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03-31-2015 01:06 AM
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What I'm learning is that everyone's different and needs to find what suits them.

This quote from a different post touched on my current problem:

Quote:It wasn't that I couldn't get it up- my erections became penile strobe lights, flashing on and off without rhyme or reason and not allowing either party to cum.

^ This happened last night. When I finally DID get it up (it took like an hour of making out in bed), I lasted about 30 seconds (shoutout to HonantheBarbarian, quoted below). What a fucking mess, it was the worst sexual performance of my entire life.

I'm gonna keep going with NoFap though, because it's only been 8 days for me right now, and I've been fighting on-and-off Erectile Dysfunction for about a year (I'm 29).

Part of me thinks my family's genetics (almost everyone is addicted to something) means my brain is more easily addicted to stuff that most.

(03-25-2015 03:24 PM)HonantheBarbarian Wrote:  its like a loaded gun with a hair trigger.
03-31-2015 02:04 PM
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(03-31-2015 01:06 AM)lowhead360 Wrote:  Do you guys have any advice on removing unproductive sexual fetishes?Does it require require abstaining from porn/fap for prolonged period of time on the specific fetish in order to rewire your brain not to enjoy it anymore, or does it require some sort of additional work?

As someone who has a few fetishes, the best I can recommend is to completely abstain.
Unplug from all electronic sources, do your best to refocus with work, social activity or lifting and continue with nofap.
It takes time but eventually you'll yearn for such a release that your fetish won't even come to mind. Basically you'll just go caveman.
Rinse and repeat and it'll progressively fade from your mind.
This does a good job of explaining the cycle:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
04-01-2015 09:57 AM
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I want to quit porn and fapping. After several failed attempts on my own. I'm ready to admit I need help. Usually I'll go a few days and then the urge will get incredibly strong and I won't be able to resist. The longest I've gone is 30 days and I was doing great but foolishly allowed myself to slip back into it. Almost as too prove to myself that since I've stopped once I can stop again. Usually I go maybe 2 or 3 days and then I get back on my pattern. Is there a support group or anything of the sort that still exists?
04-07-2015 12:56 PM
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I DID IT!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0Wf2RbjSl4

40 days of NoFap done! My god it feels good. But probably not as good as when I bust my next nut Banana
04-08-2015 06:37 AM
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still going since December...

Longest dry spell since then has been 2 weeks.

It never even crosses my mind... I hope I can keep this up until the day I die.
04-16-2015 05:42 AM
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(02-02-2015 11:57 AM)Isaac Jordan Wrote:  Jerking off to porn left me feeling weak, empty, and apathetic-and these effects carried over to the next day or two-while jerking off to memories of bangs past generally only made me sleepy, and I'd feel fine the next day.

This is what I usually do, especially when I'm on a dry spell. I do it to the memory of some chick I banged or the hottie I saw at the gym or supermarket. I haven't watched porn in years but I didn't know memory-wanking and porn-wanking had different affects on the brain. Although its understandable because memory-wanking just makes me more motivated to approach and get laid.
04-16-2015 12:30 PM
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Did anyone else find that their labido tapered off extremely hard after nofap? In January during my first month my Libido was absurd, but now it's nigh absent. I got some blood work done and my testosterone levels are fine, but I'm going to a more thorough lab soon and getting a full hormone panel done.

I will be checking my PMs weekly, so you can catch me there. I will not be posting.
04-16-2015 12:33 PM
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For some reason, I hear a LOT of people wailing on NoFap/NoPorn initiative. I took the challenge and lasted for roughly 2 weeks. I felt amazing. Social anxiety gone. I felt powerful. I started conversations with people I didn't know. You get the point. Unfortunately, I reverted to my old ways. Started jacking it several times a day.

Definitely gonna get back in the game.

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04-16-2015 04:39 PM
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Back on this!

