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The "Daughter Test"
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The "Daughter Test"
Around this corner of the internet, there’s a handful of "tests" we use to size up a potential girlfriend/wife.

-Low notch count
-Long hair


All of these are great, but life is prone to throwing us curve-balls. When the internet doesn’t have the answer to your problems, what do you do?

In cases like these, it’s useful to have heuristics to fall back on. “What would Jesus do?” is a common phrase used by Christians to help guide us along the way.

So, what’s a reliable guideline we can use to discern qualities in a woman?

Introducing - “The Daughter Test"

The premise is simple. When reviewing a woman’s behavior, actions, or beliefs, ask yourself…

Would I want my daughter doing the same?

If you’re dating for marriage (which we all are by now, right?), it’s possible your current girlfriend ends up raising your kids. She’ll become the model of womanhood that your daughters will look up to.

Therefore, it’s probable that anything your wife does, your daughters will emulate, as well. They’ll either pick up on it, or your wife will explicitly teach it to them.

This test makes it easy to see what are good qualities in girls.

Example. My ex-girlfriend was adamant about her personal grooming. She had a waxing machine in her house and would wax every inch of her body frequently. This was good for me, but one day I realized this was a massive red flag. We were talking about wax and she said she started waxing her coochie when she was 15. She was completely proud of the fact that she’s been hairless since her teenage years. I said “wow that’s young.” She responded that she wants her daughter to start even younger, because it reduces hair growth over time.

I thought, you want her starting to wax herself at 13 years old?! WTF?!!

I did not want that. At all. It was then that I learned “the daughter test.”

The problem with modern dating is that there are certain qualities that are good for us as selfish men, but bad for women. If a girl sleeps with you on the first night, that’s fun for you, but do you really want that type of girl raising your daughter? The answer is no.

This is why so many men dread having daughters. They subconsciously know that if their daughters are anything like the women they're sleeping with, they'll be a mess. The solution to this is to only date women who you would be a solid role model for your little girls.

Next time you face a fork in the road, ask yourself, “would I want my daughter doing this behavior?”

"Every saint has a past, every sinner a future."
02-09-2020 10:43 AM
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RE: The "Daughter Test"
Great post. As a father of two girls, I can say you've got a good standard in the daughter test. But, I must warn you, it is a long road. I married at 39 because it took that long to find a woman who was decent, thin, long hair, low notch count, feared God, sane, younger than me and would be loving / loyal to me and future kids. Even then, we dated for damn near 7 years before I finally convinced myself she was the one to marry. She wanted us to marry much earlier than that, but understood why I was reluctant (for reasons we all discuss here), and stuck with me. Neither of us are perfect by a long shot, but we both put the other and the kids' well being first.

Even in the USA, they are out there, you just have to be patient, discerning, realize we live in a fallen world and have a bit of luck. The daughter test sounds like a great tool to help one discern.
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02-09-2020 11:28 AM
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RE: The "Daughter Test"
Great test. One which I try my best to use.

I openly tell my future wife this all the time - would you really want your daughter doing this sort of thing? Would you think it would be okay for our future daughter to behave that way.

She agree with my points of view.

I actually would prefer to have daughters over sons. I think it is easier in one way because if the daddy-daughter bond is there, she will just listen to you whereas sons will rebel almost no matter what you do.

This is just hypothesis. I don't have children yet so I can't speak from experience.
02-09-2020 01:10 PM
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