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Reframing your mind to battle depression and CBT
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RE: Reframing your mind to battle depression and CBT
One thing that stood out recently in this book was chapter 6 verbal judo. I'm far past that section but I keep thinking about it, so it must be important to me somehow. You get the critic to specifically tell you whats wrong with something you did or are acting. Than you agree with them even if there is nothing truthful about what they are saying. They eventually will run out of steam since your not fighting back. If you defend yourself you get them more irrational. After that when the critic is more calm you can negotiate with lee way like saying you may be wrong, but this is how you approached it or your point of view.

At first I thought this sound like you were being a doormat and beta. But I do this too a degree with angry employees and customers and it seems to calm them from being hostile.
(This post was last modified: 12-17-2013 10:09 PM by kbell.)
12-17-2013 10:06 PM
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RE: Reframing your mind to battle depression and CBT - kbell - 12-17-2013 10:06 PM

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