Post: #1576

(08-17-2015 03:55 AM)Gas Wrote:  Nofap for 8 days. Had a girl in bed yesterday, first time banging her, and couldn't get it up. I've had this problem before which is exactly why I got into the no porn no fap thing in the first place. I finally did get it up in the end, but couldn't come. Weird.

Keep going ! 8 days is not enough. Your brain is only beginning the healing.

By the way, it could probably be from differents issue. Did you drink ? Were you anxious ? Overthinking ?

Post: #1577

(08-17-2015 03:55 AM)Gas Wrote:  Nofap for 8 days. Had a girl in bed yesterday, first time banging her, and couldn't get it up. I've had this problem before which is exactly why I got into the no porn no fap thing in the first place. I finally did get it up in the end, but couldn't come. Weird.

Depending on how long you've been fapping to porn, it could take a long time for your brain to rehabilitate.

I'm in the same boat. I've been a heavy porn user for many years and now its so damn hard to feel arousal without it. Keep going.

Post: #1578

So i've been on the NoFap train for a few months, and my sex life has definitely improved, but I still find myself browsing porn sites every few days and looking at screen caps and such, but not fapping. My last LTR was when I stopped fapping, which with regular healthy sex all the time with her there were no real sex problems for me. I still get aroused intermittently when looking at the porn images, but mostly keep my pants on. I feel like i'm rationalizing it to myself like i'm just seeing what's new in the porn world, but not indulging in fapping, maybe it's still turning me on but i'm trying to save my libido/boners for IRL women. I had a new GF I met recently and have had a few issues getting it up or staying hard, so I don't know if it's new nervousness, or something else like residual porn imagery. Basically, if you are still looking at porn but not fapping to it, is this better or worse?

Post: #1579

(08-17-2015 09:43 AM)CameraXL Wrote:  

(08-17-2015 03:55 AM)Gas Wrote:  Nofap for 8 days. Had a girl in bed yesterday, first time banging her, and couldn't get it up. I've had this problem before which is exactly why I got into the no porn no fap thing in the first place. I finally did get it up in the end, but couldn't come. Weird.

Depending on how long you've been fapping to porn, it could take a long time for your brain to rehabilitate.

I'm in the same boat. I've been a heavy porn user for many years and now its so damn hard to feel arousal without it. Keep going.

I'm not sure if my use would be 'heavy' - maybe two years ago I used to fap to porn every night. After I discovered it can fuck u up I slowly pulled myself off it, and managed to get down to maybe once every 3 or 4 days. Recently I've been doing it maybe once a week. And now I'm trying to get off it completely.

I'll keep at it, even though I didn't bust last night while banging I'm not even going to fap this load out.

Need to do this. I miss my raging rock hard boners.

Post: #1580

Heavy porn use isn't once everynight. That's pretty much standard. I have had days where I will blow my load like 6+ times and still go out and bang. Boner quality is definitely shitter than it would be though.

To the guy who could t get it up after 8 days of no fap and then couldn't blow his load when he did.. Do you have a lot of sexual experience? Because I sucked shit until I was banging more or less on the regular. And it had nothing to do with porn use more to do with sexual anxiety and being more excited about telling dudes I got a bang than actually fucking. Gay as fuck in retrospect.

Post: #1581

I'm not notching in triple digits or anything but I wouldn't call myself inexperienced.

Post: #1582

A few years ago I went no PMO for about 3 months. Mainly because I couldn't get it up sometimes after a night out. I'm guessing in my lifetime I've missed on about 10 bangs because of whisky dick.

It was really challenging at first. I lasted 2 weeks on my first attempt and then 3 months. After 3 months I fucked some chick without any issues at all, I didn't last very long though. Second round was much better. That week I fucked 3 girls. I was just craving for sex. The next day after each bang, I would walk around in public just thinking about it with a solid boner. It came to my conclusions that this is how it is naturally and how it should be, all of the time. That feeling of being 15 again when you'd get random boners all the time, it was great. Porn over the years numbed my brain and prevented that from happening.

Unfortunately, I thought I was cured and the addiction creeped back in and I started to fap to pornography every now and then. I really did feel the difference, my brain was being numbed again and guess what... sometimes I struggled to get it up again. It's been several months now without porno and masturbation now. It's gone for good this time.

Recently I realised that this ED problem was half being caused by alcohol. I'm sure most of us have experienced whisky dick before. Alcohol is yet another addiction, just as is pornography. So I've quit alcohol too. I'm loving the change and not using alcohol as a crutch. When I'm with a girl I am really enjoying the sex much more, it's full on and I'm raging for it. I just want to fuck her good and just keep on going.

No alcohol addiction + no pornography addition + no masturbation = the best sex when you're with a girl.

