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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
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If she really deserves your love then she truly cares about you.

If she truly cares about you then she wants you to be happy

If she truly cares about your happiness then she doesn't want you to be sad.

If she truly wants you to be happy then she wants you to have sex with another girl

If you care about her wants then go have sex with another girl as soon as possible

Stop being so selfish and go fuck another girl


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You could meet another woman just liker her anywhere else women are nothing special.
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I will fuck another girl, I came far with my game, I need to unlock my potential and I know it’s big, I’m not even 20 yet. I appreciate all the support
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So... she made a video of me and her and put it on Facebook for the whole world to see, saying she is in love with me. I noticed she also started liking wedding pictures on social media. What did I do to this girl, I think I over gamed her Big Grin or she’s just super crazy (she is and I know it). That’s what happens when you stick your dick in a crazy girl
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For real though where the hell do you guys meet these girls, all i get is shy girls all over me and the maximum i've had is sex 2 times a day. Then i come here and read about guys fucking their girls 5-6 times a day and my friends telling me how they're fucking their girlfriends 5 times in one night. Damn... give me some of that, please. Do you need to create a strong frame from the beginning and make sure to emphasize the importance of sex so they know it's going to be a must in the relationship? Or do you just need to game different girls that are simply more sexual of nature. With high libido.
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(09-30-2018 09:02 AM)lifecrisis Wrote:  [url=https://imgflip.com/i/2j26wz][Image: 2j26wz.jpg]

For real though where the hell do you guys meet these girls, all i get is shy girls all over me and the maximum i've had is sex 2 times a day. Then i come here and read about guys fucking their girls 5-6 times a day and my friends telling me how they're fucking their girlfriends 5 times in one night. Damn... give me some of that, please. Do you need to create a strong frame from the beginning and make sure to emphasize the importance of sex so they know it's going to be a must in the relationship? Or do you just need to game different girls that are simply more sexual of nature. With high libido.

I guess there are a few factors, no. 1 she is Mexican - self explanatory. Actually my frame about sex with her from the beginning was non existent, we never spoke about it, we just did it. She’s also 18 so she is in her prime, her hormones must be going wild. I never knew I could have a girl with the same sex drive as me (I’m a horny motherfucker) but I guess they exist. If you want to meet horny girls look in Latin America - it’s in their blood.
09-30-2018 11:04 AM
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So it has come to the point where I have to make a decision on what I want to do and I need your guys help.

We talk every day whilst she is in Mexico but I keep a sensible stance - I know I don't want to marry her that's for sure. She wants to come to Europe to see me again this December right before Christmas (possibly the last time we see each other). I am happy to do so.

As I said previously I thought this girl fell in love with me very hard and even though I knew she had some sort of hangup with her ex I thought that even now she would cut ties with him or any other man in her life. I looked at her facebook (only social media she doesn't have me on and she changed her privacy settings and I saw her flirting with tons of guys who commented on her posts but saying things like I love you, take me away with you, you're the best. Right now I am pissed off cos there is a fine line between being cucked and keeping her an international fuckbuddy and I can't tell what it is. I feel angry, I want to message her fuck you, tell her I banged another girl and block her on everything.

Is it worth letting her come to Europe for the final time despite knowing after our relationship will turn to dust? Despite me having a blindfold on her sluttiness and letting her disrespect me like that, texting her ex even when she came to visit me.

You guys were all right, she was the first girl I put my dick inside and my brain malfunctioned, she was probably fucking other guys when we were dating in Mexico, I was too blind to see even though we met on tinder. My thoughts on this relationship have been too intense in the past weeks and I need to know whether to close this by seeing her again or to leave it and block her.

TL;DR: I fell in love with a tinder girl, lost my V card to her, she came to see me once in Europe and gave me signs she wanted to be with me for life, turns out she was "love bombing" me and I fell for it, she wants to come to Europe again and I don't know whether I should end it like that or not to take anymore disrespect and end all communication with her immediately.
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She's 18. She'll fly to see you (again). You haven't got anything else.

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This is pretty much the inverse of what it seems most on here have:

She's 35. She flakes. You thought that would happen so you have 5 other date set up.

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Mike, chilll out you gotta stop getting emotional over this hyna.

She's a hot 18 year old latina, OF COURSE dudes are going to be chasing her.

I told you LONG DISTANT RELATIONSHIPS DON'T WORK.

So keep doing what you're doing, keep approaching and fucking other women, and you'll be fine.

You have 2 choices:

Cool you jets, pull your emotions back and keep things light and funny with this chick.

Drop this chick and block her on everything so you can move on.


