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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
(01-28-2019 01:49 PM)DarkVader Wrote:  Interesting theory, my notch count is 100+ and I'm 26. I had my dick in around 30 different women last year up until August and for the first time a switch went in my head where I didn't want to sleep with anymore new women, there were a few reasons behind that, which I won't go into right now.

I had no intention of settling down for years because after all, I'm 26 and my SMV is only going up but I have found a girl that makes me want to take a step back from banging girls all over the place and reflect. I'm currently enjoying the relationship, my only struggle is fucking one girl after having so much variety for so long. I wouldn't say that has fucked me up in any sort of way but it has lowered my tolerance for bad behaviour and bullshit. If there's any cheating or negative behavioural changes on her part I'm more than willing to cut ties and go back to playing the field.

For me that's what this has always been about. Just knowing I can do what I want. If I want to sleep with lots of women, I can. If I want to be in a relationship, I can do that. The problem for a lot of men is being trapped in dead end relationships because there's not much else out there for them. If you don't have that fear, you know you will have much more positive relationships that are good for you.

I wish I did this when I was young. The trouble is, blue pilled society doesn't want you to know this.

"playing the field" is not an option you are talked in sex education, for instance. Meeting women without a social circle is at least a part time job, but to actually get laid out of it you are looking at a full time job.

I always felt like I needed a girlfriend before being able to approach women. But that never happened, so in my eyes I was always "less" than a normal person.

I am 29 now and my day game is only just starting to become "normal" rather than an exercise in creeping women out in my local town.

I figure I have left it too late, I can already feel my libido has died down from it's height in my early 20s.

I can only start from 2018, when I started approaching. I can't go back to 2007, 2008, 2011, 2014, hell, even 2017.

My start date will forever be stuck in 2018. I WISH I could be young again.
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(01-30-2019 03:36 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  I have tried plates, but here are my problems with them:

1) too much work juggling and remembering all the different scenarios, and not fucking up
2) Can't really accept having to lie and cheat to them
3) Can't accept that they are swallowing other dudes loads and coming over to kiss me with that mouth
4) Can't deal with multiple sets of drama
5) A decent woman around your SMV is not going to accept being ignored and she will know you are banging others. She will dump you. PLates need to be a few points lower SMV, and who wants to bang women a few points lower than you can get?

In addition to what montrose said, I think to do this you shouldn't worry too much if they break up with you.

You are right most girls with options will eventually get fed-up with your fucking around and similar behaviour (but it will take a lot more effort than you'd think to get there razz)

But this is not a bad thing. These are meant to be mini-relationships with an expiration date, spanning a few days to a few months, to be replaced afterwards with new girls. If you want to be fucking the same 3 women 2-3 times per week for 7 years straight then yes this is not very doable.
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(01-30-2019 03:36 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  I have tried plates, but here are my problems with them:

1) too much work juggling and remembering all the different scenarios, and not fucking up
2) Can't really accept having to lie and cheat to them
3) Can't accept that they are swallowing other dudes loads and coming over to kiss me with that mouth
4) Can't deal with multiple sets of drama
5) A decent woman around your SMV is not going to accept being ignored and she will know you are banging others. She will dump you. PLates need to be a few points lower SMV, and who wants to bang women a few points lower than you can get?

A few other annoyances as well.

I much prefer a deeper, more honest LTR and the riches that they contain with the right woman

Adding my reply from the notch count poll thread cause I think it's relevant here and goes with your thoughts:
(01-30-2019 03:33 AM)NomadofEU Wrote:  I'd rather be the guy with 10 lays, all 8s or above, than the guy with 100 lays, all 7s or below.

The guy with the 10 hottie notches will have progressed much further towards fulfilling Commandment 10/16 of Poon (Ignore her beauty): https://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixt...s-of-poon/

Notches for the sake of notches is just time wasted with the added risk of unwanted pregnancy or STD infection. A man must have a philosophy that guides and motivates his sexual conquests.

