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Young guy, could use some advice
Hey guys, I'm pretty new here. A little on my situation:
- I'm 21
- Go to school and work in my hometown, live in suburbs
- No experience with girls, socially awkward/anxious and introverted (not severe, but still noticeable)
- Doing convict conditioning
- living with parents saving most of my money

I want to finish school and this internship while saving money. After that I will move out. But while I'm here in the suburbs, I get bored when not working and tend to resort to wasting time on my laptop and jerking off. What are some productive things I can do to make better use of free time? At this point I've decided I will put girls on hold until I move out, because I have strict parents and live in the burbs.
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Buy Game book and do what it said.
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Start looksmaxing right now.
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(08-04-2019 02:14 AM)afewgoodrats Wrote:  I want to finish school and this internship while saving money. After that I will move out. But while I'm here in the suburbs, I get bored when not working and tend to resort to wasting time on my laptop and jerking off. What are some productive things I can do to make better use of free time? At this point I've decided I will put girls on hold until I move out, because I have strict parents and live in the burbs.

Build skills. One option is get a cheap old dual sport and you can kill two birds with one stone, mastering two wheeled mobility and wrenching your own transportation into shape. Or if you don't like the millimorts exposure two wheels offer you could do something similar with a classic air cooled Volkswagen (depending how cheap they are in your region).

Just find some sort of active pursuit, that doesn't kill your savings rate. Engage with other people involved in the activity. Work on your social calibration. etc.
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RE: Young guy, could use some advice
OK.

- I'm 21

That's a good start!


- Go to school and work in my hometown, live in suburbs

What do you study at 'school'? Where do you 'work'?


- No experience with girls, socially awkward/anxious and introverted (not severe, but still noticeable)

21 and NO experience at all with girls?


- Doing convict conditioning

So you are fit and healthy and have/are getting a pretty good body?


- living with parents saving most of my money

Make the most of it. It will be time to fly the nest soon. For the benefit of yourself and the relationship you have with your parents.


I want to finish school and this internship while saving money. After that I will move out.

Sounds like a plan!


But while I'm here in the suburbs, I get bored when not working and tend to resort to wasting time on my laptop and jerking off.

So you don't have any friends/acquaintances?


What are some productive things I can do to make better use of free time?

We'll come to that in a bit.


At this point I've decided I will put girls on hold until I move out, because I have strict parents and live in the burbs.

Can you not still have a g/f and see her outside of the house? Surely your parents aren't that strict? Not sure what living in the 'burbs has to do with it. All the more reason to move out sooner rather than later.


You're 21. You're already a man. You can go off to foreign lands and die or kill for your country. Some men do that younger than you are.

But whilst you are technically a man, you still have a bit of learning and growing to do. You are at a very formative age. Very few men are fully formed by this point. Very few men are fully formed by 25. So use these years wisely. They will shape who you are as a man and inform the rest of your life. Because you will grow old. You will become weaker. And past a certain age, you cross the point of no return. Money, friends, family (if you have them) will count for nothing. You are on your own. You were born alone and you will die alone. Just some perspective...


It sounds like you have slightly overbearing parents from the little you have said, and that might explain your shyness and awkwardness with girls. You sound a little held back development wise. Do you have any deeper underlying issues like autism or other develpmental disorders? You may not even realise this yet, just keep it in mind. You will soon find out as you go out in to the wild blue yonder and experience how you interact with people (both men and women) in a wider social sense.

As I said, you need to get out sooner rather than later. I don't think you have more than a mild impairment with your development from the little you have said, but it's time to fly the coop, all the same.

Get your head around this. Mentally prepare for it.

There are certain skills you will need to become independent and to make your journey through life a lot easier and a lot less painful.

Learn how to cook.
Doesn't have to be gourmet. But learn how to stock a fridge/freezer for the week. Learn the basics of spices and other condiments that will really give an edge to your food, making it a pleasure to eat, for yourself and others. A man that heats up a can of baked beans on a gas ring is a turn off for a woman. A man that can make the food melt in her mouth has a good chance of making inroads to melting her knickers. It shows maturity and it shows self-reliance. Whilst men tradtionally went out and killed the meat to put on the kitchen table/slab of rock, those days are gone now, and if you can't prepare even a basic tasty meal, it will show a certain lack of development.

It doesn't take long to learn how to cook. You have access to foods from all over the world. Learn to cook a bit of Japanese style, a bit of Indian style, a bit of Irish style (meat and potatoes and boiled ham and bacon and cabbage - don't knock it till you've tried it!), a bit of European style, perhaps venturing in to some basic sauces, French style, and of course, traditonal American style as well.

