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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
(10-17-2015 02:37 PM)_GQ_ Wrote:  Phase 7:

Victory; you've found what you were looking for all along.

I like GQ's ending the most.
10-18-2015 11:01 AM
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Great post. I'm personally around that 6-7 Range at the moment. Had 3 ladies approach me lastnight at the bar and I couldn't of cared less about smashing them. I'm often daydreaming and researching about various types of online businesses.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
I have no idea what phase I'm at. I'm not a master player by any means. In fact I would consider myself very average BUT…

…Getting women has become easy. When I read their text messages they sound just like me eight years ago. Needy. Pathetic. Weak.

I still love sex but the pay off doesn't seem worth it. With some of the girls I'm down right moody. Absent. Quiet and still it doesn't matter. Ten years ago I couldn't get a land whale to smile. I wouldn't even know how to tell my former self how or what I do now...

In all honesty… Where ever I'm at now just makes me sad. Often times everything they say seems cliche and repetitive. Most of my time is spent building my own legacy. Working on my passion. Women attract so little of my time BUT...

…The great irony is that deep down: I think I'm building this legacy for a woman. A fictional person with virtues. With honour. It's not logical but it's there. Perhaps it's in my DNA. I just don't know.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Phase 6 is a weird phenomenon. The courtship, flirting, purposely spacing out texts, I can barely be bothered with it anymore.

Approaching can feel like a hassle, like I'm above doing it anymore (obviously no one is). I do them to keep my ego in check and not get too comfortable with my rotation girls.

I only want to put in work/have sex when I'm horny and have free time. There seems to be a million things more important than having meaningless sex with strangers when I already have 2-3 chicks a phone call away - sigh.

Can't beleive it's been four years since I've found the forum.
10-19-2015 09:53 AM
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I think the life of a player can become like anything else in life you dedicate a lot of time to and can begin to master.

The previous excitement, anticipation, and energy you had to conquer your goals becomes to feel like a chore that you dread doing instead.

This is why it's important to take breaks from the life of being a player and focus on something more meaningful. After that you can come back fresh and hungry to slay some new girls.
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Phase 7, half of Asia is your bloodline

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10-19-2015 11:37 AM
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Phase 7 for me is still love sex, but can't stomach games anymore.

This drives me towards medium term relationships with girls who put out early when I make a move on them. Close quickly and keep them around for 6-18 months until something ruins the relationship. Still don't care about any of the legacy crap.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
When I first joined the forum I was really into game neck deep. I saw debates on these phases in different ways often times Money vs. Women/Game. Game vs. Lifestyle. Active Game vs. Passive Game.

Posters like Gmanifesto, West Coast, and MikeCF who don't post here anymore which I was sad to see them leave but I can see what is common.

Once you reach a level of confidence in your game where you understand it and accept that you can be successful if you put in the effort, you can then think forward. To maximize your life and consequently your game there really is a much bigger focus on lifestyle and money once you reach this baseline of confidence and kill your ego.

This is true especially as you age out of what most young women find physically attractive (somewhere in the early 40's for the vast majority of men) - you better have your lifestyle and money (freedom) together to maximize your potential whether it is to bang woman or have a family. Both when you are older would be hell if you don't have this in the highest order you can.

I've reached a phase where I think about this a lot and know that at this point that side of me needs a hell of a lot more work than my game side. Also it is much harder to achieve than flying to X country and banging some girls or just simply dressing up going out 3 nights week and so on.

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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
I'm in phase 6...
Only 19 (upcoming b-day)
...Fuck Feminism.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
(10-17-2015 11:13 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  ... I bet you need a good blowjob!" You're not all that interested..

Sorry, you lost me here.

Just kidding. Great post. I think I'm also at the sixth stage. For the first time, I had a girl trying to go on a date with me and I just texted her saying that I didn't think I was up for it. I don't really feel any big pull to go on dates and try to seduce new girls or to go out at night and try to bring random girls home.

I still wouldn't mind getting a new flag or new notch once in a while, but I don't really commit much time or resources to the pursuit of new girls. This year will be about making money and lifting weights.

