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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
Mike just enjoy the feeling,

I wish i would fall in love with a girl instead of mentally nexting anyone who says hi back to me.

Theres a girl i fucked it up with and have no chance of getting back to but i still look at her pics sometimes. Even that feeling of sadness is more satisfaction than banging sometimes.

Heck get your heart broken while it still can be

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(07-19-2018 04:00 PM)rotinz Wrote:  
(07-19-2018 01:38 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  You guys are dropping so many truth bombs I don't feel ready to process them, I need time to regurgitate it. I will let all my thoughts stabilise and see what happens.

So... You are saying that an English woman for instance will look good at 40? Hell no, anyway im not thinking that far ahead right now.

She told me today she is practically certain she is coming to visit me in winter, question is, we see each other in winter, then in summer and what's next for us?

Also yeah it's weird I had a friend from the UK who also got a rich mexican gf, it seems to be a trend I don't know why. Nah, you don't need to meet a Mexican girls parents, it's not neccesary.

Crazy thing is I have another admirer in Mexico, she's saying I love you when will you come back - so whatever happens I have a rolodex of chicks to see next time I go to Mexico, that's one reason I don't want a relationship too much, because I still have so many beautiful chicks to experience in my life - and my game and potential is huge.

Which city are you in and did you every feel unsafe going after girls out there? I'm really interested in going out to Mexico, it has good quality girls and it's a decently developed country. You said the girl you were seeing is 18, are most girls 18-20s in college in Mexico and do you feel like it's a very social circle based place? I'm interested in potentially doing a semester out in Mexico since one of the colleges out there is ranked fairly high in what I'm interested in studying. How do you think the student life would be out there?

Mexico City. I definitely did not have any safety issues but I am a really street wise guy. Yep most college girls are 18-25 here, do it my friend. I want to do a masters course in Mexico, you will have an amazing time. It is however a social circle based place so make sure to make contacts via any way possible, your experience will be so much better if you meet Mexicans who can show you around.
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I like to have a more positive outlook. I personally believe that anything is possible with positivity. Keep in touch with her. Make time for her and she will make time for you. Long distance is possible as long as you both keep yourselves in check. Set expectations and most importantly, never I mean, NEVER give up on hope.
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^Hmm I won't stop gaming my friend. I have a deep feeling she's going to get with guys right now after I have left and - that is what it is. But when she's on my turf or I am in Mexico we will go back to how it was. It's a very Latin American thing but I wouldn't call her my gf, she is my 'lige' we show love and affection but she is not exclusive. After all, I wasn't loyal to her.
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(07-17-2018 09:25 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Today is my final day in Mexico. I spent it all with my Mexican gf, we have been seeing each other for over 3 weeks. I met her on tinder (red flag I know). Long story short is we both fell in love but she has a LOT more than me. She has been phenomenal, I lost my v card to her, we had the best sex in the world, her head game is extraterrestial, I met her whole family tree including chaffeur and maid, she buys me gifts and she's smart.

She is 18 and I am 19, she is my first gf and today she cried when we said goodbye, it was intense. She said she will come see me in Europe in December and I will come see her next summer. However, how realistic is it to sustain our relationship, is it possible? I want it to happen. Other things to know is that she still has a pic of her ex as her background so I don't know if she has gotten with other guys, however... Well, I have gotten with maybe 5 other chicks and banged 1 even in this 'relationship' but it was at an early stage.

I lived in Mexico for a year and a half. These types tend to have a fetish for white guys and you're probably not the only one she's going to be easy for and fall in love with quickly. It sounds like you are somewhat cognizant of this fact. You're setting yourself up for a big disappointment if you invest a ton of time and mental energy in a girl with whom you can't have a real relationship anytime soon.

Stay humble. If you just lost your V card, it probably felt like "the best sex in the world" but I assure you it wasn't. It's certainly better to be over confident than the reverse but just keep in mind that as a noob you're likely to underestimate how much room there is for improvement.
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(07-19-2018 05:40 PM)Beirut Wrote:  Mike just enjoy the feeling,

I wish i would fall in love with a girl instead of mentally nexting anyone who says hi back to me.

Theres a girl i fucked it up with and have no chance of getting back to but i still look at her pics sometimes. Even that feeling of sadness is more satisfaction than banging sometimes.

Heck get your heart broken while it still can be

Glad I'm not the only one with this sort of perspective...sort of.

