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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
(10-22-2019 10:55 AM)Augustus_Principe Wrote:  
(10-20-2019 07:31 PM)Khal Drogo Wrote:  As a newbie I will humbly accept the doubt Roosh.
I'm not a woman, haha, I've read Bang and Day Bang and been following the forum since then. You're right, people don't call each other 'gamer' here. I guess I was just trying to find a cool way to introduce myself and the topic.

I'd love your opinion on the matter if you don't mind.

questor70: I like that man. Btw it's certainly not friendship haha.
I almost never pay attention to what women say but still, seeing a girl stating she's in love with a guy only to act differently after a few days, surprises me.

If you were "following the forum" ever since, you would know this isnt a "Game" foum anymore since the changes that were implemented this past Summer, and that this forum is no longer about chasing women for the sake of fornication.

I know that. I don't see how my thread has to do anything with chasing women for the sake of fornication. And I didn't know the word game couldn't be used. All I saw was that we shouldn't be talking about fornication.

questor70: I was having a similar discussion with a friend a few days ago. If a man (who you are not friends with) can't keep his girl, why would you do him a favor ?
(if he's a friend of yours it's a different story).
I personally don't care about guys I don't know. It's not my problem to fix their relationship.
I think I'm being totally fair with this by the way because if my girlfriend was involved with a different guy I would blame myself and the gf and not the other guy.
10-22-2019 11:32 AM
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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
(10-22-2019 11:32 AM)Khal Drogo Wrote:  I was having a similar discussion with a friend a few days ago. If a man (who you are not friends with) can't keep his girl, why would you do him a favor ?
(if he's a friend of yours it's a different story).
I personally don't care about guys I don't know. It's not my problem to fix their relationship.
I think I'm being totally fair with this by the way because if my girlfriend was involved with a different guy I would blame myself and the gf and not the other guy.

If you want to pursue something long-term with her, just remember that you're getting involved with a proven cheater. Don't be surprised when she betrays you, too. She certainly will.
10-22-2019 12:09 PM
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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
(10-22-2019 11:32 AM)Khal Drogo Wrote:  If a man (who you are not friends with) can't keep his girl, why would you do him a favor ?

Do I need to restate myself?

Maybe I should put it in baser language.

BROS BEFORE HOES.

I may not have a lot of respect for the man in question as far as his ability to keep her engaged, but women seem to never be completely satisfied. Hypergamy never sleeps and the only way to really get a handle on this is to not cuck other men regardless of whether they're personal friends or not and regardless of their SMV, purely out of principle.

(10-22-2019 11:32 AM)Khal Drogo Wrote:  if my girlfriend was involved with a different guy I would blame myself and the gf and not the other guy.

Wrong.

If you don't pull your weight in the relationship and she dumps you and then meets someone new, sure, you can blame yourself. But if she responds to you not pulling your weight by cheating then that is on HER, not you. Cheating is unnecessary in any relationship unless you're so insecure (as women are) that you feel you must monkey-branch because you just can't handle going through even the briefest period of being alone.

It's called adhering to some basic ground rules as a matter of basic courtesy and compassion for others, something women rarely do.

I don't want that happening to me and I don't want to enable women to do that to any other man.

If all men followed these rules then it would stop women from being able to cheat.
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10-22-2019 01:53 PM
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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
You can't be fully committed to a new relationship if you're talking to your ex! When I get into a serious relationship with a girl, one of my rules is no talking to exs. I've seen it all my life with friends which causes major fights and "confused" feelings. Once someone has had a big piece of your heart, it's easy to get them back into bed again.

This is a stupid Western thing where people think men and women can be friends without an emotional attachment from happening. Other cultutures they know better to keep male to female interactions to a minimal.
10-28-2019 02:04 PM
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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
(10-28-2019 02:04 PM)Lovinglife Wrote:  You can't be fully committed to a new relationship if you're talking to your ex! When I get into a serious relationship with a girl, one of my rules is no talking to exs.

it's nice to see that some men have a code of honor.
this doesnt apply to women tho, unfortunately. since they'll play all dirty tricks as long as it floats their boat. including talking to 20 guys and their exes at the same time with no regards to any of them.
10-28-2019 09:42 PM
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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
Ultimately this behaviour is just a function of the relationship anxiety that we all feel when in a relationship.

This applies to both men and women.

"I like where I am , but let me just keep my options open in case something happens and we break-up."

When I was younger and insecure I went through one my girlfriend's phone (not proud of it), and I found a recent conversation that she had with one her ex's.

It was very polite, she was not flirting at all. But she ended it by saying "until next time".

One of those ambiguous statements that could be taken as she was just being nice or " I may be back if my current relationship doesn't work out"

Years later, during a dry period, I reached out to another ex of mine and asked if we could catch up.

Her response was " hey, its great to hear from you. Look I'm in a relationship right now and I don't want to disrespect my partner by going for a drink with my ex but maybe one day..."

Two girls from completely different background. Both in love. But a similar concept. Just one worded a little bit more directly.

This is something that we are all guilty of.

If you are under 35, who is really investing in someone 100 percent ? If you do, you are rare indeed.

Most people, in our age group, even if there are madly in love, still, for some reason, have to keep their options slightly open.

The door is never completely closed, it must be kept even slightly ajar so that it's not completely locked should we need to make an escape.

We can argue about it on the forum but ultimately this is relationship dynamics in 2019 and I don't see it changing any time soon.
10-29-2019 05:24 AM
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RE: The female brain: “I need a break”
(10-29-2019 05:24 AM)Sensei Creation Wrote:  Ultimately this behaviour is just a function of the relationship anxiety that we all feel when in a relationship.
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If you are under 35, who is really investing in someone 100 percent ? If you do, you are rare indeed.

It's the nature of the fornication "relationship", sometimes erroneously called "Long Term Relationship" despite not lasting longer than 2 years and 9 months on average, that there is no real commitment.

Quote:This applies to both men and women.

And that is, where it is completely different. As a man you should need no woman. When she asks for pseudo-commitment - usually after having sex, because girls cannot discern between bang and commitment - then that shouldn't change you as a man at all.

Until a girl gave you the vow in front of the altar, she is not in a relationship with you. She is on trial instead. Even engagement doesn't change that, it only testifies that you stop checking other options, to check the one option even more thoroughly.

As always fornication and especially cohabitation complicates things. Because especially girls see "relationships", when there aren't any.
10-29-2019 06:59 AM
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