Gotta say, laying tons of women that are below your SMV is nothing to write RVF about.

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(01-29-2019 11:01 AM)Montrose Wrote:  My daughter is very prudish and has absolutely no idea of what I do.

In my experience, the best predictor of female promiscuity is a weak or absent father (which I am not).

Or a father who is impossible to please and doesn't love her. She'll then spend her life trying to please other men to get love.
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One of the biggest realisations I have had in life is that things that you want always come with things you don't want - and they are things that you really don't want. The only exception to this I am aware of is when you start winning again the flip side is it comes with leftist butt-hurt. But anyway...

As an example, if you want to marry a big boobie lingerie model, it's going to come with the flip of higher divorce-rates and infidelity. Since you want a big boobie hottie on lock down, this is the last thing you want.

If you want to bang lots of women it's going to come with the flip side of you becoming jaded and bored of sex. Since you have a drive to have lots of sex, the last thing you want is to not have a drive to have lots of sex.

This is something that you need to accept. Then you can look for ways to mitigate it, such as pacing yourself.

I think most of the users who stick around on the forum are higher in obsessive traits - fixing on something and single-mindedly pursuing it, thinking about it etc. Not all people are able to do this. Many float around not able to focus on something long enough to achieve anything.

The obsessive never wants to posses what it desires, it has to keep it at a distance. As soon as it possesses what it desires it looses interest. It's real interest is to be in the state of desire.

This can be extremely positive, as it always keeps you moving towards goals. The downside is that it comes with constant anxiety that you are not achieving enough, not good enough etc. But when you realise this reality you can reduce that anxiety. It's another case of getting something you don't want with something you want. If you want to be an overachiever, it will come with the anxiety you are not achieving enough. You don't want to kill the anxiety, because the anxiety you are not achieving enough is a big part of your drive to singley-mindely pursue goals.

In my opinion obsessive compulsive disorder is suffered by people with obsessive impulses who can't find an productive outlet for them - that give them things they value. So they latch on to washing their hands, sorting paper or thinking about things they'd rather not.

In the case of an obsessive wanting to have sex with lots of women there is an anxiety, "Here's a 6+ I need to bang her." If you are making that you're life, you are probably not in the 1% of guys it comes naturally to, but the other 1% who make it a considerable part of their lives to find out how they can rack up a high notch count. There will likely be an unconscious reason pushing you to behave like this + the obsessive impulses.

For me it's different. I don't have a strong drive to bang lots of women, and not really at all below 7.5. Instead my drive is to find an 18 year old girl to marry. 19 is good, but it just doesn't cut it. I don't know why I want this, beyond the obvious superficial reasons. And when I do get it, as it stands, marrying an 18 year old will loose all of it's appeal, as I have what I desire.

As an example of how this works. Most people can't tell you what music they like beyond I like the sound or just describing properties of the music, as the drivers are unconscious. They can't tell you what it is about them that draws them to the music. But I know the reason why I liked the various types of music I have liked.

When I was 13 I was in a process of being rejected by mainstream society (school). This was a hierarchy I previously had a good position in and valued it. But as it changed and rejected me, I began looking for alternative systems that I could have a place within. So I turned to alternative rock and a big part of my life was directed at ascending that sub-culture's hierarchy. And this is a sub-culture I thought was ridiculous only a year earlier. Being obsessive I pretended to myself I liked music I liked I didn't like (such as Sepultura). This is you banging your 6s. It was behaviour based on unconscious desires. As mentioned it was the unconscious desire to be in a value structure that valued me, but it manifested in me doing things I didn't want to.

Another point on obsessive personalities is women are drawn to them. So as well as having impulses that drive you to achieve your goals, women are more attracted to you. It's as obsessives like to keep boundaries from their desires as it's the only way they can maintain the desire. The obsessive man will hold himself apart form women, which communicates he is less needy and of higher status, which is the main thing women are attracted to in my opinion.

