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RE: Dangers of "Settling Down" at 40+
(07-09-2019 11:56 AM)GT777733 Wrote:  
(06-20-2019 09:35 PM)Kid Twist Wrote:  

Everything is pros and cons - no place or path is perfect. And, you honestly never know how a situation or environment in life plays out unless you go and do it. You never get your time back no matter which path you choose (heinsight can be a bitch, and every man is given a different path to walk in life).

I think we have a tendency sometimes, especially as we get older, to focus on what we might lose by moving to a situation rather than what we might gain. Furthermore, what is the risk that you will keep missing out on opportunities if you don't change the current situation that you are unsatisfied with?

This is spot on.

This is what bothers me about the new format of the RVF. It implies that men are committing some kind of 'sin' or wrongful act by going on a journey to find themselves and having casual encounters with women along the way.

The tone of the RVF is now assuming (or blissfully hoping) that all men fall in line with society's script and pursue marriage and children because some religious decree written thousands of years ago told them to do so ... However I don't believe this rigid path is necessarily a good fit or even healthy for most men in modern times.

I'm actually kind of surprised by the older guys on RVF so readily endorsing men to settle down w/marriage and children. I would think just the opposite would actually occur. Most guys over 40 that I talk to in person tell me once you hit your 40s you begin to truly understand just how short life really is. Your time is valuable. Why would you want to spend those precious years taking marching orders from some moody, wrinkled up menopausal lizard who has nothing but emotional baggage and bitterness towards you and the world??

I believe that as men age we tend to crave Peace-Quiet-Freedom above all else. Whereas women's quirks and insecurities begin to come out because they live much of their early life in DENIAL because they largely get by on their looks/attractiveness in their early years. Thus, I can't see how supporting a creature like that would make a man any less lonely or feel any more fulfilled. It seems like being permanently tied to a woman would only make your life much much worse and largely hold you back in your twilight years.
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RE: Dangers of "Settling Down" at 40+
(07-09-2019 01:50 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  The tone of the RVF is now assuming (or blissfully hoping) that all men fall in line with society's script and pursue marriage and children because some religious decree written thousands of years ago told them to do so ... However I don't believe this rigid path is necessarily a good fit or even healthy for most men in modern times.

I'm actually kind of surprised by the older guys on RVF so readily endorsing men to settle down w/marriage and children. I would think just the opposite would actually occur. Most guys over 40 that I talk to in person tell me once you hit your 40s you begin to truly understand just how short life really is. Your time is valuable. Why would you want to spend those precious years taking marching orders from some moody, wrinkled up menopausal lizard who has nothing but emotional baggage and bitterness towards you and the world??

I believe that as men age we tend to crave Peace-Quiet-Freedom above all else. Whereas women's quirks and insecurities begin to come out because they live much of their early life in DENIAL because they largely get by on their looks/attractiveness in their early years. Thus, I can't see how supporting a creature like that would make a man any less lonely or feel any more fulfilled. It seems like being permanently tied to a woman would only make your life much much worse and largely hold you back in your twilight years.

That's why I think it's important to not settle down early and having an age difference. If we go to back to traditional times, there were two criteria for females and males making them fit for marriage:

female: just became fertile
male: just ready to support a family (steady income, house, etc.)

Now in modern times males become self-sufficient much later, while females become fertile much earlier. At the same we marry 30something males to 28something carousel riders. This of course doesn't work.
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(07-09-2019 01:50 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  I'm actually kind of surprised by the older guys on RVF so readily endorsing men to settle down w/marriage and children.

Guys with Poverty genetics / or who have hit the wall at a young age, revert back to blue pill thinking, and advocate for marriage.

This is more PROOF that LOOKS is KING !!

