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(02-13-2019 08:52 PM)mvp Wrote:  Good job, any details on how you went about the approach?

I was walking along this girl, a 20-year-old college student, on a crowded street and as we stopped at a crosswalk I turned to her, excused myself and asked if she knew any good bars around. She was very receptive and helpful, giving off a vibe that she wanted me to talk to her. She went on to recommend me a bar and, after some talking about what she was doing there, said she had to run to her part-time job, which prompted me to casually ask her for her number, which she gave me right away. It felt very natural throughout, and even though there was no explicit rationale for her giving me her number, we both knew what was going on. It lasted for about five minutes.

In other words, the approach was very indirect and there was never any explicit reference to going on a date or that I found her attractive. I could definitely have been more smooth, as I was struggling somewhat with finding the appropriate tone for the conversation. Safe to say it was certainly not my technical game that got me her number, but rather that she must have found me attractive. A bit of luck, I'd say.
02-13-2019 10:41 PM
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Help me, bros! I shaved my head recently, and since then, have been seeing a lot of "preens" from women like in this pic.

Is there a non-creepy way to turn that into a conversation starter? Calling strangers out on their body language seems rude af.

Like, imagine you are the bald guy in this pic, and you noticed the woman preening (possible IOI?) right after noticing you, how would you approach her, if at all?

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02-15-2019 10:16 AM
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It's called a hover and once she notices you, open with situational conversation bait (posing statement with some missing pieces to make her ask a question of you) to get her to hook.

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02-15-2019 03:51 PM
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(02-15-2019 03:51 PM)Black Caesar Wrote:  It's called a hover and once she notices you, open with situational conversation bait (posing statement with some missing pieces to make her ask a question of you) to get her to hook.

Situations change, and it's really hard to come up with a good "bait" on the spot.

But the common elements are that (1) I'm bald and (2) I saw her fix her hair.

Is there a good bait or opener I could use in all situations that include these elements?
02-15-2019 05:52 PM
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Just be creative.

I almost always use something travel related.

"Just got to town"

"Haven't been here long"

"Still getting used to the city"

Just comment about literally anything and throw in something like that.

If you really want to talk about how you're bald

"I keep forgetting that I need a hat for my bald head in this city it is so cold compared to where I was before"

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02-16-2019 12:24 PM
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02-16-2019 02:35 PM
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This is probably a FAQ, but does anyone here know of a big list of non-creepy indirect openers? It's easier to pick one from a list than try to come up with something in half a second on the spot.
02-16-2019 03:46 PM
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Went to check out a new bar. As I go to order a beer there's a girl sitting at the bar with like 4 drinks lined up. She's not that hot but i'm trying to get in the social flow! I open ''Are these all your drinks?! You looking to get white-girl wasted tonight?'' She laughs and tells me that 2 are hers, and 2 are her friends who's in the bathroom. I tell her I think she's lying and she laughs, and then I order my beer.

Her friend comes back and her friend is fairly hot. They talk for a few seconds and I re-open the original girl like ''Ahh....you weren't lying to me!'' and then her friend spins around and is like ''oh....hello!!''. Her friend explains how she 'knows' me. I ask where they are going tonight, get their names. I make the hot one laugh a lot with some line about the toilets in the bar i'd just been too being like 'the log flume at Alton Tower''. She was laughing hard!

We carried on chatting a bit. Then she got her phone out and started filming me/us and stuff.

Occasionally I'd talk some some friends who had joined me at the bar and she tapped me on the shoulder a few times to initiate conversation. Was a bit concerned that she hadn't really asked me anything about myself , though. Possible IOD? (indicator of DISinterest)

There were a few moments where we held eye contact as we spoke and I could feel some possible tension.

My friends weren't winging me at all which I think is why I found it so hard to escalate on the girl I liked. Wasn't sure how best to do it and so the interaction never 'really' went 'man-to-woman' enough.

I struggle with how to do this smoothly at the best of times without just blurting out ''I like you by the way. You're pretty'' like an autist, and I guess I found it even harder when her mate was sat next to her! So I just never 'went there'.

We had to leave shortly after and she gave me a hug goodbye, but I didn't ask for the number.

The whole time I was talking to her, there was a very hot, very young girl who seemed to be downing shot after shot every 10 mins. My friends were talking about how hot she was.

ANyway, as we left, they left too, so I decided to go for it outside. I think I opened her and asker how her night was going, and she pretty much just put her palm near my face as if to say ''I'm not interested!''. I should have known. She was extremely hot lol

I think her rejection gave me some approach anxiety, because I failed to open another beautiful girl that was sitting down in the club/bar on the seats. Kept telling myself that she didn't look like she wanted to be approached and was just chatting with her friends, and also every 'opener' in my head started to sound 'bad'. You ever get that? Like, when you're feeling anxious, you think ''I could say, 'hi, I'm James', but then she'll look at me like ''Errrr...why are you telling me this. Go away''. Or I think 'I could go direct and be like ''Hey. You're kinda cute. Thought i'd say Hi', but then she'll be like ''Yeah. I know. Thanks. Bye'' lol. Literally every opener just sounds bad.

Anway, I did manage to find my balls and opened 2 women sitting chatting in a pub. Annoying I can't remember what I opened with, but I remember getting a kind of shocked reaction, yet a positive one. It was possibly something like ''Hi! I thought i'd join you for 2 seconds whilst my mate gets served'' and she was like ''Oh!!!! ha. Ok. what's your name?''.

We started chatting and it went very good. I was teasing them, lots of cocky-funny stuff etc, although I wasn't TAHT attracted to either of them. They were OK, but i'm into girls that are way too young for me, and they were actually a few years older than me.

The better looking one called me 'very confident' a few times which is funny because i'm not at all, although I guess with 'game' I can appear so. Can't think how it ended, but I didn't want them either way. I think me and my friends just bailed.

Feeling a bit better now I got chatting to some random Polish guy who was sitting with 4 hot girls, all from different countries. I then opened the pretty young French girl on a bench and she was super rude and basically told me to leave her alone after I said 'Hi'!'. (Ned Flanders : ''A rude French person?!! Well, I never!!!) I figured since i'd made friends with the dude and he seemed to like me, i'd have built a little value, but this hottie was having none of it!

Then went to get a cab home and bumped into the 2 older girls from the pub. 3 Black guys were trying hard to get them to come back to their house. The prettier one was into it, but the uglier one was shouting at her not to do it. Both girls then got in a cab on their own, but one of the black guys just jumped in their cab and then the other dudes started walking towards it lol. Not sure how that played out!

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