While women in general tend to be more hysterical. The hysterical desire wants to posses what it desires. So an obsessive man and hysterical woman get locked together in this symbiosis of trying to maintain their desire.

And this is why women don't like hysterical men, which is to say those who are further towards feminine and the left; and why there was the recenty study showing women prefer sexist men of "woke baes". The desire for woke baes is the same as my desire to be valued in the rock sub-culture. It's for women who have been rejected by the mainstream dating market and in ignoring their pain on that reality, they are setting up a new market they really don't want to be in to mask it.

The hysterical man (typified by the BuzzFeed Try Guys) wants to posses women. He is needy and constantly elevates women above himself in his attempt to fulfill his desires. But this communicates he is of a lower status, so the women only come by once they've found they can't get high status.

So, as I see it, if you are banging a lot and unsatisfied there are a few things at play:

1) You are getting things that you don't want (drama, STDs, time sink) along with what you want (sex)
2) You probably don't don't know what is driving your desire to pursue the player lifestyle
3) Your obsession is becoming dysfunctional in that you are not getting what you want

To be fulfilled you need to be constantly be getting what you want. The moment you have what you want is becomes normal. There is also little residual value in banging lots of women. As someone said - once you have banged 20-30 women you don't have much left to learn from the experience.
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
I got above 100 by age 24 (started at 13). I've never had problems getting laid but this last year since being back in the states focusing on growing my business and paying off some debt I have had a dry spell for a few months but when/if I go lookin I manage to find something to fuck as a ONS. Still young and under 30 so I am not too pre occupied searching but I know if I don't keep looking every few months then my game I have learned over time will start going away slowly like anything does that you don't work out consistently (working out, being social, fighting/shooting skills, etc).

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(01-30-2019 12:02 PM)gework Wrote:  One of the biggest realisations I have had in life is that things that you want always come with things you don't want - and they are things that you really don't want.

[..]

As an example, if you want to marry a big boobie lingerie model, it's going to come with the flip of higher divorce-rates and infidelity. Since you want a big boobie hottie on lock down, this is the last thing you want.

If you want to bang lots of women it's going to come with the flip side of you becoming jaded and bored of sex. Since you have a drive to have lots of sex, the last thing you want is to not have a drive to have lots of sex.

[...]

I think most of the users who stick around on the forum are higher in obsessive traits - fixing on something and single-mindedly pursuing it, thinking about it etc. Not all people are able to do this. Many float around not able to focus on something long enough to achieve anything.

The obsessive never wants to posses what it desires, it has to keep it at a distance. As soon as it possesses what it desires it looses interest. It's real interest is to be in the state of desire.

[...]

Another point on obsessive personalities is women are drawn to them. So as well as having impulses that drive you to achieve your goals, women are more attracted to you. It's as obsessives like to keep boundaries from their desires as it's the only way they can maintain the desire. The obsessive man will hold himself apart form women, which communicates he is less needy and of higher status, which is the main thing women are attracted to in my opinion.

While women in general tend to be more hysterical. The hysterical desire wants to posses what it desires. So an obsessive man and hysterical woman get locked together in this symbiosis of trying to maintain their desire.

[...]

So, as I see it, if you are banging a lot and unsatisfied there are a few things at play:

1) You are getting things that you don't want (drama, STDs, time sink) along with what you want (sex)
2) You probably don't don't know what is driving your desire to pursue the player lifestyle
3) Your obsession is becoming dysfunctional in that you are not getting what you want

To be fulfilled you need to be constantly be getting what you want. The moment you have what you want is becomes normal.

Powerful stuff. As an "obsessive," I think you're right on most of your points. Liked the dynamic you describe between the obsessive and the hysterical. You're right: desire is what drives us, but I don't think we will ever be "fulfilled" by only getting what we want. I'm finding by being content with what we have, as taught by Seneca, is the way forward. Desire, for me, is just something that motivates me to go out and achieve something. As such, desire is something that can easily shift to something else once acquired or lost interest in. Continuing to pursue something that you're bored with and really no longer enjoy is dysfunctional.

