Post: #9676

(01-24-2019 02:02 AM)Black Caesar Wrote:  Waiting for WIA to chime in on social circle stuff.

I figure its all the people you hang with on a semi regular basis. Like if you go to the gym and see the same 3 people and say hi, not really. But if you kick it with them once a week by the gym pool and chop up about whatever, then more of it.

Guys tend to get jealous and crab up when they cant get for themselves. Most of my close guy friends also pull well so its less of an issue and we can bond over capping chicks or even capping on each others girls cause its all love and there is abunance mentality knowing we can always hit the streets or club and pull in one or two sessions (my homies are more natural guys but also chick magnents cause tall or tattoos or hilarious or low key famous) so its hardly an issue.

rudebwoy, who are the people you see or hang out with usually? Some guys really are lone wolf in that they dont hang with the same folks often or at all.

Summed up perfectly.

Usually, it is just me and a friend.

Post: #9677

(01-23-2019 06:52 AM)Mentavious Wrote:  Serious question

Why is Cartagena so popular among the black population? I went to Bogota and had a blast maybe 5-6 years ago but Carta seems to attract a large number of our brothers and sisters nowadays.

Cartagena is popular among blacks because it is the blackest part of Colombia that is accessible and has a beach. You know us African Americans LOVE the Caribbean and feel most comfortable there. It also has the longest tourist history in the country. Even 20 years ago when Colombia wasn't considered "safe" as a country, Cartagena still had tourism from cruises,etc.

Cali Colombia and the Pacific Coast also have a large Black population but it is one of the most dangerous and impoverished parts of the country. The infrastructure isn't there either so I don't expect that region to become a tourist destination anytime soon.

Post: #9678

(01-23-2019 06:04 PM)Moma Wrote:  

(01-23-2019 07:48 AM)floridaboiii Wrote:  People down here seem enamored with actual brown skinned people with African roots (in my experience). The discrimination at least from what I've seen and heard is more geared towards the natives who have darker skin but not really brown like us.

I will see for myself in the next few months though.

I'm confused about the bolded. Dark skin but not brown like us? How brown yet no dark skinned are we? lololol

@Moma

Think of short, often stocky, very Indigenous Native American looking people. In many parts of Latin America these people represent a large underclass and are discriminated against. Different groups of these people can be found from Central Mexico all the way down to Southern Chile. These were the original inhabitants of these lands and many never mixed with Europeans to create the stereotypical Hollywood "Latino" look.

For Europeans the closest equivalent would be like gypsies or Roma people. People with features too dark to be considered "white" but straight hair and other features that make it clear they aren't of African descent.

Post: #9679

Just cause we've been talking about it, here's a few examples of social circle game at work.

Been kicking it with one of my friends here at one of the local spots. Think stoop drinking with all the elders and other folks in the hood stopping by to take a drink and smoke cigs. In general its a good time.

So I'm chopping up with the older guys there and some females stop through. Introductions all around, they sit and chat with the group and light up. I start to talking to one and we hit it off a bit. Share some of my drink with her and just general light flirt back and forth.

The homie and I bounce a bit later and she's all "you're leaving so soon you have to come back" and of course I will catch any time a chick is throwing it like that.

Fast forward and next time I see him he's like "home girl is in love with you" and gives me the digits.

Spent literally zero effort on this whole thing because of how the situation was set up.

Another one.

Hit one of the usual spots with my rollie. Between the two of us we know about half the people in the joint so we roll in and it's a bit of a scene as we go around and dap everyone up. A chick I know grabs us to day hi and double cheek kiss greetings go all around. This isn't a huge place so of course every chick sees all this go down.

Later just dancing and vibing to the music I see home girl with a new girl. Second shawty is bad (the girls here are just so fine it is low key ridicolous) so I'm plotting on her immediately. Just pull a circle around the floor to come up from the other side and start chatting up my friend. She intros me to new girl and it is pretty clockwork textbook meet convo. We all vibe and then a good song comes on so I pull girl to dance. Of course my home girl is encouraging this and plays a bit jealous and possessive which only helps my whole case. Cop digits and it's a wrap.


All this to say that social circle stuff when it works out is pretty seamless.

