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How to handle workplace?
So I have been working for 4 years (Im 25), and I have so far been following the "submissive, always smiling and no politics" formula. But I am realizing you lose respect a bit over time?

Like yesterday, my boss comes up to me and says "well I am taking Juan off this assignment and giving it to you since I dont want him to be distracted from this one super important project hes on."

Still hung up on this.

I am rated high every year and stuff, but should I go up to him and say "that was demeaning I hope you didnt mean that. Here is a list of the stuff I am working on."?

What is the best formula to succeed in the workplace? Be unemotional or friendly?
05-17-2018 11:30 PM
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RE: How to handle workplace?
(05-17-2018 11:30 PM)federernadal Wrote:  Like yesterday, my boss comes up to me and says "well I am taking Juan off this assignment and giving it to you since I dont want him to be distracted from this one super important project hes on."

Maybe you just aren't the Juan for the job.

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05-17-2018 11:35 PM
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RE: How to handle workplace?
The example you gave with Juan makes no sense. How is that disrespectful?

To answer your question, be both assertive and unemotional. Unemotional because that is more professional, and assertive so management doesn't make you the office bitch.
05-18-2018 12:32 AM
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RE: How to handle workplace?
(05-17-2018 11:30 PM)federernadal Wrote:  So I have been working for 4 years (Im 25), and I have so far been following the "submissive, always smiling and no politics" formula. But I am realizing you lose respect a bit over time?

Like yesterday, my boss comes up to me and says "well I am taking Juan off this assignment and giving it to you since I dont want him to be distracted from this one super important project hes on."

Still hung up on this.

I am rated high every year and stuff, but should I go up to him and say "that was demeaning I hope you didnt mean that. Here is a list of the stuff I am working on."?

What is the best formula to succeed in the workplace? Be unemotional or friendly?

Don't say that to him. You are making it emotive and about your feelings.

Be simple and straightforward and if necessary try and elicit in a neutral way if/why your workload is seen as less work or just less important than that of your colleagues.

Think of working a trial for your dream job, how would you wish to come across?

I don't think it would be an either/ or - cold and assertive versus warm, friendly and walked all over style.

I would say that you would be looking for a detached friendliness at some times and a calm assertiveness at other times.

But people value warmth and genuineness and find a relationship with those who have these qualities rewarding: they just don't want the in-built potential for emotional upset that comes with those relationships.
05-18-2018 01:22 AM
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RE: How to handle workplace?
How much do you like your work? I would seriously consider finding a different job, one that appreciates you.

When you seek your next job, ask for more money. Those that regularly bounce from one job to another tend to have higher salaries.
05-18-2018 01:31 AM
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RE: How to handle workplace?
Sounds like it's time to jump ship. Loyalty is never rewarded in corporates; in fact, it is usually punished.

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05-18-2018 01:34 AM
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RE: How to handle workplace?
The corporate ladder is a dog eat dog world.
You will learn fast no one is your friend, sure they be friendly to your face. But they are planning how to get ahead.
They will take credit for others work.
Slack and blame others for errors.
Loyalty is overrated.
05-18-2018 01:52 AM
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