Quick aside: I think guys who obsess over 8+ and/or <23 year old girls do so more for their ego than anything else. Sure, they're are both prizes worthy of putting in extra effort in acquiring for short-term pleasure, but you shouldn't sacrifice everyone not in that filter bubble. I'm guilty of eventually wanting have a trophy wife, but one thing I've learned is that you can't have it all in one girl and you sure as heck can't find an 8+ who has all the real feminine/submissive/motherly qualities you want in a woman. Your odds of winning the lottery are better.
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My notch count is in the 70's, but I don't see my wants or desires changing at 100+ notches. Or 200+ for that matter.

I just like fucking women. No need to psycho analyze it. I see an attractive woman, I want to fuck her. Much like how when I see a nice steak, I want to eat it.

Whether you're in a long relationship/marriage with a woman, or you're just pumping and dumping, you're going to have to deal with their bullshit on some level. That's just how it is.

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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
(01-27-2019 03:56 PM)jacknap Wrote:  I actually hit 600 lays last night. I always learn and learn a LOT even at the higher numbers. I learned a lot 400-600 because I got into swinger/sex club game. Mind blower. 250-400 was online game learning. 0-250 cold approach learning. There's always a higher level it seems.

How old are you to get 600 notches?

(01-26-2019 12:45 AM)LatinaLova Wrote:  If your goal is to pump and dump to the 100's and have the potential for it, think twice.

A very high notch count is cool and all but it really fcks you up mentally. Too much variety bores you off EVERY girl very fast, sexually and personality wise. Even higher quality girls get boring, just takes longer.

You can't have a relationship anymore. After the first time, you start losing interest and the boner doesn't get as hard for the repeat. You keep comparing her personality to X, Y and Z and wish she had all those qualities combined.
So you are stuck in this sexual abundance state which has served its purpose long time ago and is becoming more and more meaningless with time. You gotta keep slaying but the more you do, the further you get from a potential "oneitis". The vicious cycle of slaying lol

Anyone else can relate to this?

Anyone managed to settle after a high slay count?

How many hundreds of notches do you have and how old are you?

I think having too much pussy would be better than not having enough.

This is like saying it sucks having too much money. Yeah, once you have a lot of money you buy stupid shit that you don't need, too many cars, eat too much food, take too many vacations, etc.

I can't see where having too many notches would cause too many problems.

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Really great thread and glad OP started it. I'm at 113 notches counting from 2016 when I started tracking my notches in a spreadsheet. I've been thinking a lot about this and I've come to a similar conclusion to many here: once you see the true nature of women it is very difficult to unsee it. It actually causes me a lot of pain and puzzlement. Pain because I know I'll never be able to have a woman love me for who I am rather than what I can do for her, and puzzlement that although I've interacted with literally hundreds of women a small part of me always wishes that I'll find one that is different.

This actually causes some problems at work as basically all the guys are on the marriage and kids track so you have to tread carefully. On the one hand not bragging about the 18 year olds you're fucking and making them jealous and questioning their life choices and on the other not completely omitting what your life is about an looking like a loser.
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(01-31-2019 10:10 AM)[email protected] Wrote:  My notch count is in the 70's, but I don't see my wants or desires changing at 100+ notches. Or 200+ for that matter.

I just like fucking women. No need to psycho analyze it. I see an attractive woman, I want to fuck her. Much like how when I see a nice steak, I want to eat it.

Whether you're in a long relationship/marriage with a woman, or you're just pumping and dumping, you're going to have to deal with their bullshit on some level. That's just how it is.

