I'm Touring The United States! Starting in June, I'm conducting private events in 23 American cities. Click here for full details.

Post Reply 
What would you do in my situation
Author Message
tugofpeace Offline
Chubby Chaser
**

Posts: 250
Joined: Jun 2018
Reputation: 1
Post: #1
What would you do in my situation
Let's say you're 31 years old in a career which you've been wanting to quit for a long time (7+ years).

You live in a major city making $100k/year, have a company car with all expenses paid, and work at a client office where you are free to come and go as you please. Every week you pretty much never work on Fridays, and the days you do work, you arrive at 9AM and leave by 2PM. When you get home, you do whatever you want until 5PM (typically just check emails). Your client does not care, and even your boss supports this as long as the work gets done.

The amount of work you actually do is probably no more than 20-25 hours a week if you actually have something to do.

The problem is that you are BORED. There is nobody that serves as a coworker you can bs with at the client office since they are clients; there is no reason to even bother talking to them since you don't have to be there much.

Would you quit your job for one that has actual career progression, where you work 40+ hours a week, albeit it has a higher pay ceiling, but you would take a paycut to do it?

This is my dilemma. I can work from home whenever, but everyone is at work so there's nothing to really do. I've played as much video games as I can, watched pretty much every interesting TV series, etc..
(This post was last modified: 05-20-2019 10:10 PM by tugofpeace.)
05-20-2019 10:07 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Virtual Offline
Male Feminist

Posts: 14
Joined: Jan 2019
Reputation: 0
Post: #2
RE: What would you do in my situation
Sounds like you've got what I call a 'cush' situation that most people don't ever get to experience. I would break it down like this.. Do you want to pursue a professional career where you bust your ass and have some potential upside working for someone else or would you rather use the free time to develop mind/body/hobbies/entrepreneurism? I know a bunch of pharma reps in your boat and they either run a side business or just spend the time at the gym/travel/classes/real estate/etc.

Either way it's all about progress forward/growth and there are different ways to achieve that.
05-20-2019 10:33 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes Virtual's post:
alchemical
Sooth Offline
Alpha Male
****
Gold Member

Posts: 1,164
Joined: Feb 2015
Reputation: 17
Post: #3
RE: What would you do in my situation
Start a family.
05-20-2019 10:43 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 2 users Like Sooth's post:
Off The Reservation, Dream Medicine
scotian Offline
Innovative Casanova
*******
Gold Member

Posts: 6,037
Joined: Aug 2011
Reputation: 303
Post: #4
RE: What would you do in my situation
Sounds like a great job with a nice routine, have you tried dating girls after work?

God damned them all, I was told we'd cruise the seas for American gold, we'd fire no guns-shed no tears, now I'm a broken man on a Halifax pier, the last of Barrett's privateers!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIwzRkjn86w
05-21-2019 12:47 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes scotian's post:
flanders
SamuelBRoberts Offline
International Playboy
******
Gold Member

Posts: 4,842
Joined: Oct 2014
Reputation: 93
Post: #5
RE: What would you do in my situation
[Image: flat,550x550,075,f.u4.jpg]
05-21-2019 02:08 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes SamuelBRoberts's post:
Zenta
Nineteen84 Offline
Alpha Male
****

Posts: 1,248
Joined: Apr 2012
Reputation: 5
Post: #6
RE: What would you do in my situation
I would count my blessings.
05-21-2019 04:35 AM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes Nineteen84's post:
internetprince
pk9090 Offline
Beta Orbiter
*

Posts: 127
Joined: Sep 2018
Reputation: 0
Post: #7
RE: What would you do in my situation
(05-20-2019 10:33 PM)Virtual Wrote:  Sounds like you've got what I call a 'cush' situation that most people don't ever get to experience. I would break it down like this.. Do you want to pursue a professional career where you bust your ass and have some potential upside working for someone else or would you rather use the free time to develop mind/body/hobbies/entrepreneurism? I know a bunch of pharma reps in your boat and they either run a side business or just spend the time at the gym/travel/classes/real estate/etc.

Either way it's all about progress forward/growth and there are different ways to achieve that.

This, you said it all, the situation of OP is a bless.

