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Why Hasn't Game Worked?
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
...we have the idea of finding a nice girl, cute, not necessarily the absolute perfect 100% match, but a good person, who likes me, and is kind and nurturing and compassionate and can hold an intellectual conversation and is curious about the world and wants to go hiking with me and wants me to teach her things and looks up to me and knows how to be a good wife, and wants to be a wife, and wants to be my wife, and marry her, and have a couple of kids and some pets.

That doesn't sound like a bad idea. I could go for that. Right now. RIGHT NOW. If that option was available now, I'd choose it. I'd let go of the second scenario, and stop waiting around for the first, and go with the flow, and marry such a girl. It would be awesome.

But I... like... don't know how to do that. How do I get someone to marry me? How do I choose who I want to get to marry me in the first place? Where do I go looking? How do I recognize her?

Let's say I make a list of criteria:
-Cute (I can enjoy looking at her face for long periods of time)
-Physically fit (fits the description of "hot")
-Little (I'm only 5'2", and I find myself most attracted to very tiny petite girls)
-A good kind person with a good heart and cares about others
-Young (the two girls I fucked were 31 and 29 when we did it, so I've never fucked a girl under 29 and dammit if I'm gonna get off this mortal coil without doing so)
-Enjoys and appreciates nature (she doesn't have to be a super avid hiker like me, but at least she should know not to wear 4-inch platform shoes for a hike up the mountain, as one girl recently showed up with)

And maybe a few other criteria.

So let's say I meet a girl, I vet her for these qualities, and she passes them all.

THEN what?

Do I like, bring her a rose or something?
01-12-2017 01:56 PM
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
And also I should add that I have not yet found someone who matches my criteria.

I have not found one girl (other than Russian girl and rich girl) who were willing to participate in my favorite activity (hiking in nature) with me. Not one. In all this time, I've been hiking with exactly two female persons. Oh, and I forgot 4-inch heel girl. So that's three.

The Chinese chick I talked about in my post, the one with whom I have the two common interests of rice and fish, she would make a good wife. When I injured my hand, she came over and did my laundry for me. BY HAND. Scrubbing in my shower. I kid you not. That's wifey gold right there!

But we connect. On. NOTHING.

How can I possibly see myself marrying someone with whom I connect on NOTHING?

WHY her? Why not any of the 5000 other girls at the nearby university who are just as hot, just as young, just as traditional and good-wifey? How can I possibly follow through on a sustained, serious courtship with one particular person in this situation?
(This post was last modified: 01-12-2017 02:09 PM by thegreenman.)
01-12-2017 02:06 PM
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
Booshala,

Thanks for your honesty. I don't resent your candor at all.

Like I said, the moral questions were challenging.

I felt bad about it.

But you know what I would have felt even WORSE about? Turning her down. After a decade and a half of never hearing the words "I love you" from anyone (not even rich girl or Filipina girl said those words), and then suddenly hearing them from someone for the first time EVER, I would have never been able to look myself in a mirror if I had turned her down. For the rest of my life, I'd be thinking "what if", and kicking myself and probably shooting heroin to mask the pain of inconsolable regret.

I knew I would regret it no matter which option I chose, but I knew that one of them would result in 10,000 times more regret than the other, so I chose the one that would cause less.

I knew it could have been pedestalization and one-itis. I knew I might eventually get flak from my ROK buddies for it. But I'm glad that's all I'm getting, instead of a question haunting me for the rest of my days of why I didn't get with the only girl in 15 years to say "I love you."

So at the very least, I made it out of this challenge with the smallest amount of regret possible. On some level, I've made my peace with that.
01-12-2017 02:25 PM
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
You are a top 1% overthinker, it's very clear from your writing and behavior.

As such, you are overthinking your relationship status.

In terms of sexual life, you are at teenage level, simply because of your lack of experience.

It seems like you are obsessing over marriage. Are you? Why?

If your "non-prostitute notch count stands at 2, in terms of coitus, and 4 in terms of non-coital sexual relationships", you are simply not ready to get married. At least considering that you don't want to get tossed on your head by your girl and/or 21st century dating.

This thread has a lot of parallels with Rex's, the difference being that you are desperately overactive and he is mostly passive.

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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
(01-12-2017 01:56 PM)thegreenman Wrote:  How do I get someone to marry me?

Let's say I make a list of criteria: ETC

What people here is saying is right. It doesn't matter what your background is.
If you are serious with all that. Show us a video of you doing your thing.

And you DON'T think about marriage before you even like, can enjoy a moment together. Go to a karaoke or something. Don't even think about marriage. Unless you've done a few activities together and you really want each other in your life then you can propose. But don't even think about "finding the perfect one to get married with" when you're still a 28yo VIRGIN

You first goal should actually be, how to NOT be a virgin
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01-14-2017 12:42 PM
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
For comparison mate,

I've studied (in theory) game for 3-4 years. Only been activity applying it for...5 months actively-ish. And I've got results, safe to say I have a 90% success rate in opening girls for numbers or insta-date. Translating to a Cat lady over 60% at least.

I did everything without a mentor too. I study everything online, and self-practice. To be fair, I'm probably 8 in terms of attractiveness, I'm a musician/trader, workout 2x a week, confident with my finances. And my biggest problem is STILL approach anxiety even tho I ALREADY KNOW there's almost no way an attractive young successful guy gets rejected (assume I opened nicely)

But if you've been doing this for like 10years with ZERO approach anxiety. Hell. I think your techniques are wrong.

Post that video and we'll review your technique, or better get a 1-1 coach
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01-14-2017 01:02 PM
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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
^First: Bullshit

Second: Read the fucking thread and time stamps. He turned his life around and this thread is full of gold. If you're looking to show off atleast have the decency to read what's been said.

Third: Back to you. If you're so good start a thread in the game forum. Show us what you got. Even the legendary G-Manifesto only swooped 5% of the girls he successfully opened. 60% and odds are you're banging way below your level or are banging hookers. Chop up some game drop some knowledge in the myriad of recurring game threads(If you don't want to start a thread post in the Moma and Rudebwoy podcast thread or Player's Lounge if you plan to post).

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RE: Why Hasn't Game Worked?
(01-14-2017 01:02 PM)AceP Wrote:  For comparison mate,

I've studied (in theory) game for 3-4 years. Only been activity applying it for...5 months actively-ish. And I've got results, safe to say I have a 90% success rate in opening girls for numbers or insta-date. Translating to a Cat lady over 60% at least.

I did everything without a mentor too. I study everything online, and self-practice. To be fair, I'm probably 8 in terms of attractiveness, I'm a musician/trader, workout 2x a week, confident with my finances. And my biggest problem is STILL approach anxiety even tho I ALREADY KNOW there's almost no way an attractive young successful guy gets rejected (assume I opened nicely)

But if you've been doing this for like 10years with ZERO approach anxiety. Hell. I think your techniques are wrong.

Post that video and we'll review your technique, or better get a 1-1 coach

Are you saying you're success ratio from open to sex is 2 out of 3 girls? I guess Mick Jagger would be jealous...
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