Gorgiass, I live in an upper tier II city and with tons of beautiful women. You can easily do 100 approaches an hour in the downtown core.
Did an hr today in the DT core. Wasn't feeling it because I did so many yesterday and felt a bit burned out. Sucked it up and approached. Only 2 went decently well. Quite a bit of internal AA at the beginning.
Said excuse me to a 7/10 blond. Mid 20s. Looked relatively normal but dressed decently well. She did not look receptive. Maybe it was in my head. But I ejected and said never mind.
7.5/10 small asian girl. Looked like a party girl because of her nails. Tons of makeup but in workout clothes. Standard opener. She was friendly but said she had a bf and told me thanks.
6/10 asian girl. Did not look like a party girl. Early 20s. Can tell she would be gf type material:
Standard opener. She was friendly.
She told me she was shopping. I told her I had an hr to kill and was walking around the city because it's finally a nice day (I commented on the weather again later but I'm sure it was fine).
She told me she was in the library reading. I cold read her and said she must be into non fiction. She said she was reading something about fashion. I commented on how she likes to expand her mind. She she said she studies psych. She asked me what I do. I told her to guess and she'd never be able to.
She then said accountant or something. I pretended to leave and then jokingly said she should list off a bunch of stereotypical asian jobs. I also then teased and said she should guess a bunch of asian names. Gave her a light touch on the elbow.
I asked her if she was busy. She said kind of because she was going home. I said: "that's not busy! how do you feel about going for a coffee with me right now?"
She hesitated then said no thanks. I said that's cool.
2.75/5. A bit more than lukewarm but not a lot. She was there and didn't seem like she wanted to leave.
Convo fun/flirty:/b] 3/5. Not bad. Got some push-pull in. Need to be working on that but I tend to do that okay (if anything I often push too much). Need to do more emotional spikes.
I wonder if I could have gotten her for a coffee if I built more comfort. She seemed fine to chat but then was hesitant when I went for the kill. She's also definitely not a party girl that looks like she gets a ton of chad cock so it's weird that she didn't open up to me more because I feel like I'm above her level and we're the same ethnicity.
Maybe for these girls I need to build a lot more comfort before asking to get something in return. They may be shy.
White girl. 6.5-7/10. Dressed in a flannel coat. Early 20s. Standard opener. Weaker energy. She then said: "uhhh is there is a pick up convention going on? This has happened 3 times in the past 15 min!"
I was shook. I tried to pretend that I didn't know what she was talking about but then I politely ejected.
I need to get off the main shopping streets of the DT core. There's 2 streets that are infested with PUAs and will only get worse as the weather gets better. It's a waste. I don't care how good your game is, if a girl has been approached 5x by a bunch of dudes, most of whom are socially awkward, she's going to be a no go. Luckily there are a lot of places in the city to game but the downtown core is certainly the best and most convenient.
some chick from venezuala. Face was terrible. Had to excuse myself.
Regular (maybe nerdy?) looking girl in her early 20s. Kind of cute but not great. 6/10. This is a set I should have done better on.
She was very receptive. She was on the phone but then paused or hung up her call.
I was nervous. Rambling on. Tonality was terrible. I find that when my tonality and mindset are good, stuff flows and I don't force it. This time I did. It didn't help that she didn't give me much to work with. Her answers were short but she was in no rush to leave.
Me: "so what are you up to?'
Her; "walking and shopping"
Me: "oh ya? what for?"
Her: "oh just some shoes"
didn't get a lot from her. I commented on her shoes and said they're nice. Our responses were both short, logical. I then asked if stores are still open now. She said yes. I asked her if she was in a rush (LOOOOL) she said no. She stood squared to me the whole time. I excused myself.
this could be a girl where she might be interested but is shy and isn't great at convo. I need to get better. Need to ramble but in a calm manner. More open questions. MORE COLD READING. My god I could have cold read. "Oh, those shoes are very arty. I'm getting a feeling that you're an arty type of person". Something like that. Anything!
Hot euro chick. 8/10. Mid 20s. Weak approach. She said she was sorry but had to meet her friend.
Maybe more commanding next time?
