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The Myth Of The Happy Married Life
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I recently searched “marriage” on ROK, assuming some of the top results would discuss reasons why men should opt-out of monogamy, an idea mentioned in ROK Community Belief #2. Instead, the top articles returned were predominantly pro-marriage, so I figured why not play devil’s advocate and give voice to the anti-marriage camp? Below I share four reasons man should not marry, which I introduce in no particular order.

1. You will have to suppress your natural biological urges.


Man’s evolutionary imperative—his natural default—is to spread his genetic footprint far and wide by way of fucking as many women as possible during his lifetime. I don’t know about y’all, but that seems like a pretty great default to me, so why rock that boat?

If left to our own instincts, we wouldn’t get married. It’s the woman who persuades us to do so. It serves her biological endgame, which is to secure access to our undivided resources and direct them toward the relatively limited number of offspring she’s capable of producing.

If you decide to join Team Monogamy, woman’s biological imperative wins, and yours loses, which means you must forevermore suppress your compulsions to bang other chicks.

2. You’ll think, “damn, I got played.”


If you give in to a woman’s well-played deceptions and marry her, you’ll later feel played. Specifics will vary, but getting played by a woman usually goes down like this…

When you first started dating, she does pretty much whatever sexual thing you want, whenever you want it. She also jibes with your brazen “I don’t give a fuck” sense of humor, inexplicably thinks your drinking buddies are cool, and doesn’t make a “thing” out of your apartment being a perpetual mess.

But then after the deal is sealed, you’ll start to notice changes. She no longer tosses around blow jobs like Halloween parade candy, her coolness with your dude-bro-guy lifestyle turns lukewarm, and your messy apartment suddenly does become a thing.

With more time, you’ll be astonished to see how deep that rabbit hole goes.

3. You’ll become bored banging the same broad.


That “Art of Manliness” clown, Bret McKay, claims sex is way better and more frequent after marriage and that once married, you’ll never again want to fuck a woman other than your wife. Of course, this is utter nonsense and should be summarily dismissed. McKay is a bible-thumping Mormon who didn’t get to smash any puss until after he got married, so from his perspective, of course man gets more sex after marriage, compared to before—that’s “no shit” axiomatic.

The fact is that sex does not get better, nor more frequent, post-marriage, and you most certainly will think about banging other women.

Think about it… man’s instinct is to maximize his genetic footprint and continue his line into future generations, yes? His evolutionary compulsion is to knock-up as many women as possible during his lifetime, right? So does boinking one chick for the rest of your life advance that agenda?

No.

Does it seem even remotely plausible that saying, “I do,” somehow makes sex with one woman—the one you’ve already been fucking for quite some time—any better than before?

No.

Does kissing the bride magically reverse your natural biological compulsions to fuck a metric shit-ton of women over the course of your life?

Fuggitaboutit!

Participating in a socially-constructed ritual that locks you into an evolutionary sub-optimal mating arrangement does not lessen your compulsion to do what you’re designed to do. Anyone who says otherwise is delusional, at best.

And for the record, I am not some self-appointed manliness guru jagoff preaching to y’all based on my wildly unrepresentative experiences becoming a man. I am a Ph.D. social scientist, and my perspective is based on the evolutionary science of mate selection. So don’t trust me when I say you will get bored banging the same woman for the rest of your life—trust evolutionary science.

4. Her physical attractiveness will diminish.


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As if reason #3 weren’t bad enough, it is compounded by reason #4, which is that the woman’s physical attractiveness drops-off sooner or later. It might begin immediately if she balloons-up from the wedding cake, or it might not happen until later when her body emerges a train wreck after having kids.

Four kids into my previous marriage, my wife’s pussy was so loose that fucking her didn’t feel nearly as good as before. If you’ve ever heard that expression, “like throwing a hot dog down a hallway,” then yeah. It was like that.

The point is that whatever the timeline, and for whatever the reason, her physical attractiveness will diminish, and that shit gets worse at the discretion of father time and his ugly stick. So not only will you grow bored of boinking your wife week in and week out, you’ll eventually cease being attracted to her altogether.