Just focus on something, either a side business, a hobby or any random killing time activity such as seeing tv series.
05-21-2019 12:20 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Virtual Offline
Male Feminist

Posts: 14
Joined: Jan 2019
Reputation: 0
Post: #8
RE: What would you do in my situation
Totally forgot to mention another angle to this. Assuming you aren't ready to settle down and are tilted towards more of what to do professionally for the time being. Volunteer/charity work is another great angle. Coaching/volunteering/board work/etc is a great way to itch your professional side while providing a good service to your community. It also acts as a great way to network which often leads to meeting people you trust/respect, who in turn can help you down the road with advice, etc. Again, just my two cents...
05-21-2019 12:26 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
CaptainCup Offline
Beta Orbiter
*

Posts: 142
Joined: Dec 2017
Reputation: 1
Post: #9
RE: What would you do in my situation
If you were in your 50s and retirement was on the horizon, I’d say ride it out. That’s not your situation, however.

As others have said, you have a cushy job. Now, cushy jobs don’t last forever. Assuming you work in the private sector, management changes, the economy changes, and client relationships change. It is very possible that this cushy job could be eliminated or “restructured” sometime in the future. Someone will smarten up that they are effectively overpaying you.

Cushy jobs are great but a major downside is that they condition you to a state of complacency. Spend s long tine there and it will be a shock to the system when you actually need to work hard.

I’m not giving specific advice. This is just more food for thought so you can think about it from all angles.
05-21-2019 01:40 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 1 user Likes CaptainCup's post:
Kid Twist
tugofpeace Offline
Chubby Chaser
**

Posts: 250
Joined: Jun 2018
Reputation: 1
Post: #10
RE: What would you do in my situation
Quote:If you were in your 50s and retirement was on the horizon, I’d say ride it out. That’s not your situation, however.

As others have said, you have a cushy job. Now, cushy jobs don’t last forever. Assuming you work in the private sector, management changes, the economy changes, and client relationships change. It is very possible that this cushy job could be eliminated or “restructured” sometime in the future. Someone will smarten up that they are effectively overpaying you.

Cushy jobs are great but a major downside is that they condition you to a state of complacency. Spend s long tine there and it will be a shock to the system when you actually need to work hard.

I’m not giving specific advice. This is just more food for thought so you can think about it from all angles.

Yes, this is my biggest fear. I know this situation won’t last forever - which is why I want to make better use of my time. It has been like this for about 2 years now, before that it wasn’t so relaxed. I anticipate I can survive this way until late next year.

I got a taste of the management attempting to drive change last year when the CEO tried to restructure everything. I made a case to my boss and he made sure I was not affected.

And you’re absolutely right, I am very complacent. I actually get upset at the smallest things at work because I’ve conditioned myself to believe I shouldn’t have to deal with such things, which isnt true. I have stopped learning, dipped out of the corporate world, and literally feel unemployed. Dangerous situation to be in.
(This post was last modified: 05-21-2019 02:15 PM by tugofpeace.)
05-21-2019 02:12 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
the-dream Offline
Wingman
***

Posts: 690
Joined: Dec 2013
Reputation: 22
Post: #11
RE: What would you do in my situation
Don't wish for a shittier, more stressful, less well paid job. Try and start a business in your spare time.
05-21-2019 02:26 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
[-] The following 2 users Like the-dream's post:
internetprince, Matt Warner
Zenta Offline
Beta Orbiter
*
Gold Member

Posts: 82
Joined: Mar 2019
Reputation: 0
Post: #12
RE: What would you do in my situation
The problem is your job is too easy. I'm in the same position albeit my pay is much lesser for it than yours. I have the same struggles but the benefits are too good to give up also its a personal business so theres no point in me finding another job. What I've been focusing on and what you need to do also is find ways to grow your current position rather than just sitting there bored about it everyday. Its up to you to put some effort into life, it wont do it for you.
05-21-2019 06:45 PM
Find all posts by this user Like Post Quote this message in a reply
Post Reply 


Forum Jump:


User(s) browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)

Contact Us | RooshV.com | Return to Top | Return to Content | Mobile Version | RSS Syndication