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So I have come to terms that there are too many red flags and that behind the scenes it is probably really ugly. I still miss her and think about her everyday, the sex, her presence, how she treated me like a king - that's honestly how I feel and I hope it subsides, I am trying to game as much as possible so I forget about it but I miss Mexico too much, most of the girls are soulless and stuck up here in London but I won't stop gaming.

So considering all the likely events which will happen like her getting with a new guy from now until winter, should she take a flight to see me in December like she wants to (under her expenses)?
07-21-2018 10:45 AM
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(07-21-2018 10:45 AM)Mikestar Wrote:  So I have come to terms that there are too many red flags and that behind the scenes it is probably really ugly. I still miss her and think about her everyday, the sex, her presence, how she treated me like a king - that's honestly how I feel and I hope it subsides, I am trying to game as much as possible so I forget about it but I miss Mexico too much, most of the girls are soulless and stuck up here in London but I won't stop gaming.

So considering all the likely events which will happen like her getting with a new guy from now until winter, should she take a flight to see me in December like she wants to (under her expenses)?

That depends on you! The reality on both sides of this equation is long distance doesn't work. Considering you're putting in the work at home and you're on RVF, you'll likely be with at least a couple other people between now and when she visits. As a woman, her options are of course endless too, so it's possible she will as well.

However, I don't believe that diminishes any connection between you two. Personally, I have sex with women all the time that I don't connect to, and it doesn't take away from the connection I have with any of my favorite women. As you get better at this you're going to realize that no girl has to be your end all. You can spread what you want across multiple women.

Plus, if she wants to pay for her expenses? Of course. Show her a good time, fuck her brains out, and appreciate it for what it is. It doesn't need a label or rules to be something positive.

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This girl is flying to Europe next month to see me under her own expenses, I am absolutely fine with that however I have one concern which may sound stupid.

She lives in a villa, in comparison I live in a tiny apartment in a semi-ghetto area and don't even have a double bed. I live with my parents and any sort of noise from my room can be heard in the whole house. Now my parents take care of the house but her house puts it to shame. My parents don't mind if she stays but I don't know what her reaction would be. She also drives but I don't drive yet which I should.

Should I just be honest with her and say look my parents are not rich as yours and accomodate her at mine or should I rent an airbnb with her somewhere nicer? Or scrap the whole thing and come to her in Spain where she is going first and have a small trip with her?
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(08-01-2018 04:14 AM)Mikestar Wrote:  This girl is flying to Europe next month to see me under her own expenses, I am absolutely fine with that however I have one concern which may sound stupid.

She lives in a villa, in comparison I live in a tiny apartment in a semi-ghetto area and don't even have a double bed. I live with my parents and any sort of noise from my room can be heard in the whole house. Now my parents take care of the house but her house puts it to shame. My parents don't mind if she stays but I don't know what her reaction would be. She also drives but I don't drive yet which I should.

Should I just be honest with her and say look my parents are not rich as yours and accomodate her at mine or should I rent an airbnb with her somewhere nicer? Or scrap the whole thing and come to her in Spain where she is going first and have a small trip with her?

I think the first question you should ask yourself would you feel comfortable banging her in your single bed while your parents hear everything? Would you be comfortable that your privacy with her is limited? Would you be comfortable if you hanging out with her just in your ghetto and would you not get bored?

I cant speak for Mexican girls but when I was in Medellin I had a mini relationship with an Estrato 6 girl living in El Podlado, Medellin. She was a cool girl but her standards were really high. For example she would have never gone to a cheap restaurant or to a bar/nightclub with lower class people. We usually split the bill so it was not even that she wanted expensive dates for free. Now I cant speak for all Latinas but the rich ones usually have high standards. While she would be okay staying with you it would be also likely that u would never hear from her again after her stay. But I am sure many members here have more experience with Latinas then I have so they might comment here.

In my opinion the best option sounds like to visit her in Spain. I do not know about your financial situation but having a little trip together in Spain would be way better because it gives her some kind of romantic holiday feeling and it is more unlikely she will get bored. Just my two cents. Good luck and keep us updated!
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Thanks superschalk, I think your advice is good, I called her today and proposed us going to Madrid together for a couple of nights. Tbh flying to Madrid, renting a bedroom, eating some food, seeing sights and ploughing her for 5 days will cost me the same or just a bit more than doing the same in London because the flight is so cheap.

