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Female Typist Discovers New Form Of Rape
The 90's was full of girls who were "almost raped". Early 2000's girls got bored of that fad, so kicked off the funky new trend for imaginary rape.
But what do you do if you're a female typist who needs attention, but is too lazy to go to the trouble of inventing a story about a fraternity rapeathon or a college Republican called "Barry"?
Ladies, you're in luck! Now you can be "sort-of" raped.
Why, it's the Diet Coke of rape!
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree...p-with-him
Quote:My boyfriend 'sort-of' raped me. But I didn't break up with him
- Monica Tan
Some will be eager to tell me what happened was most definitely rape. Others will say I’m crazy to even compare it. And that’s why we need to talk about it
Everyone! Drop what you're doing and talk about Monica!
Quote:This is not my story of rape. But it is a story with rape-ish qualities.
Quote:The man and I had been fighting. We fought and then we made love,
Hamsterese-to-English translation: our fighting made me wet, so we hate-fucked.
Quote:and as we did he said, “I want to come inside of you.” This was not dirty talk – it was a proposal. I told him not to, I didn’t want him to.
When he finished he said, “I did it, I came inside of you!” Then added, “fuck you” sticking his middle finger up at me. His face, pink with a slick of sweat, was full of fury and glee.
I don’t know how to write what happened next without sounding pathetic. All I will say is that it was an automatic reaction. It came on without consideration. I burst into tears. I ran into the shower, crying and said over and over again, “get it out of me”.
That’s the most violent bit of the story. I call what he did “rape-like”. He called it “pushing my boundaries”. You say tomato, I say sexual assault.
She was "sexually assaulted" but didn't go to the police.
Quote:Everything else is messy. I didn’t even break up with him afterwards. Even though we’d only been dating for a couple of months and fought all the time. He drank a bottle of wine a day, talked about how much he loved my vagina in public, and was plagued with mental ghosts that tortured him but, apparently, also bestowed him the ability to change people’s energies.
None of that bothered me. I have a high tolerance for weirdness. He was under my skin. It was intoxicating to feel like a pinch of salt dissolved in his black, turbulent seas.
Hamsterese-to-English translation: she loved his alpha badboy game and the drama it supplied.
Quote:Eventually, he broke up with me. He resented how I reacted to his “boundary pushing” – said it made him feel like a rapist. And held up the fact I didn’t want him to come inside of me (I wasn’t on the pill) as evidence I didn’t really love him.
The trauma of being sort-of raped evaporated fairly quickly. I don’t feel like what happened was rape, or that I’m a rape victim. On the scale of sexual assault this incident, for me, lies halfway between a stolen kiss on the cheek and a full-blown rape. They are all different kinds of assault, but connected.
It would be easy to efficiently cut him down with the word “rapist”, particularly when I will not face any reprimands for my own imperfect behaviour during the relationship.
What the fuck is this? A glimmer of self-awareness?
Quote:But in fact I have nothing but compassion for my sort-of rapist,
Phew. Self-awareness averted.
Quote:the same kind I reserve for every miserable man, woman and dog on this planet.
It was not rape, but my reaction was too involuntary, and its intensity too high, to say that nothing bad happened. Something happened. And it had the whiff of rape.
Quote:I suspect many of you reading this will be eager to tell me what happened.
“That was most definitely rape.”
“How can you even consider that close to rape?”
(Insert poll here.)
I will be the first to admit that previously in 2010, when two Swedish women accused Julian Assange of rape and sexual molestation – specifically that consensual sex turned into non-consensual sex without a condom – it raised two warring impulses in me: a default sympathy for sexual-assault victims, and an instinct that Assange sits at the center of an international conspiracy witch hunt.
Rape is a legal term: “unlawful sexual intercourse without consent of the victim”. But such incisive language belies real life, and doesn’t help us talk about all this. Life exists in the noisy grey bits between a “no” and full, enthusiastic consent.
The Swedish courts may eventually decide whether in the eyes of the law Assange is a rapist, if they ever get their hands on him.
But we should not allow the justice system alone to clearly delineate for us what makes a rapist and what makes, let’s say, a garden-variety dickhead.
Indeed not. Who needs laws and evidence when we can decide these things through gossiping on the internet, years after the alleged event?
Miss Tan offers no suggestions, solutions, or useful information of any kind. She doesn't name her sort-of rapist. She doesn't say what she should have done differently. She doesn't advise women who believe they've been sexually assaulted to file a police report as soon as possible, when the law might be able to do something about it.