This pretty much echos my thoughts. I like being intimate with attractive women. I like to act on it when it's convenient. Most men can't do what the men on this forum can do, but most men want to. I take solace in having this much sought after skill and I don't take it for granted. I'm not searching for anything by boning new women. Wrong, I'm searching for the experience of banging them. I'm not trying to make up for lost time or prove to everybody in high school that ignored me I'm the man. I simply enjoy women. Doesn't have to be deeper than that.
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The thing to keep in mind is that all of that time and energy that goes into hooking up with 100's of these women is energy that could be used to make you a better person, increase your earnings potential and obtain goals. Now if you achieved all of those goals already...smash away!
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(01-26-2019 12:45 AM)LatinaLova Wrote:  If your goal is to pump and dump to the 100's and have the potential for it, think twice.

A very high notch count is cool and all but it really fcks you up mentally. Too much variety bores you off EVERY girl very fast, sexually and personality wise. Even higher quality girls get boring, just takes longer.

You can't have a relationship anymore. After the first time, you start losing interest and the boner doesn't get as hard for the repeat. You keep comparing her personality to X, Y and Z and wish she had all those qualities combined.
So you are stuck in this sexual abundance state which has served its purpose long time ago and is becoming more and more meaningless with time. You gotta keep slaying but the more you do, the further you get from a potential "oneitis". The vicious cycle of slaying lol

Anyone else can relate to this?

Anyone managed to settle after a high slay count?

I've had the same problem, so now I prefer to have one or two stable GF's.
It's better to have sex with someone who knows what you like and you know what the other person likes. I would also recommend to do a sport (boxing, CrossFit,...etc.), it boost your testosterone and sexual drive.
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I'm at 32 notches. Would like to hit 100 before settling down.

I think this is only an issue if your goal is to settle down with girl who will ALWAYS surprise you sexually. If a girl crosses 70% of my sexual boxes, is an asset in other areas and above all is not a liability in certain areas then I'm fine.

Surprise y'all - no girl is perfect.
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(01-31-2019 10:34 AM)brianmark Wrote:  
(01-27-2019 03:56 PM)jacknap Wrote:  I actually hit 600 lays last night. I always learn and learn a LOT even at the higher numbers. I learned a lot 400-600 because I got into swinger/sex club game. Mind blower. 250-400 was online game learning. 0-250 cold approach learning. There's always a higher level it seems.

How old are you to get 600 notches?

(01-26-2019 12:45 AM)LatinaLova Wrote:  If your goal is to pump and dump to the 100's and have the potential for it, think twice.

A very high notch count is cool and all but it really fcks you up mentally. Too much variety bores you off EVERY girl very fast, sexually and personality wise. Even higher quality girls get boring, just takes longer.

You can't have a relationship anymore. After the first time, you start losing interest and the boner doesn't get as hard for the repeat. You keep comparing her personality to X, Y and Z and wish she had all those qualities combined.
So you are stuck in this sexual abundance state which has served its purpose long time ago and is becoming more and more meaningless with time. You gotta keep slaying but the more you do, the further you get from a potential "oneitis". The vicious cycle of slaying lol

Anyone else can relate to this?

Anyone managed to settle after a high slay count?

How many hundreds of notches do you have and how old are you?

I think having too much pussy would be better than not having enough.

This is like saying it sucks having too much money. Yeah, once you have a lot of money you buy stupid shit that you don't need, too many cars, eat too much food, take too many vacations, etc.

I can't see where having too many notches would cause too many problems.

Shared more details bottom of page 2.

I think you need to have enough notches to get it out of your system like others have said. But after a certain point it can become toxic for your mind.
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
(01-31-2019 03:44 PM)MaceTyrell Wrote:  I'm at 32 notches. Would like to hit 100 before settling down.

I think this is only an issue if your goal is to settle down with girl who will ALWAYS surprise you sexually. If a girl crosses 70% of my sexual boxes, is an asset in other areas and above all is not a liability in certain areas then I'm fine.

Surprise y'all - no girl is perfect.