I guarantee you, if these "marriage advocate guys" were attractive they would NOT encourage men to get married (especially in their 20's)

When men hit the wall and are Unable to attract hot women with HIGH LEVEL game, they can only moan and groan about their wasted youthful prime ! (game means NOTHING without LOOKS)

Inferior Game + Inferior Genetics = Incel
Superior Game + Inferior Genetics = Incel

Inferior Game + Average Genetics = Friend zone
Superior Game + Average Genetics = Beta Bucks
Inferior Game + Superior Genetics = Alpha
Superior Game + Superior Genetics = Game of Life: now on EASY mode
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(07-09-2019 02:34 PM)velkrum Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 01:50 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  I'm actually kind of surprised by the older guys on RVF so readily endorsing men to settle down w/marriage and children.

Guys with Poverty genetics / or who have hit the wall at a young age, revert back to blue pill thinking, and advocate for marriage.

This is more PROOF that LOOKS is KING !!

I guarantee you, if these "marriage advocate guys" were attractive they would NOT encourage men to get married (especially in their 20's)

When men hit the wall and are Unable to attract hot women with HIGH LEVEL game, they can only moan and groan about their wasted youthful prime ! (game means NOTHING without LOOKS)

I agree that taller and better looking guys definitely have far more options with women and that no amount of 'game' is going to overcome inferior genetics.

But my question is why do guys with inferior genetics even take the marriage deal? Most of the time it results in nothing more than a lifetime of mental and financial abuse and torture.
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(07-09-2019 03:03 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  But my question is why do guys with inferior genetics even take the marriage deal?

Hindsight. Imagine being a wall victim woman at 35 that USE to be attractive at 25.

Imagine this 35 year old wall victim, see's all the good guys she dismissed at 25 are now happily married, living a life she desperately desires.

Now reverse the roles...Imagine being a lonely 35 year old wall victim Male.

Imagine this wall victim man is able to travel back in time to his SMV peak at age 25 !

Knowing his attractiveness will decay in less than a year or 2, he is gonna scramble to LOCK down the hottest most mentally stable woman he can find.

Once married, it will be extremely difficult for this attractive woman to leave him (especially when he starts to hit the wall). She will be emotionally, morally, and legally invested in him. He gets to keep a woman that he would NEVER be able to have in his later years.

Similar to hot women that become fat and disgusting after they marry a good man.

Inferior Game + Inferior Genetics = Incel
Superior Game + Inferior Genetics = Incel

Inferior Game + Average Genetics = Friend zone
Superior Game + Average Genetics = Beta Bucks
Inferior Game + Superior Genetics = Alpha
Superior Game + Superior Genetics = Game of Life: now on EASY mode
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Quote:Once married, it will be extremely difficult for this attractive woman to leave him.

lol.

50% of marriages fail. 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. There are also huge financial incentives for women in the U.S. to divorce a financially comfortable guy.

"Locking down" an attractive girl before a man hits the "wall" is like saying a man needs to learn how to cook and clean and be submissive to win over a woman.

The courtship rules that apply to women don't necessarily apply to men.
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(07-09-2019 07:52 PM)Alpone Wrote:  
Quote:Once married, it will be extremely difficult for this attractive woman to leave him.

lol.

50% of marriages fail. 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. There are also huge financial incentives for women in the U.S. to divorce a financially comfortable guy.

"Locking down" an attractive girl before a man hits the "wall" is like saying a man needs to learn how to cook and clean and be submissive to win over a woman.

The courtship rules that apply to women don't necessarily apply to men.

While the direct comparison to women was probably a little off, I do think low value men are driven by fear - fear of loneliness, fear of their inability to win the physical intimacy of other women on the regular basis they would want if they chose to stay single.
So when they do find someone who actually wants them, then it's probably not a big surprise when they jump on the opportunity, thinking the next one might not come in the immediate future, or ever.
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(07-09-2019 03:03 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  I agree that taller and better looking guys definitely have far more options with women and that no amount of 'game' is going to overcome inferior genetics.

But my question is why do guys with inferior genetics even take the marriage deal? Most of the time it results in nothing more than a lifetime of mental and financial abuse and torture.