I would also suggest that there is probably a stage 1.5. Stage 1 is girls are a mystery and aren't attracted to me. Stage 1.5 is you get a little bit of luck here and there.. A girlfriend or two through social circles.. but still a bit of envy when you hear about guys who can bring girls home from parties and fuck them the same night. I spent a lot of time in stage 1.5 -- not total sexual frustration/failure, but not using game either -- before I finally found game about 5-6 years ago.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Phase 7.

You start to get into business because making money is harder than gaming women.
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(10-17-2015 04:49 PM)Gmac Wrote:  WIA, the wisdom in your posts never ceases to amaze me. This is the dilemma I'm beginning to face myself.

For men, we understand that there is no happy ending or happily ever after.

You can't believe in fairy tales and call yourself a man, in fact recognizing your own imperfection and accepting your own mortality is part of becoming a man.

You live, you work, you try to enjoy life, you try to make your mark on your world before you leave it.

That legacy might be a project, a movement, an influence on others, or your children.

We instinctively want to pass something along, make a difference, and feel as though we did achieved something lasting on this earth.

The women in your life will either be a part of that journey or barely a blip on the radar.

The rest is up to you.

I wish I had learned that earlier in life.

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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Phase 7: You've learned to entertain yourself without expecting anything from anyone including random women you meet [flaking? pff.. who cares] so you're good whatever happens but the best part is that because you express yourself more honestly about who you are you tend to attract and hang out with people you click with [almost everyone I talked to enough knows what kind of women I like and what type of person I naturally gravitate to].
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(10-17-2015 11:13 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  Phase 6: You start to get more interested in philosophy, weight lifting, and making money. You find that you ignore a lot of the texts women send you like "Can we hang out tonight?" or "Are you mad at me?". This true aloofness ironically has the affect of making women more into you. The women you used to chase now send you messages like "Where you have been? I bet you need a good blowjob!" You're not all that interested, because they all say the same shit, respond to the same things, and often their drama outweighs your need for physical affection. While you like the physical pleasure of bangs, you start to find that women are petty, boring, and vapid. You know that you could still pull poon on the regular, but it's so much effort with little return. In addition, banging enough women and reading game has left you jaded when it comes to the "fairer" sex, and you have serious reservations about the future of society. Chasing women is no longer a fun sport, but something that is more of a sad necessity. Most nights you would rather be playing video games and reading than spending your time with women, even if you know the result is going to be sex.



Phase 6 sounds shitty. Anyway to just be in phase 5?
11-22-2015 05:37 PM
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haha! thats a thought.
(11-22-2015 05:37 PM)The Wire Wrote:  
(10-17-2015 11:13 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  Phase 6: You start to get more interested in philosophy, weight lifting, and making money. You find that you ignore a lot of the texts women send you like "Can we hang out tonight?" or "Are you mad at me?". This true aloofness ironically has the affect of making women more into you. The women you used to chase now send you messages like "Where you have been? I bet you need a good blowjob!" You're not all that interested, because they all say the same shit, respond to the same things, and often their drama outweighs your need for physical affection. While you like the physical pleasure of bangs, you start to find that women are petty, boring, and vapid. You know that you could still pull poon on the regular, but it's so much effort with little return. In addition, banging enough women and reading game has left you jaded when it comes to the "fairer" sex, and you have serious reservations about the future of society. Chasing women is no longer a fun sport, but something that is more of a sad necessity. Most nights you would rather be playing video games and reading than spending your time with women, even if you know the result is going to be sex.



Phase 6 sounds shitty. Anyway to just be in phase 5?

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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Sigh, full on phase 6. I've even reverted!

I know all of the rules, tricks, and clever things but dang I just lost the energy associated with it all. It's like the second I left college and started weight lifting I just lost the energy to pull off what I used to do.

I need to get back into a big city.
11-23-2015 06:08 AM
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Honestly I think the gap between 5-6 is a big one. When you start thinking about bigger things, your mind is less on girls and you might feel like you are walking backwards. Hell my skills are going down even but when we go out we can quickly get them back and relearn.

I feel like regressed unite a bit. See going out as "having a good time and not worrying" but in all honesty I think it is just self validation for not taking action. It seems to be cyclical. You start going out again and those behaviours that are attractive start to become part of you naturally.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Is there a stage where you start to forget girls who you already banged? I do this sometimes. This isn't supposed to be a brag. It can actually be quite embarrassing.

Case in point:

Invited out a Thai girl from my phone who I didn't close last Thailand trip...or so I thought.