I honestly don't think you've the emotional fortitude to control yourself if you keep talking to her - it shows in your posts.

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(10-17-2018 04:18 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  So it has come to the point where I have to make a decision on what I want to do and I need your guys help.

TL;DR: I fell in love with a tinder girl, lost my V card to her, she came to see me once in Europe and gave me signs she wanted to be with me for life, turns out she was "love bombing" me and I fell for it, she wants to come to Europe again and I don't know whether I should end it like that or not to take anymore disrespect and end all communication with her immediately.

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(10-17-2018 04:18 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  So it has come to the point where I have to make a decision on what I want to do and I need your guys help.

We talk every day whilst she is in Mexico but I keep a sensible stance - I know I don't want to marry her that's for sure. She wants to come to Europe to see me again this December right before Christmas (possibly the last time we see each other). I am happy to do so.

As I said previously I thought this girl fell in love with me very hard and even though I knew she had some sort of hangup with her ex I thought that even now she would cut ties with him or any other man in her life. I looked at her facebook (only social media she doesn't have me on and she changed her privacy settings and I saw her flirting with tons of guys who commented on her posts but saying things like I love you, take me away with you, you're the best. Right now I am pissed off cos there is a fine line between being cucked and keeping her an international fuckbuddy and I can't tell what it is. I feel angry, I want to message her fuck you, tell her I banged another girl and block her on everything.

Is it worth letting her come to Europe for the final time despite knowing after our relationship will turn to dust? Despite me having a blindfold on her sluttiness and letting her disrespect me like that, texting her ex even when she came to visit me.

You guys were all right, she was the first girl I put my dick inside and my brain malfunctioned, she was probably fucking other guys when we were dating in Mexico, I was too blind to see even though we met on tinder. My thoughts on this relationship have been too intense in the past weeks and I need to know whether to close this by seeing her again or to leave it and block her.

TL;DR: I fell in love with a tinder girl, lost my V card to her, she came to see me once in Europe and gave me signs she wanted to be with me for life, turns out she was "love bombing" me and I fell for it, she wants to come to Europe again and I don't know whether I should end it like that or not to take anymore disrespect and end all communication with her immediately.

Fuck her in the pussy (other holes optional) and you've won everything that you possibly can off this chick

Fuck her in the pussy (other holes optional) and invest emotionally on what happens beyond that and you've lost.

Your choice

Winning is better than losing.

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You can keep it light and fun. I keep those kind of chicks on a 'waiting list' so to speak. Who knows perhaps you plan to travel back to Mexico and having some contact with her can be useful. You can have a cheap place to sleep and eat for few days, while gaming on the side. BUT in case you go back, don't just go back for her go back because you like the country, the culture, the food and the chicks in general.
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Answer: Forget it.

Reasoning:

1. Long distance relationships are, as a rule, generally inadvisable

2. She has a pic of her ex as her background. If all else were fine, this alone would be a dealbreaker.

3. She is clearly significantly more experienced than you. She has had at least one more relationship than you that you know about and, if the sex was so great, it means she probably knows what she is doing. A girl being significantly more experienced than you can only ever be a negative thing if you are looking for an LTR.

4. As a rule, it is unwise to ever consider an LTR with anyone you met on Tinder (or any app/website for that matter).

5. What you are feeling is not love, it is infatuation. This goes for her as well. Neither of you love each other because it is not possible for you to have developed love for each other in a span of only 3 weeks. Love takes much longer to develop. Many Indians who practice arranged marriage wisely expect and accept that they will be married for a while before they begin to develop love for each other because they got married after meeting only a few times and, until then, their marriage is largely a union of practicality.


All of that said, if the sex is really that good, you can still maintain communication with her (I mean a message every now and then but no more - she will waste as much of your time with this as you let her), have her visit you in Europe, and even visit her again in Mexico. This is only if these visits are going to be happening at some point in the next 3-6 months. Otherwise, don't bother. If you find yourself being emotionally tempted to settle down and anchor yourself to her at any time, remember the 5 points above, especially numbers 2, 3, and 4, and break off communication. It of course goes without saying that you should also be seeing another woman (or women) while you are geographically separated from her because you are almost certainly not the only guy she is in communication with.

*Pro tip: Never go to another country only for one girl. If you get flaked on or find that the situation when you arrive is not as you expected it to be, your trip will be for nothing and you will have wasted a huge amount of money and time. If you just really like whatever town in Mexico she is in and want to go back whether she is there or not, then maybe keep her on the roster but, otherwise, delete her contact info and move on.
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Update: this girl is coming to see me for Xmas to my home country, without telling her parents and working 2 jobs for a 30hr flight. She will be with me for over 2 weeks and will have to meet my parents and even other members of my family which I’m ok with because my family are relaxed and she comes from a catholic culture which is compatible with mine.

