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A (little) hair problem that has had negative consequences on my confidence
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A (little) hair problem that has had negative consequences on my confidence
I have this weird problem with my hair that is pretty hard to explain in text form without photo's but I will try:

At two sides on my forehead my hair keeps extending/growing which is visible when I let it grow too much, people say it often looks like a bruise. I used to get laughed at for that reason so I began to cut it off obsessively and as a consequence I rarely get remarks about it anymore. Most people don't notice it anymore but the problem is still there because I need to cut it off frequently so that people don't see it. If I let it grow the same problem will arise again.

It hurt my confidence pretty hard and my social skills/approach anxiety suffered a lot from it. It's hard for me to look in the mirror and it's still hard for me to do that in the gym because it's very visible when I look at the mirror and it looks ridiculous.

I don't know how to solve it and I have been having this problem for 2, 3 years... At one side I let it grow and now it's less visible but it's now like a hair "strip" that is segregated/seperated from the rest of my hair.

I know it probably sounds weird and you can't really understand it so I wonder if there are any hair specialists that I can send my photos to so they can advise me? I really want to get rid of it.

I know it sounds irrational but it would help me tremendously and it would remove a lot of approach anxiety problems. In the meantime, until the problem is solved I will try to "own it" like they say around these corners of the internet.

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12-30-2015 06:33 AM
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Laser treatment?
12-30-2015 06:36 AM
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RE: A (little) hair problem that has had negative consequences on my confidence
Can't you sport a crew cut (or butch cut) all year round, so it'd be impossible to notice any difference in your hair growth?

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12-30-2015 06:42 AM
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RE: A (little) hair problem that has had negative consequences on my confidence
Just walk into the gayest hair salon you can find, ask them for the gayest hairdresser they have, and describe the problem. Guaranteed he'll have some solution.
12-30-2015 07:17 AM
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I don't understand exactly what you are saying. Do you mean that you have black hair, and that on the sides of your forehead, it gives off a bluish tinge that is almost like a bruise?

Anyway, if you're not willing to share pictures, find a more flamboyant hair salon, like Phoenix recommends, and find a man to fix your hair for you. It sounds like it just needs a local dye job.

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12-30-2015 10:36 AM
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(12-30-2015 10:36 AM)Thomas the Rhymer Wrote:  I don't understand exactly what you are saying. Do you mean that you have black hair, and that on the sides of your forehead, it gives off a bluish tinge that is almost like a bruise?

Anyway, if you're not willing to share pictures, find a more flamboyant hair salon, like Phoenix recommends, and find a man to fix your hair for you. It sounds like it just needs a local dye job.
I am willing to share pics but only via PM.

The hair is located at the right side of my forehead like with this girl:
[Image: 6rmSGbW.jpg]

This picture kinda shows how it looks like when I let it grow for a few weeks/months (it's exactly at that place that it grows on my forehead actually):
[Image: E95CYHQ.jpg]

It's probably a bit amateur-ish but this imitates it the best I think.
12-30-2015 12:39 PM
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Yeah sounds like you should talk to a laser hair removal guy, that might be what you're looking for.

Also, have you tried the bangs/fringe hairstyle? That would cover that.
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12-30-2015 12:44 PM
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I would recommend booking an appointment with a dermatologist. They would be able to advise you of all of your options including laser hair removal. Also, not sure of your age but it never hurts to have a yearly full body skin check for skin cancer. You can kill two birds with one stone that way.
12-30-2015 01:25 PM
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(12-30-2015 01:25 PM)OregonToSoCal Wrote:  I would recommend booking an appointment with a dermatologist. They would be able to advise you of all of your options including laser hair removal. Also, not sure of your age but it never hurts to have a yearly full body skin check for skin cancer. You can kill two birds with one stone that way.

I agree with the dermatologist recommendation re: skin cancer, but it's been my experience that MDs who don't work in cosmetic dermatology are not particularly sympathetic to concerns which are essentially cosmetic in nature. Years of seeing people suffer and die from malignant melanoma tends to make them jaded about things. And they're often not up to speed about the latest cosmetic treatments available.

IMO for a cosmetic issue one should see a derm specializing in that field, or an aesthetician.
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12-30-2015 02:47 PM
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At least it's not hair loss. Be glad
12-30-2015 03:36 PM
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If this post is serious (and with a handle like RacoonFace, I question it), here is my advice: Find a dermatologist and get laser hair removal.

Laser removal is safe and effective.* I had a black Italian-American beard that was way too thick, so I always looked like I needed a shave. I had it thinned out. I also had the mustache part "taken down," meaning instead of it looking "big," like Cheech from Cheech and Chong, it's now a thinner, smaller mustache.

I also got the physician's assistant to prescribe me pain pills that I could take before each treatment to reduce the discomfort. It turned out great -- I'd go in stoned and have good ol' time.

But I digress. The end result was a beard that now looks as refined as when I first started seriously having to shave at around 16.

I can't understand why people would go for waxing, cutting, or bleaching which seems expensive and time-consuming. Just get laser, which is permanent.

* If done in a doctor's office. Don't go to a salon or someplace like that, even if it's a bit cheaper. You need someone who knows what they're doing.
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12-30-2015 03:52 PM
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(12-30-2015 03:52 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:  If this post is serious (and with a handle like RacoonFace, I question it), here is my advice: Find a dermatologist and get laser hair removal.

Laser removal is safe and effective.* I had a black Italian-American beard that was way too thick, so I always looked like I needed a shave. I had it thinned out. I also had the mustache part "taken down," meaning instead of it looking "big," like Cheech from Cheech and Chong, it's now a thinner, smaller mustache.

I also got the physician's assistant to prescribe me pain pills that I could take before each treatment to reduce the discomfort. It turned out great -- I'd go in stoned and have good ol' time.

But I digress. The end result was a beard that now looks as refined as when I first started seriously having to shave at around 16.

I can't understand why people would go for waxing, cutting, or bleaching which seems expensive and time-consuming. Just get laser, which is permanent.

* If done in a doctor's office. Don't go to a salon or someplace like that, even if it's a bit cheaper. You need someone who knows what they're doing.
I am completely serious (my nickname is a reference to a hip hop artist). I can send photos if you want that, that would actually be a good idea.

Thanks for all the advice in this thread, I will consider all options and I will call a dermatologist tomorrow.
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12-30-2015 04:37 PM
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If only somebody invented some sort of electro-mechanical contraption that could be used at home to keep hair at a desired length...

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12-30-2015 06:46 PM
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(12-30-2015 03:36 PM)brick tamland Wrote:  At least it's not hair loss. Be glad

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002VLZ...1_1&sr=8-1

http://www.amazon.com/Hollywood-Gadgets-...dark+brown

It's working for me until if and when I decide to go with a hair transplant. I have some frontal "diffuse" thinning, but I'm getting some regrowth with the medication, and I spend about 5 minutes in the morning brushing in a little concealer.

I have a buzz cut and it looks exactly like I have a full head of hair, even on close inspection. The concealer stays on incredibly well - I've even had girls "wiffle" my head and they don't notice a thing.

I sometimes forget I have hair loss at all. A low tech solution that works amazingly well - that product gets a ton of good reviews for a reason.
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12-31-2015 01:20 PM
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