When talking to her she told me about some drama happening with her 'best friend' who came to her house, this 'best friend' was also her ex but she doesn't know that I know, I was so tempted to interrogate her and say so what did you and your ex do but I just played dumb and non-chalant because the less I care the better - she will be fellating me under the Spanish sunrise soon anyway Wink

I think my love is slowly fading away, this confirms that I felt puppy love. I want to see her again but my emotions are not as strong right now.
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(08-01-2018 01:41 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  I think my love is slowly fading away, this confirms that I felt puppy love. I want to see her again but my emotions are not as strong right now.

Everyone on here, so far, has given you solid advice to go on and we've all been where you are, right now.

Love is great! When it's good... damn, it's GOOD! Feels real, fucking good! But when it's bad... it's a motherfucking pain in the ass. You can't sleep, you can't eat, you can't focus on shit, and your emotions are all over the fucking place!

So, I think it's time for you to read about another sad, pathetic, love story (I'll keep it short):

Back in January 2010, I met this 19 yr old, drop-dead gorgeous German babe. She was blonde, dark brown eyes, only 5'2", slim waist, C-cup titties (which I think are the perfect breast size) with cute pink little nipples, and a firm round ass that would make you write home to all your boyz.

She was staying in the US with a wealthy American family as an 'au pair' (maybe you've heard of them, they're overseas nannies). I met her at a best friend's house party, and at the time, I was practicing game taught by a pua named 'Doc Love'. I still think his material is worth their weight. Anyways, that night at the party I pretty much ignored her but she was eyeball-fucking me the whole time but never made my move until the next morning (she and I stayed the night at my friend's place). That morning I had to work but I made my move before leaving-got some snuggle time in, a kiss, and her number.

Fast forward to a month later and things are going great! I mean the sex is great, food tasted better, and everyday I'm walking on sunshine! I thought I was the motherfucking Fonz, I'm talking Jesus, I could walk on water and nothing could mess my happy days up! Fast forward three months later->she confesses that she loves me, I tell her I love her, we go to Hawaii together that summer, and everything is on the up and up!

Fast forward to November 2010-> She has to go back to Germany (waahh, waaah, waaaah!) I surprise on her birthday (Nov. 27th) through a Skype call, "Hey baby! I'm coming to spend Xmas and New Year's with you and your family!" She's thrilled! Tells her family and friends. December rolls around and I fly over and we have a blast! Sex is still incredible and my girl looks even sexier than when she was in the US (I'm a loyal man and was very hungry for some pink taco).

Fast forward to April 2012-> Even though we both flew back and forth between continents to be with each other (we both made three equal trips during the years), I could sense with each Skype facetime call that she was getting more and more upset that we weren't spending enough time together (we didn't see each other for months at a time), and with each goodbye after meeting, she would cry more and more. I would try to reassure her that we'd be the couple that'd see it through thick and thin (I honestly believed that we would end up together if we just kept plowing through these difficult times as a team).

BUT, I couldn't cover the spread. The distance had taken its toll, and they say that "distance makes the heart grow fonder" but that, in my opinion, is a total crock. I try not to be bitter about it but she was the first girl I had fallen in love with, and keep in mind, I was divorced a couple of years prior to meeting this girl. I didn't know what love actually felt like until I met this German hottie. She knew how to make me feel like a man, she was feminine to a perfect-T: took care of my laundry, kept the house and herself looking real good, made me food (and she was a damn good cook), and kept my balls drained.

That same April, she called me over Skype and told me she couldn't take the distance anymore (a girl alone for that long, is a ticking time bomb). A few months later I broke down and sent her a LETTER (who the fuck sends a letter anymore) revealing all my sappy feelings and how she should come back to me or that I could move to Germany... "blah, blah, blah" (is all I'm pretty sure she read). You know what her response was? "This past summer I started talking to this guy at work..." I don't need to finish the rest of that conversation to let you know how that makes a man feel. Let's just say that after that talk, I was angry, and went on a poosy smashing rampage for a few years after. Haven't been in a serious relationship since then.

There's no "moral of the story" to be told here. You've been warned. Heed the wise advice of others on this forum or be damned that we "told ya so." 'Nuff said.

