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(06-26-2019 02:16 PM)SergioRamos Wrote:  My condolences.

My best friend's father also diagnosed with colon cancer. They said, he has a month or maximum 2 months to live as well. They're going through tough times. They don't know what to do.

I feel weird saying this because I've never done it before and then told someone, but I just prayed for all of you.

That's not how we do things in Russia, comrade.

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06-26-2019 02:57 PM
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That's generous of you VP.

From my own experience I've found that I never get over the death of family. After my mother died I just did my best to avoid thinking about her as a way to cope. I went to the funeral and did the speech and all that, didn't help and just stressed me out. Almost 8 years later and it still doesn't register with me she is really gone. I go to bed every night and surprise myself to remember she is actually gone. I rarely mention her anymore to avoid upsetting the rest of my family but when I do share a memory with people that knew her it feels like she is alive again.
06-26-2019 05:50 PM
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Burner, I have lost my mother when I was 14 and me and my mother were literally best friends, it was hard losing my mother at that age, but one thing that helped me to cope with it was not to think about it, someone gave me that tip few months after my mum passed away, till today, I literally avoid thinking about it.

My book about my almost deadly experience in DR.

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06-28-2019 07:20 AM
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(06-26-2019 05:50 PM)[email protected] Wrote:  That's generous of you VP.

From my own experience I've found that I never get over the death of family. After my mother died I just did my best to avoid thinking about her as a way to cope. I went to the funeral and did the speech and all that, didn't help and just stressed me out. Almost 8 years later and it still doesn't register with me she is really gone. I go to bed every night and surprise myself to remember she is actually gone. I rarely mention her anymore to avoid upsetting the rest of my family but when I do share a memory with people that knew her it feels like she is alive again.

I wonder what I'll be thinking in 8 years. In a few years I'll be older than she was, that will be a bit weird.

I'm very surprised at how ok I am with this. Is it because I don't care? I do care and I'm more sad for her than for myself. Am I somehow in denial? I don't think I am, I know what happened and I do think about it. Is it a delayed reaction? Will I freak out one of these days? I don't know. Maybe I'm more stoic than I ever thought I could be.

The funeral was on tuesday, and it's her birthday on saturday. I got her a card saying it's a shame you couldn't be here for this one.

That's not how we do things in Russia, comrade.

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06-28-2019 10:42 AM
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My grandfather died like a week or so before your sister. He was pretty much my dad as he raised me and I lived with him. I felt the same way, no pain, didn’t cry, just felt sad and there. To this day when I come home I look at his door and say “damn gramps really gone” I see my grandmother (who ended up losing her sister the next week) depressed and sad. This week however my gf cheated on me, it sparked so many thoughts and reactions. Next thing I knew I caught myself crying over everything, my grandfather, her, my business slowly dying, my debt, my lack of friends, etc etc.

Sometimes we’re on the edge but we’re strong so others can be strong. His funeral was horrible with people I thought I would NEVER see crying, rolling on the floor in pain. Everybody crying but me. I didn’t shed a single tear until Tuesday, 2 months later.
06-28-2019 11:39 AM
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