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Tinder turns 5, and dating circles the drain....
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Tinder turns 5, and dating circles the drain....
The Atlantic put out an article that might pass as news to a boomer, but there's a few things hidden between the lines worth noting:

Quote:On the 20th anniversary of The New York Times’ popular Vows column, a weekly feature on notable weddings and engagements launched in 1992, its longtime editor wrote that Vows was meant to be more than just a news notice about society events. It aimed to give readers the backstory on marrying couples and, in the meantime, to explore how romance was changing with the times. “Twenty years ago, as now, most couples told us they’d met through their friends or family, or in college,” wrote the editor, Bob Woletz, in 2012. “For a period that ran into the late 1990s, a number said, often sheepishly, that they had met through personal advertisements.”

But in 2018, seven of the 53 couples profiled in the Vows column met on dating apps.

Matt Lundquist, a couples therapist based in Manhattan, says he’s started taking on a less excited or expectant tone when he asks young couples and recently formed couples how they met. “Because a few of them will say to me, ‘Uhhh, we met on Tinder’—like, ‘Where else do you think we would have met?’” Plus, he adds, it’s never a good start to therapy when a patient thinks the therapist is behind the times or uncool.

A) If you're in couples therapy, you might as well call the divorce lawyer before your wife does - it's all over. and B) what did you expect, you met your wife on Tinder? But you aren't alone, it looks like this is a trend.

Quote:Dating apps originated in the gay community; Grindr and Scruff, which helped single men link up by searching for other active users within a specific geographic radius, launched in 2009 and 2010, respectively. With the launch of Tinder in 2012, iPhone-owning people of all sexualities could start looking for love, or sex, or casual dating, and it quickly became the most popular dating app on the market.

Roosh pointed out that dating itself originated in the gay community, so this temporal mirroring was only logical. But as with all things degenerate, it got worse:

Quote:But the gigantic shift in dating culture really started to take hold the following year, when Tinder expanded to Android phones, then to more than 70 percent of smartphones worldwide. Shortly thereafter, many more dating apps came online.

This was the stake through the heart, as any man living abroad would already know. I recently heard from someone in the phils since 2012 remark that the downward spiral he's seen there since that time have gotten remarkably worse, in direct relation to the appearance of inexpensive Android phones to replace the cheap Nokias and Ericssons they were used to. The women there are less interested in children, more interested in living the party life, more likely to experiment with lesbianism and the guys are even more likely to be zeroed out than they already were.

But they try to paper over any dismay...
Quote: Tinder has indeed helped people meet other people—it has expanded the reach of singles’ social networks, facilitating interactions between people who might never have crossed paths otherwise. The 30-year-old Jess Flores of Virginia Beach got married to her first and only Tinder date this past October, and she says they likely would have never met if it weren’t for the app.

For starters, Flores says, the guys she usually went for back in 2014 were what she describes as “sleeve-tattoo” types. Her now-husband Mike, though, was “clean cut, no tattoos. Completely opposite of what I would usually go for.” She decided to take a chance on him after she’d laughed at a funny line in his Tinder bio. (Today, she can no longer remember what it was.)
Translation: She fucked the bad boys all through her 20s using Tinder for "hookups" but when she reached her epiphany stage she went on her first Tinder "date" and found some beta to be the last man in the gang bang. For now.

Quote:An expanded radius of potential mates can be a great thing if you’re looking to date or hook up with a broad variety of people who are different from you, says Madeleine Fugère, a professor of psychology at Eastern Connecticut State University who specializes in attraction and romantic relationships. “Normally, if you met someone at school or at work, you would probably already have a lot in common with that person,” Fugere says. “Whereas if you’re meeting someone purely based on geographic location, there’s definitely a greater chance that they would be different from you in some way.”

A tenured professor of slutting around - only in America. While you're doing your research honey, please find out some statistics on who files for divorce, and ask her if she had a lot in common with her husband when they got married. Guessing she'll say yes. Maybe there's another guy on Tinder

Quote: Holly Wood, who wrote her Harvard sociology dissertation last year on singles’ behaviors on dating sites and dating apps, heard a lot of these ugly stories too. And after speaking to more than 100 straight-identifying, college-educated men and women in San Francisco about their experiences on dating apps, she firmly believes that if dating apps didn’t exist, these casual acts of unkindness in dating would be far less common. ...

...“OkCupid,” she remembers, “invited walls of text. And that, for me, was really important. I’m one of those people who wants to feel like I have a sense of who you are before we go on a first date. Then Tinder”—which has a 500-character limit for bios—“happened, and the shallowness in the profile was encouraged.”

Did she really find 100 straight identifying people in San Fran? Maybe she meant Oakland. Sorry, not buying the part about text being important though. The popularity of Tinder among its primary, intended market, women, proves otherwise. Musings of a post-wall spinster notwithstanding.

Anyway, you get the idea - the app hookup market has matured, marriages that come from it are worse than toast and even for younger guys looking to hook up it's become a gigantic trash heap.

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