Post: #9680

(01-26-2019 06:42 AM)Black Caesar Wrote:  Just cause we've been talking about it, here's a few examples of social circle game at work.

Been kicking it with one of my friends here at one of the local spots. Think stoop drinking with all the elders and other folks in the hood stopping by to take a drink and smoke cigs. In general its a good time.

So I'm chopping up with the older guys there and some females stop through. Introductions all around, they sit and chat with the group and light up. I start to talking to one and we hit it off a bit. Share some of my drink with her and just general light flirt back and forth.

The homie and I bounce a bit later and she's all "you're leaving so soon you have to come back" and of course I will catch any time a chick is throwing it like that.

Fast forward and next time I see him he's like "home girl is in love with you" and gives me the digits.

Spent literally zero effort on this whole thing because of how the situation was set up.

Another one.

Hit one of the usual spots with my rollie. Between the two of us we know about half the people in the joint so we roll in and it's a bit of a scene as we go around and dap everyone up. A chick I know grabs us to day hi and double cheek kiss greetings go all around. This isn't a huge place so of course every chick sees all this go down.

Later just dancing and vibing to the music I see home girl with a new girl. Second shawty is bad (the girls here are just so fine it is low key ridicolous) so I'm plotting on her immediately. Just pull a circle around the floor to come up from the other side and start chatting up my friend. She intros me to new girl and it is pretty clockwork textbook meet convo. We all vibe and then a good song comes on so I pull girl to dance. Of course my home girl is encouraging this and plays a bit jealous and possessive which only helps my whole case. Cop digits and it's a wrap.


All this to say that social circle stuff when it works out is pretty seamless.

This is what I have in mind when I think social circle game. Being the cool black guy that speaks the local language and wants to party, this will make evryone in a foreign country to be a little curious about you. Of course you gotta be wary of a juug, but that’s just Life 101.

What I want to do is take this level of social connectedness to the elite level...like doing this with people that have private islands, houses in the Hamptons, political connections...but without actually being in the spotlight. Littlefinger Lite, but without his one-itis for Catelyn Stark (I’m talkin’ about the show right now, in the book Littlefinger hasn’t folded like that...yet.) Perhaps Varys would be a more apt comparison.

At the end of the day you just gotta know people and bring a fun vibe...at least that’s what I’m telling myself. Gonna test out the model once I get my own spot.

Post: #9681

(01-25-2019 01:56 PM)azulsombra Wrote:  

(01-23-2019 06:52 AM)Mentavious Wrote:  Serious question

Why is Cartagena so popular among the black population? I went to Bogota and had a blast maybe 5-6 years ago but Carta seems to attract a large number of our brothers and sisters nowadays.

Cartagena is popular among blacks because it is the blackest part of Colombia that is accessible and has a beach. You know us African Americans LOVE the Caribbean and feel most comfortable there. It also has the longest tourist history in the country. Even 20 years ago when Colombia wasn't considered "safe" as a country, Cartagena still had tourism from cruises,etc.

Cali Colombia and the Pacific Coast also have a large Black population but it is one of the most dangerous and impoverished parts of the country. The infrastructure isn't there either so I don't expect that region to become a tourist destination anytime soon.

Post: #9682

(01-26-2019 10:57 AM)BasketBounce Wrote:  This is what I have in mind when I think social circle game. Being the cool black guy that speaks the local language and wants to party, this will make evryone in a foreign country to be a little curious about you. Of course you gotta be wary of a juug, but that’s just Life 101.

What I want to do is take this level of social connectedness to the elite level...like doing this with people that have private islands, houses in the Hamptons, political connections...but without actually being in the spotlight. Littlefinger Lite, but without his one-itis for Catelyn Stark (I’m talkin’ about the show right now, in the book Littlefinger hasn’t folded like that...yet.) Perhaps Varys would be a more apt comparison.

At the end of the day you just gotta know people and bring a fun vibe...at least that’s what I’m telling myself. Gonna test out the model once I get my own spot.

Do a search for Distant Light. This was his niche.

WIA

Post: #9683

Being a cool black guy in a foreign country makes people curious period. That's the main reason so many of us are filling up our passports with stamps.

Back at home, people always wonder how you can afford to travel to off the beaten path places.

