Read The Forum Rules: We have a clear set of rules to keep the forum running smoothly. Click here to review them.

Post Reply 
How to build a social network from scratch?
Author Message
Iso Offline
Kingfisher
***

Posts: 513
Joined: Mar 2015
Reputation: 7
Post: #1
How to build a social network from scratch?
How would you go about building an extensive social network when all you have is a few acquaintances. Assume you are in the metro area of a major city. 20's post-college. How would you go about building your circle. I want to have 10+ people hitting me up each friday night for my plans. Is that possible in 1 year time?
12-30-2015 05:47 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Sidney Crosby Offline
Banned

Posts: 2,231
Joined: Jun 2014
Post: #2
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Join a beer league sports team.

Hockey
Basketball
Soccer
Volleyball
Softball (mixed), lots of single girls playing or at least hanging around.

Something like that, or maybe a country club type thing. It's pretty easy to get to know people through an activity like that because you have something in common, next thing you know you are all going out for something to eat/drinks.
(This post was last modified: 12-30-2015 06:34 PM by Sidney Crosby.)
12-30-2015 06:33 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes Sidney Crosby's post:
Vice
LouEvilSlugger Offline
Woodpecker
**

Posts: 445
Joined: Aug 2014
Reputation: 6
Post: #3
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Start yoga or volunteer at Greenpeace or the Red Cross, those non-profits are over 80% women.
12-30-2015 06:35 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
nmmoooreland20 Offline
Woodpecker
**

Posts: 371
Joined: Apr 2011
Reputation: 5
Post: #4
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Check out member DistantLight's writing. He breaks it down (though geared towards the nightlife lifestyle).

http://10lifestyle.com
12-30-2015 06:47 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes nmmoooreland20's post:
Vice
Hannibal Offline
Ostrich
****
Gold Member

Posts: 1,972
Joined: May 2012
Reputation: 52
Post: #5
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Get a badass bicycle and join a cycling club.

Join a bouldering gym.

Learn how to box.

Get into a shooting club.

Find a rowing team.

Get into a poker league, a pool hall, maybe even a dart tournament.

Do yoga. Try out some frufru shit like pottery or cooking classes. Join a dance club.

Volunteer at a nonprofit that isn't full of former drug addicts.

If you want to get real creative you could form your own Barstar club at the local park and post videos all over the Internet of you doing flips and shit.
12-31-2015 03:34 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 2 users Like Hannibal's post:
Vice, Matrixdude
N°6 Offline
Ostrich
****

Posts: 2,598
Joined: Jun 2013
Reputation: 26
Post: #6
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
After a break up and moving to a city where I've no background, 2015 was a lone wolf year for me. Will be following this thread.

I'm planning to use Meet Up more.
12-31-2015 03:51 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Khan Offline
Kingfisher
***
Gold Member

Posts: 521
Joined: Oct 2015
Reputation: 11
Post: #7
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Join a ballroom dancing class. If you hit it off with people, you'll have company for hitting the clubs and going to dance parties.
12-31-2015 03:57 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
MikeS Offline
Pelican
****

Posts: 1,461
Joined: Aug 2014
Reputation: 8
Post: #8
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
I'm finding this much harder as I've gotten older (I'm 39 now). I've always been an introvert but never had any problems socializing when I do find myself in company, and when I was younger friends and acquaintances pretty much came automatically from primarily school/university and sometimes sports.

Making new friends is a lot more difficult for me now (and when I do I find friendships are often more difficult to hang on to at this age) - I'm working from home so no work buddies, don't care for team sports (weighing my other sports options, aside from the gym, at the moment, but not yet speaking the local language beyond the basics can get in the way where class instructions are a part of it), and I rarely drink anymore so posting up in a bar on a regular basis is not something I'm interested in.
I've gone to a handful of Meetups the last few months, but most groups in this city are inactive or very small, and so far I haven't met anyone there I felt I had enough in common with to want to hang out with elsewhere.
(This post was last modified: 12-31-2015 06:44 AM by MikeS.)
12-31-2015 06:43 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
h3ltrsk3ltr Offline
Kingfisher
***
Gold Member

Posts: 942
Joined: Jun 2014
Reputation: 29
Post: #9
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Meet up with other forum members.

And use grammar.

