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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
OK - a few things regarding paying attention.

I am sitting at day 86 right now, I've been doing this for a while, and I know that after two weeks of no orgasm I start to feel "the itch" like you guys say. I'm still horny as fuck constantly, but two weeks is where it starts toppling over into concentration. I've been having sex regularly so I don't have to worry about this too much.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about pussy constantly. Society will have you believe otherwise, but as a high-testosterone, high-sex drive male, it's natural to think about pussy constantly. We as a forum have higher available sexual energy than average males.

That high sexual energy is GOOD, IF you are able to channel it. This is one of the reasons why meditation is so recommended. If you can learn to control your thoughts, you can better take that sexual energy and direct it toward your work.

This is a good opportunity to utilize self-talk. Look at yourself in the mirror and say "I am horny. This is male energy that I will use to get work done. I do not want to jerk off. I am a hunter." Self-talk is amazing for NoFap.

I also like to engage in some shaking therapy. I started doing this from this Elliott Hulse video (starts at 3:00). MikeCF wrote that "emotions have weight," so I imagine all the pent up sexual energy as bugs on my body that I have to shake off.

Like many of the posters have mentioned, the best way to stop jerking off and watching porn is to DO SOMETHING ELSE, or "DON'T TOUCH YOUR DICK" as Isaac Jordan suggests. Not touching your dick, and instead channeling that energy towards approaching, work, the gym, is beneficial. When I am overflowing with sexual energy I love gym time. I check out all the asses and throw weights around, sweating and yelling, letting all of the excess energy out. I try to beat my body up, to tire it out, so that I can stop being so horny when I go to sleep. But that's just me.

Porn and masturbation are BAD channels for sexual energy, in that they are not beneficial. Think of sexual energy like money. Transferring it to self-improvement, the gym, approaching, is like putting it into a bank and watching it grow. Getting laid is a great investment in sexual energy, because at the end your brain releases all of the happy pair bond chemicals you get from being with beautiful women. On the other hand, watching porn is like buying a $200 bottle of Ciroc at the club and pouring it down the drain. It's kind of fun, but is it worth it?

I increasingly think you have to be getting laid for this challenge to work. I don't think I've ever gone 90 days without cumming, I would explode.

So to recap, the best way to be able to focus when you're horny is to meditate, self-talk, recognize your emotions, and channel energy elsewhere.

If you can't do this? There are a few ways to temporarily fix the horniness.

The best way to beat the urges while doing work is work in a public place. Do your work in the library, or at a coffee shop, where you are in public view of everyone. Turn your phone off and put it in your backpack, or better yet, leave it in your car so there's no chance to look at it. Ditch the laptop and use good ol' textbook and notebook to study. Use Self-Control App to control access to trigger sites.

Removal of the phone is what really worked for me, because my phone was the major trigger. By removing temptation of the phone, I was able to cut off the pathway to PMO and extend my streak. Next time you relapse, recognize what exactly happened. Was it sexy pictures on reddit? Was it...the forum? Analyze yourself, find the problems, and adjust.

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04-01-2016 07:30 AM
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious - redbeard - 04-01-2016 07:30 AM