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When people say being a nice guy is bad, what do they mean?
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RE: When people say being a nice guy is bad, what do they mean?
(10-21-2019 07:16 PM)Repo Wrote:  It means your personality is so dull and boring that the only good thing people can think to say about you is that your "nice". Not you specifically, but you get the gist.

Think in reverse. If you were talking about a girl and called her a "nice girl", instead of referencing an actual good trait like being good looking, or being funny etc, then it wouldnt really be a compliment. "Nice" is one of the least positive things you can say about a person.

Alternatively, it can also mean you are a pushover/doormat and "psuedo" nice, only pretending to be caring; self-sacrificing with an ulterior motive - hoping that you can exchange favors for intimacy.

Either one of these definitions is equally bad imo. Now there is such a thing is a "genuine" nice guy, someone who is empathetic and very thoughtful of others - if he can do this while also being a leader and putting his foot down when necessary, this is an attractive quality.

I don't think most normal women want to be tyranized...they want to be led. There's nothing wrong with being nice, but being nice is just one trait among many, and if your entire ego is attached to being a "nice guy" it simply means you have nothing else to offer with your personality.

Think about it this way...if you met 5 women, and they all thought you were "nice", but made no impression on any of them whatsoever, then you are essentially a nonentity to them. Wouldn't it be far better if 4 of them thought you were an asshole, and 1 of them thought you were the shit?

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