Learn how to prepare, learn how to keep food in extra portions in the freezer. Believe me, there is not a greater feeling in the world than coming home from a hard day's grind, knowing you have a small choice of frozen dishes to reheat in 15 minutes. Food is your sustenance - it feeds your brain as well as your body. It even feeds your spirit and soul as well. Do not neglect this. It's not an option.


Learn how to fight.
I'm not talking about brawling. I'm talking self-defence. Possibly martial arts or even boxing. Others on the forum can advise you more on this. I'm not a fighter, though I've had quite a few fights (and lost nearly every one).

The reason I put this up there with the essentials every man must know is this: you may not be interested in fighting, but fighting and self-defence is interested in you. It's good that you work out, but you need to be able to have a row, and you need to show other men, no matter your height or build, that you don't mind scrapping with them if it comes down to it. Most guys won't mess with you then, and even the big and real hard lads will have a new found respect for you. Build your confidence as you go.

Learning how to fight is not about getting in to trouble, it's about staying out of trouble. And if you learn proper self-defence you will learn about situational awareness and preparedness. Life can turn on a dime. Be prepared. It will help to build your body and your psyche. It will also help you integrate and interact with other men, perhaps even building some good contacts or friendships as you go along.

Have a punchbag set up somewhere where you live if you can. Use this to externalise and take out frustrations. Men who internalise their frustrations turn to drink or drugs or other forms of self harm. 5 minutes walloping that punch bug won't solve your problems, but it's a step in the right direction. Life is all about steps in the right direction, and not taking wrong turns. Whether you get in to serious MA or just learn basic self-defence - don't matter! This is also not an option. You must do it.

OK.

So you can cook, you can fight. You got a bit of green stacked. Life's not so bad. You're on your way to being a catch for some lucky young lady.

I've skipped the financial independence thing as you seem to have your head screwed on in that department, and truth be told, I'm the last person in the world that can lecture anybody about that. :-)

But seriously, learn how to budget. Be frugal. Don't ever be cheap. There is a difference. Some people can get away with being cheap, and some people can get away with being fools with their money (I was one, I gave my money away - but I was never respected for it - quite the opposite). Most people respect someone that can handle money. Don't be tight and don't be overly generous. Don't be afraid to spend on things that have real value, like a high-end Telescope for example, but only if you are in to astronomy and star-gazing. Buy a flash car if you love flash cars, but don't ever do these things to impress other people. I'm in to guitars, I mean, really in to guitars, but you would never find me spending more than a few hundred bucks on one. Even if I was filthy rich, I wouldn't. But I would spend maybe 30K on a nice Telescope system if I had it to burn.

Do you see? A 20K guitar looks and plays and sounds like a 200 bucks guitar, but a 20K telescope is in another world and league compared to a 200 bucks telescope - you can't even compare them. Yet fools spend 30K on vintage Stratocasters. As an investment maybe it makes sense, but even then...

But if you weren't in to telescopes then even spending 2K is foolish.

Work out what is important to you. Talking of guitars and telescopes...

You don't mention any hobbies or interests. These are the icing on the cake to the essentials like cooking/fighting, but no less essential in the round.

You live at a time that all other human beings who ever existed could only dream about. Most could not even dream that hard. Yes, we have hell on earth, but we also have heaven on earth as well.

You need to get some hobbies, not to make you appear interesting to other people and women (because they will) but because this is what life is really about and to be self-suficient you need it to come from your very own soul. Find your passion. Find as many passions as you can muster. Then give it a bit of mustard on top as well, for good measure.

It's one thing to get laid by a hot chick who is in to you. It's a wonderful experience. But it won't last, it never does. Some people are ok with this transience and transitoriness, but I would wager that most men want the security of a hot chick who will always be there for you. Good luck with that. It's why men are so insane, and why women have such a market value in hypergamy.

When you have something in life that touches you to the depths of your soul, you have no need for banging hot bitches. I get lost and go to a higher place when I can play my guitar for a couple of hours, or spend 12 hours solid making a full on finished EDM track. Hyper focused, I have no need for human contact. Staring at the stars and finding a new type of star I've never found before (but only read about) - these are the joys of life, the great pleasures of life. Between man and his existence. Between man and his God (if he has one).

These things give such a sense of ontological security, it is not true. And not all men experience this. Out chasing. Drinking. Drugging. Whoring.

