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Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
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Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
I matched and got into good conversation with a 30yo Colombian Christian girl on Zoosk a few weeks ago. We had some great banter, I asked her out on message #2, she said she wanted to get to know me better (shy Christian girl?), so we texted for about a day on the app, asked her out again, she says okay, but still no dice, she disappears... Now, about 3-4 weeks later, I matched with her today on Eharmony! Now, I've seen this before - girls double dipping (like me) on dating sites.

The conversation we had on zoosk was really good, she was taking interest in me through a mix of flirting/comfort/get-to-know-you text banter, although she still flaked at my date proposal. There could be 10 different reasons why, so I will not speculate. I'd like to reach out to her again now as my match on Eharmony (hey, Eh says we're compatible). Surely she'll recognize me from the other site. What should I say??

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02-13-2018 11:56 AM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Yes. Many times. Or the same one on the same site/ app at different times. Go to a city and match with someone. Come back the next year and match again.
02-13-2018 12:12 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
I've matched with the same girl within a 12 hour span and she was on both tinder and bumble.
02-13-2018 12:22 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Bro this happens ALL the time - matter of fact I rematched this sexy mixed black fit chick on Bumble, we texted, she ghosted on me, then matched me on coffee meets bagels.

I usually use the same line I used on them before or I say she looks sort of familiar, but I can't pin where from.

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02-13-2018 12:25 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
That must be very common since a lot of girls and guys are on multiple different dating sites/apps. About the same as if you discover someone on facebook or instagram, you're making a bigger deal of it than it is.

I matched with two really identical twins once though. That was weird on the other hand.
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02-13-2018 12:38 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
(02-13-2018 12:25 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Bro this happens ALL the time - matter of fact I rematched this sexy mixed black fit chick on Bumble, we texted, she ghosted on me, then matched me on coffee meets bagels.

I usually use the same line I used on them before or I say she looks sort of familiar, but I can't pin where from.

I was gonna go with this, something to the effect of: you look familiar, but I can't place where, did you draw my blood once? (she's a nurse)

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02-13-2018 12:44 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
I've had this happen before and I treat it as a red-flag because either she doesn't remember us crossing paths before or she's trying to reverse-monkey-branch as her other options aren't as good.

I just had this happen to me on Hinge and I'm not sure whether to pursue because of the above. The only reason I might is she's a hot (but older, last days of resisting the wall) platinum blonde originally from Ukraine and I'd like to scratch that itch although even in the best or circumstances I don't think she's LTR material.
02-13-2018 02:10 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Yes. It does nothing to raise your chances of getting that girl out, and she probably won't even realize she matched the same guy on two different sites.
02-13-2018 03:27 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
I quickly type "you again?!?" And let her move the conversation
02-13-2018 03:43 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
(02-13-2018 02:10 PM)questor70 Wrote:  I just had this happen to me on Hinge and I'm not sure whether to pursue because of the above. The only reason I might is she's a hot (but older, last days of resisting the wall) platinum blonde originally from Ukraine and I'd like to scratch that itch although even in the best or circumstances I don't think she's LTR material.

This one's a 30-year-old Colombian immigrant to the USA (Chicago), very attractive, (born again?) Christian, ICU nurse... If she's on eharmony as well, she's at least semi-serious about meeting someone/finding an LTR.

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02-13-2018 04:58 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Happened once, she claimed I gave her herpes. I don't have herpes.
02-13-2018 11:51 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Happened to me a couple times. At that point the odds are very low, so maybe just say something absolutely ridiculous to amuse yourself. If it can quickly transition to asking out for a date then do so. No wasted time.
02-18-2018 05:20 AM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Yep these women are swamped with so many men that they don't necessarily recognise you on one or the other.
The good thing is she consistently likes your profile but it's not any special indicator. It's common as others have said
02-18-2018 06:36 AM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
(02-13-2018 11:51 PM)wi30 Wrote:  Happened once, she claimed I gave her herpes. I don't have herpes.

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02-18-2018 08:03 AM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Had a couple of girls that I talked to on one dating site and suddenly ghost me. I found them on another site and started talking again until they remember and ghost again. LULZ
02-18-2018 03:19 PM
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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
Just another sign all the online guys are dipping from a pretty small pool.

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RE: Have you ever matched with the same girl on 2 different dating sites?
I agree that it is a small pool. I always felt that the girls that resort to online dating have something wrong with them. Any woman who is a 5 or above and can't go to any kind of social gathering and find any number of guys who want them or tickle their fancy have something wrong with them. Also some girls I have spoken to seem to perpetually live on dating sites.
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