I have been gaming girls and nearly got a bang recently but the level in the country I’m in is really tough so i think - why bang a lame girl when in just 1 month I have fine Mexican pussy to run through every day (I know it’s not the best attitude). I will still try and bang before I see her and I think it’s possible.

Her love for me has expanded despite the distance, mine has slightly shrunk but I still talk with her everyday. I told her im going to Colombia in the summer and said that I don’t think I can go to Mexico. She is probably moving to the USA aim the next few months so it works out that we both move on. This time might be the last time we see each other so we I’ll enjoy it as always.
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Mike inviting here to come over and meet all your family may be relaxed but it is still a SERIOUS step in the wrong direction if you guys aren't going to be anything.

If it's just a visit and a fun trip I can understand but keep in mind what a woman can think it is.

Yes you should still game new girls, yes you should bang other girls.

Quote:I have been gaming girls and nearly got a bang recently but the level in the country I’m in is really tough so i think - why bang a lame girl when in just 1 month I have fine Mexican pussy to run through every day (I know it’s not the best attitude). I will still try and bang before I see her and I think it’s possible.

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That's a terrible attitude to have because it makes you comfortable, it makes you lazy and not want to game.

You always have to be a hungry wolf on the hunt. It keeps your game razor sharp and you're rewarded for the hunt.

You should bang that other girl and keep gaming.

The good thing is, once you've mastered the hard level of game in the country you're in, you'll be top notch, and you'll be able to game anywhere!

Quote:Her love for me has expanded despite the distance, mine has slightly shrunk but I still talk with her everyday. I told her im going to Colombia in the summer and said that I don’t think I can go to Mexico. She is probably moving to the USA aim the next few months so it works out that we both move on. This time might be the last time we see each other so we I’ll enjoy it as always.

You know why it's shrinking? Because you're gaming other girls and realizing that there's so many other girls in the world!

That puppy love from having sex with your first girl is fading away.

You should go to Colombia, you should never base a trip on a girl, so don't worry about Mexico.

If she's moving to the states in the next few months, send her my way! I'm joking of course.


Enjoy your time together, don't think about a future with her and enjoy it for what it is....which is fun!

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Kaotic, you can make as many rational arguments, including PT, myself and others, but sometimes you need to touch that hot stove and feel that burn to learn. Psychology suggests that during infatuation stage brain is just flooded with so many feel good neurotransmitters, rational thinking does little to help. Scientists compare it being on drugs - ever tried to reason with an addict?

I sound a bit harsh but the odds that it'll be happy ever after, with two people living in two different countries of different languages and cultures, on two different continents and no easy visa/long-stay arrangements, are pretty grim. Not to say, that a man needs a fair share of experience with women prior deciding which women is worth an LTR or more. First sex/love experience of off Tinder girl doesn't cut it. Then again, the odds are not equal to zero, so who knows?

There is nothing like a long distance relationship though, it's a verbal travesty to call such an arrangement a relationship. Sooner, rather than later, you need to have consistent pattern of seeing each other on a regular basis to keep it truly healthy.

The irony is, Mikestar asked for advice, then he got it so he could act upon it to the best of the aggregated knowledge and experience of the forum members, yet he's profligate in his attitude and ignorance. Let him touch the stove.

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(11-09-2018 12:30 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Mike inviting here to come over and meet all your family may be relaxed but it is still a SERIOUS step in the wrong direction if you guys aren't going to be anything.

The only reason that she will see my family is that I will be chilling for a few days in my hometown and it is inevitable that I see them. I am treating her more like a "friend" to my family who wants to see my country and I am her tour guide. I will not stay at any of my families houses (except from cool uncles) for obvious reasons.


Quote:Everyday for 2 weeks**

That's a terrible attitude to have because it makes you comfortable, it makes you lazy and not want to game.

You always have to be a hungry wolf on the hunt. It keeps your game razor sharp and you're rewarded for the hunt.

You should bang that other girl and keep gaming.

The good thing is, once you've mastered the hard level of game in the country you're in, you'll be top notch, and you'll be able to game anywhere!

It's true I cannot lie, I cannot be lazy like this but the level of girls in South America has ruined me, e.g. the Italian girl I nearly banged barely gave me a boner, she wasn't feisty and I had to force it. Luckily for me there is a community of latinos which I have infiltrated and there are hot girls in there which are the ones I want.