Honestly, this is bullshit.
Lots of attractive girls date fairly average or even not that good looking guys, especially given that most guys are not approaching and social circle has become the primary way of dating. "Genetic lottery" is a term used on this forum to avoid self improvement. Genetics plays a tiny role in your weight or style or game.

I was eating lunch with a coworker today at a Thai restaurant, this extremely cute Indian chick with a nose ring was sitting with her overweight, ugly boyfriend. Of course she was giving me the eye (I got an all out eye fuck), but at the end of the day he was banging her... I see it so often in Dallas that it makes me want to pull higher quality being that I'm fairly attractive and successful.

When I observed their interactions, he was not engaging with her, he was on his phone - and generally, it was the kind of depressing, complacent interaction I see with most young couples today... She's definitely going to cheat on him, but he could salvage it easily if he would be more entertaining. You have to clown game right through relationships otherwise they fail.

It's pretty low value to say you hit the wall at this or that age. I think at a certain point, you will naturally want to be married but maybe not. If I still look like Jude Law when I'm in my late 40s, I may just keep my lifestyle well into my 50s.
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(07-09-2019 01:50 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 11:56 AM)GT777733 Wrote:  
(06-20-2019 09:35 PM)Kid Twist Wrote:  

Everything is pros and cons - no place or path is perfect. And, you honestly never know how a situation or environment in life plays out unless you go and do it. You never get your time back no matter which path you choose (heinsight can be a bitch, and every man is given a different path to walk in life).

I think we have a tendency sometimes, especially as we get older, to focus on what we might lose by moving to a situation rather than what we might gain. Furthermore, what is the risk that you will keep missing out on opportunities if you don't change the current situation that you are unsatisfied with?

This is spot on.

This is what bothers me about the new format of the RVF. It implies that men are committing some kind of 'sin' or wrongful act by going on a journey to find themselves and having casual encounters with women along the way.

The tone of the RVF is now assuming (or blissfully hoping) that all men fall in line with society's script and pursue marriage and children because some religious decree written thousands of years ago told them to do so ... However I don't believe this rigid path is necessarily a good fit or even healthy for most men in modern times.

I'm actually kind of surprised by the older guys on RVF so readily endorsing men to settle down w/marriage and children. I would think just the opposite would actually occur. Most guys over 40 that I talk to in person tell me once you hit your 40s you begin to truly understand just how short life really is. Your time is valuable. Why would you want to spend those precious years taking marching orders from some moody, wrinkled up menopausal lizard who has nothing but emotional baggage and bitterness towards you and the world??

I believe that as men age we tend to crave Peace-Quiet-Freedom above all else. Whereas women's quirks and insecurities begin to come out because they live much of their early life in DENIAL because they largely get by on their looks/attractiveness in their early years. Thus, I can't see how supporting a creature like that would make a man any less lonely or feel any more fulfilled. It seems like being permanently tied to a woman would only make your life much much worse and largely hold you back in your twilight years.

I would say the right approach is somewhere in between (I can see both sides)

100% agree with you that that urge for sex and variety in most men in their 20's at the very least is very strong, and many men need to go out and explore themselves and the world.

However, as I've gotten to the end of my 20's I've started thinking very seriously about whether I want kids. The issue with casual dating if you want a family eventually is that as you get older, you realise the longer you don't approach dating with a mindset to find a suitable long term partner, the less time you leave yourself when you get older i.e. you can waste valuable years not putting the thought and effort into it you possibly should have. This is where the 'time becomes valuable' mindset comes in - you realise you don't have unlimited time to do all the things you might want to do in life. As some men on this forum have said before - being 40 to 50 trying to find a wife and starting a family can be different to being 25 to 35 trying to find a wife and starting a family.

But, like you touched upon, there's little point in preaching this LTR mindset if the world and society is losing it's values to begin with, where there is a largely broken dating system and few suitable options. It's just going to make men commit to terrible long term situations that could severely damage their lives, or put unrealistic expectations on guys.