Per Ardua Ad Astra | "I have come here to chew bubblegum and kick ass. And I'm all out of bubblegum"

Cobra and I did some awesome podcasts with awesome fellow members.
12-31-2015 10:21 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 3 users Like h3ltrsk3ltr's post:
Seth_Rose, Yeti, Cobra
Seth_Rose Offline
Pelican
****
Gold Member

Posts: 1,146
Joined: May 2013
Reputation: 29
Post: #10
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
^^^This.

Start a tribal meetup, seeing as you live in a major city. You'd be surprised (or maybe not) at the quality of guys who read and post on this forum.

Blog - Twitter
12-31-2015 10:27 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes Seth_Rose's post:
Yeti
FunkCoup Offline
Sparrow

Posts: 60
Joined: Aug 2015
Reputation: 0
Post: #11
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
Building a social circle in a year's time is very doable.

The thing is, you have to start by building yourself so that you match and can keep up with the lifestyle you dream of.

Identify your interests and find something that you can link up with people who you have something in common with, but also allows people to cycle in and out of said group. Sports are great, playing music is great if you're not just a garage band and you play shows, etc. You can get into something because you think it's cool, but liking it allows you to continue with it after the initial spark of curiosity.

In my mind, the fastest way is to get in on the party circuit. For this, you must develop social skills. You need a motormouth and you need to know when to use it. You're gonna need to build up social endurance. You're gonna need to get sharp in the head.

To do this, I recommend a go hard approach. Go out as much as possible. Every time you go out you WILL learn something as long as you're looking to learn. Write down some things you know about yourself and own it when you go out if you have to: I've found that a lot of my social issues come from uncertainty about how I SHOULD respond to a situation, instead of just being secure in whatever approach I want to take regardless of whether it's really the best option from an objective standpoint. It's better to just get an idea of who you are and go for what you want than to self-analysize to the point where you think a million different things about yourself and you look up and the weekend is over.

Dress well. Making self-care and hygeine your GOD for 3 weeks until it become ingrained in your brain.
Take care of your physique.
Figure out what's cool.
Sounds corny, but believe that you can become what you need to become.

I use reddit to find absurd things to stimulate my mind and sense of humor. Same thing with youtube. Someone's sense of humor and what they laugh at (or won't) will tell you a lot about their back story.

I also use youtube to watch videos of people with desirable personalities. I notice what's good about them and remember how they were acting for myself so I can replicate it and eventually make it my own.

Carpe Noctem

You'll know the truth by how it feels.
01-02-2016 03:56 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes FunkCoup's post:
Yeti
262 Offline
Banned

Posts: 1,778
Joined: Dec 2014
Post: #12
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
On top of all the above, if a girl you approach gives you a genuine "I have a boyfriend" reply, ask to be genuine friends instead.

Hot girls tend to be friends with ... Hot girls.
01-02-2016 05:07 AM
Visit this user's website Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 11 users Like 262's post:
roberto, Vice, Yeti, NY Digital, ksbms, FunkCoup, DJ-Matt, Iso, Cobra, MiscBrah, Mike0060
Iso Offline
Kingfisher
***

Posts: 513
Joined: Mar 2015
Reputation: 7
Post: #13
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
(01-02-2016 05:07 AM)262 Wrote:  On top of all the above, if a girl you approach gives you a genuine "I have a boyfriend" reply, ask to be genuine friends instead.

Hot girls tend to be friends with ... Hot girls.
I have difficulty intentionally getting friendzoned by a girl. Usually friendzoned by girls I like
01-06-2016 07:49 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Cobra Offline
Ostrich
****
Gold Member

Posts: 2,674
Joined: Mar 2011
Reputation: 166
Post: #14
RE: How to build a social network from scratch?
(12-31-2015 10:21 AM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  Meet up with other forum members.

And use grammar.

Laugh3

But seriously, I second this.

In addition, if you're going to be social, please make friends with the forum's search function. We have covered this extensively in other threads. Show us that you're trying rather than merely leaching.

Also check out some of the party threads by forum member Suits. He has been a huge influence on me getting active on the forum and building a social circle of local forum members who quickly are turning into good friends.

Spittin' Cobra - A Podcast
Accounting Career Data Sheet |Finance datasheets- Part I /Part II/Part III | 5 Things To Do Before You Lose Your Job
01-06-2016 08:11 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Post Reply 


Forum Jump:


User(s) browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)

Contact Us | RooshV.com | Return to Top | Return to Content | Mobile Version | RSS Syndication