyst - 09-29-2019 04:49 PM

Depends how poor she is


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Eazy_E - 09-29-2019 05:42 PM

College in general is a massive infidelity risk, especially when you're not around. I wouldn't worry so much about the other guys in the house, sure they might get drunk together one night and "stuff happens" but there's a better chance they're just simps who play video games all day.

Worry more about Tyrone and his friends on the football team or house parties she'll be going to. Honestly, unless a girl is chained to you 24/7 you can never be sure, but a college campus is temptation and alcohol non stop.

It's a good chance she's "our" girlfriend, not "your" girlfriend of you catch my meaning.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - SilentOne - 09-29-2019 07:01 PM

Living in the dorms almost guarantee a high notch count for a girl. Now knowing the unit is mixed.....ouch.

She doesn't respect you enough. Her fear of missing out is stronger than her fear of losing you. Also, you know your girl better than I do and you're worried for a reason.

The good thing is that this is a short situation but still take it as a red flag. Your concern meant nothing to her.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Karlo - 09-29-2019 08:19 PM

Not every girl is a slut. Don’t let some of the group think in this forum convince you your girl is fucking around.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - jeffreyjerpp - 09-29-2019 08:47 PM

Is she a big partier? Does she ever black out from drinking? Has she had sex with a lot of guys before you two were together? Are you not prominently featured on her social media?

Any “yes” answers to those questions dramatically increases the risk you’ll get cheated on. It’s a risk no matter what, but exponentially more likely depending on the type of girl she is, and also how scared she would be of losing you.

I think deep down you know whether or not this is something to worry about. A lot of girls are extremely happy being monogamous and don’t feel like they’re missing out if they don’t hook up a lot in college. If she’s not one of those, time to worry (or get a side piece of your own and call it even).


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Captain Gh - 09-29-2019 09:13 PM

^^ This x100. It doesn't matter where or with whom She Lives! If she wants to cheat... she'll cheat no matter what... and there's nothing you can do about it Point Blank!

And the fact that you're worried about this... means that you MIGHT already be in deep S**t! Most posters will answer you from a LTR & Religious perspective... which is now The Bread & Butter of the Forum.

Keep in Mind a Playa wouldn't even have been worried about this for 4 seconds, and would've kept it moving like she mentioned the sky is Blue.

I recommend you let it slide... but if the Anxiety from this is Snowballing, and keeps getting worse... you might have to Put your foot down, which will only work if she's truly enamored by you.

Risky either way


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Balls_Hang_Low - 09-29-2019 10:07 PM

She comes from a solid middle class family and both parents are engineers. She's in doing an engineering masters as well. She's also very frggal and hates spending other people's money, including mine and her parents. That's why she's going for a room and not an apartment.

She rarely drinks alcohol and doesn't get drunk. Her notch count before me was in the 3 to 6 range and her bang count was low.

She is committed to me 99.9% and I don't day 100% cause you can never trust a woman fully. She spent a ton of money to come visit me across the world and helps me run my business everyday without asking for anything in return. She texts and calls me everyday, no exception.

She messaged me 15 minutes after I told her I was unhappy with her living arrangements saying she wanted to talk to me cause she was anxious and couldn't sleep and wanted to resolve the issue. I didn't reply and will run slight dread game replying tomorrow.

I feel she didn't think it was an issue because she will not cheat on me, and didn't even think about the men she may cohabitate with. Now that she realizes it may pose a problem for me she might make changes.

I feel like maybe she could live there for a month until she finds somewhere else to live. Thoughts?

Also as some users suggested if she wants to cheat she will do so regardless of her living arrangements. I do feel the occasion makes the thief though, and if she's not around temptation there is much less likely hood of her doing so.

I'm not very worried at all but kind of slightly annoyed she didn't think about my position before signing the lease, though like I mentioned previously might because she doesn't even think about other men.

She also has only 2 pics on Instagram that are not whore like pics at all and rarely uses it. Facebook is also not being used.