These 'hobbies' or passions as I prefer to call them will see you through the lean times, will strengthen you psychologically - you won't even feel the need to go out whoring or drinking. You will come to pity those that do.

These are not merely 'hobbies' to get you out there and socialising and making you a more well-rounded and interesting person - these are things that can soothe the savage beast that is (in) man.

Look, maybe stamp collecting is your thing. Trainspotting. Birdwatching. It doesn't matter. This is for you, and for your journey through life. Mark Knopfler said the guitar was the best friend he ever had. And I know what he means.

I have a few hobbies, but guitars and telescopes are up there with the best of them. You can buy a guitar to learn on for less than a hundred bucks, don't even need to spend 50 bucks if you are unsure and just want to check it out. You can buy a very good beginner's telescope for a few hundred bucks (or less, again, if you are unsure and just want to check things out).

Playing the guitar makes you more interesting. It teaches you mathematics and it teaches you motor-coordination and memory skills. Some kind of instrument is essential I would say, and I would seriously consider it if you have not already.

Amateur astronomy also makes you more interesting. You can go to star parties and meet people from all walks of life. Again, you will learn about physics, chemistry, optics - all kinds of things for you to apply your brain power to. I have a small data sheet up on buying your first telescope in this very forum, in fact, if you need advice on this.

Imagine out one night in the cold with your new would be love of your life. You are just getting to know each other. It is cold. As all nights that are good to observe the stars are. Perhaps you have a hip flask with a nice hot toddy in it to lighten the mood. Perhaps you have a flask of that wonderful chicken soup you knocked up a month ago and have just unfrozen and prepared for the night. Piping hot and ready to go with some home-made croutons you also quickly knocked up.

You look up to the heavens. You take her hand. You use it to point out the 3 stars in the center of Orion's belt. You whisper softly in to her ear: That one on the left is 'Alnitak', the one in the middle is 'Alnilam', and the one on the right is 'Mintaka'. Actually they are not single stars, but double and triple star systems. They look blue because they are relatively young stars, perhaps only a few hundred million years old on average, and they will die young as well, compared to our own Sun that will still be shining in 5 thousand million years time. The Arabs named most of the stars in the night sky, thousands of years ago. They did not call it Orion's belt, but the 'String of pearls' - isn't that beautiful?

Just below them in what people call Orion's sword and what appears to be another star, is in fact the Orion nebula - one of the brightest nebulas in the entire night sky - a massive region of young star formation - think of it as a Stellar nursery where little baby stars are just about to be born - here, let me show you in the telescope - you will be able to see it is not just another star, but another world...


You pause for effect.

She swoons.

There is a difference between being a nerd and being a scholar/professor type. Context is everything. There are few moments when you can drop that kind of shit on a chick, but when the moment is right, don't you want to be the one that can so effortlessly impart that knowledge?

Ok, if she's a slut, she's just wanting to get banged out in the back of chad thundercock's Pontiac after toking on a spliff or two. There is no reckoning for these women. Discard them. These tips and tricks are for the good girls, should you ever come across one. Be prepared.

You are young and need to take advantage of all that neuro-plasticity that you have in your brain. Learn, study, educate yourself.

Forget about posing and being 'really in to music, man' unless you really are in to music, for example. People have a tendency to be able to spot fakers, and even if you can fool most of the people most of the time... you know how it goes.

If you have a telescope you can join an astronomy club. If you have a guitar you can join a band. Just don't give up your day job, ok?

There are so many things to cover, and these are just off the top of my head.

Of course you will need to learn how to dress well, again, not too flashy or wannabee model, but elegantly and smartly when the occasion calls for it. Or not. Don't be that guy like Lewis fucking Hamilton who turned up at a funeral for one of the greatest racing drivers who ever lived, looking like a fucking clothes horse and perfumed ponce. Have some dignity, some self-respect. Others will have it more for you then as well, and if they don't, fuck 'em. Maintain your frame.

Talking of which. You do need game. Just for basic survival, not even for banging bitches. This is also not an option. Lots of things written here on this forum for you to get started. I repeat, this is not an option.

I had natural game, had no problem attracting women, but keeping them was another matter. Sure I had my share of LTRs, but that's not the same as finding a wife.

And on that last point, don't be afraid to commit even at your young age. It may or may not be right for you. I lost the girl of my dreams and my future wife for life when I was the exact same age as you. It can happen, and you have to be ready for it.

