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When a woman you are dating asks you for money
I have run into this scenario more this year than in years past. I met a girl five weeks ago at a happy hour who had recently relocated from Philadelphia. She's 31, divorced from a marriage of 7 years, with a 6 year old son. Not the ideal potential LTR profile, but I digress.

Our first date was the the weekend of 4th of July, and included drinks. Second date a week later was bowling and she ended up spending the night. Our 3rd date is supposed to be this upcoming weekend (so in total I would have known her seven weeks by that point), but I'm having seconds thoughts about moving forward with that.

Wednesday of this week - She mentions that since she moved she's been interviewing for a number of full time jobs, but hasn't been able to land anything yet (she works in marketing and only thing she has secured was a temp/contract job through a staffing agency. Why someone would move to a new city without a full-time job is beyond me).

Thursday of this week - She subtly mentions her financial situation, stating she has some expenses that are coming due for her kid and for the house that she needs. I don't press the issue because I am not trying to lead her to think I am going to help. She later mentions that she reluctantly will have to call her ex hubby to see if he can help with money (He has supposedly moved on and re-married since the divorce).

Friday of this week - She is in a bad mood as she states he told her he can't help. The whole vibe is a little off and I cut the call short as I had other plans with a co-workers farewell party/happy hour.

Friday Night - She sends me this long text saying she feels she has no other choice and asks me for $400 to help her out with her bills. I have been in relationships with women for months/years that never once had the thought of asking. If I offered to help is one thing, but asking, let alone when you have only known someone as short of a time as we have, doesn't sit well.

I didn't reply last night, and will nicely say no today, however am I right to assume once I reject that request that:

1. This situation is essentially dead
2. I am better off with the one bang I got, and cut my losses now?

Any of you have a similar situation happen?
07-20-2019 05:24 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
Good riddance buddy.

You may need to address some self confidence and game issues if you are finding yourself in this situation.

No matter where you are on the game spectrum things can only get better than this shit she put you through.

Its a hard Next, and now Date Other Women..
07-20-2019 06:23 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
She offered you a shit sandwich too soon. The nerves to ask you for money is beyond my comprehension. She might think you’re a loser to do that.

Reminds me of a gold digger I banged and she was telling me how to “find” a “good catch”. If they offer dinner in a fancy restaurant, always choose the most expensive stuff and just give the guy a kiss. If he calls you again, it’s because he’s willing to continue spending. If he’s broke, he will never call again.

Move on ASAP. It’ll only get worse.
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07-20-2019 08:55 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
(07-20-2019 05:24 AM)lunchmoney Wrote:  2. I am better off with the one bang I got, and cut my losses now?

Any of you have a similar situation happen?

I'd give her $30 for the bang you already had.
Then offer her another $30 for the next one.
07-20-2019 10:01 PM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
(07-20-2019 08:55 AM)joost Wrote:  Reminds me of a gold digger I banged and she was telling me how to “find” a “good catch”. If they offer dinner in a fancy restaurant, always choose the most expensive stuff and just give the guy a kiss. If he calls you again, it’s because he’s willing to continue spending. If he’s broke, he will never call again.

Never take a woman you haven't banged to an expensive restaurant.
McDonald's is good enough for a first date.

Can't give advice beyond that as I've never had a second date with a woman that didn't put out on the first.
07-20-2019 10:04 PM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
(07-20-2019 10:04 PM)John Dodds Wrote:  
(07-20-2019 08:55 AM)joost Wrote:  Reminds me of a gold digger I banged and she was telling me how to “find” a “good catch”. If they offer dinner in a fancy restaurant, always choose the most expensive stuff and just give the guy a kiss. If he calls you again, it’s because he’s willing to continue spending. If he’s broke, he will never call again.

Never take a woman you haven't banged to an expensive restaurant.
McDonald's is good enough for a first date.

Can't give advice beyond that as I've never had a second date with a woman that didn't put out on the first.

If you're gonna choose to go out and get food at all, why would you choose McDonalds? You're feed the girl you're trying to get with bad food? No way she leaves feeling her best.

Bad foods got her energy down. Her breathe smells like greasy hamburgers or fried chicken. And she's gassy, just holding that in and stressing herself.

You might be cool, and she might think so too, but she is not looking at you like "I'm with a boss". Even worse, now you gotta eat there too. And why the fuck are you eating at McDonalds? That shit is processed trash.

Sushi is cheap, way easier fun/distraction, and you always leave feeling clean and ready to make moves.
07-21-2019 07:26 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
Yeah I agree with Brian. Fuck McDonalds. I still like to make a good impression.
There are a lot of decent places with local food that are ok. No need to take her to a classy michelin star restaurant for a first date. That'd be crazy, and her expectations will be high.

Or you can just go for a coffee, or go for a walk if it's too expensive as well.
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07-21-2019 07:40 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
I think you guys are moving out of topic which is about girls asking you for money.

The example I gave about the gold digger is about how she shit-test guys to “filter” them. The girl OP met is doing just that.

As far as taking a date to a restaurant. It’s a big no-no these days and I believe it was discussed plenty of times in this forum.
07-21-2019 09:23 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
Agree to never do dinner on first dates. "Dinner is something intimate that I share with those who have a deeper connection with me [or my cock]"

Avoid women that make bad choices. You saw it coming when you saw she moved like that but you continued. Which brings me to...

Avoid being desperate. You need to improve your odds of meeting higher quality women. Not sure why you're attracting the trashish ones but you seem like you can do better.

So let's summarize the red/yellow flag indicators:

-Moved into new city with no job (stupid) - likely no strong family or quality friends that tell her any better. Worst case scenario, she's a stripper or on the way to become one.
-Can't land a job after multiple attempts. Unemployable at best. Has background check/criminal issues at worst.
-She has a kid and father said sayonara. Makes little sense why she, the unemployed one kept the kid. I know laws are female friendly but something doesn't add up and my Cobra-sense is tingling on this one.
-Ex is not willing to help. So why the fuck would you?

Just my analysis. Parting words. Doc Holliday and I did a podcast. There's some myth that men do worse after a divorce but Doc mentioned that this is not the case. Women are broken, both mentally and financially after such a separation. So you're meeting this woman likely in her worst period. You need to do better.

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07-21-2019 11:17 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
Tell her she's ruining the chemistry.
07-27-2019 03:09 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
(07-27-2019 03:09 AM)Rorogue Wrote:  Tell her she's ruining the chemistry.

Haha I told her it was over. Funny part is since I cut her off she has been texting and calling more than when we were talking.
07-29-2019 04:58 PM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
Tell her you'll go out with her again but only if she pays you

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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
(07-29-2019 04:58 PM)lunchmoney Wrote:  
(07-27-2019 03:09 AM)Rorogue Wrote:  Tell her she's ruining the chemistry.

Haha I told her it was over. Funny part is since I cut her off she has been texting and calling more than when we were talking.

The nerve of that chick asking you for money. I hope you told her that you are NOT a charity or an ATM before you cut her.
08-13-2019 09:23 AM
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RE: When a woman you are dating asks you for money
The nerve of her indeed. Good lose. Move on player.
08-18-2019 09:53 AM
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