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Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
I'm around the age of most in this thread and I haven't had any decrease in libido. I do, however, don't have that much energy to expend on creating connections as GT points out his in point #2 above, an effective or time efficient way. I think it's because the only hope that I would see for what would even be possible in this country, at this time and in my location, might be something like a graduate student --- and I can't even imaging the first step in pulling that off. It's the culture, in so many ways, that is backwards here and there are so many roadblocks, mainly career, I would say because everyone is in school and has peers that of course they don't take seriously, but I would (these are the only younger ones around that are even worth thinking about). It really comes down to "where are the girls that are pro family?" as the question. Western women only want a family as a peripheral, or a second/last resort. It's just something you do later. You're not all in. What's the point of me having my shit together then? What does she bring to the table?

I can barely take any of them seriously and even the niche girls that you meet that are young can be off limits because she has to go do some stupid career, for whatever reason. In a certain way that's why a phase of acting out/trying to have sex made sense; if you didn't take them seriously why try to stick around at all anyways? It creates a dissonance with my being, though, because I don't really believe in it. I really feel deep down that this society is totally full of shit and has led so many people astray. I can't get past thinking how dumb it is for a woman to want to work more than have a family, how that started, and how it persists with all of the idiotic encouragement as well. It's actually a tragedy.

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10-28-2019 11:28 PM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
For me it’s actually to the point where I prefer my own company sexually I’d say. I don’t “fap” (hate the word, is it British?), until it’s built up to a euphoric 3-4 day type thing. It’s more of a chore to than worry about doing things right for a chick, when I know my body and can think of a kaleidoscope of previous girls situation who I’m feeling at the time

Having that mentality of not needing a girl IMO makes game stronger. There is something about giving away your power with need. What it also does is make me hold out for what I want in a girl
10-29-2019 12:48 AM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
Turned 40 this year, 3 main things have changed for me:

Money: Laser focus on growing wealth, becoming very financially literate, building businesses and living any lifestyle "I" chose, not what my balance allows me
Health: Have decided to make drastic changes in health (fitness and eating habits) and have seen great results, tracking it on another thread
Sex: Not much impact, but.......My opinion/experience is it's an by-product of the first 2, reducing the focus on meeting new women has taken a back seat, thus sex has "changed" for me, not that I'm less attracted to sexy females, but is tertiary now. Also for 2 years now, I'm extremely even rudely intolerant of hot girls with shit attitudes, terrible dress sense and feminazi beliefs. (Barcelona is full of masculine females, no effort in how they dress, no make-up and seem bent of attacking anything male or feminine) Also, my focus on having children makes my 20-30s chasing hot girls a thing of the past, aiming for a good healthy relationship is my only target going forward (that's not to say if a gorgeous female comes begging for it, I'll tell her to kick rocks).tard

A potential impact to sexual drive could be the state of the marketplace. During some meetings I have held in the past here in BCN with some forum members, especially with 35 y/o+ guys is that they have been red pilled and know how the true female is, it impacts them, they get affected by the (can't win, don't try) state of the marketplace.

As an optimist, a good relationship will be difficult to find, but it is out there (somewhere), I believe gorgeous women are looking for what myself and other serious males want, just finding them if bloody difficult! Dodgy
10-29-2019 05:24 AM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
I'm mid fifties and in the last couple of years my sex drive has tailed right off. Definitely an age thing.

What's interesting for me is that in my late thirties / early forties I experienced low T - fixed with diet, weight training, learning game and reigniting my sex life. So I know what unnaturally low T feels like - and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Now though, as my T lowers naturally, it's completely different. I'm still hitting the gym 3 times a week, eating properly and regularly banging the wife, but....she's more bothered about having less sex than I am. It's just one of a number of things I'd like to be doing with my time, rather than the primary thing I want to be doing. And if you'd told me I'd feel like that just 2 years ago I'd have called you insane.

iirc Benjamin Franklin, a renowned horn-dog, said of the death of his libido, that it was like 'being unchained from a madman' which always makes me chuckle. I'm not quite at that level but I definitely know what he meant.

Unlike the misery of my thirties and fourties, this time round the decline in T levels feels like pure water flowing through my mind washing away all the filth. Purple prose perhaps but honestly serenity is not too strong a word for the change in my state of mind. I am literally seeing the world with fresh eyes.