Also I probably shouldn't be saying this but I still have a harem on rotation where I'm living cause as much as I love her the only way I can live is with empty nuts.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - jeffreyjerpp - 09-29-2019 10:22 PM

(09-29-2019 10:07 PM)Balls_Hang_Low Wrote:  She rarely drinks alcohol and doesn't get drunk. Her notch count before me was in the 3 to 6 range and her bang count was low.
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I feel she didn't think it was an issue because she will not cheat on me, and didn't even think about the men she may cohabitate with. Now that she realizes it may pose a problem for me she might make changes.
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I'm not very worried at all but kind of slightly annoyed she didn't think about my position before signing the lease, though like I mentioned previously might because she doesn't even think about other men.
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Also I probably shouldn't be saying this but I still have a harem on rotation where I'm living cause as much as I love her the only way I can live is with empty nuts.

I don't see a very high likelihood of her cheating, she seems like a quality girl and I wouldn't torpedo the relationship over this situation at all.

If I had to pick out something that is threatening to your relationship, it's probably the fact that you're keeping a harem on rotation while wondering if a girl who doesn't drink and constantly texts you is gonna cheat.

I totally understand that monogamy is difficult/impossible, and if guys need to get an escort or have a quiet ONS every so often, it is what it is.

But I'd suggest that, if this girl is real quality, maybe ditch the side hoes, lest you lose out on someone who could be wife material (if you're interested in that).


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Balls_Hang_Low - 09-29-2019 10:38 PM

I only bang girls cause she's on a different continent. I can't go for months without sex while she studies. I do love her and when we live together I don't plan on fucking around with other women and will be monogamous to the best of my ability. But for now I do need to smash and paying for sex is definitely not an option


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Zenta - 09-29-2019 10:51 PM

(09-29-2019 10:22 PM)jeffreyjerpp Wrote:  
(09-29-2019 10:07 PM)Balls_Hang_Low Wrote:  She rarely drinks alcohol and doesn't get drunk. Her notch count before me was in the 3 to 6 range and her bang count was low.
.........
I feel she didn't think it was an issue because she will not cheat on me, and didn't even think about the men she may cohabitate with. Now that she realizes it may pose a problem for me she might make changes.
......
I'm not very worried at all but kind of slightly annoyed she didn't think about my position before signing the lease, though like I mentioned previously might because she doesn't even think about other men.
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Also I probably shouldn't be saying this but I still have a harem on rotation where I'm living cause as much as I love her the only way I can live is with empty nuts.

I don't see a very high likelihood of her cheating, she seems like a quality girl and I wouldn't torpedo the relationship over this situation at all.

If I had to pick out something that is threatening to your relationship, it's probably the fact that you're keeping a harem on rotation while wondering if a girl who doesn't drink and constantly texts you is gonna cheat.

I totally understand that monogamy is difficult/impossible, and if guys need to get an escort or have a quiet ONS every so often, it is what it is.

But I'd suggest that, if this girl is real quality, maybe ditch the side hoes, lest you lose out on someone who could be wife material (if you're interested in that).

Maybe its projection if he has the Harem yet wants a monogamous relationship.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - jeffreyjerpp - 09-29-2019 10:59 PM

(09-29-2019 10:51 PM)Zenta Wrote:  Maybe its projection if he has the Harem yet wants a monogamous relationship.

I can't fault a guy for having side pieces, especially when he's younger and the GF is on a different continent. Is he supposed to jerk off for half a year or something? She presumably knows he is a younger heterosexual guy with access to women....so long as he intends on keeping her in the #1 slot and ditching the hoes when she comes back, I don't see the problem, tbh.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - SilentOne - 09-29-2019 11:04 PM

A guy who has a purpose or at least a harem of girls around won't care about what a woman does while away.

He moves on with his life and worry about things that matter. Like upgrading lifestyle or working on a business.

Again if she moves into that mixed dorm unit, she doesn't respect you. Don't delude yourself into thinking otherwise.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Zenta - 09-29-2019 11:47 PM

(09-29-2019 10:59 PM)jeffreyjerpp Wrote:  
(09-29-2019 10:51 PM)Zenta Wrote:  Maybe its projection if he has the Harem yet wants a monogamous relationship.

I can't fault a guy for having side pieces, especially when he's younger and the GF is on a different continent. Is he supposed to jerk off for half a year or something? She presumably knows he is a younger heterosexual guy with access to women....so long as he intends on keeping her in the #1 slot and ditching the hoes when she comes back, I don't see the problem, tbh.
Given the direction of the new forum I suppose it would depend where your morals lie. Some people are okay with it, some are not. Some women are aware, some are not.

