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How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
Any way to know for sure?

Is discussion of pre-marital manual sex aka fingering allowed?

Any of you ex-players have tips or tells that might be signs a girl will be a good lay (tight, naturally lubricated, enthusiastic, etc) ?

Let’s skip the obvious remarks about young, active, in shape, submissive or whatever and dig deeper into it
06-15-2019 11:13 PM
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
- The ways her eyes light up when she's around you (green flag)
- The way she takes a pride of taking care of you and making you feel good/comfortable in other ways (green flag)
- If her attention is always on you when you're together and she's eager for more, you don't have to compete with her phone etc for attention (green flag)
- If she's generally a complainer/excuse maker (red flag)
- If she thinks sex is shameful or too taboo to openly talk about with her partner (red flag)
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
Isn't the answer obvious? Have sex with her. It's really a crapshoot until you do. There's no surefire way of knowing otherwise.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
I agree with Batman, unless you just enjoy playing Russian Roulette with half your resources on the line. That's not a wishful thinking bet I'm willing to take.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
(06-15-2019 11:25 PM)the-dream Wrote:  - The ways her eyes light up when she's around you (green flag)
- The way she takes a pride of taking care of you and making you feel good/comfortable in other ways (green flag)
- If her attention is always on you when you're together and she's eager for more, you don't have to compete with her phone etc for attention (green flag)
- If she's generally a complainer/excuse maker (red flag)
- If she thinks sex is shameful or too taboo to openly talk about with her partner (red flag)

If you both really have to work hard at not having sex, then it will likely be good. That is evidence of chemistry, passion and her having a natural sex drive. Its evidence that there is something to actually resist.

If the two of you could be locked in the same room alone for hours on end and not have any issues with temptation, its going to be poor.

Even in my fornicator days, it was pretty easy to tell from the first embrace, or hand on leg if it was going to be good or bad.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
This is one of the perks of staying chaste until marriage. Any sex is amazing if it's the only sex you know.

Problem solved.
06-16-2019 03:14 PM
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
You cant tell.

Like most of you, I've been with my fair share of women, and the ones its amazing with are always something of a surprise.

I've had a few stunning women who I had mediocre sex with.

Its weird and there is not accurate guessing formula.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
This is an easy one if you want to remain chaste.

Go partner dancing, swing, latin, whatever. See if there is sparks flying when partner dancing with her and if she gets turned on, or she just treats dancing for the sake of dancing itself.

Dancing and sex are extremely intertwined.

And if your chaste self gets so turned on at the social dance at least have the decency to jerk off in the bathroom stall or facing the corner in shame instead of using the sink like a savage.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
May I add the question of how to avoid sex before marriage and still be able actually reach marriage?

There are cultures outside Muslim(-like) countries, where pre-marital sex is the social norm, because it's part of a longer trial phase (LTR, few years) before proposal. And the others do arranged marriages.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
Friendly reminder that the rules of the forum have changed.

Sex is meant for procreation. Having sex for the fun of it is like watching Seinfeld for hours late at night.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
Ive always thought women who were good kissers, and good dancers were good in bed. tall women tend to be better at sex as well, and more educated women with good math skills

With the bases loaded all we needs a hit boy ima still swing for the fences, I guess you tend to over do it, when you come up under-privileged
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
(06-16-2019 03:14 PM)Sooth Wrote:  This is one of the perks of staying chaste until marriage. Any sex is amazing if it's the only sex you know.

Problem solved.

What a load of crap. I've never heard of anybody saying the sex was good when they lost their virginity.

OP, it's impossible to tell how the sex will be until you have it. I know it's against new forum rules, but it's a terrible idea to wait until you're married to have sex. Only do this if you're generally an asexual person and legitimately only want to have sex for procreation. It's too much of a gamble otherwise.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
It's fine to discuss the pros and cons of pre-marital sex.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
(06-20-2019 03:04 PM)Spaniard in Germany Wrote:  Friendly reminder that the rules of the forum have changed.

Sex is meant for procreation.