One thing I've noticed as I've got older is that guys will get with a 6-7 wife (because they want a partner and family), and end up cheating on her to get their sex hit elsewhere (they get the best of both worlds - a family and a stable wife, but also fulfill their sexual desire). Religious men are among the offenders of this.
If the guy has an open relationship with his wife, or he's preaching non monogamous marriage upfront - great. But, if you have cheating men telling other guys just to 'man up and get married and have a family', and the men he is telling that to hold their relationship to a different standard i.e. they only enter monogamous relationships - that's a huge problem in my opinion. That's not even going into the fact that cheating men continue to skew the dating pool, or what ever other skeletons this married man might have in his closet that he isn't telling other single guys about.

I'd summarise that I don't really think there is a clear answer to that whole debate - casual vs relationship.

We want a girl we are sexually attracted to that would make a good wife ... how often do you come across them in everyday life? There's your answer.

Apart from becoming a monk (which can be supremely unhealthy if you ignore your natural desires for physical and intimate connection for too long), what is a healthy single guy supposed to do over the long term even if he is a contributing member to society in many other ways?

I've said it before on here - I think relationships just happen for some guys (you meet the right person at the right time in life), and for others they don't (for a whole host of reasons).
If it doesn't happen for you, apart from living a respectful life in general, you can only make the decision to spend time with women with good attitudes/energy, and try have as positive of a time together as you can, however long it lasts.
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(07-09-2019 01:39 PM)whitewashedblackguy Wrote:  ^
Doing something is better than sitting with your thumb in your ass and overthinking it. Everything is a learning experience.

Yes, but I've seen guys go on trips around the world that last years, only to realise they were running away from their problems or fears.
I've also seen guys jump from stopgap job to stopgap job for years, and realise they never had the focus or determination to pursue what they really wanted career wise.

Risk taking is great - but you've got to think about what your long term goal in life are too, and adjust your short term activity accordingly.
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(07-09-2019 11:07 PM)GT777733 Wrote:  We want a girl we are sexually attracted to that would make a good wife ... how often do you come across them in everyday life? There's your answer.

The reality for most people is to take whatever they get and try the hardest to make it work.
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(07-09-2019 02:34 PM)velkrum Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 01:50 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  I'm actually kind of surprised by the older guys on RVF so readily endorsing men to settle down w/marriage and children.

Guys with Poverty genetics / or who have hit the wall at a young age, revert back to blue pill thinking, and advocate for marriage.

This is more PROOF that LOOKS is KING !!

I guarantee you, if these "marriage advocate guys" were attractive they would NOT encourage men to get married (especially in their 20's)

When men hit the wall and are Unable to attract hot women with HIGH LEVEL game, they can only moan and groan about their wasted youthful prime ! (game means NOTHING without LOOKS)

Looks is only one part of the ball game (but, it's a very important part if you want to be more attractive to a wider range of women right off the bat)

Also, I question what 'game' is these days.

Many, many men are pumping time and money into women (even in Europe), and changing their whole lifestyles and behavior (especially in big cities), to go after the physically hottest women. These women all have social media - they can see what other girls are getting and doing, so it makes sense.

If that it what makes you happy and brings out the best in you in all areas of life - go for it.

But, in some instances, I don't consider that game, as much as it is doing whatever is required from a behavioral and lifestyle perspective to get these women into bed.

Whether that is worth it is depends on what value each man places on these women and this lifestyle.

Some men don't think that outputting so much of your resources and changing your lifestyle so much, when it's mainly just for the physical chase of women (usually with questionable life goals and characters), is worthwhile or all that valuable in some ways.

I'm all for improving yourself, not giving up on dating or life, and not taking the path of least resistance - but, a lot of what I see on the internet these days are 'lifestyle guys' or 'players' or 'high value guys' dressed up as guys that are willing to mimic whatever behavior will give them access to the women they want and the material things they want. These aren't necessarily the guys that end up fulfilled or happy in the long run if they aren't thinking about the big picture in life.
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(07-09-2019 09:45 PM)FullThrottleTX Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 03:03 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  I agree that taller and better looking guys definitely have far more options with women and that no amount of 'game' is going to overcome inferior genetics.