Do you justify the behavior given the distance issue if she believes they are in a monogamous? Is she also getting some on the side and putting on the good girl act? I don't really have an answer to any of that because I don't know their personal life.

Realistically this is why long distance relationships tend to fail usually anyways.

Just some food for thought.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Dirtyblueshirt - 09-29-2019 11:52 PM

Hate to say it, but for your relationship, this is bad news.

Many years ago, I lived on a co-ed floor when I was a freshman in the dorms. Over half of the girls had boyfriends when they moved in (usually from high school). By the end of the school year, EVERY SINGLE ONE had broken up with their previous boyfriends and were dating someone new from the school. Some of them had also hooked up with guys from the floor.

I'm not saying that your girlfriend won't be loyal, but the odds are against you if she stays in the dorm.

If I were you, find her another option. Live with family, her own place, commute to school, anything else.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - paninaro - 09-30-2019 12:04 AM

She's there for her masters so her roommates are masters students also? Less likely to be party types, and more likely to be stuck studying all the time, especially if their grad student stipend depends on it.

Also if she's sharing a bathroom with these guys, in some ways she's less likely to hook up with them. Imagine going in to brush her teeth after one of them took a steaming dump.. that kind of ruins the allure doesn't it?

As another poster wrote, you should be worried about Tyrone and his buddies on the football team inviting her over to their place for a party. If she's not the type to go to those things, then she's probably fine.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - wwtl - 09-30-2019 06:41 AM

(09-29-2019 09:13 PM)Captain Gh Wrote:  ^^ This x100. It doesn't matter where or with whom She Lives! If she wants to cheat... she'll cheat no matter what... and there's nothing you can do about it Point Blank!

And the fact that you're worried about this... means that you MIGHT already be in deep S**t! Most posters will answer you from a LTR & Religious perspective... which is now The Bread & Butter of the Forum.

Keep in Mind a Playa wouldn't even have been worried about this for 4 seconds, and would've kept it moving like she mentioned the sky is Blue.

I recommend you let it slide... but if the Anxiety from this is Snowballing, and keeps getting worse... you might have to Put your foot down, which will only work if she's truly enamored by you.

Risky either way

Reading the whole thread I would say everyone gets what he deserves.

You embrace degeneracy and have a harem? You get degenerate problems (like sharing your "GF" with her dorm mates).

(09-29-2019 10:07 PM)Balls_Hang_Low Wrote:  She comes from a solid middle class family and both parents are engineers. She's in doing an engineering masters as well.

For what reason does a woman need an engineering master? That just Western career bullshit with her ending up as a frustrated childless cat lady. Not only is the parenting bad with they think of their female child as an engineer. The father is a complete failure, if he seriously accepts his unmarried daughter sharing a dorm with males.

The whole thing is wrong on so many levels...


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Balls_Hang_Low - 09-30-2019 06:44 AM

Thank you all for your different perspectives. As for silent one of course I care what she does, we both have planned out a future with each other and even if I'm smashing other girls AND working on my business that doesn't mean that I shouldn't give a shit about what my future partner does. Ridiculous.

You can never know if a woman is cheating on you, it's impossible to know. You just have to go with your gut and play with the chances, I would rank them as low given the fact that she lives with family in the polish suburbs and that she lived with her younger virgin sister sharing a double bed in a studio apartment.

I'm not worried about Tyrone because there are no black people in Poland lmao. As for Chad Kowalski all she does is go to class and come home to study and work on her laptop, she's not the type to go out and doesn't really have actual friends, just closer acquaintances from classes.

Also dorm might be the wrong word to describe the place, it's not like a huge dorm with dozens of rooms per floor in a tall building filled with women and men alike all going to college, partying in weekends together.

This is some landlords big apartment that he remodeled into a 5 bedroom house, turning the living room into a bedroom. It's very common in Poland and it is geared towards students given the proximity to universities.

I doubt there will be much partying going on here, just wouldn't want Chad Kowalski moving into the room beside her and smashing her to ease the cravings for my cock.