Life will present you with opportunities and throw things at you quicker than a lightning flash. You need to be prepared to accept them as quick or lose out forever, not just talking women here. Great fortune shines on some people sometimes. It did with me, but I was too slow. Don't be slow. Be on the fucking ball at all times. Don't drink, don't do drugs, don't let other people mean too much to you (they will shit on you quicker than you will shit on them probably). But be humble and considerate. Be sensitive even. But don't let others know of your sensitivity lest they use it against you. Don't be afraid to make an example of others if it benefits you over all.

To thine own self be true.

If you can find God, go with him. If you can't, still look for him anyway. If you can't even manage that, then at least have respect for others of faith.

Have respect for everyone. Especially your enemies.

And most of all, know who your enemies are. They are legion. They come as friends, as angels...

But more than anything, the biggest enemy you will ever have you can find in the bathroom mirror when you have a shave in the morning.

People's capacity for deception knows no bounds. But the propensity for an indiviual towards self-deception is even greater again.

Life will still knock the shit out of you. And if not you, those you love more than life. Nothing can prepare a man for this.

But all the more reason to be on that fucking ball and in absolutely tip-top shape, to suffer those slings and arrows...

Good luck! (you'll need it)

And remember, it's just a ride...
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Thanks for the advice guys.
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(08-04-2019 02:25 PM)Rigsby Wrote:  OK.

[... Solid block of great advice]

To thine own self be true.

If you can find God, go with him. If you can't, still look for him anyway. If you can't even manage that, then at least have respect for others of faith.

Have respect for everyone. Especially your enemies.

And most of all, know who your enemies are. They are legion. They come as friends, as angels...

But more than anything, the biggest enemy you will ever have you can find in the bathroom mirror when you have a shave in the morning.

People's capacity for deception knows no bounds. But the propensity for an indiviual towards self-deception is even greater again.

Life will still knock the shit out of you. And if not you, those you love more than life. Nothing can prepare a man for this.

But all the more reason to be on that fucking ball and in absolutely tip-top shape, to suffer those slings and arrows...

Good luck! (you'll need it)

And remember, it's just a ride...

Amazing piece of advice everyone should read- just a bit too long to quote fully Big Grin.

One of the best things I think I could've ever done to get confidence in myself back after coming to terms with my disability is learning how to cook properly. Not just throwing somehow really edible things together that my friends enjoyed, but actual recipes. Two years on, if I want bread and have the ingredients (and 10 minutes) I make bread. Cooking, even for myself, uplifts the mood and brings me into a state of calm I can't really put into words.
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(08-06-2019 12:48 AM)Kelent Wrote:  
(08-04-2019 02:25 PM)Rigsby Wrote:  OK.

[... Solid block of great advice]

To thine own self be true.

If you can find God, go with him. If you can't, still look for him anyway. If you can't even manage that, then at least have respect for others of faith.

Have respect for everyone. Especially your enemies.

And most of all, know who your enemies are. They are legion. They come as friends, as angels...

But more than anything, the biggest enemy you will ever have you can find in the bathroom mirror when you have a shave in the morning.

People's capacity for deception knows no bounds. But the propensity for an indiviual towards self-deception is even greater again.

Life will still knock the shit out of you. And if not you, those you love more than life. Nothing can prepare a man for this.

But all the more reason to be on that fucking ball and in absolutely tip-top shape, to suffer those slings and arrows...

Good luck! (you'll need it)

And remember, it's just a ride...

Amazing piece of advice everyone should read- just a bit too long to quote fully Big Grin.

One of the best things I think I could've ever done to get confidence in myself back after coming to terms with my disability is learning how to cook properly. Not just throwing somehow really edible things together that my friends enjoyed, but actual recipes. Two years on, if I want bread and have the ingredients (and 10 minutes) I make bread. Cooking, even for myself, uplifts the mood and brings me into a state of calm I can't really put into words.


Cooking food is definitely right up there with any advice to a young man leaving home for the first time, as he aims to become independent.

Food is medicine. Spices and herbs can be medicines. See Ayurvedic medicine. Thousands of years old. Turmeric (which you only need a pinch of) that turns that otherwise bland rice a kind of earthy orange/rust colour - well that reduces inflammation. Many studies on this. Lots of info on the net if you want to look. It is also a pain killer, blocking (iirc) the same pathways that commonly known painkillers block. COX inhibitors?