6.5/10 white chick but dresses like a party girl. My height. A bit thicker but in all the right places. 18! Best approach of the day just because of the result, but because of my tonality, presence , mindset. This was a fun set.
Standard opener... then... I noticed her braces.
Me: "wait a sec! your'e not in HS are you?"
she laughed and said no and started to walk away.
Me: "hey hold up!" She stopped.
I asked her what she was up to. She said she just got off work and works at nordstorm and said women's department. I said I love that place and go there all the time. We both laughed because I didn't make it clear that I don't go to the women's section. I said I got my boots there and get them shined all the time.
I asked her how it is working in a large corporate department store. Blah blah blah. I cold read and said she seems like a people person. She said ya obvoiusly she has to be working retail. I said she could be faking it and then be going home and crying herself to sleep all night.
She asked me what I do for work. Eventually I asked her what she was up to. She said she was going home to meet a friend. I said we should go for an adventure and grab a tea over at the starbucks. It seems like she was considering it but then said sorry she really has to meet her friend. I said I should grab her number and then take her on a real adventure.
Then I said "wait a second, you're not even legal age." she told me that she has a fake and showed me. I looked at it and laughed and said it does'nt even look like her. She said it worked all weekend. I then said "wow you're trouble... but kind of cute." PUSH PULL! I asked her about her schedule. She told me and said maybe thurs/fri works for her. I said probably weekend is best for me but I'll contact her.
She asked for my age. I told her to guess and that asians are the same 15-55. She guessed 23 and was shocked that I said early 30s. Got her number. Texted. Zero reply.
Slightly surprised that she didn't reply. Maybe the age difference, maybe I'm not her type but that was a good set. Cold read, push pulled, joked around, good presence, tonality. Although I shouldn't be surprised because this dry spell has just been retarded with no end in sight.
Decided to switch things up and do a 2 set. 1 white chick about 6.5/10, the other asian chick 6/10. The asian chick asked me if this is game. I said "game? as in video cameras? ya there's one on the rooftop"
She said "oh no, it's happening in _______ (a different city). it's becoming popular" and they walked off. The white chick seemed some what interested.
Need to get the hell away from this area for the majority of my gaming. And not to go off on a tangent too much but I certainly appreciate a woman being annoyed if she is constantly getting spam approached but on the flip side, to be annoyed at the idea of men approaching is hilarious. So guys should just give up and then the chads can just line up on tinder and the women can offer their holes to them. Women are just too spoiled.
Odds and ends:
- 20 approaches a day may be too much. Fewer a day but more consistency is probably better. But I do take about 3 or so to get warmed up.
- Need to get out of those two streets. I understand that other guys are also fighting to improve but this is stupid and will only get worse. I wouldn't be surprised if there are as many as 20 guys running sets on those 2 streets during peak hours in the summer. I even saw one of the heavy hitting pick up coaches in this city doing bootcamps with 2 guys. Probably better to also game during my daily errands. Probably even better to try to join an intramural league or infiltrate some social activities and try to be a normal cool guy. Cold approaches are tough with low success rate.
- The numbers from yesterday...
- The girl with the nice heels. She responded but basically politely kept turning me down with "I'm too busy" when I tried to meet. I persisted a bit without being needy but no dice.
- No dice from the slutty looking redhead english girl.
- Mild to moderate lead with the girl with whom I share mutual contacts. I tried to incorporate the idea of "social capital" from RSD Todd and basically chatted with her a bit over the text before going for the kill. I think this is the play for weary girls. She shit tested me and said: "hahah I'll see. I don't go out easily with people"
I said "Ha! A misanthrope." and told her I have a busy week coming up but I'll message her end of the week and see where she's at. Best play I've done with texting.
I'm a terrible texter but this seemed to diffuse her by withdrawing a bit back.
She said: "LOL slightly. Ya sure why not" and asked me why I'm busy. WE exchanged a few more texts and asked if I had snapchat. I said I don't have it so "we'll have to connect the good old fashioned way of texting lol."
She said that's fine. I told her tty so and good night.
I think this is important. Unless the girl is super eager, maybe the best way is to try to connect just a tad to disarm her, give her good feelings that you're not crazy and then ask for a meet without being too needy.
- The retarded streak continues but gotta keep fighting. At least my BJJ is improving