Post: #1901

Almost two weeks now. Sex may be a bit more enjoyable and think I have some more energy.

For me it has been quite easy and I feel no urges to neither fap nor watch porn anymore.

Post: #1902

(04-25-2016 08:22 PM)semibaron Wrote:  Day 1

Do you guys combine NoFap with no caffeine / no alcohol / no drugs?
I'm leaving the caffeine behind too.

I'm toying with the idea of permanently leaving drugs, alcohol, caffeine and porn permanently behind. I've given them all up before, but never quite managed to quit them all at once.

The main reason is because they all mess with neuro-chemicals, your motivation, intelligence and ability to focus in one way or another.

You will likely have best luck if you abstain from one until it becomes a habit and then move onto the next one.

Post: #1903

So I havent' fapped in months, I can't remember the last time. I still get frequent pussy every day or 2 at least, and I've been in steady rotation of relationships for a few years. But I still like to watch porn sometimes maybe for just a few minutes, or look at images here and there. I try and use it as motivation to go out and approach, or before I know I'm going to see a chick to kind of wind me up I guess. Has anyone else tried that, or what do you think of watching and using porn as motivation but with no fapping?

Post: #1904

Day 5 now.

Went to see a girl tonight, first time though, actually just ended up going down on her and nothing else happened, FML, major blueballs. have to fix this tomorrow, or else it will be a tough next week.

Post: #1905

(04-29-2016 04:36 PM)DamienCasanova Wrote:  So I havent' fapped in months, I can't remember the last time. I still get frequent pussy every day or 2 at least, and I've been in steady rotation of relationships for a few years. But I still like to watch porn sometimes maybe for just a few minutes, or look at images here and there. I try and use it as motivation to go out and approach, or before I know I'm going to see a chick to kind of wind me up I guess. Has anyone else tried that, or what do you think of watching and using porn as motivation but with no fapping?

I don't know how it works, but I have something similar.

Once in Thailand I had sex with 3 girls in one day. (not boasting) 2 were regulars and one new. Woke up with one girl, banged another one during the day, 3rd one booty called me, I thought why not and went to her place. Just for the sakes of having 3 one day. Only had enough charge for the first 2. Sex was still good with a 3rd one but had nothing left in me.
So after nearly full day of sex, with only short breaks on transportation, I still noticed myself clicking on pics of ass on my timeline just to check them out. Why? Even if this ass would walk in right then I would not fuck her!

I think it has to do with porn induced addiction to novelty, and small dopamine spikes, that seeing a new peace of ass provides.

I have not tried to use pics as motivation though. Most of the time it just sets your standard too high anyway, with all unrealistic photoshopped girls.

It also may-be that even real sex does not provide so much visual stimulation as watching porn, and yet that is what we all are used to.
I am wondering if maybe looking at the girl and playing with her ass and tits much longer, or making her dance for you will satisfy this need for visual stimulation?

Post: #1906

(04-29-2016 12:21 PM)Speculation Wrote:  

(04-25-2016 08:22 PM)semibaron Wrote:  Day 1

Do you guys combine NoFap with no caffeine / no alcohol / no drugs?
I'm leaving the caffeine behind too.

I'm toying with the idea of permanently leaving drugs, alcohol, caffeine and porn permanently behind. I've given them all up before, but never quite managed to quit them all at once.

The main reason is because they all mess with neuro-chemicals, your motivation, intelligence and ability to focus in one way or another.

You will likely have best luck if you abstain from one until it becomes a habit and then move onto the next one.

Be careful with trying too much in one try. Try getting rid of one vice one at a time. I tried hopping on the yearlong no drinking wagon as well as no fap at the same time. It was difficult. Unless you have really high willpower to be able to overcome all the temptations, this would be my suggestion. What I've personally done is I've cut back on caffeine, alcohol and all porn/jerking it. I still drink, but only about twice a month.

Post: #1907

(04-29-2016 10:11 PM)lex the impaler Wrote:  

(04-29-2016 12:21 PM)Speculation Wrote:  

(04-25-2016 08:22 PM)semibaron Wrote:  Day 1

Do you guys combine NoFap with no caffeine / no alcohol / no drugs?
I'm leaving the caffeine behind too.

I'm toying with the idea of permanently leaving drugs, alcohol, caffeine and porn permanently behind. I've given them all up before, but never quite managed to quit them all at once.

The main reason is because they all mess with neuro-chemicals, your motivation, intelligence and ability to focus in one way or another.

You will likely have best luck if you abstain from one until it becomes a habit and then move onto the next one.