Pornography nor alcohol do anything useful to you. In fact they harm you detrimentally. At least in my case.

Post: #1583

I'm never doing no fapp again due to problems I developed with my prostate any time I attempted it.

However next time in SEA will consider cutting off porn completely and if I dont bang that night just wanking over local girls who are on my radar or past fucks preferably from the region or perhaps pics of girls who have sent me pics of themselves who I will be or have fucked.

Post: #1584

@gas, I wasn't meaning just notch count. I was meaning have you been able to regularly fuck someone like every night for a prolonged period of time? My performance from getting hard to how I handle her as well as my actual enjoyment increased a tonne after pretty much just an endless stretch of one night stands.

Post: #1585

Day 35

I still can't believe I have given up porn! I mean totally given it up..In fact it's come to a point where my friends are sending me images of nude women on whatsapp just to take the piss!

I started watching porn in 1998 and since then been hooked to it completely. So giving this shit up has been such a self-confidence booster for me.

for these 35 days, it's been no porn, no fap, no sex.

And Ive never felt more energetic.

My anxiety levels are down and I have also started meditating again. The discipline to do it is coming naturally. Have even regulated my wake-up times to some extent, something that I'm still working on.

Porn is completely out of my life. I'm feeling pretty horny looking at 6 or 7s especially when I'm working out. This is a big leap from someone like me, who, a few months back was literally praying to get it up while getting ready to have sex. Yes, it was that bad.

I can just say one thing. If you still haven't given up porn, you're missing out on feeling how your brain should feel naturally about women. And let me tell you - it's a fantastic feeling.

Libido is every thing man. Without natural horniness exploding inside you, you are half dead. I was initially planning on doing this for 60 days, but recently read a conversation between Osho and one of his followers where the question was about the guy not finding women interesting anymore. Osho told him to stop masturbating for 3 months "so he will eat the ugliest food after those 3 months" lol...so 90 days it is for me too

Will post here when I touch 50

Post: #1586

(08-21-2015 02:25 PM)testos111 Wrote:  Day 35

I still can't believe I have given up porn! I mean totally given it up..In fact it's come to a point where my friends are sending me images of nude women on whatsapp just to take the piss!

I started watching porn in 1998 and since then been hooked to it completely. So giving this shit up has been such a self-confidence booster for me.

for these 35 days, it's been no porn, no fap, no sex.

And Ive never felt more energetic.

My anxiety levels are down and I have also started meditating again. The discipline to do it is coming naturally. Have even regulated my wake-up times to some extent, something that I'm still working on.

Porn is completely out of my life. I'm feeling pretty horny looking at 6 or 7s especially when I'm working out. This is a big leap from someone like me, who, a few months back was literally praying to get it up while getting ready to have sex. Yes, it was that bad.

I can just say one thing. If you still haven't given up porn, you're missing out on feeling how your brain should feel naturally about women. And let me tell you - it's a fantastic feeling.

Libido is every thing man. Without natural horniness exploding inside you, you are half dead. I was initially planning on doing this for 60 days, but recently read a conversation between Osho and one of his followers where the question was about the guy not finding women interesting anymore. Osho told him to stop masturbating for 3 months "so he will eat the ugliest food after those 3 months" lol...so 90 days it is for me too

Will post here when I touch 50

That's awesome man...congratulations!

Your post couldn't have come at a better time for me. I nearly relapsed yesterday and have been feeling strong urges today. This gives me some extra motivation to stay in the game. I'll be where you are soon enough!

Post: #1587

What is all this talk of 30, 60 and 90 days? This implies you'll return to your old habits.

You've quit porn and masturbation for good and your problems are solved for good. When you get your wood back with a new girl stop the counting. Problem solved for the rest of your life.

Post: #1588

I am new to this forum and I find this thread very interesting.

Has anybody here gone completely cold turkey on porn and fapping with no problems?

I have been off porn for a week but still fap every few days.

Getting porn out of my life is my main aim but if I can reduce/cut out fapping as well, even better!

Post: #1589

(08-18-2015 01:57 PM)Stay Wrote:  @gas, I wasn't meaning just notch count. I was meaning have you been able to regularly fuck someone like every night for a prolonged period of time? My performance from getting hard to how I handle her as well as my actual enjoyment increased a tonne after pretty much just an endless stretch of one night stands.

No endless stretch of ONS but every time I'm in an LTR I bang at least once or twice a day without problems. Helps that I raw dog in an LTR.

Post: #1590

15 days no fap no porn. Banged yesterday with a girl I've banged once before. Had an issue getting hard at the start but came through in the end. I haven't actually had many urges to fap or watch porn...just a small urge now and then before I sleep but nothing I can't handle. Will keep updating.