Good analysis, and your criteria is dead on. However, I predict you won't need to get to 100 before settling down. The idea is clearly at the back of your mind already, and you'll likely get tired of the game before then.
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I don’t “need” to get to 100. I am 26 and don’t want to settle down until my mid-late 30s, for career purposes mostly (and to see how the tier of girl I can get improves over time).

At my planned pace, I should hit 100 before I turn 34.
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Also at 33 notches now teehee. First girl to make me cum with a condom on in goodness knows how long. Look at God!
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
After hitting 100 it is just easy to let go mediocre women that might get into your head for the wrong reasons (Looks, fun, drugs)

I can still bond, just takes longer and the requirements are higher.

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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
Being in my mid-20s and having around 100 notches I'd say there is definitely the positive effect of no longer feeling a compulsion to make any good-looking girl with a nice personality your girlfriend. You have a better idea of what is out there and of your ability of getting it, so naturally you don't feel like any single girl is a once-in-a-lifetime chance, something I remember thinking in my teens.

At the same time, I do have the aforementioned fear that nothing will be able to make up for the variety and excitement of constantly seeing new girls, once I finally want to settle down. I sometimes feel bad "giving up" a nice girl just to pursue some new girl who may not even be as nice, just for the novelty.

Who knows.
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
Yeah i agree triple digits generally means something is fucked up. Kinda similar to losing ur virginity super young, sounds cool but like not always a great experience. My homeboy lost it when he was 13 and says he regrets it. He probably doesnt but it’s definitely not a super healthy thing
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02-08-2019 01:44 AM
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
This thread is retarded, everyone is different...

...Yet most associate sex with their fears & ego...

Do you count how many times you masturbate in a lifetime? Why do you do it? Do you count how many times you've laughed with humans?

It's hilarious everyone tries to throw all this dogma on sex because everywhere you look sex is being marketed and blown up as this BIG THING.

...Sex feels empty? So masturbating is empty too? Should you stop?

Humans are like toddlers when it comes to sex...

Drop the creed, sex is sex, it os fun like socializing with friends. There is no long term residual beyond your sexuality and appreciation for sex may grow.

I'll never know just how much women I banged including the unknowns I banged blackedout or simply forgot...I can say I never regretted it nor has it ever got old.

The only time I've ever had NEGATIVE views was in monogamy and the stress that bled into it. Sex was still good BUT it was no long FUN. When you have FUN SEX it is like sexuality exploration, every woman is different.

For me sex have always been like going out to eat at a new restaurant, you've had a fun time so far and for whatever reason your willing to have fun sexually...There is no BS, no stress, no stupid dynamics (I don't go on dates so sex is never a formal or logical thing for me) that sexual tension/urgency sweeps and you have sex.

SEX HAS NO MEANING beyond a fun experience, it's like dancing...

I'm also severely bias as I have personally expressed the killer of STRESS and monogashit, all that sexuality within you dies into a rather monotone experience. It woulda been a much better experience if ex and I weren't monogamous.

As I only had public sex 1x with her in 3 years (Have done other things publicly) contrast chicks I just meet public sex or FB and I on edge of a roof. The most recent chick banged choking her while she gets off using her magic wand.

The beauty is, there is ALWAYS good vibes in one night stands. Although happened 5 years ago, I will never forget this 1 french girl. The level of play during pillow talk lead to round 2 where she was in utter shock that she not only orgasmed through intercourse BUT for 2nd time. Prior she stated "I'm like a guy I orgasm once and pass out". We were cracking up that we broke the bed and was playing/rolling around as if we knew each other for years. That play lead to round 2.