I once had an absolute motherfucker of an abscess in my wisdom tooth. Pain off the scale, smelt like raw sewage. Weekend. Out of painkillers. Maxing out the paracetamol (acetaminophen) and also the Ibuprofen at the same time (you can take both but don't over do it). Still punching my head. Punching my jaw just to try and create some new pain that would alleviate the horrendous pain that is an abscess deep in your wisdom tooth.

I only buy the best of herbs, or rather, I have a section where I keep my high quality herbs and a section where I keep the stuff where it doesn't matter too much (peppers, salts).

I took my best quality Turmeric and I ripped open a teabag, spilled out the tea (no matter, caffeine usually potentiates pain relief so it wasn't going to hurt if there was a bit left in there) - I packed in as much Turmeric as I could, like one of those Skoal chewing baccy pouches. Two of the greatest things I took from my American private school education: playing Basketball and chewing baccy...

The pain took a while to alleviate, and to be honest, it didn't alleviate much, a good dose of opiates would have been better, but...

Did it cure the pain? No. Did it make it slightly more bearable so as I stopped punching my head? Yes.

If only I had known about the wonders of Hydrogen Peroxide in 3 and 6 percent solutions.

In fact, I would add this to the list of things to know when leaving home - basic medicine - how toxic some drugs are (paracetamol [acetaminophen]) - and how to stock a basic and legal drugs cabinet where prevention is usually better than cure. Gargling with a bit less than 3 percent solution of Hydrogen Peroxide not only helps to whiten teeth, but it helps you have good breath, and it keeps gums healthy. It's magical stuff.

So many things to be expounded on. One could probably write a book.

But herbs and spices are not just medicines, they can be poisons too. Women should be wary of taking too much Rosemary, as it was used years ago to induce abortions. All pregnant women should avoid this herb. I'm going on memory here, but the point still stands.

https://www.jstor.org/stable/4254050?seq...b_contents

Nutmeg if taken in large amounts can give a serious high, but can also destroy bodily organs. Iirc.

https://www.jstor.org/stable/4252602?seq...b_contents

These things can be extremely fatal if you are young and foolish.

But they do contain some feel good 'compounds'. If you look at the work of Alexander and Ann Shulgin (PIHKAL, TIHKAL) you will see he used the essential oils from herbs like Rosemary as extracts to build the new compounds for his psychedelic research. DMT for example is extracted from the Mimosa.

Chillis (hot ones) have high levels of capsaicin, which is also a proven pain killer. The only cure I could find for my crippling stomach pains was Cayenne Pepper (not a hot pepper). I would mix a whole teaspoon of it in a semi-warm shot glass and down it in one. Boy what a hit. 20 seconds later, the pain alleviated. I was on the verge of calling an ambulance the pain was so bad. I had this stomach pain for years. Cayenne pepper can even be snorted by those whose sinusitis is so bad they are delirious with pain. Another magical herb. Use only the best quality of this one though if you are ingesting it like this.

Enough about that.


One of the best things I think I could've ever done to get confidence in myself back after coming to terms with my disability is learning how to cook properly. Not just throwing somehow really edible things together that my friends enjoyed, but actual recipes. Two years on, if I want bread and have the ingredients (and 10 minutes) I make bread.

Yes, cooking is calming and meditative. The benefits it brings by sheer nutritional power are preventative medicine in themselves. To sit down and enjoy a truly gourmet level mouth watering meal is also a salve and a boon in itself. All the better if you cooked it yourself. Even better again to share with friends.

What was it Warren Zevon said when he found out he had cancer? "Enjoy every sandwich". I try to enjoy every sandwich.

While we are on the subject, there is also a basic stock of vitamins and minerals that should be kept in the medicine cabinet as well. Some vitamins will harm you. Some minerals will harm you. Some take time for your body to adjust to. But basically most of the B vitamins (not all) and C and D can only benefit you. Minerals like Zinc alleviate depression and Magnesium also. Zinc helps you build testosterone and you take it in the day, and Magnesium helps you sleep and you take it an hour before bed.

You don't need many of these. Build a Top 10 of Vitamins and Minerals that work for YOU, and keep them in your cabinet. You'll be more alert, sleep better, have higher T and will have better bioavailability in your body to take in all those other vitamins and minerals that you should be getting from your food. Vitamin C helps to convert stuff in the body, and it might give you the runs for a few days at high doses, but apart from being a waste of money, it will only be pissed out. Other Vitamins you should be more mindful of.

Again, enough of that.