Quote:You know why it's shrinking? Because you're gaming other girls and realizing that there's so many other girls in the world!

That puppy love from having sex with your first girl is fading away.

You should go to Colombia, you should never base a trip on a girl, so don't worry about Mexico.

If she's moving to the states in the next few months, send her my way! I'm joking of course.

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Man that made me laugh too damn hard because ironically she is moving to your city (I've read your posts). God knows what will happen, maybe she will invite me to see her but I know life in the US will probably corrupt her (or kaotic will) Biggrin
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(11-09-2018 12:52 PM)ksbms Wrote:  Kaotic, you can make as many rational arguments, including PT, myself and others, but sometimes you need to touch that hot stove and feel that burn to learn. Psychology suggests that during infatuation stage brain is just flooded with so many feel good neurotransmitters, rational thinking does little to help. Scientists compare it being on drugs - ever tried to reason with an addict?

I sound a bit harsh but the odds that it'll be happy ever after, with two people living in two different countries of different languages and cultures, on two different continents and no easy visa/long-stay arrangements, are pretty grim. Not to say, that a man needs a fair share of experience with women prior deciding which women is worth an LTR or more. First sex/love experience of off Tinder girl doesn't cut it. Then again, the odds are not equal to zero, so who knows?

There is nothing like a long distance relationship though, it's a verbal travesty to call such an arrangement a relationship. Sooner, rather than later, you need to have consistent pattern of seeing each other on a regular basis to keep it truly healthy.

The irony is, Mikestar asked for advice, then he got it so he could act upon it to the best of the aggregated knowledge and experience of the forum members, yet he's profligate in his attitude and ignorance. Let him touch the stove.

There is no stove. I have already touched it if anything. I just want to have fun with this girl cos we enjoy each others company. She's paying for it too, there is no loss here ksbms. I even jokingly asked what her intentions are with me, she said I want your dick, I said I want your pussy - that's that. Discussionclosed

I know I have went against the advice of many people but tell me this - if you could get a girl to fly half way across the world to see you twice, to show her your culture, sightsee, enjoy your time in every way AND pay for herself you're saying you wouldn't do it? Especially if you have never done such thing in your life. I'm just trying out new things man, maybe I'm doing it wrong but I will learn through my own path.
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Mike KS is right in some regards because you slightly do see through rose colored classes, albeit a very very light shade.

KS I think Mike will be okay, sooner or later, we've ALL touched the stove, it's all good!

Well Mike if you're ever in my area let me know, if she is, I'm sure I can show....her around haha!

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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
If you fall in love abroad, its almost determined to fail. In my experience ldr never work. Nowadays, with tinder and all that stuff, its hard to keep a girl if she lives two blocks away, obviously it's even worse if she lives on the other side of the planet....its just a matter of time until she will cheat. In addition you are 19, a guy your age should learn game and how life works, you should enjoy being young and not waste your time in a ldr. If you focus on her, you might end up on your phone, hoping to get a message or any sign of attention while she's fucking other guys. I speak from experience, since today I just broke up with a girl from Phillipines, I was in a similar situation like you, and trust me..... it won't end well for you.
12-01-2018 05:06 PM
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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
I think this is the end of this chapter of my life.

My girl left my home country to go back to Mexico - she couldn't stay for xmas as her parents didn't agree, although we did spend 10 days together. She came on a nearly 30 hour journey to see me - we ended up enjoying life to its fullest. The only problem in my mind was that my dick was too sore from fucking. I literally made my dreams come true - to get a fine Latina chick who treats me like a king. Me and this girl had a connection which is not common on this planet. We saw through each others souls. Before leaving she confessed that I changed her life forever and brought her out of the darkness. It was a lot of emotions, the best pleasure I have ever experienced. This girl understood me like not even my own parents could.

Even when she gave me a head her passion engulfed me and reached my soul. Even though we fucked way too much I found it hard to get bored of her. Before leaving this girl told me to never get out of my comfort zone in life and to never find a girl who treats me less than she did. We pinpointed all the flaws in our relationship and its true - I cannot go and live with her on a Mexican rancho and live happily ever after - neither can she move to Europe. It's a pity... the connection we had even other people could say was not normal. Every time we walked in public she would kiss my hand, submit to me, always do everything for me, wear what I want her to wear, do what I want to do. She told me I was the definition of a real man. Even though she is absolutely crazy sometimes (Latina's of course) and she had red flags, it turns out that yes - more than likely they were true, although the thing I wrote about her ex was wrong and I was paranoid, she does not love her ex and did not love him whilst dating me.