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Mikestar,

The guys, kaotic, UniversalMen and others speak from hard-earned experience. It's a sad truth, truth nonetheless. The real world bears little with what men get spoonfed by Hollywood - long lived, happily ever after (ok, it happens but usually under extremely favourable conditions and yours seem to be just the opposite).

Your brain is bathing in extreme amount of dopamine and serotonin - you're not thinking 'straight'. I'm almost sure, you'll try to extend it - nothing wrong with that, but there's an opportunity cost with her against meeting other girls where you live, which is the UK, as far as I can tell.

Why do I chime in? Well, it just happens I met a much younger than me, a 22 years old, rich, spoiled, crazy but exquisitely attractive (the redeeming quality, ha) Mexican girl living in Mexico whilst during her European travels, (via daygame). Soon after she went back to her country, yet for better or worse I've persuaded her to move to the UK (on a visa). It still didn't work out with me having much stronger game than yours I believe (I'm in my 30s) and with the girl supposedly being 'all over me'. In the end, juice weren't worth the squeeze - not with the fiery personality Mexican girls have, especially the young ones.

Let's reiterate it - she's 18, lives thousands of miles away from you, if she's attractive she has many options, you're a novice in this 'racket' and barely older than her and you need to rake in more experience to put things into perspective. Take it for what it's worth, a fantastic experience, so you both can have great memories instead of protracted, painful sob story with drama, endless calls, skype chats, suspicions who does what with whom and when. Quite likely, she'll be first to move on. It's tough, it seems to you irrational at the moment but, in the end, most likely the best thing is let the romance run its course and stop where it should. Re-read what UniversalMen wrote - I believe it's still rather a rosy story, in comparison to what could have been. However, whatever you'll do, it's your decision with all costs and benefits to your (un)hapinness to follow from this romantic encounter.

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(07-18-2018 03:42 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Btw I banged her so good she changed her profile picture of me and her, she keeps sending me love messages every hour, she also printed a picture of me and her and wrote a love note on the back.

This precisely means you're a complete novice - this means almost nothing - under euphoria, latin women can appear so enamoured in a man and undertake so many 'pro-love' little and girly actions, it seems you're the man with the highest importance, virility and vitality in the whole universe. Alas, because they are so emotional and inconsequential in their action, it's a double edged sword with a very sharp edge. What comes up at high speed, crashes just as fast...

You need to understand, women are fickle. In more scientific terms, the first and foremost rule of the club you've entered is - women are evolutionarily hard-wired to be hypergamous, period. Almost all of their behaviour is a consequence of that.

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Fam. Abudance mentality always. your not in love, your too young to understand love. You love the sex and dick sucking skills. Once you get on a plane she'll be sitting on a new cock before you land in your home town.
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Just be glad you had fun. Proceed to smash other women. You'll probably see her again. Don't make it weird for either of you.

Somebody should have told me that the first couple of times I caught Oneitis. I managed to scare off a really fun one when I was about 20 thinking it should be something more serious. She died a couple years ago and it still bugs me that we stopped talking because I couldn't appreciate it for what it was.

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(08-02-2018 11:26 AM)ksbms Wrote:  
(07-18-2018 03:42 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Btw I banged her so good she changed her profile picture of me and her, she keeps sending me love messages every hour, she also printed a picture of me and her and wrote a love note on the back.

This precisely means you're a complete novice - this means almost nothing - under euphoria, latin women can appear so enamoured in a man and undertake so many 'pro-love' little and girly actions, it seems you're the man with the highest importance, virility and vitality in the whole universe. Alas, because they are so emotional and inconsequential in their action, it's a double edged sword with a very sharp edge. What comes up at high speed, crashes just as fast...

You need to understand, women are fickle. In more scientific terms, the first and foremost rule of the club you've entered is - women are evolutionarily hard-wired to be hypergamous, period. Almost all of their behaviour is a consequence of that.

What can I say, I was blinded by the euphoria. Now I look through her instagram and all her pictures with guys and think damn... So each and every one of them guys she played the same game, did she also tell them she loves them, did she call them my papicito, mi amor, did she have passionate sex on the 2nd date just like with me?

The answer is painfully and probably yes. Honestly I had trouble sleeping smoothly in the past few days because of this when I really thought about it deeply, it hurts a bit but now I know what happens when I fuck around with a tinder girl and catch feelings.