Yes, cooking for yourself is not only satisfying, it saves you money. Sure, it takes a bit of extra time, but I promise you, the extras gained back will more than make up for it - better sleep, more alertness when awake - these things add up. Find what food works for your body, keeps you healthy and calm and fit.

I haven't eaten meat for decades, though I maintain a strict pescetarian diet (just like our big strapping lad Kona here on this very forum). But I am happy to cook meat for friends, though it's been a while now since I've had a chance to do that. I could knock up a superb meat dish tomorrow if I had to. I just don't eat red meat myself. I've also cut down on my fruit and started eating more vegetables. Which has pretty much cured my stomach problems. You have to learn what works for you.

I don't take anti-depressant drugs any more, but I just realised today how much I rely on my vitamins and minerals which have just run out the last week or two and I'm feeling the effects of greater than usual depression.

Food, vitamins, minerals, toxins and poisons - they are all things you wil take in through your mouth. Learn about them.



Cooking, even for myself, uplifts the mood and brings me into a state of calm I can't really put into words.

I'm a bit of a hack when it comes to cooking. I'm absolutely useless at making french sauces or bechamel or gravy - that kind of thing. Just no knack at all. But I can spend 5 hours solid preparing a Risotto to die for. Not a minute wasted either - that is 5 hours solid of prep until serving, no slouching. You would never get a Risotto like that in any restaurant in the world practically. And I ate it all alone. But fuck me, if it wasn't the best thing ever. When I went back for second helpings (it was that good and I don't eat large portions anyway), it had already started to congeal and resemble a bad porridge!

No matter, I portioned it off and froze it and though it didn't look so great, it still tasted just about as wonderful. The texture of the rice is what kills it, going to gloop. And that is the wonderful thing about experiencing it - all 5 hours of work - no more than 5 minutes after cooking it. If ever there was a dish I would like to cook for friends, this would be it. I saved the recipe in detail. If I ever want to cook it again, I know I can. The best Mushroom Risotto in the world.

Hopefully my new slow cooker will be as good as my old slow cooker.

Food is medicine, it is preventative and restorative. It is meditational. It is time saving. It is money saving. When done properly. It is for the individual to quietly 'enjoy every sandwich'. It is for friends and family and for breaking bread and communion. For welcoming new children in to the world, and to celebrate those that have passed on to other new unknown worlds. For the living, for the dead.

Any young man mastering (or even attempting to master) this most needed of talents before leaving home will have a 'home advantage' so to speak when he ventures out and goes 'West'.

After a good night's sleep, he will wake in the morning, calm and ready for what the day has to throw at him. As best as anyone can be. Able to control his emotions and to focus on what is optimum.

From this point of strength he can take things to the next level, where he can learn how to fight! And more than that, know when to fight, and when not. But still, to be able to fight anyway, should the situation arise.

This is no great wisdom. For Centuries, for Millenia. Since the dawning of Man.

Man always has had to seek out food. To maintain, to gain, for himself, for those around him. And to gain that food, he has had to fight. Nothing being handed on a plate to him with bigger and stronger brutes about than himself.

Today, Man doesn't need to 'fight to eat'. (we are out of the caves)

But he would still do well to 'eat to fight'. (should the need arise)


And fight you will.

All is war.

Family, friends, lovers, wives, even your God!

If you are alive, you will wrestle every day of your life.

Pity those that don't.
08-06-2019 07:49 PM
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RE: Young guy, could use some advice
Toastmasters or the debate team at your local college. Public speaking gets you comfortable in your own skin and makes it hella easier to chat up girls one-on-one

Something more radical is to join the military.
08-06-2019 11:48 PM
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RE: Young guy, could use some advice
Learn some languages. It'll open doors and set you apart from the others. I recommend using Forever Fluent, which I talk about here.

Former Navy here. I don't recommend going into the military, unless you're going to use your free time learning a skill that'll allow you to make a lot of money afterwards. It's becoming more and more PC (SAPR), and they waste a shit ton of your time with unimportant bullshit. If you do go, hit on locals and tourist around your duty station, NOT your coworkers. In fact, that really goes for ANY job you end up getting.

Learn a high income skill. The skill you learn should be remote and get you to six figures. I like the stuff this guy talks about here:



African-Americans were horrified that the history of their ancestors was being, quite literally, whitewashed.
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RE: Young guy, could use some advice
i would suggest to start reading some professional development literature. like - how to influence people for example, you can exercise too, install a few online apps so you could get at least some leads. just make sure you don't waste your time on browsing facebook.
08-08-2019 01:31 PM
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