We ended this trip on a good note, even though she cried her eyes out (and so did I, that's honest). I wished her the best in life in all ways and she said she will never forget me and how no guy will ever compare in her life. So this means a goodbye to the girl I lost my virginity to. She says she wants to see me again in life and I am welcome to see her any time in Mexico but she understands I want to truly part ways now and move on to different horizons. I told her she is welcome to Europe anytime too.

So, after my first crazy long distance relationship, I can say that yes - it does not work. If you make it work it will eventually cause too much pain to both of you and if you start there will be no happy ending. Nevertheless, I am glad I learnt my own way and lived how I always wanted to live, fuck like I wanted to fuck, have a girl like I always wanted to have. Maybe I will see this girl again in life but thats not my focus. Now I will keep on gaming at home, make more money, hit the gym, study and go to Colombia in the summer Wink
12-21-2018 05:54 PM
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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
No worries man, glad you came out of this okay. As the wise Kaotic said above, she'll always have a special place in your notch count.

As someone who was in your situation before, one of the best things you can do for yourself is not to compare other girls to her. As your game matures, you're going to meet plenty of new women, and quite frankly there will be a lot of them who don't hold a candle to this girl. You will meet others though that blow this chick out of the water. Just wait until you can have a girl like this on call to please you whenever you want with no logistical hurdles.

It's going to be hard, especially because I gather that you're a more emotional guy, but try everything in your power to enjoy each woman as an individual.

Personally, I've never understood the amount of woman hate here. Even the really shitty sloots have admirable qualities if you know where to look. If you can find a way to focus on those, with each individual woman instead of comparing her overall goodness to your first girl, you will be better off for it, and your game will be much stronger because you're focused on the moment and not being pulled back by your Latina.

Good luck my man, I enjoyed reading this story quite a bit. I'm thrilled that you were able to have this experience and are able to step back from the entire thing now and reflect positively on it.

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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
Thank you Investment Bro,

So I am about to book a month or even longer in Mexico this summer and I don’t know how to do it logistically. She invited me to stay at her house with her family but that’s plan A, I’m not relying on her fully in case she loses interest or something until June.

I want to stay in Mexico for one and a half months but the problem is that I can probably not stay with this girl for that long because she might get bored, and it may be a burden on her family. So how is the best way to do it, maybe spend 2 weeks at her house and go travelling to Guadalajara (for example) and return? How have you guys with main chicks in these countries arranged spending time?
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RE: I fell in love abroad, sustain it or forget it?
(02-23-2019 12:18 PM)Mikestar Wrote:  Thank you Investment Bro,

So I am about to book a month or even longer in Mexico this summer and I don’t know how to do it logistically. She invited me to stay at her house with her family but that’s plan A, I’m not relying on her fully in case she loses interest or something until June.

I want to stay in Mexico for one and a half months but the problem is that I can probably not stay with this girl for that long because she might get bored, and it may be a burden on her family. So how is the best way to do it, maybe spend 2 weeks at her house and go travelling to Guadalajara (for example) and return? How have you guys with main chicks in these countries arranged spending time?

You're very intuitive at your age to be reluctant to stay with her for such a long time. There's a strong possibility of extinguishing whatever flame you two have got going.

I've been living in Mexico City the last 2 years or so and here's my advice. I'm a mid 30's guy who speaks Spanish, and I've had several Latina girlfriends.

Take it for what it's worth....

I try not to stay over at girls' houses ever*, especially if they're still with their parents. The reason for this is that you're the second man in her FATHER's castle and in a big way, dependent on their kindness and hospitality. This isn't a problem between amigos where there is mutual respect, but between lovers, I don't like exposing myself in a submissive role to my girl. I see myself, and I prefer her to see me, as the independent, strong, mysterious, foreign lover. So for me at least, having to walk on eggshells for an extended period in another man's castle is incompatible with that.

That said, having a good relationship with her family is extremely important, so I'll accept invitations to dinner, stay late drinking mezcal, etc. But, I'll try to find a way to get home before drawing the curtain on the day. If I absolutely have to stay, I'll find a way to leave in the early morning. I don't want to be loafing around as a second-class individual.

I've learned this the hard way.

Now since you asked, the best way to do it is to have your own place for the entire duration of your trip, at the very least your own room. I'd recommend not seeing her everyday, give her space to miss you even while you're there. Also, your travel idea is a good one; extended absences make the heart grow fonder.

* If they live on their own, I'll leave when I wake up or right after breakfast unless we have an activity planned for the day.
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