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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
(12-22-2015 05:04 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:  One thing that I've been doing that has helped me so far is when I'm feeling one of the benefits of the no fap (increased confidence, ability to talk to people etc.) I make a note of it on my phone so that I have something to go back to when the urges hit me. By the same token, if you end up relapsing note that too, and be extra descriptive so that when you read it at a later date you'll be able to go back to that feeling you were experiencing at the time of the relapse. Hopefully the next time you're tempted to give in and you read that you'll think "oh yeah I remember how shitty I felt, I don't want that again, I can power through this".

Great idea. Most of the posts on /r/nofap are "Oh no I just relapsed! It sucks! I am now so committed to doing this challenge!" I don't like this approach because negative thoughts flood your mind. "I fucked up." Instead, note how you feel, clean up, and move the fuck on.

Much like the guys in the Wagon Thread, taking note of the positives will remind you why you are doing this challenge. These positives are what keep us in this game long term, not the negatives.

I'll go: I love how I feel when I'm not jerking off. I feel freed from the ball and chain that porn used to have around me, and the full ball sack makes me more aggressive. Because I'm not focusing on getting that next dopamine hit, I am much more relaxed and can practice "mind like water."

Game is more enjoyable too. I see a significant improvement in how I deal with rejection AND the burst of energy afterword from conquering poosy.

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12-23-2015 11:28 AM
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - redbeard - 12-23-2015 11:28 AM