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Break Up Lessons and Questions
My LTR of 8 months asked me to take time because I didn’t give her enough attention. In reality I’m sure it’s because I acted beta the last three weeks.

The last few days I got my game back thanks to good decisions, I think exersice was the biggest factor (in my experience it’s basically a requirement to be able to bang multiple sluts.)

We FaceTimed and she started with the I need to tell you something, told me we need to take a time and her “reasoning” AKA hamster?

I started gaming her by
-taking frame
-non reactive / needy

After doing the above I started saying it was a great 8 months, thanked her for improving my life and told her I hoped she finds a man who can provide her what she needs and is Christian (she attends church 2-3x a week.)

After that I saw the shift from her facial expressions to her realizing she fucked up.

I asked her if she was talking to another person twice in a calm way and she said she wasn’t.

She started complimenting saying I was basically her first boyfriend because she treated all the previous ones like trash and manipulated them. That she never thought of cheating on me because she feared me in a way and reworded it into respecting me immediately after.

She said she wanted us to be friends and I could feel free to text her, I said dafuq? And she said she would like me to.

Blah blah blah she said she has to go (her mom got home and she has been seeing me behind her back for amount a month or so) I’m sure this was true.

I really wanted to find out the truth about her seeing other men so I texted her after she hung up that I had been with three other women in the eight months to see if she would cop to cheating and to permanently next her (I broke up with her 6 times before this and we lived together for 10 days)

Said to please not talk to her again because I had hurt her more than anyone else before.

What I learned
- Confirmed AWALT. You have to keep the Gina tingles flowing or it’s over
- Alpha fux beta bucks. I know for a fact she would have came over to get fucked later thanks to my last 5 mins of alpha
-Don’t ever feel pity for a woman and stay with her or be nice to her due to it because she will not reciprocate
-Not all women cheat (emotionally probably, almost surely, but not PiV)

Questions
-Anyone else ended things this way? (Cop yo cheating after break up)
-Could I have damaged her in a big way?

Closing thoughts

I somewhat regret copping to the cheating since I could have kept her as a side piece and had major leverage (she caused the breakup so she has to earn another relationship which I wouldn’t have done anyway) but felt it was necessary to burn the bridge and be forced to build my life separately because I did love her a bit (she was my first). Also wouldn’t have made her feel like shit which is the biggest cause of regret.


Thoughts? Sorry for the wall of text.
(This post was last modified: 05-05-2019 11:31 PM by VNASTY.)
05-05-2019 11:09 PM
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RE: Break ups
(05-05-2019 11:09 PM)VNASTY Wrote:  My LTR of 8 months asked me to take time because I didn’t give her enough attention.
….

I broke up with her 6 times before this and we lived together for 10 days)
....

Thoughts? Sorry for the wall of text.

This caught my interest. Why the 6 breakups and such a short term living together? Did she dump you too, Or was this 6x in one direction?

Also, why is she hiding the relationship from her mother? Is she not allowed to have a boyfriend?

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05-05-2019 11:33 PM
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RE: Break Up Lessons and Questions
(05-05-2019 11:09 PM)VNASTY Wrote:  I started gaming her by
-taking frame
-non reactive / needy

Why are you trying to "game" her? after 8 months of relationship?
She should already be pretty much FULLY in your frame and buying into your narrative.

(05-05-2019 11:09 PM)VNASTY Wrote:  She started complimenting saying I was basically her first boyfriend because she treated all the previous ones like trash and manipulated them.

"basically"?
What does that mean?

(05-05-2019 11:09 PM)VNASTY Wrote:  Questions
-Anyone else ended things this way? (Cop yo cheating after break up)
-Could I have damaged her in a big way?

Yes, I have had a horrible closure or no closure at all, time heals everything though. I don't even think about them after couple years, I kinda thank every girl that gave me a hard time. It just made me more redpilled.

You could have damaged her, but it seems like she was pretty damaged anyways. Girls recover emotionally way faster than guys though. They don't necessarily have to branch-swing to even recover imo.

(05-05-2019 11:09 PM)VNASTY Wrote:  I somewhat regret copping to the cheating since I could have kept her as a side piece and had major leverage (she caused the breakup so she has to earn another relationship which I wouldn’t have done anyway) but felt it was necessary to burn the bridge and be forced to build my life separately because I did love her a bit (she was my first). Also wouldn’t have made her feel like shit which is the biggest cause of regret.

Wait, I am not completely getting the picture here.
Why did she cause the breakup?
So you are saying you cheated? That means that you caused the breakup...bro. Just have an open-relationship if you want to sleep around, a lot of girls are receptive to that now days.

"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."
- Heat

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05-06-2019 12:00 AM
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RE: Break Up Lessons and Questions
The six breakups were from my part.

Were from a small traditional town, I’m 19 and she’s turned 18 few months ago. When living together her family was heavily involved. Her mom is very controlling and used to beat her badly when she was younger. Her mother disliked me being with her and only let me see her in the town square and limited our time together. To bang she had to say she was with friends and her mom always called her while banging lol. When she moved in with me her mother told her she was ashamed and wouldn’t support her in any way.

When living together we had a pleasant first days but problems started coming after she started talking to her mom again. Her mom called her multiple times per day and she always became very bitchy after their talks. I told her she had to stop talking to her mom if this was going to continue and she told me she would check her behavior but this caused resentment and more problems. Which later culminated in a huge fight that started because I asked her to make me coffee then escated to her leaving. I think if I asked her to stay she would have stayed (she later told me she would have). She moved to a different city to get over me (heal in feminine language) but we kept contact. When she moved back here after two weeks, that’s when her mom banned her from seeing me and we had been doing it weekly at her friends house.
05-06-2019 12:10 AM
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RE: Break Up Lessons and Questions
Like I said, the past three weeks I was acting beta because I had some personal problems and she slowly gained frame.

By gaming her I’m saying her I took frame back with the game toolkit.

She was saying I was the first boyfriend she respected and gave her tingles. The younger men of our town are very bp.

I think you’re right, it’s not likely she’s too hurt. Some things she admitted of her pas relationships:
-Told them she cheated on them to dump them completely.(And the man said she would forgive her and wanted to get her back)
-Didn’t let them drink
-She was the side piece to a guy with a gf and later told the gf because he made her mad

You know what I think she’s not worth the trouble at all and I should have ended this long ago. Girl game recognized.

The last part was me saying if I didn’t tell her I banged other girls she would have kept chasing me and trying to get back with me (free bangs).

Yeah she went through me phone a few weeks back and found some msgs and even though we weren’t “together at the time I’m sure this played a part. I’m also sure if I kept frame it wouldn’t have mattered.

She was my first bang and I was still beta our first month together. Then I went to university and banged two classmates, one in the first day of class. Being with her is the only attachment I have to being blue pilled and I believe that’s why I’ve clinged to her for so long. Trust me I won’t be having a Gf for at least a year.

Pure nsa pussy slaying is the way to go in the future.
05-06-2019 12:41 AM
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