But my question is why do guys with inferior genetics even take the marriage deal? Most of the time it results in nothing more than a lifetime of mental and financial abuse and torture.

Honestly, this is bullshit.
Lots of attractive girls date fairly average or even not that good looking guys, especially given that most guys are not approaching and social circle has become the primary way of dating. "Genetic lottery" is a term used on this forum to avoid self improvement. Genetics plays a tiny role in your weight or style or game.

I was eating lunch with a coworker today at a Thai restaurant, this extremely cute Indian chick with a nose ring was sitting with her overweight, ugly boyfriend. Of course she was giving me the eye (I got an all out eye fuck), but at the end of the day he was banging her... I see it so often in Dallas that it makes me want to pull higher quality being that I'm fairly attractive and successful.

When I observed their interactions, he was not engaging with her, he was on his phone - and generally, it was the kind of depressing, complacent interaction I see with most young couples today... She's definitely going to cheat on him, but he could salvage it easily if he would be more entertaining. You have to clown game right through relationships otherwise they fail.

It's pretty low value to say you hit the wall at this or that age. I think at a certain point, you will naturally want to be married but maybe not. If I still look like Jude Law when I'm in my late 40s, I may just keep my lifestyle well into my 50s.

9.9 times out of 10 when you see a clearly ugly or fat average looking guy with a hot chick, it's:
- they met when they were young and she built comfort with him before she found out her value on the dating market
- they met through a social circle or some type of social activity and she likes him for his status or place amongst that social circle or social activity
- she has some type of daddy issues which attract her towards people she knows she won't lose
- he's rich or has some type of really high value trait (in her eyes) going for him. These girls usually have questionable character
- like you said - she's with him for some reason but cheating on him behind his back
- he's an extremely rare case of a guy who put the work in to improve his value, such as charisma, humour and overall attractiveness outside of his looks
- it's a short term thing that isn't going to last
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^ While close to the case, the other thing one must understand is that for either sex, if the viewer finds the opposite sex attractive, they automatically, mentally bring the partner down.

Why else would both women and men say "I see so many hot (girls/guys) with ugly (guys/girls)?

Not really.

The biological skew will be SLIGHTLY for women to be better looking than men, for obvious reasons. So on average, again, women are wrong. Newsflash.

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(07-09-2019 06:52 PM)velkrum Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 03:03 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  But my question is why do guys with inferior genetics even take the marriage deal?

Hindsight. Imagine being a wall victim woman at 35 that USE to be attractive at 25.

Imagine this 35 year old wall victim, see's all the good guys she dismissed at 25 are now happily married, living a life she desperately desires.
I realize this wasn't the main thrust of your post, and I may get called a blue-piller or a troll for saying this, but while this is said to be a common phenomenon in the manosphere, I actually have not seen it played out among anyone I know. Friends, relatives, coworkers... a decent-looking, non-fat woman who hits 30, decides she's "had her fun" and is ready to settle down, will almost always be able to find a greater beta to marry her.

When I first learned of the red pill, I fantasized that all the girls who'd spurned me over the years would at age 35 be crying themselves to sleep every night in their apartment alone while stroking cats. But in reality, without exception, every single one of the girls I squandered my twenties and early thirties having unrequited oneitis for, is now married. Granted, half of them have no biological children, so theirs might seem a hollow victory, but I would bet that in their own minds, they believe that they pretty much got what they wanted in life.
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(07-11-2019 11:33 PM)Arcite Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 06:52 PM)velkrum Wrote:  
(07-09-2019 03:03 PM)MyFabolousLife Wrote:  But my question is why do guys with inferior genetics even take the marriage deal?

Hindsight. Imagine being a wall victim woman at 35 that USE to be attractive at 25.

