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First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
(01-17-2017 01:06 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  we had a political argument

Pussy and politics don't mix!

Don't waste your time arguing with women. (unless your trolling them)

(01-18-2017 01:51 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  it's over. you guys got your wish.

It wasn't our wish.

It was your wish.

You were never really attracted to her.

You admitted that from the beginning!

Maybe the political talk was your way of self sabotaging this relationship?!?

(01-21-2017 02:39 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  Does it matter knowing why you lost a girl?

It matters if you want to learn more about dating dynamics..

We can't always identify the exact reason BUT it is fun to examine the breakup and try to find our mistakes.

Ask her why she ended it, I bet she will tell you.

(01-21-2017 05:39 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  So how do I figure that out especially when women may not tell you the real reason?

We can only speculate based on the information we have..

It sounds like she ended things because she could sense that you were not really into her for anything other than a quick fuck..

And, she could tell that you were not compatible politically/socially

(01-21-2017 05:39 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  You have to have it happen a few times to find a pattern?

Yes, of course, experience helps to identify patterns..

You want more experience?

Go get another girl!

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01-22-2017 01:37 PM
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
(01-22-2017 01:37 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Pussy and politics don't mix!

This is one of those really important fundamental things which apparently a lot of guys don't get.
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
(01-22-2017 01:42 PM)Merenguero Wrote:  
(01-22-2017 01:37 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Pussy and politics don't mix!

This is one of those really important fundamental things which apparently a lot of guys don't get.

Gio's right.

I never bring up that shit, even if they do.

There is indeed no point to discuss politics with them. It's a circle jerk and dries up pussy fast.

I think is right in pointing out that deep down inside Rex knew she wasn't that great, self sabotage is a real thing.

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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
I don't think it was self-sabotage so much as I wanted to see how much I could "just be myself" with this girl.

I actually grew to like her a lot more than I would have thought at the first meeting.

Quote:Go get another girl!

Obviously... Easier said than done of course. Wink

I will say that I think that thing about "get laid and girls will sense it" is a total BS myth, though. I notice no difference in my "vibe" or any attention from women, etc.

But, I am less fearful of having sex now, and that's a good thing.

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01-23-2017 12:46 PM
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
It's not really a myth it's more a simplification of your average males psyche.

You get laid last night, and fuck her brains out in the morning too. Then you go about your day with that confidence. You don't extrude neediness or insecurity and guess what; females like that. You have more of a player's "take it or leave it" attitude which we all try to emulate and call it "abundance mentality".
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01-23-2017 02:29 PM
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
(01-23-2017 12:46 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  I will say that I think that thing about "get laid and girls will sense it" is a total BS myth, though. I notice no difference in my "vibe" or any attention from women, etc.

But, I am less fearful of having sex now, and that's a good thing.

How many approaches are you basing this on?

How many approaches have you done since breaking the dry spell?

(01-23-2017 12:46 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  
Quote:Go get another girl!

Obviously... Easier said than done of course. Wink

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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
If a girl starts bringing up politics I just tell her I'm not political and end the discussion right there by conveying I have no opinions to share.

Always keep things fun and casual. You can talk about deep stuff but not shitty opinion based things that will divide you. Things like childhood memories and family and things like that are better topics and also gets a girl feeling more bonded to you because she is learning about you and your past and vice versa.
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
Update Rex.

Any new girls?
02-12-2017 07:42 PM
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Quote:Update Rex.
Any new girls?

No not yet. I've been too distracted with new job and other stuff at the moment. Right now I need to find an apartment.

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02-14-2017 07:46 AM
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(02-14-2017 07:46 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  
Quote:Update Rex.
Any new girls?

No not yet. I've been too distracted with new job and other stuff at the moment. Right now I need to find an apartment.

Did your ex try to contact you after the breakup?

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02-14-2017 02:31 PM
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Quote:Did your ex try to contact you after the breakup?

No, she never did. Total radio silence.

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(12-29-2016 06:08 PM)kaotic Wrote:  I wanted to bump this thread so the newbies can see what a forum can help a man accomplish.

Also, any updates Rex ? How are things going with the lady ? Any new leads ?

This is a great thread. I have not gotten through all of it but I applaud everyone pitching in with great advice and sincere and genuine support for Rex. Sorry to hear about the breakup but it seems like you were having your doubts. Keep going!

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(02-14-2017 07:46 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  
Quote:Update Rex.
Any new girls?

No not yet. I've been too distracted with new job and other stuff at the moment. Right now I need to find an apartment.

Well you know how to break that apartment in once you get it.

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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
Everything's the same except women are even easier now to have sex with than ever before if you tighten up your game.

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