Tbh any living arrangement has its downsides, if she lives alone there's less chance of her getting caught cheating and it's just easier for logistics. If she lives with all women they can corrupt her to go out whoring. I will never really have peace of mind unless she is either living with her family or with me.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Balls_Hang_Low - 09-30-2019 06:53 AM

Also for wwtl bro your post is just retarded youve clearly become a monk overnight.

What's degenerate is not having sex for months on end being a good looking guy with tight game and access to women. That's degenerate.

She's clearly not going to be childless or a cat lady, gonna get her preggo as soon as I make some more bank and she finishes her degree. She's a solid girl that turns heads and is intelligent too. And that masters degree she's doing gave her tons of skills to help me with my business. I'd rather take that over an uneducated woman, or one with a useless degree in soft skill or - ology anyday.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - wwtl - 09-30-2019 06:56 AM

(09-30-2019 06:44 AM)Balls_Hang_Low Wrote:  Thank you all for your different perspectives. As for silent one of course I care what she does, we both have planned out a future with each other and even if I'm smashing other girls AND working on my business that doesn't mean that I shouldn't give a shit about what my future partner does. Ridiculous.

Quote:I'm not worried about Tyrone because there are no black people in Poland lmao.

I'm sorry, but you are just participating in Poland slowly going down the drain after it has been being infected with the globohomo disease.

First mistake: You "planned out a future" with each other. You don't "plan out", you start implementing it the second you meet your future wife. There is a hard limit of 3 years for dating ("LTR"). Then you are either married and have put a bun in the oven or you simply have no future.

Second mistake: You are emotionally invested in her (otherwise you wouldn't care so much), but you didn't commit to her and didn't lock her down properly (means she stays with you the whole time).

Third mistake: You don't have a "GF", who is on a different continent. If someone chooses to move away from you, it's over. Don't pretend through electronic media that you still have a "long distance relationshit". This is just another variety of Western bullshit.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - BlastbeatCasanova - 09-30-2019 07:09 AM

Are you pretty young? Sounds like she's pretty young (still in school). I could be wrong. But unless she is an absolute gem and you're planning to get married, then what's the big deal?


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - wwtl - 09-30-2019 07:36 AM

(09-30-2019 07:09 AM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:  Are you pretty young? Sounds like she's pretty young (still in school). I could be wrong. But unless she is an absolute gem and you're planning to get married, then what's the big deal?

He is emotionally invested without being committed. Young horny boys don't realize that casual sex demands a spiritual price.

It's like Poland - which used to be a devout Catholic country with NSBM being the norm - is going through all those Westerner's mistakes again just with a few decades delay.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - BlastbeatCasanova - 09-30-2019 08:15 AM

(09-30-2019 07:36 AM)wwtl Wrote:  
(09-30-2019 07:09 AM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:  Are you pretty young? Sounds like she's pretty young (still in school). I could be wrong. But unless she is an absolute gem and you're planning to get married, then what's the big deal?

He is emotionally invested without being committed. Young horny boys don't realize that casual sex demands a spiritual price.

It's like Poland - which used to be a devout Catholic country with NSBM being the norm - is going through all those Westerner's mistakes again just with a few decades delay.

How do you mean? Why does a natural act have to have a "spiritual price?" If God didn't want us to fuck then why did he make us so horny?


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - wwtl - 09-30-2019 08:35 AM

(09-30-2019 08:15 AM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:  
(09-30-2019 07:36 AM)wwtl Wrote:  
(09-30-2019 07:09 AM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:  Are you pretty young? Sounds like she's pretty young (still in school). I could be wrong. But unless she is an absolute gem and you're planning to get married, then what's the big deal?

He is emotionally invested without being committed. Young horny boys don't realize that casual sex demands a spiritual price.

It's like Poland - which used to be a devout Catholic country with NSBM being the norm - is going through all those Westerner's mistakes again just with a few decades delay.

How do you mean? Why does a natural act have to have a "spiritual price?" If God didn't want us to fuck then why did he make us so horny?

Once you start fornicating, you open a door for Satan. After he lured you in with some quick pleasure in the flesh, he thoroughly enjoys tormenting you afterwards. Not without reason we see many fornicators kill themselves after their seek for pleasure did go wrong one way or the other.


RE: GF Moving into Mixed Dorm - Elmore - 09-30-2019 08:42 AM

The fact that she sees this as no issue, is a red-flag in itself fella.