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On whether men and women can be just friends
http://verilymag.com/magazine/can-men-wo...e-friends/

"Researchers found that while women were generally not attracted to their male friends and saw the relationship as strictly platonic, the men usually had romantic feelings for their lady friends. Not only were the guys more attracted to their female buds, they also mistakenly believed that the feelings were mutual, and they were more willing to act on their perceived mutual attraction.

The study concluded that women generally think guys and gals can just be friends, while men secretly hope the relationship can become something more."
06-03-2013 01:35 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
as children and as old people it's possible
06-03-2013 01:36 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
(06-03-2013 01:35 PM)Wutang Wrote:  http://verilymag.com/magazine/can-men-wo...e-friends/

"Researchers found that while women were generally not attracted to their male friends and saw the relationship as strictly platonic, the men usually had romantic feelings for their lady friends. Not only were the guys more attracted to their female buds, they also mistakenly believed that the feelings were mutual, and they were more willing to act on their perceived mutual attraction.

The study concluded that women generally think guys and gals can just be friends, while men secretly hope the relationship can become something more."

I think it's always an either/or situation. One of them always seems to be interested in the other, at least in my experience.

As the study suggests, the woman thinks it's possible to just be friends if she's the one that's not interested, which is more likely the case. but if the guy's not interested in her, the woman is probably the lower-value one and is interested in him. Someone's always out to get something more, it seems.

Why is it usually the guy that's interested in his "friend" though?

1) Women often become so unbearable when they can't have something they want that the man will be forced to stop being her friend or at least start avoiding her. No longer friends.

2) Women can find a different guy pretty quick if he's not interested, leaving her plenty of dick to get distracted by so that she soon forgets about it. No longer interested (and may forget it ever happened).

3) Guys are more willing to fuck just about anything. So for many guys, if she's interested at all, then it's on, whether he is officially interested or not. That leads to multiple scenarios, all of which mean a changed relationship (skewing the results of the study) - "friends with benefits" scenarios are just not sustainable. No longer friends.

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06-03-2013 02:18 PM
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So "researchers" basically just concluded what we already knew from this clip:




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06-03-2013 02:45 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
Haven't we already had a couple of threads about this, including the one with that video Tuth posted?

Men and women, unless for already mentioned special circumstances, can't ever be friends.

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06-03-2013 02:48 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
If you are not attracted to her, it's possible.
06-03-2013 04:53 PM
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A woman may very well form a friendship with a man, but for this to endure, it must be assisted by a little physical antipathy. - Friedrich Nietzsche
06-03-2013 07:33 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
In a word - NO, FUCK NO.

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06-03-2013 08:34 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
Girls get mad when they say they have a bunch of guy friends and I ask them if those friends would fuck her if she offered.
06-10-2013 08:20 PM
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http://kanemayfield.tumblr.com/post/5449...tonic-male

You know what… funny thing is I get this question a lot.

The answer is…Its probably you… you don’t make a good friend.

You don’t get to still be treated like “the pretty girl".

Dudes and their “friends" operate on a level that would baffle and astound you. Cruel mean spirited humor, frat house manners, demoralizing insults, ego shattering observations…. and NO CRYING. Think Don Rickles. This ties in with the whole “treat me like an equal" conversation. Trust me, you want men to treat you like a woman, not an equal. We let the door slam DIRECTLY in the face of a man walking behind us into 7-11, in hopes that he was looking down texting and walks RIGHT into it… and he CAME THERE WITH US. That’s an equal. That’s funny… and homie should have kept his head on a swivel...

Btw… gay dudes may seem like an easy out… but they are still DUDES. Which means he probably finds you boring too.

Once you wrap your mind around the fact that we (and i am authorized to speak for all men) don’t give the slightest of fucks how your day was, or what boring thing happened to you that’s mad uninteresting you will be in good shape...

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whole thing is hilarious
07-03-2013 12:18 PM
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You know what fellas ...I'm friends with women I've slept with. I'm friends with women I haven't slept with. If you wanna fuck her just step to her and see what happens. You never know. And if you lose her as a friend ...ohh fucking well. It doesn't really matter anyway.

Women are more scared of losing a male friend because they lose some access that your friendship provides. Drinks, food, free shit, car repair etc.

What do men lose if the friendship falls apart? Nothing. Women bring nothing to the table except pussy. And you're already not getting any from her. You lose nothing.

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07-03-2013 01:28 PM
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(07-03-2013 01:28 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  You know what fellas ...I'm friends with women I've slept with. I'm friends
What do men lose if the friendship falls apart? Nothing. Women bring nothing to the table except pussy. And you're already not getting any from her. You lose nothing.

True. Female friends don't serve men much purpose. You would think they'd be useful for advice on relationship matters, but even then you can't listen to them on anything.

Only real need for them is infiltrating her social network if she has hot friends or using them in mixed sets to make it easier to get into nightspots and have social proof. Beyond that, I can't think of a whole lot of reasons to be friends with an attractive girl. If she's that cool to hang out with and she's cute, then you should push it past platonic.
07-03-2013 02:39 PM
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RE: On whether men and women can be just friends
When a woman tells her husband or boyfriend that she has a male "friend" she is either kidding him or kidding herself.
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07-03-2013 03:00 PM
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