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NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
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RE: NoPorn / NoFap Google Group - For Those Who're Serious
Day 4 was easy.

No temptations whatsoever. I've been thinking about nofap from the perspective of a lifetime habit.

Have any of the guys on here managed to stick with this shit for years? ( the thread is quite old and long ) I'm not necessarily implying yearly long streaks, although I do find that fascinating. But generally speaking, consistent 90 days or so streaks over long periods of time.

I am genuinely feeling so much fucking better already. It might be a placebo to a certain extent, I think it's more likely because I've been abusing porn and fapping more in the past couple of months than I have in my entire life. The brain fog was a very real thing, I am finding the same tasks to require less mental power already. Coincidentally, I also find myself blasting Metallica again for the first time in years lol. No extra attention from girls, at least I haven't noticed it, but I couldn't give less of a shit about that right now.

Anyway back to it, I know I might sound a bit crazy considering just yesterday I was on here bitching again about whether hardmode is worth it. But I have been thinking more about this shit, how it relates to my past experiences, projecting into the future and doing some other mental exercises.

There isn't one time I can remember sticking with nofap for good when it didn't have a positive impact on my life so far. Most of the time that impact was actually quite significant, and I can't attribute the progress I made in life to anything else I did differently at the time. Nofap was the single common thread as far as the conscious actionable step I took.

Hence, I have genuinely started to consider making the decision of starting to pursue this as a lifetime habit. I know I will come to doubt this position once strong urges will hit me again, as will inevitably happen. Especially once summer time comes and assess will be literally hanging out of everywhere.

Fuck, I don't know. I've been looking at this from the same perspective as I did with quitting smoking and a bunch of other addictions, which I have been successful with. I managed to get that shit out of my life for good and temptation is literally not present anymore, but I have never been able to do the same with fapping. I am still pondering whether nofap is ultimately an illusion, as most society currently dismisses it as such.

Smoking is generally accepted by 99% of reasonable people as being a filthy destructive habit, but porn ( and fapping to a much greater extent ) don't have the same reputation. However I am not one to go along blindly with herd mentality on any aspects of life, and I know the mind is a complicated thing. Is there any good reading on the topic of abstaining from fapping long-term aside from the Your Brain on Porn book?

Regardless, I've decided to aim for 90 days at the very least, within the ideal context of making this a permanent lifestyle change. Whether that will include limited regular fapping without porn later on I don't know, some people seem to go this route. For now, I will focus on the 90 days though.

Regarding hardmode, today I remembered one key mindset shift from Allan Carr's "Easyway to quit smoking". For the record, I don't think it's that amazing of a book or necessarily the reason that made me stop smoking, it was more of a ritual of sorts for me once I decided to quit for good.

Anyway the point was that the best time to quit smoking/insert negative habit once you've made the decision to do so for real, is now. Rather than postponing, making excuses no matter how real or valid they might be and rationalizing them ( which is partly what I have been doing with nofap ) reframe the situation entirely. Focus on proceeding in spite of harsh current circumstances - e.g. "I know this fucking sucks right now, and that nofap will be a lot easier in the future with a girlfriend but tough shit, it's not a valid enough excuse and I'm going to stick it out nevertheless".

Sounds cheesy as fuck, but it has worked for me in the past once I truly internalized the concept, perhaps it makes some sense and helps someone else.

I'm off to bed, thank you for taking the time to read my crazy ramblings guys.
03-04-2017 06:42 PM
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