Conclusion


As noted elsewhere on ROK, marriage does have its functions. However, one could argue marriage is a gigantic scam perpetrated by woman against man, and that it’s in man’s best interest to opt-out. Playing devil’s advocate, I made this argument by noting that marriage (1) does not agree with man’s evolutionary imperative, (2) leads to man feeling deceived when the relationship yields fewer benefits after marriage, compared to before, (3) introduces boredom from having to bang the same broad forevermore, and (4) locks him into a relationship with diminishing returns with regard to woman’s physical attractiveness.

Read More: Should You “Man Up” And Get Married?



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I didn't want to be unreasonably dismissive so I checked the author's blog. Nothing jumped out from a cursory glance at a few articles, so I'm going to go ahead and say it.

Writing long, bitter articles about how the millennia-old patriarchal tradition of monogamous marriage is a scam foisted on us by women?

Must be slaying tons of pussy and having the time of his life.

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I wasn’t going to respond to this bitter rant that passed for an article, but since I’m one of the comparatively few men on RVF in one of those “mythical” happy marriages, I’ll give it a go. Obviously this is only one man’s experience.

1. No shit. Welcome to living in a civilized society, where we have to suppress all sorts of primal urges. I sometimes want to kick the shit out of out-group loudmouths in the bar, but I don’t. I want to sit on my couch and do nothing (“energy conservation”), but I go to work every morning and lift weights regularly. I want to eat tasty and addictive garbage food, but I eat wholesome freshly-prepared (by my wife) meals. And yes, I suppress my biological urge to fuck every piece of ass I can in exchange for the benefits I derive from marriage.

2. I’ve never once felt “played” by having married my wife, at least not six years into marriage and eight years into knowing her. She cooks every night, cleans, does my laundry, handles my dry cleaning and alterations, takes my car in for maintenance, does all the shopping, eagerly gives me blowjobs on demand, and I have sex literally whenever I want. As far as sexual frequency goes, I track these things, and we’ve had sex 405 times in the last rolling year. She often writes me appreciative notes on my bathroom mirror, like the most recent one, “We have the best sex. I love how you fuck me!” She never, ever gives me a hard time about going out with friends or hobbies or whatever. She adheres strictly to the financial plans I’ve laid out and never spends significant money without my permission. She’s happy with whatever activities I pick for us.

3. Nah - but you do have to pick the right woman, keep things interesting, and fuck her right at least most of the time. I’ve been fucking my wife for eight years and just last night had some absolutely mind-blowing sex. Yeah, if you stupidly marry a prudish or selfish woman, you’ll probably get bored. But if you marry a woman whose overarching sexual goal is to please you, it can definitely work. My wife will do anything to please me sexually: oral, anal, vaginal, rough, BDSM, fetish, role play, girl-on-girl, whatever. There’s definitely something to be said for a woman who knows you so intimately that she knows exactly which switches to flip to drive you crazy. No sign of her pussy loosening in eight years, but maybe that’s because she’s a tiny little spinner type and I have a majestic dong. tard

4. Yes, that’s true, but there are ways to mitigate it. First, obviously, is to choose a woman with good genetics who cares enough to keep up her health and appearance. My wife maintains a proper weight, keeps her hair and nails perfect, wears tasteful makeup, dresses well, etc. The real key, though, is selecting a younger wife. Mine is ten years my junior, and I’m always pleased to have her on my arm, whether we’re going to a baseball game or the symphony.

Another thing about marriage isn’t often seen or noted by men on the player side: being married and having on-demand sexual access frees up a man to expend energy on other things. When you’re not spending time and money constantly chasing pussy, you can direct it elsewhere – to work, business opportunities, investments, fitness, hobbies, whatever. Being married can also help in the business world, where (rightly or wrongly) married men are often perceived to be more responsible and trustworthy.

