Post: #201

(08-19-2012 03:05 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  Here's a toughie that I face:

Let's say I go for a week or so without nutting/jerking (I do like the psychological effects). Then I pull a SNL and I nut within 2 minutes of penetration from the lack of sexual stimulation during the preceding week. It's embarrassing.

Any solutions?

Solution to the early nut? No, impossible. Unless you want to rub a quick one off in the bathroom once she gets to your place.

For me, if its been 5+ days, I can nut and just keep going like nothing ever happened. If you can stay hard, or hard-ish, and bridge the refractory period gap, the girl won't be mad at all and you don't have to be embarrassed.

This crazy biological phenomenon is only possible when i practice no-fap.

Post: #202

i broke down an saw the internet porn an fapped.... its been months since i have done it

i am disappoint

Post: #203

I almost broke down on Tuesday. Really struggled but pushed through. When I went out that night I literally was walking around going I need to have sex with someone. Happened with third girl I spoke to. Stay strong guys, it really makes a difference after you pass a certain point.

Post: #204

A great book related to this topic - "The Multi-Orgasmic Man"

By the title is sounds a little weird but there is a lot of great material on conserving semen and sexual energy throughout the day and even during sex. Easy read. PM me for deets.

Post: #205

Just completed day 8 of no porn/no fap challenge.


Today I was out doing some day game, and the combination of blue balls, being super horny, and approach anxiety was very strange. I'd see hot girls in shorts and my heart would begin to race. Definitely I have been more motivated to approach since I began this challenge. Got 6 phone numbers.

Post: #206

Man since I relapsed after going months with out looking at porn I find myself checking it out alot now.......

Post: #207

Day 8 of not jerking it. I think my balls are going to explode.

Post: #208

Today I start back on this.. after my relapse I was watching porn atleast every other day... No more!

Post: #209

Yeah I made it to day three before and I don't really give a shit how much I fap anymore. After the first night I couldn't sleep right.

Post: #210

(08-23-2012 11:05 AM)slubu Wrote:  I almost broke down on Tuesday. Really struggled but pushed through. When I went out that night I literally was walking around going I need to have sex with someone. Happened with third girl I spoke to. Stay strong guys, it really makes a difference after you pass a certain point.

Yes, it does. The drive it creates in you to go out, to approach, to be aggressive and persistent, and to physically escalate is amazing. I think girls can sense the sexual power in you, too.

Post: #211

Two weeks in. More approaches, more numbers, more dates. No bangs, hotter leads than my cold streak had.

Couple things I think:
I don't masterbate, I get girls to do that for me. (roosh cribs) That's why I'm talking to them - the next nut I blow will be in or on a girl. Fact.
Pussy is the next plentiful thing to water (someone here posted that long ago - if you believe it is abundant it is abundant. If you believe it is scarce, it is scarce.)

Definitely more driven. Also read "Think and Grow Rich" there's a free PDF out there (past copyright), came with stronglifts 5x5 PDF. If you think riches as in pussy, it's a great inner game book, every guy should read it and take notes. Ask yourself if you truly have a deep burning desire to get laid. Before I read that book, I think my desire was more something I wanted and tried at half assed with moderate results. Ask yourself when you are looking for approaches if you truly have a burning desire to get laid, this should fuel you to approach and have your mindset ready to approach. If you look for approaches without being in tune with your desires, you may not see, or be ready for, the approaches. Not fapping fuels that desire and drive, definitely more responsive, aware, of girls I like - they don't get to pass through my life without an opener. Letting possible approaches slip past is unacceptable.

Post: #212

I've now reached 20 days no porn/no fap.

Yesterday I had sex, it still takes upwards of 30 minutes for me to finish. However, my penis seems to be much more sensitive and sex feels better. Today was difficult. I believe I experienced the 'chaser effect' and nearly relapsed a few minutes ago until I started reading through this thread again.

My motivation to approach is much stronger. In the past I would let girls walk by and look for a reason not to talk to her but now I rarely let a hot girl pass by without saying something. This past week I approached around 50 girls.

Post: #213

(08-23-2012 11:38 AM)gandt Wrote:  A great book related to this topic - "The Multi-Orgasmic Man"

By the title is sounds a little weird but there is a lot of great material on conserving semen and sexual energy throughout the day and even during sex. Easy read. PM me for deets.

I think for many people, more they masturbate/fuck, the longer they last to a certain point.

Post: #214

(09-04-2012 06:12 AM)avantgarde Wrote:  

(08-23-2012 11:38 AM)gandt Wrote:  A great book related to this topic - "The Multi-Orgasmic Man"

By the title is sounds a little weird but there is a lot of great material on conserving semen and sexual energy throughout the day and even during sex. Easy read. PM me for deets.

I think for many people, more they masturbate/fuck, the longer they last to a certain point.

Its totally the opposite for me, the more i masturbate, the less i last longer.

4 weeks tomorow without masturbating for me,i feel so much happier..i will just give this shit up for life.