She was acting pissed with me in the messages.

After a bit of back and forth, she said "We already had sex twice and now you want to see me again 6 months later? You obviously don't want to be my BF so why should we meet again?". She sent photos (nice juicy rack, pretty cute face). No recollection!

I'm not sure if we really banged and I forgot or if she is just slutty. But then again, this has happened to me a few times before.

In bar (or wherever). Girl comes up with a big smile.

"Hi!" (wow this cute girl has opened me!)
"Hey. What's your name?"
"...You have got to be kidding me right?"

Playa life or dementia? You decide! Laugh

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^^^^

I've had the same thing happen before but not necessarily to the same level you have. I forget the names of girls I've banged all the time. Still remember the faces but the names will slip my mind. If I ever see them again I just make sure to call them baby. I've been called out on forgetting their names before though.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
I`m in the phase 7, what comes next? lol
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Eventually you bang every archetype of women out there, there aren't that many.

Eventually you satisfy all the carnal desires.

Eventually you know that if the girl you've got now goes away for some reason you can have another in her place with little effort, even if you haven't been keeping up the pipeline.

For me, the void inside was filled. Whether it was the women, the sex or other factors that did it, I'm not sure.

Eventually, there is little stress around sex, women, or relationships.

Game / lifestyle improvement is part of a larger process.

Self actualization, physical fitness, caring for ones self is first.

Then you can take care of a relationship or family.

Then you look to your community, maybe your nation and possibly the world.

That is where the fully self actualized man makes his mark, and in that order.

Eventually, improving yourself and game and bedding women becomes only a fraction of the larger cause.

Its an interesting phenomenon: expertise and mastery of the subject renders it less meaningful in many ways.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Bumping this YUUUGE thread.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
I posted mine there : https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-58637.html

So you can compare each experience.
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RE: The 6 Phases of Being a Player
Am I the only phase shifter?

Things are not set in stone and at times under influence of some factors you might drop back few phases yet the same day feel like a god on a phase 10.
This happens a lot when you daygame. Emotional roller coaster.

I would say I am generally on the phase 6 now. But mine is a bit different. I became proficient with my game, I get girls when I want them. But I am not yet jaded, I fuck girls, this keeps me happy, I am not bored. But recently I started spending less time on women. I am devoting more time to learn e-commerce, real estate investing, learning languages and working out.

Here is another look on phases.

1. Romantics phase - women are goddesses.
2. Confused phase - is this game even real?
3. Going out phase. Nightgame
4. Getting results
5. Getting approval from peers.
6. Starting daygame. Drop back to phase 3, going out phase.
7. Getting daygame results
8. Getting approval.
9. Consistency phase. Your results finally match your desires.
10. Is this it? Phase?
11. Looking for more phase. Looking for hotter, younger, tighter? Looking for perfect relationship material girl.
(from here on comes fiction, not how it is but how I dream it should be)
12. Dating the perfect girl.
13. Making the perfect girl agree with the man's nature to spread the seed and agree for your needs to fuck other women once in a while.
14. Children without marriage.
15. Death of age with a smile on your face.

Phase 7 for me. Halfway there.
Anyone over phase 15? Big Grin

What a lot of people posted in this thread pretty much coincides with Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s...y_of_needs
At first there is a need to satisfy the physical need to have sex at the end it is self actualization through doing something meaningful in life.
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(10-17-2015 11:13 AM)HankMoody Wrote:  Phase 6: You start to get more interested in philosophy, weight lifting, and making money. You find that you ignore a lot of the texts women send you like "Can we hang out tonight?" or "Are you mad at me?". This true aloofness ironically has the affect of making women more into you. The women you used to chase now send you messages like "Where you have been? I bet you need a good blowjob!" You're not all that interested, because they all say the same shit, respond to the same things, and often their drama outweighs your need for physical affection. While you like the physical pleasure of bangs, you start to find that women are petty, boring, and vapid. You know that you could still pull poon on the regular, but it's so much effort with little return. In addition, banging enough women and reading game has left you jaded when it comes to the "fairer" sex, and you have serious reservations about the future of society. Chasing women is no longer a fun sport, but something that is more of a sad necessity. Most nights you would rather be playing video games and reading than spending your time with women, even if you know the result is going to be sex.

Play on, player.
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