The cumulative experiences is what made me grow...I eat ass if I am super attracted physically...I don't care if woman is on her period, I don't care how messy sex gets, I let chicks squirt in my face, I'll have sex in public although I try to be semi isolated and have self control...It can happen at any moment (I'm sure mta worker once seen chick had my cock out on subway station, took her to my friend stairwell and fucked her)

I think few things that differs to me and others is...
A...Sex isn't my only source of fun, I've passed up on more sex than most people actually have had sex (This once resulted in my boy having a 3some with my girl & his girl as last minute heading to their place I thought "nope I no longer like this girl"
B...I actually had a social life prior to monogamy so my outlet of fun revolved primarily around socializing and having fun NOT being a boyfriend following rules & obligations
C...I NEVER speak about who I've had sex with (I was recently telling a friend how I once came home from brunch and almost left with a 50 year old euro lady who I said if she says something to me I'm going home with her, she did...Something about her had me attracted)
D...If it weren't for this community nothing about sexuality would be uttered
E...A woman's sexual past has no bearing on my choices

Just because I've hooked up with 100+ women holds no bearing or meaning on anything beyond expanded sexuality & appreciation for sex.

Most are trying to deal with personal issues and use sex to fill the void. That's why society deems it cool for men and shameful for women. Community guys seek validation from other men and overall turned sex into some competition...X guy/girl does y...X was better than y...

Sex is the only thing where 2 or more people come together and like an art/music project can't appreciate the temporary fun collaboration.

All these people trying to use "empty" and finding meaningful girl. Is just deluded not taking into account you have changed the whole dynamic of sex on top of the stress & BS that comes with monogamy.

Monogamy killed my sexuality fast and hard, it wasn't until after breaking up and leaving a chicks place thinking "damnnn how I missed just pure fun, now I can listen to blissful music while heading home to meditate. Heck, I might stop and get a good meal to cap off a fun time".

Best of all, I can focus 100% on my life without distraction or melodrama. I am convinced in past and now after breakup I have one of the chillest and most stress-free life processes. I have ZERO issues with other humans almost always neutral to favorable.

Overall caring about high notch count is some ego-centric cultural thing.

I for one have and will always just have fun sex, I don't care how much men chicks been with nor if they see other dudes...Search bonobo monkeys, that is the next frontier of me testing as I think my social/sex life prior to monogamy was like that.

I'd walk into female friend apt where she is having an after party and sucking cock under the covers. Female friend would go in bathroom and get fucked by a guy. For my friend bday we had hotel and I'm undercovers eating some chicks ass...Also was in bathroom about to have sex with a chick I just met while friend is peeing in sink, female friend peeing on toilet and 2nd female friend who I didn't know at the time was doing coke... (They chick got weirded out so making out and fingering was all)

It ended, and like having an appetizer, the experience started and ended. It was fun in the moment, there is never a need for me to persist or moving things to sex as the type of sex I was used to was fun comfortable safe and explorative.

10 years from now who knows how sexuality will mold and that is the exciting part. Beats no sex and arguing with a so called lover #Dead

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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
^repped
02-08-2019 04:05 PM
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
Yeah bro i hear what you’re saying but I honestly don’t view sex in this way. Like not too diminish what you’re saying but like ultimately my pursuit of pussy, though enjoying it in of itself, is ultimately ends oriented - marrying a quality woman and extending myself into immortality through recreation of my soul into a family.

Like to be honest the greatest like “holy fuck” euphoria ive had from sex doesnt even come that close to the euphoria peaks i get from like really really amazing (in terms of set and setting) drug experiences. The sheer physical bliss of coming up on a few tabs of acid to just the right song or speeding so unbelievably hard on a bunch of addy like can’t be compared even the best (male...) orgasm.


So why use sex as the pleasure outlet when we can live better with it directed towards, sure fucking random bitches and consistently getting ur nut, but also something infinite, in the way only reproduction can be.
02-09-2019 05:22 AM
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RE: A high notch count (100's) messes you up
You can separate the enjoyment of sex and building something meaningful.

If the performer interferes with the latter just stop it. Don't make a big deal out of it.

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On the other hand: you won't be around to experience your legacy. Living for the future is an illusion that every single spiritual tradition warns against.
02-09-2019 08:28 AM
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