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How to treat 'mirin women you're not interested in, that you see regularly
Sorry for informal title, had to get it all in with the character limit.

I've always had a problem with this. Women who find me attractive, that are not good looking themselves, that I might see regularly and have to interact with- university, work, coffee shop I go to. Women I am not interested in in the slightest.

It's not about game, it's just a question of how to handle it without being unsmooth. I have one such girl now who works in a coffee shop with her mum that I go to 5 days a week. She is an Anglo 4/10. I'm a handsome brown guy so she probably thinks I would see that as a catch.

The tension at the moment is palpable. I end up acting very cold and being very curt. Barely making eye contact. Just taking my sandwich/coffee and getting out of there. Leaves a bad energy.

I've done this all my life with women who've liked me that I have no interest in, that I have to see regularly. Basically I seek to avoid them.

I know it's not how it should be. It signifies that I'm uncomfortable with being seen as attractive, and doesn't sit well with me.

So what should I do? Flirt with them like Bond does with Moneypenny- all the while with her knowing he will never follow through?

Surely, my Chad, Tyrone, Juan Julio, Abdul, Chadpreet and Chang brothers there is some attractive man's code.
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08-09-2019 09:47 PM
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RE: How to treat 'mirin women ur not interested in, that you see regularly
Only has this happen once, and I'm 6'4'' and skinny. This thread is making me want to turn the car around and get in a second chest workout.
08-09-2019 10:41 PM
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RE: How to treat 'mirin women ur not interested in, that you see regularly
I experience this all the time, I think the best way to handle it is to exude the same charm you use on girls you would normally game. Even though you're way out of their league, they can still be used as practice points to see which behaviors (body language, intonations) and looks (clothing, facial hair) result in the greatest, obvious attraction from them. It's a way of fine tuning your game and keeping your sword sharp without the degradation of fucking thots. Another charitable benefit is that you are most likely a highlight of their days; in many places it's rare for a girl to come in contact with a handsome, self-actualized alpha. Accept their attraction for what it is - natural - and continue upon your journey.
08-10-2019 02:16 AM
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Totally agree. I am an artist and have always wanted to take the view toward life of noticing/witnessing beauty. Even a woman who I wouldn't date can have beauty, if she has an ounce of femininity about her.

To recoil around a slightly unattractive woman who likes me, like I've been doing, is a very feminine thing to do. Women do it around men they don't like, because they feel threatened..ie this man could take something from me I don't want to give him.

But there is no reason for a man to feel threatened. As you said, it is a thing to be flattered about, and a reminder that you are doing something right.

I should be more secure and stable in my path.

(08-10-2019 02:16 AM)JiggyLordJr Wrote:  I experience this all the time, I think the best way to handle it is to exude the same charm you use on girls you would normally game. Even though you're way out of their league, they can still be used as practice points to see which behaviors (body language, intonations) and looks (clothing, facial hair) result in the greatest, obvious attraction from them. It's a way of fine tuning your game and keeping your sword sharp without the degradation of fucking thots. Another charitable benefit is that you are most likely a highlight of their days; in many places it's rare for a girl to come in contact with a handsome, self-actualized alpha. Accept their attraction for what it is - natural - and continue upon your journey.
08-10-2019 05:33 AM
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Nice humblebrag. Just be polite and neutral. They'll get the message.
08-10-2019 10:42 PM
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(08-10-2019 10:42 PM)BlastbeatCasanova Wrote:  Nice humblebrag. Just be polite and neutral. They'll get the message.

This^

Women are not as autistic as some men can be, they know when to quit. They are much better at reading body language and social cues. Anytime I've experienced this the woman can usually feel I'm not interested by the 2 or 3rd meeting and quickly move on.

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08-11-2019 01:28 PM
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Women quickly move on and rarely, if ever, get hung up on guys they haven't even slept with; even the not so great looking girls. They'll simply act like you no longer exist and pursue the next guy.
08-11-2019 03:07 PM
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Yeah, if you act humble and friendly, and don't have sex with her, she'll lose interest faster than a meth addict loses weight. Also, try mentioning you want 18 kids and invite her to church.

If you do all of the above and she doesn't lose interest, I'm at a total loss. Maybe just change coffeeshops.
08-11-2019 05:23 PM
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(08-11-2019 05:23 PM)Emperor Constantine Wrote:  Yeah, if you act humble and friendly, and don't have sex with her, she'll lose interest faster than a meth addict loses weight. Also, try mentioning you want 18 kids and invite her to church.

Not necessarily true.

Girls that are into you are girls that are into you and if you didn’t try to get their interest then trying to lose their interest won’t do much (from my experience).

Just tell her when you can see her and when you don’t want to talk and if she’s pushy block her.

Nothing wrong with cutting someone off who refuses to stay within the bounds you set. But the fundamental key is knowing what place she should have in your life and putting her in it. She goes along with it, then she goes along with it.

You’re the king of your life.