Social circle game use to work how BC described it years ago, now the rules have changed.

Post: #9684

For my UK peeps,

How do Fresh off the Boat Eastern European guys do with Native English Girls?

No issues?
English chicks prefer their own (what i've always heard)
Class/Money thing?

WIA

Post: #9685

They don't do very well. Eastern-Europeans that have been born and raised here can do fine though. Not really a class or money thing, but more down to them just not understanding what's the thing in the culture here like fashion, music, etc.

Post: #9686

Hitting RIO for the first time this Carnaval. Anybody fucking with it this year?

Post: #9687

(01-26-2019 10:57 AM)BasketBounce Wrote:  

(01-26-2019 06:42 AM)Black Caesar Wrote:  Just cause we've been talking about it, here's a few examples of social circle game at work.

Been kicking it with one of my friends here at one of the local spots. Think stoop drinking with all the elders and other folks in the hood stopping by to take a drink and smoke cigs. In general its a good time.

So I'm chopping up with the older guys there and some females stop through. Introductions all around, they sit and chat with the group and light up. I start to talking to one and we hit it off a bit. Share some of my drink with her and just general light flirt back and forth.

The homie and I bounce a bit later and she's all "you're leaving so soon you have to come back" and of course I will catch any time a chick is throwing it like that.

Fast forward and next time I see him he's like "home girl is in love with you" and gives me the digits.

Spent literally zero effort on this whole thing because of how the situation was set up.

Another one.

Hit one of the usual spots with my rollie. Between the two of us we know about half the people in the joint so we roll in and it's a bit of a scene as we go around and dap everyone up. A chick I know grabs us to day hi and double cheek kiss greetings go all around. This isn't a huge place so of course every chick sees all this go down.

Later just dancing and vibing to the music I see home girl with a new girl. Second shawty is bad (the girls here are just so fine it is low key ridicolous) so I'm plotting on her immediately. Just pull a circle around the floor to come up from the other side and start chatting up my friend. She intros me to new girl and it is pretty clockwork textbook meet convo. We all vibe and then a good song comes on so I pull girl to dance. Of course my home girl is encouraging this and plays a bit jealous and possessive which only helps my whole case. Cop digits and it's a wrap.


All this to say that social circle stuff when it works out is pretty seamless.

This is what I have in mind when I think social circle game. Being the cool black guy that speaks the local language and wants to party, this will make evryone in a foreign country to be a little curious about you. Of course you gotta be wary of a juug, but that’s just Life 101.

What I want to do is take this level of social connectedness to the elite level...like doing this with people that have private islands, houses in the Hamptons, political connections...but without actually being in the spotlight. Littlefinger Lite, but without his one-itis for Catelyn Stark (I’m talkin’ about the show right now, in the book Littlefinger hasn’t folded like that...yet.) Perhaps Varys would be a more apt comparison.

At the end of the day you just gotta know people and bring a fun vibe...at least that’s what I’m telling myself. Gonna test out the model once I get my own spot.

Awww yes the infamous cool black guy game. Works like a charm, but it comes with some prereqs. The first being that you are a cool and charming black guy, no capping ass try-hards. Fucking with the really big fish requires a certain amount of financial investment on your part, genuine curiosity and humbleness. Quite frankly, this shit is like a first date except it requires a bit more understanding of the male psyche.

These cats will literally give you IOIs. Not flirting obviously, but may ask you what you're doing tonight even if they have some sexy ass lizard with them. They will almost always be older men looking to open(no homo) a younger hip and alpha looking dude. Given your build, they may assume you are an athlete and will ask if you're a pro. This brings me to my next point. They don't GENERALLY hang with the plebs or hoi polloi at Chilis or Applebees. They can be found at the most expensive hotel or hotels in your city(think rooms for $700 a night or at established brands like Ritz and W) if they are social or socialites and not fucking recluses.

I can make this a multi part guide at some point in time if you all really wanted a guide.

In my phone currently, I have the number of the dentist with the most popular practice in a certain medium sized city, the CEO of a venture capitalist IT firm, a guy with large and successful construction company in new york city that i suspect is a wiseguy aka in the mafia, and a london financier who has over 100 watches 20 cars and multiple homes. The financier was wearing a $70k Patek when i met him.

