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I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
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I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
I've been doing more approaches over the past few weeks. One pattern I've noticed is that I tend to ask for the girl's number, and then afterwards realizing that I could have asked for an instant date somewhere, but the idea didn't occur to me in the middle of the interaction. I generally tend to plan things out; I'm not very good at thinking quickly and creatively on the fly.

Maybe I need to consciously brainstorm ideas for an instant date whenever I go to a new place. This way it'll be easier to recall.

Does you have tips to shift from a numbers mindset to an instant date mindset?
09-13-2017 09:44 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
I would recommend getting into the mentality of thinking about spending more time with her. Then as you get more comfortable/relaxed you'll be able to think more clearly in set, and decide if you'd rather go for the instadate now or go for a date later on. Instadates are a great tool however they aren't necessarily better than getting her to come out later.
09-13-2017 10:33 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
(09-13-2017 09:44 PM)BlueMark Wrote:  I've been doing more approaches over the past few weeks. One pattern I've noticed is that I tend to ask for the girl's number, and then afterwards realizing that I could have asked for an instant date somewhere, but the idea didn't occur to me in the middle of the interaction.

Tell me how would this have turn out If you didn't get your cellphone out to take numbers ? What if you tell her "I don't do cell number... Nobody ain't got time fo getting attached, Freedom is the only thing a man need live." ?

(09-13-2017 10:33 PM)The Catalyst Wrote:  I would recommend getting into the mentality of thinking about spending more time with her.

Excellent, let me ask How do you do that ?
How do you get into the mentality of thinking ?

(03-19-2014 12:19 PM)cardguy Wrote:  "If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it."
09-15-2017 03:13 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
"I have an hour to kill too -- let's get one drink at [vibey spot you know of nearby]"
09-15-2017 03:22 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
Why do you need instant dates? It could be a waste of time if she is not really into you. Krauser generally doesn't go for instant dates.
09-15-2017 03:33 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
Simple.

I've written about it here, and it applies very well to an instadate.
Ambiguity Close

"You wanna grab a drink..." opening up your body and motioning to a nearby watering hole.

If she says yes, golden.

When she says "no I have to go do homework" you respond with lighthearted teasing "oh well no I didn't mean *now*..."

(wait for her to respond, let her feel the tease, that she misunderstood you...feel the little bit of hand you just got)

Easy peasy.

Edit: Damn, it's so brilliant, I have to go into one more reason why. It's honest. You want to hang out with her now, but if it's another time, great! Mark Manson would love it. It's just a nuanced way of being honest. Another benefit, once you make it a part of you, it's a big step in understanding the nuance of women.

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09-15-2017 03:35 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
OP one way of thinking of the Insta Date is that it differentiate you from other man right out of the Gate! It's also the best way to " bring down the high" from giving her # to a cute unknown stranger from the streets! And girls who have no intentions of dating you actually do accept of going on Insta Dates with you!

For 2 cheap ass coffees, you actually get some awesome practice on how to create attraction, and what to say when they challenge you... since you approached them randomly... and they all think it's "weird"! To this day, I'm still using my lines from my Insta Dates day when I'm talking to women! Get over the hesitation and start doing it now!

And another poster mentioned that Krauser doesn't like to InstaDate. With respect to Krauser, he's like a scientist doing PU. He has to be since he teaches Game! You're not, so I suggest doing what works better to lay some Pipes
09-15-2017 05:31 PM
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RE: I need to get into the mindset of going for instant dates rather than numbers
(09-15-2017 05:31 PM)Captain Gh Wrote:  And another poster mentioned that Krauser doesn't like to InstaDate. With respect to Krauser, he's like a scientist doing PU. He has to be since he teaches Game! You're not, so I suggest doing what works better to lay some Pipes

I think the argument is K believes instadating is less effective than waiting for another date to date, in most cases
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