Post: #1591

Day 3 no porn or jerking off. Feeling antsy. Gonna kill legs today to expel some of my energy.

Post: #1592

(08-21-2015 11:40 PM)UberBicep Wrote:  What is all this talk of 30, 60 and 90 days? This implies you'll return to your old habits.

You've quit porn and masturbation for good and your problems are solved for good. When you get your wood back with a new girl stop the counting. Problem solved for the rest of your life.

I think for most people the idea of quitting an addictive behavior for life can seem daunting, or overwhelming. Setting concrete goals (x number of days) seems a lot more doable, at least in the short term.

I do agree with you though, and I think the ultimate goal should be to cut out porn for good (at least that's my goal). Just helps to have some milestones to shoot for. It gets easier the longer you go anyway, so eventually the whole milestone thing becomes less of a big deal.

Post: #1593

At some point, I was practising Taichi, in which it is recommended not to waste chi (sexual energy) to achieve better results, so I was totally abstaining for quite a while. And during that time, at some point I caved and choked the chicken for a couple of days.

I still remember a comment from a female co-worker who said to me, "I knew you a different guy." I guess she was sensing a change in the energy level. For the worse, I guess.

I also remember a comment from another chick with regard to energy level. She said that after the first fuck she's no more attracted to a guy, since he's empty. (I guess, empty of 'chi').

In some Chinese martial arts, masturbation is considered an energy suicide, as it leads to significant loss of vital energy. Even if a guy is unattractive, he would be a magnet for chicks, if he does not lose his chi. And there are actually practices in the orient, in which you can fuck without losing the jizz.

Post: #1594

Still not convinced the body knows the difference between sex and fapping. But I want to cut down on fapping from 3 times a day to maybe once a week.

Post: #1595

(08-26-2015 11:34 AM)Pride male Wrote:  Still not convinced the body knows the difference between sex and fapping. But I want to cut down on fapping from 3 times a day to maybe once a week.

Your dick probably doesn't know the difference but I'm sure your brain does.

Post: #1596

2 weeks safe. Hopefully I can figure out how to transfer horny energy into getting stuff done.

Post: #1597

(08-22-2015 08:16 AM)librero Wrote:  I am new to this forum and I find this thread very interesting.

Has anybody here gone completely cold turkey on porn and fapping with no problems?

I have been off porn for a week but still fap every few days.

Getting porn out of my life is my main aim but if I can reduce/cut out fapping as well, even better!

Went cold turkey on porn, kept to fapping by imagination roughly once a week (no more than every 4 days). Prior to this I had the following issues:
1. Low sex drive
2. If I got hard it wouldn't last long
3. Refractory period of 24 hours+

After this life change, the first time I got laid it was over very quick. No big deal; I knew it was an adjustment period.

After that (approx another week) I came back in a MAJOR way:
1. Insane sex drive
2. Get hard, orgasm after a reasonable period of time, and then be ready again almost immediately (going all night type of stuff, and resuming in the morning after a few hours sleep).

A lot of these new results undoubtably have to do with the girl I am with (our chemistry, her body, her attitude, the setting). But let me tell you, all sexual anxiety is gone, full confidence in ability to please is back, and I have had no desire to look at porn again. I'm in my mid 30s. Also eating very clean and getting proper amounts of sleep (when not fucking all night) is equally as important.

Post: #1598

(08-26-2015 04:04 PM)TooFineAPoint Wrote:  Went cold turkey on porn, kept to fapping by imagination roughly once a week (no more than every 4 days). Prior to this I had the following issues:
1. Low sex drive
2. If I got hard it wouldn't last long
3. Refractory period of 24 hours+

After this life change, the first time I got laid it was over very quick. No big deal; I knew it was an adjustment period.

After that (approx another week) I came back in a MAJOR way:
1. Insane sex drive
2. Get hard, orgasm after a reasonable period of time, and then be ready again almost immediately (going all night type of stuff, and resuming in the morning after a few hours sleep).

A lot of these new results undoubtably have to do with the girl I am with (our chemistry, her body, her attitude, the setting). But let me tell you, all sexual anxiety is gone, full confidence in ability to please is back, and I have had no desire to look at porn again. I'm in my mid 30s. Also eating very clean and getting proper amounts of sleep (when not fucking all night) is equally as important.

Glad to hear it! How long have you been porn free? I'm always curious as to how long it takes for others to start seeing benefits, although I know that it's going to be different for everyone.

Post: #1599

Going to start the challenge!

Post: #1600

(08-27-2015 05:30 PM)Zona Wrote:  Glad to hear it! How long have you been porn free? I'm always curious as to how long it takes for others to start seeing benefits, although I know that it's going to be different for everyone.

Went from watching about once per day to nothing at all, and saw results after about two weeks. It's been about a month so far.