But guys, the sort-of rape itself isn't the focus here.
This isn't about Monica Tan's sort-of rape or even sort-of rape in general. It's about the addiction girls have to attention, sympathy, and drama.
This is about her, her, her!.
Quote:Particularly when the outcome of not being able to talk about sort-of rapes is that, in reality, it ends up giving the perpetrators of lesser sexual offences a free pass.
Quote:There is nothing more dangerous than shutting down public debate around sexual assault and domestic violence with a dismissive “lock the perpetrators up and throw away the key”. Such violence is rife in our society – in many shapes and guises – and any hope for change demands we face this ordinary thing squarely in the eye, and find better ways to talk about it, as troubling and deeply uncomfortable as that process is.
Now that I’ve taken a small sip at the cup of rape,
Tastes like Rohypnol
Quote: I understand just how terrible it is to have another human being rob me of agency, and mark my body as their domain. It has taught me to look beyond troubled legal definitions of “rape” and instead focus on how victims feel.
Quote: Also it has made me seek to understand better the complications behind that very difficult question: what motivates the perpetrators?
Pussy. Next question.
Would not sort-of rape
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RE: Female Typist Discovers New Form Of Rape
To be honest, I wouldn't say that this is a rape case at all, but telling a girl you're going to nut in her, her telling you not to, and doing it anyways is pretty shitty. Not worth writing this article for or trying to elicit sympathy over via mass media, but it seems like it would cause a lot of anguish, especially if the girl isn't on BC.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know; she should have made the guy wear a condom, but saying no and then the guy doing it anyways is just a dick (pun INTENDED!!!) move.
Make his knuckles bleed...
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Atlanta Man
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RE: Female Typist Discovers New Form Of Rape
(03-06-2015 11:34 AM)SteveMcMahon Wrote: The 90's was full of girls who were "almost raped". Early 2000's girls got bored of that fad, so kicked off the funky new trend for imaginary rape.
But what do you do if you're a female typist who needs attention, but is too lazy to go to the trouble of inventing a story about a fraternity rapeathon or a college Republican called "Barry"?
Ladies, you're in luck! Now you can be "sort-of" raped.
Why, it's the Diet Coke of rape!
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree...p-with-him
Quote:My boyfriend 'sort-of' raped me. But I didn't break up with him
- Monica Tan
Some will be eager to tell me what happened was most definitely rape. Others will say I’m crazy to even compare it. And that’s why we need to talk about it
Everyone! Drop what you're doing and talk about Monica!
![[Image: ii7r9.jpg]](https://i.imgflip.com/ii7r9.jpg)
Quote:This is not my story of rape. But it is a story with rape-ish qualities.
![[Image: ii8t5.jpg]](https://i.imgflip.com/ii8t5.jpg)
Quote:The man and I had been fighting. We fought and then we made love,
Hamsterese-to-English translation: our fighting made me wet, so we hate-fucked.
Quote:and as we did he said, “I want to come inside of you.” This was not dirty talk – it was a proposal. I told him not to, I didn’t want him to.
When he finished he said, “I did it, I came inside of you!” Then added, “fuck you” sticking his middle finger up at me. His face, pink with a slick of sweat, was full of fury and glee.
I don’t know how to write what happened next without sounding pathetic. All I will say is that it was an automatic reaction. It came on without consideration. I burst into tears. I ran into the shower, crying and said over and over again, “get it out of me”.
That’s the most violent bit of the story. I call what he did “rape-like”. He called it “pushing my boundaries”. You say tomato, I say sexual assault.
She was "sexually assaulted" but didn't go to the police.
![[Image: a7779697a2a1362680a9_500x574.jpg]](http://s3.postimg.org/ecf0ukn1f/a7779697a2a1362680a9_500x574.jpg)
Quote:Everything else is messy. I didn’t even break up with him afterwards. Even though we’d only been dating for a couple of months and fought all the time. He drank a bottle of wine a day, talked about how much he loved my vagina in public, and was plagued with mental ghosts that tortured him but, apparently, also bestowed him the ability to change people’s energies.
None of that bothered me. I have a high tolerance for weirdness. He was under my skin. It was intoxicating to feel like a pinch of salt dissolved in his black, turbulent seas.
Hamsterese-to-English translation: she loved his alpha badboy game and the drama it supplied.
Quote:Eventually, he broke up with me. He resented how I reacted to his “boundary pushing” – said it made him feel like a rapist. And held up the fact I didn’t want him to come inside of me (I wasn’t on the pill) as evidence I didn’t really love him.