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(06-20-2019 03:04 PM)Spaniard in Germany Wrote:   Having sex for the fun of it is like watching Seinfeld for hours late at night.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
If sex were meant only for procration then couples who cannot have children should stop having sex. It is a way of creating intimacy and bondage between spouses.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
Since the topic is pros and cons premarital sex, I will leave my testimony here in hope others can learn. I had my fun with girls when I was younger. Around 27 I experienced a life changing event and quit chasing women. I met my wife when I was 29, she was 34 and she was a virgin as a consequence of being a practicing believer. We do not have kids and the culprit is me as we found out after some tests. We have a fulfilling sex life, and the only thing I regret is the sex I had with other women, sometimes the memories chase me and fighting them is not easy. The fear that lack of experience will ruin the marriage is a misconception. The only cases when sex is not good in a marriage is because of some lacking in feelings or mind. Maybe he or she has some unsolved issues which prevents him or her from enjoying sex.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
(06-21-2019 11:17 AM)Radu Anghel Wrote:  Since the topic is pros and cons premarital sex, I will leave my testimony here in hope others can learn. I had my fun with girls when I was younger. Around 27 I experienced a life changing event and quit chasing women.

I quit chasing women at age 23, because I figured that I didn't have the credentials to make the results worth the effort even with red pill knowledge. I didn't meet my wife during the following 15 years and now I'm looking back at no (instead of low quality) experience and I don't see it as something to be proud of.
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
Short answer:
It is really hard to see if a girl is good in bed.

Long answer:
Of all the girls I have been with, I could have never guessed which ones where good in bed. Some are fun to be with based purely on how they look, but look does not necessarily make them good in bed. It have never shown before. I think it also comes from the energy two people can create together. Maybe my worst encounters have been another guy´s best encounters because of their sexual energies matched better. But I also think that some people are just not any good at sex.

I respect people being celibate because of religion. But from my experience I wouldn't write under on a legal document to spend the rest of my life with a person if I haven't yet seen if my sexual energy matched hers. When you don't match in bed the rest can get awkward pretty fast. The part that makes it a binding contract makes it too serious too gamble with.

And sex is kinda like a sport. If you really want to get good at it it takes practice, reading and learning techniques, watching other people playing "sports" online, etc etc.
And you wouldn't expect a girl who is "skiing" for the first time at 29 to be as good at "skiing" as a girl who started skiing at 15 and have been doing it regularly on different slopes since.

But hey, even bad sex is still sex Heart

There is a family theraphist called Esther Perel which specialises in couples sex theraphy. She was on the Tim Ferris Podcast for example, and also has her own podcast. She have written books about how to keep the sexual flame alive in couples and marriage. One of her books that I recommend is called "mating in captivity, unlocking erotic intelligence".
She says that love and desire is two different things. And they need different things too manifest. What makes for good intimacy does not always make for good sex. Love seeks closeness, but desire needs distance.
Passionate sex with your best friend is hard, but she lays out tips on how to keep the desire alive. This is not a book with sex tips, but more with relationship tips
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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
(06-21-2019 10:11 AM)Radu Anghel Wrote:  If sex were meant only for procration then couples who cannot have children should stop having sex. It is a way of creating intimacy and bondage between spouses.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
If she's been with other men then obviously you need to track them all down and ask them to fill out a detailed questionnaire to the best of their ability.

If she's a virgin then you need to find five to ten men to plow her and then go through the above process.

Such are the ways of our ancestors.

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RE: How to tell if sex will be good / compatible before marriage?
I am not even going to make a post explaining, you guys do the research
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telegony_%28pregnancy%29
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Microchimerism

Duh now I understand royal families. Duh now I understand the whole biblical doublespeak. Duh now I understand medieval customs. Duh now I understand the implications of religious taboos. Duh now I understand the whole Marxist attack on families and the 4 letter word… you know which one… the evil one, the one that starts with r and ends with ace.

But please by all means keep pumping and dumping, luckily enough those "sperm toilets" (modern women) will be sterile anyway. And I am not even a hard line pro-life natalist. Just think for yourselves, if you can quit rubbing your genitals against miscellaneous surfaces for a minute, thank you.
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