Be careful with trying too much in one try. Try getting rid of one vice one at a time. I tried hopping on the yearlong no drinking wagon as well as no fap at the same time. It was difficult. Unless you have really high willpower to be able to overcome all the temptations, this would be my suggestion. What I've personally done is I've cut back on caffeine, alcohol and all porn/jerking it. I still drink, but only about twice a month.

Well, I think at least the no caffeine thing is worth to do. Caffeine is around us every day and people drink it like milk or water and constantly mess with their brain chemicals.

What I'm not cutting is alcohol and drugs. I usually do this only with friends and I would really miss the good times.

Just be prepared for some HUGE coffee cravings when you start dropping it.

Post: #1908

(04-29-2016 10:11 PM)lex the impaler Wrote:  Be careful with trying too much in one try. Try getting rid of one vice one at a time. I tried hopping on the yearlong no drinking wagon as well as no fap at the same time. It was difficult. Unless you have really high willpower to be able to overcome all the temptations, this would be my suggestion. What I've personally done is I've cut back on caffeine, alcohol and all porn/jerking it. I still drink, but only about twice a month.

Yeah that's what I meant. Do 3 months abstinence of one of those and it should become a habit. Then start abstaining from the next one.

The most helpful thing is to look for your 'triggers' for any of these and find a healthier substitute. For instance I'd actually go jerk off to deal with headaches, anxiety and stress rather than just horniness. These triggers can be pretty subtle and go unnoticed unless you look for them in a 'why do I want to ... now?' way.

Post: #1909

Lasted a week, even with two bangs. Need to up my game. I lasted 25 days monk mode before, shouldn't it be easier when I'm letting women into the picture?

Post: #1910

(05-01-2016 08:39 AM)YoungBlade Wrote:  Lasted a week, even with two bangs. Need to up my game. I lasted 25 days monk mode before, shouldn't it be easier when I'm letting women into the picture?

It is easier indeed. Day 8 fellas

Post: #1911

(04-29-2016 10:11 PM)lex the impaler Wrote:  Be careful with trying too much in one try. Try getting rid of one vice one at a time. I tried hopping on the yearlong no drinking wagon as well as no fap at the same time. It was difficult. Unless you have really high willpower to be able to overcome all the temptations, this would be my suggestion. What I've personally done is I've cut back on caffeine, alcohol and all porn/jerking it. I still drink, but only about twice a month.

Same here. At the start of this year I meant to do a complete overhaul of my life by cutting out all vices at once. It did not go in the direction I was hoping for...

I've settled for cutting back drastically on the drinking, though I still have one every now and then, and now just focusing primarily on the porn issue. I'm also eliminating caffeine, but that usually isn't too hard for me once I get through the first week or two.

Post: #1912

Day 1 again

Post: #1913

(04-29-2016 04:36 PM)DamienCasanova Wrote:  So I havent' fapped in months, I can't remember the last time. I still get frequent pussy every day or 2 at least, and I've been in steady rotation of relationships for a few years. But I still like to watch porn sometimes maybe for just a few minutes, or look at images here and there. I try and use it as motivation to go out and approach, or before I know I'm going to see a chick to kind of wind me up I guess. Has anyone else tried that, or what do you think of watching and using porn as motivation but with no fapping?

If you get a steady supply of pussy regularly I cant see the problem with watching some porn for motivation. The main idea of no-fap is to increase the drive for sex and to direct that to approaching and 'getting some' instead of sitting back home and just fapping things away, or letting porn take over you. Since that doesn't seem to be your problem I say go for it.

Post: #1914

I have a busy month ahead, I am going to leverage this into a good brain reset even if it is only for 30 days. I don't even plan on getting laid in order to maximize the effects.

Currently on day 2

Post: #1915

Day 7. Had to fight to overcome the urge to turn on some porn and jerk off several times. Definitely feels like overcoming an addiction. My sex drive feels lower actually, but I had a date on Sunday and have another on Thurs anyway. From watching that TED video, for younger guys who basically grew up watching porn, it takes ~2 months to rewire your brain back to normal. My goal is to disassociate sexual pleasure from porn and associate it solely with actual women.

I do, however, notice my overall willpower and discipline returning, probably because I've said 'no' to myself so many times over the past week to porn. Next up is to also start going to bed a bit earlier.

Post: #1916

Day 8 of not jerking it. I think my balls are going to explode.

Post: #1917

It doesn't help that the word "whore" is in the thread title

Post: #1918

Day 2

Post: #1919

Day 5 or so. I'm not feeling anything in particular actually. But I think I might succumb during the weekend ahah.

Post: #1920

Here's a topic for discussion - what would you do if you had a son? In regards to porn/masturbation.

Modern parenting would suggest giving him some porn and letting him run free. Those of us here know the dangers of porn, and would say this is enabling addiction formation.