All you guys gave me really eye opening inputs through your stories, thanks for that

Jetset - great song and message behind it, I will do like you said and just enjoy our trip then afterwards probably end it and burn bridges, I think continuing something like this is impossible and will do me harm in the end.
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(08-02-2018 05:23 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  
(08-02-2018 11:26 AM)ksbms Wrote:  
(07-18-2018 03:42 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Btw I banged her so good she changed her profile picture of me and her, she keeps sending me love messages every hour, she also printed a picture of me and her and wrote a love note on the back.

This precisely means you're a complete novice - this means almost nothing - under euphoria, latin women can appear so enamoured in a man and undertake so many 'pro-love' little and girly actions, it seems you're the man with the highest importance, virility and vitality in the whole universe. Alas, because they are so emotional and inconsequential in their action, it's a double edged sword with a very sharp edge. What comes up at high speed, crashes just as fast...

You need to understand, women are fickle. In more scientific terms, the first and foremost rule of the club you've entered is - women are evolutionarily hard-wired to be hypergamous, period. Almost all of their behaviour is a consequence of that.

What can I say, I was blinded by the euphoria. Now I look through her instagram and all her pictures with guys and think damn... So each and every one of them guys she played the same game, did she also tell them she loves them, did she call them my papicito, mi amor, did she have passionate sex on the 2nd date just like with me?

The answer is painfully and probably yes. Honestly I had trouble sleeping smoothly in the past few days because of this when I really thought about it deeply, it hurts a bit but now I know what happens when I fuck around with a tinder girl and catch feelings.

All you guys gave me really eye opening inputs through your stories, thanks for that

Jetset - great song and message behind it, I will do like you said and just enjoy our trip then afterwards probably end it and burn bridges, I think continuing something like this is impossible and will do me harm in the end.

No need to be too hard on yourself - you've lost your v-card at a reasonable age in a different country, and from now it can get only better. Don't focus on what you've lost but on what you've gained - great experience, good sex and plenty of confidence.

No need to split the hair but if we take into the fact, as you say, you met her on Tinder, she's got many male friends and kept her ex on her phone as a wallpaper, and you banged on the side anyway and fooled with other chicks, it's difficult to see it as a relationship with a serious potential (physical distance notwithstanding). Humans are prone to a phenomenon, identified by Kahneman and Tversky, which was aptly named loss aversion, and which you're probably experiencing now to a some degree.

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1.You lost V card to her - then how can you know your sex was best in the world? No logic.

2.You say she has an ex but you lost V card to her? You are content to have serious relationship with a girl with higher notch count then you? No self-esteem.

3. Long distance relationships never work. You didn't know that axiom? No Wisdom.

You got your whole life ahead of you. Move on. Keep her as a warm memory and it will warm you up from inside and give you self esteem. But if you get attached and want to make the impossible happen and to get back to her - you will only suffer.

First things in life - you acquire some logic, some self esteem and some wisdom. You can get self esteem from your memories, you can find wisdom in this forum. Logic is pretty much genetic trough I am afraid.
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(08-03-2018 02:56 PM)Mage Wrote:  OP

1.You lost V card to her - then how can you know your sex was best in the world? No logic.

2.You say she has an ex but you lost V card to her? You are content to have serious relationship with a girl with higher notch count then you? No self-esteem.

3. Long distance relationships never work. You didn't know that axiom? No Wisdom.

You got your whole life ahead of you. Move on. Keep her as a warm memory and it will warm you up from inside and give you self esteem. But if you get attached and want to make the impossible happen and to get back to her - you will only suffer.

First things in life - you acquire some logic, some self esteem and some wisdom. You can get self esteem from your memories, you can find wisdom in this forum. Logic is pretty much genetic trough I am afraid.

1. It was an exaggeration but yes obviously I cannot compare (only to one other chick)

2. If you read the recent posts I no longer have any thoughts of having a serious relationship with her, right from the beginning I was aware of her higher notch count and other red flags and I addressed this.

3. I did know that, I've been on this forum since I was 17, if you ask me and others I have a whole lot of wisdom for my age but what sets me back is my volatile emotions and scattered thoughts.

The way I write things may make me seem more stupid than I really am and like I am lacking logic - I am aware I need to work on that. But you're right I need to think more logically in general.
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You've got enough advice from others and self-awareness to now not play yourself.

Girls have reciprocal connections between their hindbrains and their vazh. You make one sing and the other miraculously bursts out in song too.

