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A little stuck in my city
Hello!

I have a problem, which I cannot find a solution and I was hoping for some help here.

Background: I am 32, I live and work in Ploiesti, Romania, a city of about 250000 people, 60 km (38 miles) north of Bucharest, the Romanian capital. The city looks pretty much like one of the videos Roosh posted, videos about middle-sized Amercan cities like Baltimore. I work as a lecturer, at the local University and I love every bit of my job.

The city, fortunately, is very little Westernized, the most obvious Western thing being the "all-mighty" Facebook and, of course the female students raping their smart phones to see if they got a like, a share, a PM, etc. However, this is not obnoxious and the thing doesn't get out of control at all (sometimes I check, out of curiosity, the pictures of my actual and former female students Facebook profiles. Yes, there are a few selfies, but most of the pictures are normal pictures: with her friends, at different events, at their wedding, with their children, etc).

I don't see obvious slut tells (once in a blue moon I see some chick with tattoos or pink hair or some teens pretending to be bad-ass rockers, when they actually are teens who love rock music and get dressed like they favorite artists) and, as far as I see, most girls want a LTR and, in the future, marriage and kids. I wouldn't go so far in saying that they want to be stay-at-home mothers, but they don't put career first and family second (those who did moved to Bucharest and it happened just as Roosh and ROK said a million times so far).

There are only two night clubs in Ploiesti. I don't go, because I don't like to walk like a zombie for the entire next day (I am not 20 anymore...) and I am quite fond of my night sleep, because I like waking up the next day full of energy. So, I cannot say anything about this.

Problem: the problem is that I'd like to meet more girls quicker, but I can't seem to find a way. I did street game for a while. I got completely over my approach anxiety, but in 2-3 hours only 4-5 girls pass by downtown (the most crowded place of the city) - exactly as it happens in the Baltimore video - so I quickly found out that it's rather a waste of time. As a result, I stuck to doing my normal things and approaching when and if an opportunity arises. But I feel that I am too much at the mercy of the fate. Plus, here it's summer now. By winter, at 8:00 PM there is literally almost nobody on the street, Ploiesti looking more like a ghost town.

I tried to roam the malls for a while, but there are crowded with families and couples. The scenario of 1-2 girls on the loose is quite non-existent here. So, ironically, the malls are full with girls, but most of them are unapproachable.

There aren't many other places, because the city is full of restaurants and, generally, places which favors people gathering at one table and chatting around in their social circle, never leaving it for interaction with another person. I could go to a table and start talking, but I don't think I'll have any success.

I have friends. They work in Bucharest, on the corporate ladder (which begins to look like the way it's presented here and on ROK). A few of them moved there, one or two still live here, and they commute by train. However, I grew up much, much more than them. Sure, I enjoy a beer and a talk with them from time to time, but I cannot do much more than this. I don't want to bash them, but they're betas.

My level of game: it is not advanced, but I am not a newbie either.

I am a naturally social, extrovert and outgoing person so talking isn't a big deal for me. Plus, because I work at the uni, I talk a lot with students, both men and women and I can easily tell that the girls talk to me because of my personality, not merely out of courtesy (sharing with me personal facts is a proof). I get along very well with the other teachers I interact with especially younger ones. So, I am not a psychopath, sociopath, or any of this stuff.

What I'd like to know: What am I missing here? Sometimes it feels that all the ladies intentionally hide from me (am I too thirsty??). Sometimes I wonder if I have a blind spot and I systematically do something wrong but I don't notice it. Sometimes I believe that it is normal for towns of this size and, if I want to meet more girls, quicker, the only solution is to pick-up girls in Bucharest.

I can game the female students all the way to LTR and sex (or at least I can try). The Romanian laws do not forbid this, as long as it is consensual. They only forbid sex between a professor/lecturer/whatever and his student. However, my personal standard in ethics stop me from going this path. I don't know why it stops me, nor if I should get stopped by my ethics. In theory, I am young, much more mature than men of their age.. I should be like a wolf between lambs.

Thank you!

PS: A little rant: my faculty is lead by men and it is obvious: the female teachers are happier, more open and polite, there is no feminist bullshit around, every problem is talked to, face to face, not by back stabbing, etc. I don't know how ethic this is, but when I talk to my male students, I try to instill some red pill things. I am not talking hardcore stuff, like women's slutification, because it's not the case. Only basic stuff like: we're men, we're supposed to be leaders, to have our own personality and to think with our heads... stuff like that. And, the ultimate scare-phrase: there's always a job vacancy at McDonald's.

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(This post was last modified: 07-18-2016 10:14 AM by Zanardi.)
07-18-2016 10:00 AM
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RE: A little stuck in my city
unlike the typical love tourist, you put down roots.

Based on the horrible situation you're describing, you need to run game on the entire city.

Best bet is building a social funnel.
Failing that it's about social circle expansion and then secret society protocol.

Cold approach in a static environment is just going to have you spinning your wheels.

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07-18-2016 10:37 AM
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RE: A little stuck in my city
Can you link the Baltimore vid you'really talking about, never seen it. Do you approach those 3 or 4 women you see downtown? From an American perspective - women generally go to the malls in pairs or groups, they don't have to be by themselves to approach them, try it anyway. I rarely approach if a girl's family is around but some guys do, and I've never been blown out horribly doing so going indirect. Find a good coffee shop, bookstore, art gallery, smoothie cafe, etc and go there during lunch, warm up before you put yourself in an approach situation. Get a dog and take it for walks in the park, borrow a friend's dog and take it for walks, they'd love you for it and so would the girls. Talk to your students to see where they go on weekends or days off.

I travel a lot but the city I go out in at home is 80k people and I have no trouble meeting women, city I grew up outside was even smaller than that.
07-18-2016 11:10 AM
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RE: A little stuck in my city
(07-18-2016 11:10 AM)Gorgiass Wrote:  Can you link the Baltimore vid you'really talking about, never seen it.

Here s the link: http://www.rooshv.com/10-things-i-learne...an-midwest

The city I live in looks more like in the video, starting 0:40

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07-18-2016 01:25 PM
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RE: A little stuck in my city
Move to Bucharest. I am assuming your commute will be about an hour. You will have significantly more daytime and nightlife options.
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07-18-2016 01:43 PM
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Move. AINEC.
07-18-2016 05:25 PM
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Start online gaming
07-18-2016 07:04 PM
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RE: A little stuck in my city
(07-18-2016 01:43 PM)Dantes Wrote:  Move to Bucharest. I am assuming your commute will be about an hour. You will have significantly more daytime and nightlife options.

Yeah, it takes about an hour to commute. No big deal.

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07-19-2016 01:50 AM
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