Imagine this 35 year old wall victim, see's all the good guys she dismissed at 25 are now happily married, living a life she desperately desires.
I realize this wasn't the main thrust of your post, and I may get called a blue-piller or a troll for saying this, but while this is said to be a common phenomenon in the manosphere, I actually have not seen it played out among anyone I know. Friends, relatives, coworkers... a decent-looking, non-fat woman who hits 30, decides she's "had her fun" and is ready to settle down, will almost always be able to find a greater beta to marry her.

When I first learned of the red pill, I fantasized that all the girls who'd spurned me over the years would at age 35 be crying themselves to sleep every night in their apartment alone while stroking cats. But in reality, without exception, every single one of the girls I squandered my twenties and early thirties having unrequited oneitis for, is now married. Granted, half of them have no biological children, so theirs might seem a hollow victory, but I would bet that in their own minds, they believe that they pretty much got what they wanted in life.

I agree that if a 30+ woman is even moderately attractive and not completely crazy and willing to put in some effort she can lock down a guy to marry her. Even though redpill knowledge is spreading, I believe the majority of men are still thirsty and largely clueless.

The catch is, from what I am seeing anyway, as a general rule ... these women often settle for Beta Billy as opposed to locking down Chad or Tyrone. I see it a lot when I go through my social media feed on Facebook and see old high school classmates where the girl was the hot cheerleader that would only date the football star or guy in the rock band. Now she's married, but it's to Poindexter. The same Poindexter she wouldn't give the time of day to 15 years ago. The saddest thing about all this is Poindexter thinks he's 'pulled' something great while Chad and Tyrone are getting a good laugh at his expense.
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RE: Dangers of "Settling Down" at 40+
I'd honestly say I got better looking from 31-36 and again from 36-41. And not by getting in better shape either, although I did somewhat in the second half there. I don't think I started peaking until early 40s. You can still get feminine, sweet, fit, attractive 19-24 yr olds at that age if that's what you're looking for. I had to break off a relationship a few years ago with a very sweet, very submissive, cute, smart 20yr old because she had fallen in love with me in like 2-3 months and I didn't want to settle down yet with her so I refused to lead her on and ended it. She would have done anything for me. We still text occasionally.

Since then she's gotten in better shape and better looking to boot [she has great mixed EE and French genes]. It's far from impossible to get a sexy, feminine young woman. Don't settle for less than you're worth guys.
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RE: Dangers of "Settling Down" at 40+
(07-13-2019 02:43 PM)DonnyGately Wrote:  I'd honestly say I got better looking from 31-36 and again from 36-41. And not by getting in better shape either, although I did somewhat in the second half there. I don't think I started peaking until early 40s. You can still get feminine, sweet, fit, attractive 19-24 yr olds at that age if that's what you're looking for. I had to break off a relationship a few years ago with a very sweet, very submissive, cute, smart 20yr old because she had fallen in love with me in like 2-3 months and I didn't want to settle down yet with her so I refused to lead her on and ended it. She would have done anything for me. We still text occasionally.

Since then she's gotten in better shape and better looking to boot [she has great mixed EE and French genes]. It's far from impossible to get a sexy, feminine young woman. Don't settle for less than you're worth guys.

You probably got better looking because if you got in shape, you lost facial fat. On top of that, as you get older you tend to have a more gaunt face which make sit more model like. Just speculation on my part but that's what makes sense. Only thing is, you're pretty lucky to have a full head of hair at your age if that's the case.
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RE: Dangers of "Settling Down" at 40+
I had my first kid in my mid-forties. Wife is a devout Catholic from Latin America, 12 years younger than me. Everything is going great so far. I don't think I really qualify as a player though, since I had about zero game most of my life and don't have a three-figure notch count or anything like that.

Regardless, I'd just advise guys not to worry settling down too much, but at the same time if you find that girl who has God in her life and would be a good mother to your kids, don't pass her by.

Feminism in ten words: "Stop objectifying women! Can't you see I've hit the wall?" -Leonard D Neubache
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