Last piece of advice. Be authentic, you can not and will not impress these guys. Remember they already showed interest in you why the fuck would you cede all that power back.

Post: #9688

In my previous post, I meant where I live good social circles are hard to find.
Toronto has many condos in the downtown area, the social environment in some of these buildings is off the chain.
I had a buddy who lived in of the most exclusive buildings, attached to the condo is also a boutique hotel. In the lobby there are some high end restaurants, plus a piano bar. As we all know, lavish surroundings like these always attract pretty young girls. We had some great times there to say the least.
As someone stated, the price to rent and buy in some of these condos prohibits average guys from living there.
Most landlords of course would rather rent to young girls, as opposed to men in general.

Post: #9689

(01-26-2019 01:00 PM)TheKongoEmpire Wrote:  

(01-25-2019 01:56 PM)azulsombra Wrote:  

(01-23-2019 06:52 AM)Mentavious Wrote:  Serious question

Why is Cartagena so popular among the black population? I went to Bogota and had a blast maybe 5-6 years ago but Carta seems to attract a large number of our brothers and sisters nowadays.

Cartagena is popular among blacks because it is the blackest part of Colombia that is accessible and has a beach. You know us African Americans LOVE the Caribbean and feel most comfortable there. It also has the longest tourist history in the country. Even 20 years ago when Colombia wasn't considered "safe" as a country, Cartagena still had tourism from cruises,etc.

Cali Colombia and the Pacific Coast also have a large Black population but it is one of the most dangerous and impoverished parts of the country. The infrastructure isn't there either so I don't expect that region to become a tourist destination anytime soon.

I don't know why you quoted me and bolded here.
This data doesn't contradict anything I stated.


What has your experience been in Colombia?

Post: #9690

azulsombra Wrote:I don't know why you quoted me and bolded here.
This data doesn't contradict anything I stated.


What has your experience been in Colombia?

It wasn't meant to.

As far as experience, being Haitian-American, when I go to Colombia, I make a b-line to the coast. Wherever I go, I don't do hotel, motels or hostels: AirBnB or apt rentals. I live in Orlando so why would I pay to go to another country and STILL be around tourists? Granted when I was in Colombian, EVERYONE thought I was Colombian so I never had an safety issues personally. I will admit I did take advantage of this fact coupled w/ following the g-code.

I've been to Carta, Cali (San Nicolas to Sucre to Aguablanca), Buenaventura and just came back from Quibdo for San Pacho after a month and felt very comfortable, being black n everything. I will admit it was somewhat different for me because I wasn't a tourist but more an a Pan-Afro traveler (being the forum black militant).

As far as the women, I'm going for the chocolate ones first—it's just in the DNA so the Pacific region is my spot. Blending in, I wasn't getting any extras looks except for my chain from Burkina Faso so that was an excellent icebreaker. And once they realized I wasn't Colombia, it was cake.

That pic I posted was how I made my travel plans. Don't get me wrong: I like Medellin, loved Cali better and would like to give Carta once more chance (MY GOD THAT HUMIDITY!) but my heart is in the coast with my people. There and only there will you'll see a very, VERY different Colombia. Some places reminded my Haiti lemmetellusumthin. Allow me to add that I've been to Tado and Tutunendo as well, them being in Choco. I'd like to go back sometime this year or next but gotta figure something out as I'd like to visit South Africa. You want to be around (and not just see) Afrikan people, the coast. There's a reason why they go to the major cities but that's a different convo for a different time (as if I really have to explain tho.)

Post: #9691

(01-27-2019 01:45 PM)TheKongoEmpire Wrote:  

azulsombra Wrote:I don't know why you quoted me and bolded here.
This data doesn't contradict anything I stated.


What has your experience been in Colombia?

It wasn't meant to.

As far as experience, being Haitian-American, when I go to Colombia, I make a b-line to the coast. Wherever I go, I don't do hotel, motels or hostels: AirBnB or apt rentals. I live in Orlando so why would I pay to go to another country and STILL be around tourists? Granted when I was in Colombian, EVERYONE thought I was Colombian so I never had an safety issues personally. I will admit I did take advantage of this fact coupled w/ following the g-code.