Post: #215

(05-13-2012 06:51 PM)redacted Wrote:  according to some of those links, it's the porn, not the tuggin' causing the problems. addiction rewiring your brain and all, and giving you the novelty of new partners when in fact you're just fucking yourself. literally.

that leads to more questions:
-is tuggin' it alright if there's no visual aid involved?
-what about using naughty photos/videos sent to you by girls you've banged?

i have a friend who actually tried this for a while...may still be on the train, and he speaks volumes about it. I remain skeptical, but it is certainly a hypothesis worth disproving. i have no desire to know the frequency of other forums members' self-gratification, but I am curious to see if, placebo or otherwise, there is a tangible effect.

most surprising in those articles: the LACK of a link between jerking off and testosterone in the blood stream. I especially try to refrain before any sort of athletic competition (as many do, I am told), but I always thought it was effective because I wasn't depleting my precious T.

i do wish people would stop shitting on those trying this experiment. let them experiment without judgment, and we might all learn something. seriously, isn't that what this forum's about? trying new things to see if it helps us get results?

The only time I ever gave this a go was when I decided I needed to fuck my ex again (because I was young and stupid and had no other prospects). I promised myself the next nut I got would be inside her. cold-called her out of nowhere and got mine within 7 days. so, maybe there IS some validity to these hypotheses?

There's a long TED video that researches the exact points you mention.

People may hate TED but it certainly convinced me on how bad porn can suck a guy in and make him think something is actually real

Post: #216

I've been at this for a week or so, besides the insomnia a couple nights, it's been a nice change. I'll repost when I get some more weeks "under my belt." This forum has helped me a lot lately in many ways!

Post: #217

Its been 5 months no porn and 5 months no masturbation. I decided if I can't control my penis I can't control my life. I became aggressive and started working out. Unfortunately after 3 months I my balls start to tingle and ache. Its an annoying sensation. So far I have not met any girls. I developed other issue I never had like lack of caring, motivation, and I just don't give a fuck about anything anymore. I don't know whats wrong with me, I just feel anger. This probably has nothing to do with not masturbating or maybe it does.

Post: #218

(09-04-2012 11:27 PM)Marcusg Wrote:  Its been 5 months no porn and 5 months no masturbation. I decided if I can't control my penis I can't control my life. I became aggressive and started working out. Unfortunately after 3 months I my balls start to tingle and ache. Its an annoying sensation. So far I have not met any girls. I developed other issue I never had like lack of caring, motivation, and I just don't give a fuck about anything anymore. I don't know whats wrong with me, I just feel anger. This probably has nothing to do with not masturbating or maybe it does.

if you think about it in terms of massive brain change, it makes sense. I think of porn and masturbation as a drug addiction. your brain is adapting to a lack of stimulation. you need to work out, run around, or get some other physical activity.

Post: #219

THis is the most frustrating thread ever. Why are guys trying to stop fapping? It is the porn that is damaging, not sexual stimulation. If I stop wanking for a week my erections become less and I start to loose interest in women. You are all crazy! You are all making yourselfs miserable. THis thread had been hijacked by a bunch of Monks. Read the title of the thread. No porn / no fap... Not no fap!!!! Grrrr.

Read this and stop trying not to wank.

From: (http://www.nowloss.com/ways-to-increase-...eroids.htm)

Try to get Sexually Stimulated as much as possible:

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You need to start doing almost anything you can to get a sexually stimulating 'Viagra free' erection and German scientists even found that simply having an erection causes your levels of circulating testosterone to rise significantly and look at how these other 3 studies prove how much your testosterone can rise after getting sexual stimulated…

In a study done by Ludwig Boltzmann Institute for Urban Ethology in Vienna… 10 men viewed a 15 minute pornographic film and the men's testosterone levels increased 100 percent afterwards.

Another study published by Psychoneuroendocrinology used sexually arousing films on 9 males and testosterone levels increased within 10 minutes of sexually arousal.

In a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior… Testosterone was measured every 15 min for 3 hours in 8 men before, during, and after the showing of a sexually explicit movie and there was an average increase of 35% in testosterone so…
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Post: #220

Day 23 no porn/no masturbation.

I had sex about an hour ago and came within 15 minutes, easily the fastest ever. Today is a milestone for me, I feel like a normal person.

I will still continue my journey to make it a full 90 days.

Post: #221

(09-07-2012 03:12 PM)Lucky Wrote:  Day 23 no porn/no masturbation.

I had sex about an hour ago and came within 15 minutes, easily the fastest ever. Today is a milestone for me, I feel like a normal person.

I will still continue my journey to make it a full 90 days.

Funny enough, the longer i stay without masturbating, the better the sex..i may ejaculate quick, but im quickly ready for the second round.

Post: #222

Recently I didn't watch porn for 5 months and rarely masturbated though I was having regular sex. I've started watching porn again but it does nothing for me, it doesn't turn me on, I don't get horny and most of the time I just end up turning it off without wanking. Porn is shit, I just watch it when I'm bored.

Post: #223

I have gone for 68 days straight, no fap. The only porn I look at is not really what you would call hardcore porn, just a bit of erotic literature and a video of light bdsm on occaissions. Have found it a worthwhile thing to do, I enjoy working out and by channeling the extra energy into that really helps.

Post: #224

Just relapsed. Made it 27 days. I think I experienced the "chaser effect."

I had sex and orgasmed in under 15 minutes yesterday and the day before. I don't know if I'm going to restart the challenge.

It seems I've taken a huge step forward in curing my Delayed Ejaculation problem.

Post: #225

Porn is like candy for me; the temptation is huge but the release just sort of leaves me empty and is definitely not worth the post-ejaculatory lethargy. It's hard to say how big of a deal not fapping is in terms of attracting women, though. It might work in subtle ways. Being slightly more horny could push you through barriers and you wouldn't realize it might not have happened had you fapped.