Most especially when it comes to women. I guess I can see the whole package now and not just the external presentation. The number of women I can tolerate for more than a few minutes has gone way down. Women really do need to marry young and stay married. Not only do their looks most often fall off a cliff when they hit the wall, but as they get older the men they would seek to be with start seeing with eyes like mine and not obscured with the fog of lust.
10-29-2019 06:19 AM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
I guess women’s high risk strategy of leaving marriage as late as possible so to not waste more youth on their husbands as is absolutely necessary didn’t account for men’s declining interest in them.

Don't spend all your energy on sex and all your money on women; they have destroyed kings. (Proverbs 31:3 GNB)
10-29-2019 10:13 AM
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(10-29-2019 10:13 AM)N°6 Wrote:  I guess women’s high risk strategy of leaving marriage as late as possible so to not waste more youth on their husbands as is absolutely necessary didn’t account for men’s declining interest in them.

Good point. I am seeing it with some of my peers who are marrying in their mid 30s to people they have just met.

Marriage happens fast when the wall approaches. All that talk of 'waiting for the ONE' is a bunch of bullshit.
10-29-2019 11:46 AM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
(10-28-2019 05:54 PM)wwtl Wrote:  
(10-28-2019 11:44 AM)TigOlBitties Wrote:  It's hilarious how the less you care about women, the more they want you.

(10-28-2019 03:13 PM)MichaelWitcoff Wrote:  The grand irony of all this is that since my sex drive went to zero, I've never gotten such strong attraction from so many women around me. I'm still my usual charming self, but with zero need at all and it appears to be driving them insane.

Same for me. I don't even meet many women. Out of the just nine girls I met this year on just three different recurring venues, two got so attracted to me, that they took the courage to approach me. That's like a 22 % ratio.

I have to correct the total number, it's actually ten.

Scrolling through my WhatsApp messenger I realized that I already got the numbers of five of them. Four provided them to me without me even having to ask, and the fifth one (a mere 6) I just asked if she can send me some pictures of an event we both attended this month, because my Android's camera can't match her iPhone. "Yeah sure, here have my number." Since then she is the third girl closely following my status updates, which get posted to my contact list.

Remember those times when a phone number used to be a big deal? Now with no need it became a completely effortless drive-by thing. For the last one I was really only interested in those pictures.
10-29-2019 03:03 PM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
I'm 51, and I know exactly how you feel. In my teens, into my mid thirties I was like a rabid dog when it came to sex. That decreased over time until today. It's not that my libido diminished, it's more of I have better things to do with my time than bother with chasing pussy. Getting laid is an ego thing. It's validation to a certain extent. But as an old dude I'm at a point where I really don't give a shit what people think. I actually signed up for AARP (it's for retirees) just so I could show people my Grumpy Old Man credentials. Since I'm not ruled by my urge to get pussy every waking minute of the day I have so much more clarity. It's like transforming from the Hulk back to Bruce Banner.

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This could also be from living in the midwest. I notice when I'm looking at pics of women in Latin America and Eastern Europe I feel that "twinge" before a semi hardon commences. My last trip to Latin American I woke up horny as a goat on a regular. I'm actually considering being an Ex Pat.

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10-30-2019 02:45 PM
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(10-30-2019 02:45 PM)vinman Wrote:  My last trip to Latin American I woke up horny as a goat on a regular. I'm actually considering being an Ex Pat.

Which country?
10-30-2019 02:56 PM
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RE: Age, Sex Drive and the way we view women
I'm 43 and am in agreance with most of the guys in the thread. While my libido hasn't fallen off a cliff, it is like a fog is slowly lifting as I get older. As another said in this thread, my tolerance for female B.S. is very short now as opposed to even 5 years ago. I don't get mad at them, I simply decide, "ok, enough of this broken record, I've got better things to do..." I'm just not willing to jump through the hoops for a fix anymore. The ROI just isn't there...lol. The wife and I still have sex a couple times a week, but that's fine with both of us. It's enough.

The 'get a peice of ass' code is still running, it's just running on a background thread now rather than in the foreground. My fellow programmers will catch the reference.

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10-30-2019 09:08 PM
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