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08-11-2019 06:36 PM
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(08-11-2019 03:07 PM)mr-ed209 Wrote:  Women quickly move on and rarely, if ever, get hung up on guys they haven't even slept with; even the not so great looking girls. They'll simply act like you no longer exist and pursue the next guy.

I agree.
I'm projecting a lot on them.
08-11-2019 08:17 PM
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Just do what women do - tell her what a good friend she is, give her a big hug with the circular backrub that they love to give us when we can't get any, talk about your ex's and dates you were just on and how you just don't understand why you keep meeting this [insert random dumb bitch characteristic] type of girl that she in no way resembles.

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08-12-2019 02:49 AM
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I do not see what's so complicated about this.

Many women will like you if you're a decent looking guy with game. Just be normally with them, heck - flirt with them just for shits and giggles. Girls aren't going to be crying into their cornflakes if they don't get to bang you. The average girl is swimming in a sea of abundance.
08-12-2019 05:17 AM
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(08-12-2019 05:17 AM)griffinmill Wrote:  I do not see what's so complicated about this.

Many women will like you if you're a decent looking guy with game. Just be normally with them, heck - flirt with them just for shits and giggles. Girls aren't going to be crying into their cornflakes if they don't get to bang you. The average girl is swimming in a sea of abundance.

I live in a beach town 2 hours out of the main city. Basically no tinder here, and more simple folk. If it was back in Melbourne, girl would have got the message immediately and given me the silent treatment every time after.
08-12-2019 06:32 AM
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Lol that brag..

I think its obvious you should just flirt with them like you would if you are attracted to them. It's a win win on so many levels. Just to name a few reasons:

- You can pracctice game and what not with them
- They will be happy to see you everytime, so it will give you some energy/confidence boost that you can use on other girls.
- In case of something like a café the might even give you free stuff or whatever, it's pretty common when staff likes you. If not the service will just be better for you in general
- You are essentially doing the girl the favor as well to show some kind of interest back if she is interested.
- It's also networking to some extent.

Give me one reason why you shouldnt treat her like a girl you are attracted by? It's not like you're forced to have sex/go out with someone just because you flirt with them. I think your behaviour to be cold towards someone that shows you interest screams insecurity/beta, and it reallly doesnt serve a purpose. If a girl behaved like this to a guy at the forum the guy would most likely call her behaviour bitchy, dont be bitchy.
08-12-2019 07:45 AM
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How would you like to be treated by a woman who has no sexual attraction towards you? There's your answer.

Having game and/or good looks isn't a substitute for basic manners.
08-12-2019 07:15 PM
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Treat them how they would treat you, if the roles were reversed.

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08-13-2019 09:04 AM
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(08-12-2019 07:15 PM)RDF Wrote:  How would you like to be treated by a woman who has no sexual attraction towards you? There's your answer.

Having game and/or good looks isn't a substitute for basic manners.

Women who have no sexual attraction towards men don't even make eye contact in passing.
08-16-2019 10:12 AM
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The same thing I did to the good looking women when I was an AFC in college. Be warm , polite and nice. Don't push the kino, don't talk about sex, don't take charge, be passive. Then they friendzone me.

The other thing is you should always have is "someone else you are seeing". If these women that aren't up to your standards do get the gumption to ask you out for a drink or invite you to their home for "dinner", you can always mention that you have plans with that girl from out of town.

If you want the social proof, these women often will shower you with praise on social media. It's the applause effect. If just a few start it others will join in.
09-07-2019 12:26 PM
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^ Just so you know (and assuming you aren't the original OP)

The OP came on the forum playing the big man and chuckling that white men couldn't handle themselves, the future was brown..

He told us that he was seeing how it went in laughable (in his eyes) Melbourne Australia .. after all, he could always go back, his family owned a big hospital back in India.

So this high-caste hindu spent a while laughing at all things white and cucked.

Then he lightened up a little bit, got into self improvement, started being nice to people, found common cause with red-pilled causes and admitting his own shortcomings.

He was a property manager in Melbourne. He was 5'8". He hadn't been laid in 2 years or more. He'd had dreams of being a comedian but..
5'8" nobody in a shit job, wandering around, going nowhere..
desperate to avoid a future life in India: rich, connected, bored shitless and dreaming of those Melbourne days and what could have been.
However would post that he was steering clear of western Women out of moral disgust.

Then he got into the whole God-pill trend and was saying that all religions were one ie: Hindu (classic hindu tactic when crushing the rights of the likes of Christians and Sikhs) .. he was just oh so holy and at one with the religious conservatives.

Went to Bali. Banged a couple of local girls (suspect money was involved).

Came back.. wrote this-here post about how all these fat 4s were after him and how could he let them down gently?

Then, had a total melt down, started posting porn pics, slating Roosh, saying everyone was wrong and wasting their time on here, he >>> had to think about his People, his Race, his Ancestors..
so..
Classic Indian Race Troll.

He probably still reads the forum and your above comment BUT I don't think that the advice he needs most relates to how to handle women who are all in love with him.
09-07-2019 02:38 PM
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Like a human? Not the most challenging social question.
09-07-2019 06:02 PM
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