Marriage can actually be pretty damn fun - and profitable - if you select your wife properly. Obviously it isn’t for everyone, but it’s worked out for me.
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In this subforum, the comments defeat the articles every time.
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(04-05-2018 12:18 PM)MikeInRealLife Wrote:  Another thing about marriage isn’t often seen or noted by men on the player side: being married and having on-demand sexual access frees up a man to expend energy on other things. When you’re not spending time and money constantly chasing pussy, you can direct it elsewhere – to work, business opportunities, investments, fitness, hobbies, whatever. Being married can also help in the business world, where (rightly or wrongly) married men are often perceived to be more responsible and trustworthy.

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^ @Mike and Hell, have you written somewhere about where and how you found your wives? Link?
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Quote: I am a Ph.D. social scientist, and my perspective is based on the evolutionary science of mate selection


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People always try to rationalize there existence and or their "free" decisions that they have made in life. The prisoner on the 2nd floor in the State Pen of a 25 year sentence , only thinks I have 14 more years to go..the Cigarette smoker or heavy drinker says ...well... it was a fun existence.....Why would a Man with...really......true options ever want to exchange them in for a female...no matter how well to to she is..pu$$y is good but breathing life and a free blank sheet of paper every morning is much much mo' better.
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Ohhh no! I have to act like a fucking adult and eschew the trappings of hedonism in order to build something worth having.

This guy sounds like a woman.

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(04-15-2018 07:19 PM)Slam Wrote:  ^ @Mike and Hell, have you written somewhere about where and how you found your wives? Link?

I wrote a little about it here: https://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-49934...id1094468. Post 21 in the thread. It's more about vetting than finding, though.
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(04-15-2018 07:19 PM)Slam Wrote:  ^ @Mike and Hell, have you written somewhere about where and how you found your wives? Link?

I think I have made partial mention of it in previous threads...

Quick summary:

I met my wife via the now defunct Yahoo messenger. I was planning to travel to Thailand and she wanted to meet an American. We hit it off. For me she was a smart, educated woman, but without feminism (the Thai government university she went to had zero in the way of SJW bullshit). She is quite happy with the man being 'head of household', which I am. I kept going back and the third trip asked if she wanted to come back to the USA with me. We were married on trip #4 in 2004.

My previous relationships in my 20s red pilled my beta ass, making it very clear what I didn't want in a woman.

There is a lot more detail than that... but this isn't the thread for that.
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(04-05-2018 12:18 PM)MikeInRealLife Wrote:  ...My wife will do anything to please me sexually: oral, anal, vaginal, rough, BDSM, fetish, role play, girl-on-girl, whatever. There’s definitely something to be said for a woman who knows you so intimately that she knows exactly which switches to flip to drive you crazy. No sign of her pussy loosening in eight years, but maybe that’s because she’s a tiny little spinner type and I have a majestic dong. tard

Can you go into more details on the girl-on-girl stuff? As in do you actively go out to meet other girls with your wife as a wingman (wing woman)? Or are you free to go out and meet other girls and bring them home for you and your wife to bang?

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(04-17-2018 08:28 AM)Irish Wrote:  Can you go into more details on the girl-on-girl stuff? As in do you actively go out to meet other girls with your wife as a wingman (wing woman)? Or are you free to go out and meet other girls and bring them home for you and your wife to bang?

Frankly, they've mostly just fallen into my lap, and it's rarely planned. It just sort of happens when circumstances are right. My wife is extremely outgoing and makes fast friends with other women. Of the recent "encounters," one was a friend she's had for a couple of years (they used to work together). One was a newer friend. One was a server in a local restaurant we frequent, who sort of latched onto us.

We also have a couple of current prospects, one a friend and one a new bartender that we both find hot. I could make the friend happen pretty quickly if I put in a little effort. We're going to a pool party at her place this weekend, and I may try to push it a little there if the atmosphere is right.

The hot bartender will take a little more work, simply because she's new and needs to get more comfortable with us. We were actually in her bar just last night, and the wife asked, "So do you want me to try to set up a threesome with her?"

I've never brought home a woman, but my wife would certainly roll with it, contingent on her finding the woman reasonably attractive. Of course I wouldn't bring home some fuggo, so I'm sure it would turn out fine. But I find that letting my wife bring up the topic of a threesome works much better, simply because it creates a lot more comfort on the part of the other woman.
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