My mojo has been on a flatline for a long time..well, longer then I can actually remember now! I just don't go out as much, I RARELY approach girls anymore unless the circumstances are really 'safe' or I am really really drunk. I feel scared of the approach, and just this general apathy and laziness towards actually hooking up with women in real life. I've resorted to online dating, and I've had mixed luck on there - tinder, and now happn.

I seem to objectify girls on the street, in the office, any ass that goes by me, I am like gawking and I hate doing it. But its like, I am an observer, and I can't actually interact, and I think porn has done that. When you get used to MBing and using porn as you're default, go to mode to get satisfied then of course, its completely logical to see the pattern.

The funny thing is, the last time I did a nofap, I met this french girl in my city, and we hooked up. I went really out of my way to hook up with her, way more then usually, nofap definitely gave me that motivation to approach and build the escalation. When I am using porn and fapping its like I am just not bothered really approaching, getting numbers. Its funny but its like when the penny actually drops, its kind of jaw-dropping how I didn't even realize the link. I think there are lot of us in the same boat, having been using porn for years and years, and just get lazy when it comes to girls, expecting things to happen without doing any of the work! Hello! Where do you think that came from?!

Anyway, I speak as a man who is still in the midst of it. Its day 1 today.

There are a hell load of things I would like to give up - alcohol, cigarettes, milk, bad food. I just seems my willpower is compromised, and has been comprised for a very long time.
04-18-2015 03:57 PM
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(04-18-2015 03:57 PM)Georges89 Wrote:  I seem to objectify girls on the street, in the office, any ass that goes by me, I am like gawking and I hate doing it. But its like, I am an observer, and I can't actually interact, and I think porn has done that.

Same here. At my work (media), there are lots of young & hot women running around all day. The longer I'm on "no fap" the easier it gets to flirt and interact.

I do get IOI's from women at work and I can feel the interest, but there seems to be an invisible barrier I use to build up in my head whenever I think about getting closer to a girl/asking her out: "Its work/dont f*** at the factory/don't shit where you eat. She's just being nice cause she's a co-worker"

I was on no fap for most of 2014 and managed to quit porn. However, I did relapse several times. It felt/feels really bad. Def. seems to be a mental issue.

This year its much harder to stay on track. I'm on day 7 now. Time for a gym-session...Bash
04-19-2015 03:52 AM
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So, I'm on day 8! It hasn't been hard so far. I haven't noticed much for better or worse yet. The first two nights before sleeping where hard as I was used to a pre-sleep fap. I haven't felt much more energetic or more horny.

Although, I I have started to speak to several girls on dating apps, and in talks to meet with two. So progress has definitely been made on that front Smile I've also managed to bring in lunch everyday to the office, and exercise daily, which is not normal for me. So perhaps there have been more benefits then I've realized although I can't necessarily imply causation at this stage.

Week two should be interesting to see whether it becomes noticeably harder or not.
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04-25-2015 07:41 PM
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So I'm very much considering this to reboot some energy into my life and other reasons.

Anyone able to give some feedback on a few things?
1. Hard mode or not. I feel like if I don't include 30 days of hard mode at the beginning of the 90 day nofap/noporn then I might just replace masturbation with sex (which is certainly an option for me at the moment with 2 girls around and 2 more promising options).
2. Part of my thinking is that this might help with residual feelings that I have for my ex of 6 years. Basically, I always end up thinking of her when I fap even when porn is available (though I have somewhat replaced thinking about her with porn). Has anyone had experience with this kind of mental habit?
3. If I do go hard mode for 30 days should I go full monk mode and avoid women completely or should I still keep approaching and dating? If I date how far should I go? Kissing? Fingering? Cunnilingus?

I realise that the answers to these questions are mostly personal but I'd be interested to hear opinions and experiences that might relate.
04-26-2015 08:38 AM
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Day 14 here. I avoid porn & fapping to porn at any cost. Optional: Fapping without visual stimulation & without climax. Maybe try some kegels. Women & Sex is ok.
04-26-2015 08:50 AM
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I'm at about 2 months now. Honestly I've seen clips of porn (not to fap to but to test my resolve). Its not as arousing as the real thing and I'm usually able to sleep without it. I have more energy and almost no approach/social anxiety. The kicker is that I've been on a horrible dry spell. I'm more into quality over quantity.