The trauma of being sort-of raped evaporated fairly quickly. I don’t feel like what happened was rape, or that I’m a rape victim. On the scale of sexual assault this incident, for me, lies halfway between a stolen kiss on the cheek and a full-blown rape. They are all different kinds of assault, but connected.
It would be easy to efficiently cut him down with the word “rapist”, particularly when I will not face any reprimands for my own imperfect behaviour during the relationship.
What the fuck is this? A glimmer of self-awareness?
Quote:But in fact I have nothing but compassion for my sort-of rapist,
Phew. Self-awareness averted.
![[Image: delusional2.jpg]](http://s2.postimg.org/r1k0k8wnt/delusional2.jpg)
Quote:the same kind I reserve for every miserable man, woman and dog on this planet.
It was not rape, but my reaction was too involuntary, and its intensity too high, to say that nothing bad happened. Something happened. And it had the whiff of rape.
![[Image: c17071d4c09814be4e215bea6fdee068ebb76f56...6b84fe.jpg]](http://m.quickmeme.com/img/c1/c17071d4c09814be4e215bea6fdee068ebb76f5634d00c132a9370f43f6b84fe.jpg)
Quote:I suspect many of you reading this will be eager to tell me what happened.
“That was most definitely rape.”
“How can you even consider that close to rape?”
(Insert poll here.)
I will be the first to admit that previously in 2010, when two Swedish women accused Julian Assange of rape and sexual molestation – specifically that consensual sex turned into non-consensual sex without a condom – it raised two warring impulses in me: a default sympathy for sexual-assault victims, and an instinct that Assange sits at the center of an international conspiracy witch hunt.
Rape is a legal term: “unlawful sexual intercourse without consent of the victim”. But such incisive language belies real life, and doesn’t help us talk about all this. Life exists in the noisy grey bits between a “no” and full, enthusiastic consent.
The Swedish courts may eventually decide whether in the eyes of the law Assange is a rapist, if they ever get their hands on him.
But we should not allow the justice system alone to clearly delineate for us what makes a rapist and what makes, let’s say, a garden-variety dickhead.
Indeed not. Who needs laws and evidence when we can decide these things through gossiping on the internet, years after the alleged event?
Miss Tan offers no suggestions, solutions, or useful information of any kind. She doesn't name her sort-of rapist. She doesn't say what she should have done differently. She doesn't advise women who believe they've been sexually assaulted to file a police report as soon as possible, when the law might be able to do something about it.
But guys, the sort-of rape itself isn't the focus here.
This isn't about Monica Tan's sort-of rape or even sort-of rape in general. It's about the addiction girls have to attention, sympathy, and drama.
This is about her, her, her!.
![[Image: 5361776e312217020cdf53cda86c7cb2.jpg]](http://s30.postimg.org/3n9zmglzl/5361776e312217020cdf53cda86c7cb2.jpg)
Quote:Particularly when the outcome of not being able to talk about sort-of rapes is that, in reality, it ends up giving the perpetrators of lesser sexual offences a free pass.
![[Image: iic76.jpg]](https://i.imgflip.com/iic76.jpg)
Quote:There is nothing more dangerous than shutting down public debate around sexual assault and domestic violence with a dismissive “lock the perpetrators up and throw away the key”. Such violence is rife in our society – in many shapes and guises – and any hope for change demands we face this ordinary thing squarely in the eye, and find better ways to talk about it, as troubling and deeply uncomfortable as that process is.
Now that I’ve taken a small sip at the cup of rape,
![[Image: RapeSoda.png~320x480]](http://rs704.pbsrc.com/albums/ww45/MajorVictory87/Random/RapeSoda.png~320x480)
Tastes like Rohypnol
Quote: I understand just how terrible it is to have another human being rob me of agency, and mark my body as their domain. It has taught me to look beyond troubled legal definitions of “rape” and instead focus on how victims feel.
![[Image: 4Ao5We2.jpg]](http://i.imgur.com/4Ao5We2.jpg)
Quote: Also it has made me seek to understand better the complications behind that very difficult question: what motivates the perpetrators?
Pussy. Next question.
![[Image: a_F_QCWk_Y_1.jpg]](http://s9.postimg.org/kco2b9t3z/a_F_QCWk_Y_1.jpg)
Would not sort-of rape
This bitches mental acrobatics are scary....
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RE: Female Typist Discovers New Form Of Rape
(03-06-2015 02:54 PM)Atlanta Man Wrote: This bitches mental acrobatics are scary....
Did you really just quote all of that post just for a one-line reply?
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