I've been to Carta, Cali (San Nicolas to Sucre to Aguablanca), Buenaventura and just came back from Quibdo for San Pacho after a month and felt very comfortable, being black n everything. I will admit it was somewhat different for me because I wasn't a tourist but more an a Pan-Afro traveler (being the forum black militant).

As far as the women, I'm going for the chocolate ones first—it's just in the DNA so the Pacific region is my spot. Blending in, I wasn't getting any extras looks except for my chain from Burkina Faso so that was an excellent icebreaker. And once they realized I wasn't Colombia, it was cake.

That pic I posted was how I made my travel plans. Don't get me wrong: I like Medellin, loved Cali better and would like to give Carta once more chance (MY GOD THAT HUMIDITY!) but my heart is in the coast with my people. There and only there will you'll see a very, VERY different Colombia. Some places reminded my Haiti lemmetellusumthin. Allow me to add that I've been to Tado and Tutunendo as well, them being in Choco. I'd like to go back sometime this year or next but gotta figure something out as I'd like to visit South Africa. You want to be around (and not just see) Afrikan people, the coast. There's a reason why they go to the major cities but that's a different convo for a different time (as if I really have to explain tho.)

Salute.

I've only scratched the surface in the Cali region. Great to hear your report.

Post: #9692

I know the cold has everyone offline! Don't worry, the weather will pick up soon. North America has been hit with a cold front! Any Valentine plans? It's a good time to pop some lizards, capitalise on the time frame!

Post: #9693

I’m at 3 notches for 2019 so far, my best start to the year ever.

I absolutely love the winter in NYC. I’ve been pushing the food angle and it’s been working phenomenally. My cost per bang is around $100-$150. Have been having a blast too.

I’ve set a goal of 2-3 notches every 3 months, and I’ve already hit that. So for February I want to settle down, readjust my resource profile towards investing in myself for a bit. So my Valentine’s Day plan is probably just take advantage of the last girl I notched.

Post: #9694

I'm avoiding the cold this year.

Been mostly beach dates with $1 40s and $2 packs of smokes.

Though one girl is trying to convince me to cop her an apartement so that is proly where my costs will average out.

Post: #9695

I honestly think OKCupid all those other "dating while not white" studies just serve to enforce the status quo. I'm not as active on online dating as I once was, but I'm still amazed at the range of women I've been able to attract-- women I never assumed would ever be interested in me. I'd argue that, provided you've built an attractive profile, brothers actually have MORE of a shot with a range of women, who can explore a range of men who wouldn't normally be on their radar/social circle. And contrary to popular belief, not all white women are going around assuming you're down. Sometimes they don't even think you'd be down and it's up to you to convince them. The whole experience, along with just improved confidence overall, has truly made me feel like I'm entitled to anyone. Might be a delusional belief but there you go.

Not cold where I am but it has been rainy. Has provided the opportunity to do straight to my apartment first dates where I cook and she brings wine. Can't complain at all.

Post: #9696

I was wondering what hairstyles do you brothers sport? I have been told that I looked mean and sexy with short haircut and nice with long hair.

Post: #9697

(02-04-2019 04:41 PM)Tanapiko Wrote:  I was wondering what hairstyles do you brothers sport? I have been told that I looked mean and sexy with short haircut and nice with long hair.

I have been going with a very short(damn near bald) haircut even all around and a full beard. I've had some success with that look, and the light gray showing in the beard has been more effective than the stray grays on top lol.

Post: #9698

Bald up top, clean shaven. Best results. But I tend to rock a hat as well

Post: #9699

Just pick a general pop culture stereotype and run with it. Just like with any style after a while you make it your own.

Big now are the curly top fade, bald plus beard, or low fade with part.

I'd put pictures but if you have seen any culture recently you know the looks.

Post: #9700

In London clubs lots of black and mixed kids with skin fades with disconnected top, with braids on top. Seems to have replaced that awful style with a high-top dip dyed blonde that was everywhere for the more extrovert types. I don't like it but I'm sure they're probably getting girls with it.

A classic skin fade still seems to be the go-to style though, but I'm seeing more skin tapers / temple fades around which have never really been very popular in the UK compared to normal fades.