Their cognition also has reciprocal connections with the hindbrain more than men in general or at least in certain different ways. When a girl has been banged well her hindbrain reacts strongly to this, which affects their cognition and final actions. This is very fickle and transitory however, because the more time passes and the more alternative stimuli she gets (in particular being banged well by other men) the less intense the emotion. So women are very much "what do I (a) feel (b) now" creatures. This is why long term promises and plans e.g. wedding vows or declarations of love, using words such as "always" and "forever" are to be taken with a grain of salt, no matter how much genuine emotion seems to be expressed. The girl is very often not even aware of this as she is blinded in the moment.

Luckily you are aware of the above. I've learned lessons like this the hard way and consider this one of yours. It can drive you crazy and be painful, but prolonging your madness and pain is self-destructive. In the end you will come out wiser.

In the meantime, if there is little to no opportunity cost, why the hell not go and bang this girl in Spain? Get her to sit on your face and feast on her, then eat some of that weird spanish egg rice stuff. If you're not going to get many (or perhaps any) opportunities to bang her (or any girls as hot as her) for a while, get it in as thoroughly as possible.

If you take her back to your ghetto she will really not like it and likely drop you. If you have a week together in sunny Spain, she will have the feelings of a romantic getaway etc. instead of the "ewww" of a grey british ghetto.
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Thanks for your 2 cents SkanHunt. It's true, despite all she said to me and what her actions were I cannot register that as the absolute truth, a couple of years ago I probably would have but I know better.

So I cannot go to Spain anymore with her. My university starts in september and I am going to Italy for an exchange. Unfortunately, the day I start she is coming to Spain and she is going with her family for a religious pilgrimage.

However, she prefers to not go on the pilgrimage and would rather commit sins with me. The thing is, she will have to come spend the first week of university with me which sucks because that's when you make the most connections, especially with chicks. Plus ill have to take her everywhere with me and make it romantic, which will probably mean skipping university meetings and events.

This will also be Italy so I cannot leave her alone, before you know it 50 Giacomo's will be swooping her on the street, but im not afraid of that. I need to call her tomorrow and tell her to buy a ticket to Italy and then plan it around the university which won't be easy. She came 6000 miles so I cannot obviously not see her. I hope this plan works out.
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(07-17-2018 09:25 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Today is my final day in Mexico. I spent it all with my Mexican gf, we have been seeing each other for over 3 weeks. I met her on tinder (red flag I know). Long story short is we both fell in love but she has a LOT more than me. She has been phenomenal, I lost my v card to her, we had the best sex in the world, her head game is extraterrestial, I met her whole family tree including chaffeur and maid, she buys me gifts and she's smart.

She is 18 and I am 19, she is my first gf and today she cried when we said goodbye, it was intense. She said she will come see me in Europe in December and I will come see her next summer. However, how realistic is it to sustain our relationship, is it possible? I want it to happen. Other things to know is that she still has a pic of her ex as her background so I don't know if she has gotten with other guys, however... Well, I have gotten with maybe 5 other chicks and banged 1 even in this 'relationship' but it was at an early stage.

Dude your only 19, and should not even be in a monogamous relationship. That scarcity mentality isnt good to have, and it seems like you developing a oneitis for her. Foucs on yourself, try to improve your life, and date and explore.
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Never forget that you met on Tinder.

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(08-04-2018 03:50 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Thanks for your 2 cents SkanHunt. It's true, despite all she said to me and what her actions were I cannot register that as the absolute truth, a couple of years ago I probably would have but I know better.

So I cannot go to Spain anymore with her. My university starts in september and I am going to Italy for an exchange. Unfortunately, the day I start she is coming to Spain and she is going with her family for a religious pilgrimage.

However, she prefers to not go on the pilgrimage and would rather commit sins with me. The thing is, she will have to come spend the first week of university with me which sucks because that's when you make the most connections, especially with chicks. Plus ill have to take her everywhere with me and make it romantic, which will probably mean skipping university meetings and events.

Welcome to the real world, where you can't have your cake and eat it, trade offs, costs vs benefits, opportunity costs, counterfactuals, gains vs losses and 'The roads not taken'. You are only one person and can be at one place at a time. If you can, read on Optimal Stopping problem, for this algorithm may lend you a helpful hand what decision may be (approximately) the best of them all.

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