Old-school parenting would prohibit porn use, which would make porn even more appealing to the teenage brain.

There has to be a happy medium. I'm thinking there should be a way to do this "good cop bad cop" style with the mother, so if I had a son, I would have her catch him and reprimand him like the 1940's.. "oh my gosh you're gonna go fur on your hands! That is the work of the devil!!" After that I'd have a one on one talk with him and explain him some about sexuality, how it should be channeled, and how addictions (in general, not just porn) are extremely damaging to the mind.

I ask because I've got a little cousin who is 13, his mom just caught him and his friends watching Nikki Minaj's Anaconda video and she was wondering if this is gateway to porn use, what we could do, etc. I first of all applauded and said "thank god he'll become an ass man" then went on to explain how porn addiction is real and it could damage him. At his age, you can't really say "NO PORN OR ELSE!" but you should be able to monitor his behavior for signs of addiction. Is he acting strange at certain times of the day, hiding out in his room, acting antsy, being covert or short with answers.

Might be a potential thread topic, but I'm interested to hear what this group has to say.

Post: #1921

(05-04-2016 07:30 AM)redbeard Wrote:  Here's a topic for discussion - what would you do if you had a son? In regards to porn/masturbation.

Modern parenting would suggest giving him some porn and letting him run free. Those of us here know the dangers of porn, and would say this is enabling addiction formation.

Old-school parenting would prohibit porn use, which would make porn even more appealing to the teenage brain.

There has to be a happy medium. I'm thinking there should be a way to do this "good cop bad cop" style with the mother, so if I had a son, I would have her catch him and reprimand him like the 1940's.. "oh my gosh you're gonna go fur on your hands! That is the work of the devil!!" After that I'd have a one on one talk with him and explain him some about sexuality, how it should be channeled, and how addictions (in general, not just porn) are extremely damaging to the mind.

I ask because I've got a little cousin who is 13, his mom just caught him and his friends watching Nikki Minaj's Anaconda video and she was wondering if this is gateway to porn use, what we could do, etc. I first of all applauded and said "thank god he'll become an ass man" then went on to explain how porn addiction is real and it could damage him. At his age, you can't really say "NO PORN OR ELSE!" but you should be able to monitor his behavior for signs of addiction. Is he acting strange at certain times of the day, hiding out in his room, acting antsy, being covert or short with answers.

Might be a potential thread topic, but I'm interested to hear what this group has to say.

Obviously you can't avoid young boys watching porn and jerking off more than they should be. 13 yr old kid is probably watching porn already. And young kids do not understand addiction. Hell, adults don't understand their own addictions until they reach a breaking point.

The best thing you can do IMO is to keep the kid busy. If he is playing sports/doing extracurricular afterschool activities 6 days a week he will have no time to be addicted to porn. A healthy social life keeps kids from spending too much time on the internet.

Post: #1922

3.5 weeks here. I've become more confident, have higher energy levels, and approach more females. A side effect of No-Fap for me is wet dreams every now and then.

Post: #1923

Does anyone else's standards go down?

Post: #1924

(05-05-2016 05:46 PM)goonies Wrote:  Does anyone else's standards go down?

Yes. Chubby chasing and single moms are back on the menu when I'm in hardcore nofap.

Post: #1925

(05-04-2016 07:30 AM)redbeard Wrote:  Here's a topic for discussion - what would you do if you had a son? In regards to porn/masturbation.

Modern parenting would suggest giving him some porn and letting him run free. Those of us here know the dangers of porn, and would say this is enabling addiction formation.

Old-school parenting would prohibit porn use, which would make porn even more appealing to the teenage brain.

There has to be a happy medium. I'm thinking there should be a way to do this "good cop bad cop" style with the mother, so if I had a son, I would have her catch him and reprimand him like the 1940's.. "oh my gosh you're gonna go fur on your hands! That is the work of the devil!!" After that I'd have a one on one talk with him and explain him some about sexuality, how it should be channeled, and how addictions (in general, not just porn) are extremely damaging to the mind.

I ask because I've got a little cousin who is 13, his mom just caught him and his friends watching Nikki Minaj's Anaconda video and she was wondering if this is gateway to porn use, what we could do, etc. I first of all applauded and said "thank god he'll become an ass man" then went on to explain how porn addiction is real and it could damage him. At his age, you can't really say "NO PORN OR ELSE!" but you should be able to monitor his behavior for signs of addiction. Is he acting strange at certain times of the day, hiding out in his room, acting antsy, being covert or short with answers.

Might be a potential thread topic, but I'm interested to hear what this group has to say.

If you encourage him to learn game, he'll be too busy with real chicks to bother with virtual ones.