I'm just posting to let everyone know that its mind over matter. For some reason my dreams are more vivid, sometimes sexual but I don't have the strong urge to fap. I honestly don't think anything is wrong with it, but when it becomes a habit, you should cut back and put more energy into other things. Being on this has allowed me to focus on work and studies as well as embrace the aspects of game more.
04-26-2015 09:34 PM
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Over the past couple of months I've been watching way more porn than normal. Need to break this habit so I'm going to be trying nofap. Let's see how this goes. Want to go for a minimum of 30 days.
04-26-2015 10:22 PM
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Day 9 today. I seem to have being go through some kind of initial flatline. Libido feels low in the sense I don't feel like a dog on heat, but it almost feels as if I've got more energy for everything else in life - getting up early, preparing food, cycling to work, and working out.

I have noticed perhaps subtle differences in confidence but I wouldn't say my mojo has fully come back yet, although there is already a glimmer of light.
04-27-2015 04:06 PM
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Day 2 now ...
04-27-2015 08:17 PM
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Hard Mode Day 50 reporting in.

I feel wonderful. Life is good. Women haven't looked this good since forever.

Currently talking to this 18 year old Indian girl with MEGA daddy issues, I'm going to fuck her this Sunday and that will be the end of my streak Sad.

Carry on boys.
04-28-2015 09:26 AM
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Day 3
04-28-2015 04:39 PM
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Day 11 now. I have to say, this has been way more powerful then I realized. I feel better and better all the time. No fap has seemed to have coincided with other healthy lifestyle changes, including cycling to work daily, taking in healthy lunch, and working out a lot more.

My outlook on life is better in general and my mojo seems to be slowly resurfacing. In terms of my libido directly, I seemed to go through a flatline after beginning no fap, but today and yesterday I've noticed it's coming back a bit.

I can't necessarily attribute all the above benefits to no fap, I understand correlation as opposed to causation, but hell, I don't think it's complete coincidence/placebo.
04-29-2015 05:22 PM
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Closed a 2nd date last night came four times over course of the night/next day. I feel ratty and as tired as hell today. I think ejactulating in general has a depleting effect. Going to reboot and still on no porn/nofap.

Ultimatly, we should see our semen as our vital energy: so don't waste it, and even be careful when having sex a lot, as it can still definitely deplete.
05-03-2015 10:52 AM
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Day 1. Let's get it.
05-03-2015 10:04 PM
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Day 2.
Ever have one of those "shot thru with a sliver of diamond" moments that change the way you look at things? I did today and I may finally have the answer to getting my frapping under control. I was looking at some amateur porn today, about ready to fall off the frap wagon, and I found the one picture that summed it up for me:
A guy had posted a picture of his MILF wife doing another MILF on a website. Nothing unusual about that, the world is full of people who just don't seem to understand how any image like that can be seen by all over the Net. Nor did I find the fact she was wearing high end Vicky Secret underwear strange, plenty of that too.
What blew my mind were the pictures on the wall behind her.The guy had erotic, posed pictures of this same woman over the bed. And these had to be taken at a private residence, this was no staged photo shoot.
Did you hear that? The man had erotic photographs of his wife over his bed.
Who the hell does that?

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05-06-2015 07:10 PM
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After about 2 months of no porn, I gave in a few nights ago (pretty drunk) and fapped one out to porn...BUT it was fucking weird, and I wanted to share what I still feel was a positive take away.

During the act, I was hyper aware of the disconnect between the visual stimulation and being present in the moment/physical/psychological engagement. I realized that when I fapped without porn, I was thinking about the real girls I'd met/engaged with, and that led to very satisfying orgasms.

That night reminded me of how unsatisfying porn is. So while I'm giving myself shit over resetting the clock, it was great to see that porn is not for me anymore, and the way I think of it has reset as well.
05-10-2015 01:26 PM
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