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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
(03-25-2016 04:10 PM)Zona Wrote:  
(03-23-2016 11:25 PM)The Black Knight Wrote:  But has anyone done nofap in the past while banging a chick, relapsed and gone hardcore in a future nofap cycle? (Like no banging chicks during a nofap cycle).

I don't know if their are any major benefits to avoiding banging chicks during a nofap cycle since the whole goal of nofap is get off properly with women/associate real women with sex and therefore, one should not be avoiding associating sexual release with actually fucking a chick. If anybody has any thoughts, I'd like to hear it though.

This actually happened to me when I first got into no PMO. I started the whole no fap thing because I was having some libido problems with my girlfriend at the time. For the life of me I couldn't understand why I was struggling to get aroused with her, even though she was very attractive. Found out about no porn, gave it a shot, and within a month I was seeing major improvements.

After awhile we broke up and I ended up relapsing pretty hard back into porn/fapping. Eventually I got back on the wagon, but decided to go full monk mode because at that time my porn habits had gotten worse than ever before. I didn't look at porn or fap for several months, nor did I pursue sex during that time. What I noticed was that my libido tanked big time, and I ended up in what seemed to be a permanent flatline.

Admittedly, it may have eventually bounced back, although after months of flatlining and feeling like shit I ended up caving and started fapping and looking at porn again. That seemed to bring my libido back, but I was right back where I started with the porn issues.

Thus, my conclusion is the same as yours. I think that the best course of action is to eliminate porn entirely, but don't deprive yourself of sex (or even the occasional wank if you really feel the need). Porn is the real issue here, not sex. In fact, I believe that a prolonged abstinence from any sexual activity can actually kill a man's sex drive. That's how it felt for me anyway, and I've read some accounts from other guys who have experienced the same.

I did some reading up on the issue and the consensus that seemed to make the most sense to me was to go hardcore for around 90 days if possible to really help reset things and then stick to sex and the odd wank but absolutely avoid associating sexual release with porn forever.

I also did read about some cases regarding some guys being in longstanding flatlines for up to 1-2 years before they were "cured" but I'm not buying that porn/fapping was the main cause of their issues. Maybe a contributing factor but I imagine guys who claim that really have other issues not being addressed (low t, lack of options, depression, ugly fuckbuddies/gfs, no confidence, etc).
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - The Black Knight - 03-26-2016 02:32 AM